If you're stuck at a certain level that doesn't take much entry barrier that means it's a crowded level cuz everyone has access to it and you will have a lot of competition to get what you want. But you keep leveling up, you'll reach a point where there is very few to no competition. And you'll get what you want in abundance. But that takes work.

Obviously, we are talking about leveling up your (inner+outer) Game here. How to know if you're leveling up your game or not?

Of course, there is no universal indicator, you'll know it and feel it as you progress. But one question you can ask yourself to know if you've leveled up your game is,

"What is unique and special about me than the other 10 guys who has just approached her? What is something special that I can offer?"

If you don't find an answer, you probably haven't leveled up your game yet. Is that good or bad?

That depends totally on you. If you want to level up your game and reach a level that is less crowded, that was a good thing but if you aren't willing to improve for some reason, probably it wasn't good decision for the long run. ( Not just dating but social life in general).

Some reasons you may be stuck at your current level of Game may be:-

  • You're thinking if it's ethical to level up your game or not and you're a victim of social conformity.

  • Or you don't even have a clue on how to level up your game. You have resources but don't quite have the right resources or even if you had it, you wouldn't be able to see it.

  • You aren't willing to face rejection for fun.

  • You don't know how to switch between modes of thinking for optimized performance.

  • You don't hangout with some guy who has better game than you.

  • Thinking you're always right and know everything.

The list can go on and on. But the main lesson here is if you're stuck at a level where everyone is stuck, it's gonna be a crowded journey. Nothing inherently wrong with that, it just means a lot of competition between you and your goal. The more you can level up your (inner+outer) game, the less competition you're gonna have between you and your goal.