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There is truth to this but don’t get too optimistic. I once attempted to approach a cutie and literally all I said was a friendly hi. She took one glance at me and bolted. It was only the 3rd cold approach I’ve ever done
/r/seduction12/09/22 09:29 PM
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K seriously though I’m 29. I’m trying to stick to my grind so I bring something to the table but I’m pretty stressed about the age. Am I screwed?
/r/seduction12/09/22 04:32 AM
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I’m so close to giving up bro. I seriously can’t do this
/r/seduction11/09/22 07:06 AM
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UUUUUUUUUUUGH IMMA SCREENSHOT THIS
/r/seduction11/09/22 01:15 AM
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I think one of the general messages of this post is what people mean when they say love yourself before you can love someone else You cannot expect people to be interested in you if you are not mentally healthy. Like full stop it’s just not going to happen. Work on dealing with your shit first
/r/seduction10/09/22 06:25 PM
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How do you work up the courage when everyone around you seems so cold and unfriendly? Never mind rejection, I just don’t want to be cussed out and made to feel like the bad guy
/r/seduction25/08/22 12:26 AM
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Mentally, yes. Physically, making progress. Financially, hell no but have some goals.
/r/seduction12/08/22 08:46 AM
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29.
/r/seduction01/08/22 06:52 AM
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Go to the gym asap
/r/seduction31/07/22 08:10 AM
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Don’t let it feel weird just give it a shot people go out alone and night all the time how else are you supposed to meet others
/r/seduction31/07/22 08:09 AM
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A club I can kinda see that but a bar I respectfully disagree.
/r/seduction31/07/22 07:57 AM
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That’s a good idea. I’ll try that first
/r/seduction30/07/22 10:06 AM
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Be yourself. Be spontaneous. Go up to them and start off with something FUN that anyone can get along with. Like what are her top 3 movies of all time and why? What are her ideal travel destinations? What’s her dream job etc?
/r/seduction30/07/22 09:49 AM
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I’m really sorry you had such an unpleasant interaction. I would say don’t give up mostly because when you do find the one that likes you back even the harshest rejections don’t matter anymore. Take care.
/r/seduction20/07/22 08:53 AM
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Or how about “my battery died” but have it actually die
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:04 AM
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I know this feeling and it plagues me too. Maybe what could help is imagine the worst case scenario. That what you fear actually comes to pass (because it could and very well might) ask yourself; how will you handle it? Will you get angry and spiteful and thus make it worse? Or will you sincerely apologize and disengage immediately? If you do the latter, then imo you minimize damage and haven’t really done anything wrong. Hope this helps good luck
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:36 PM
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I hate to be that guy… but I can’t help but feel like we’d have a bit more luck if we kept our pipes filled at all times
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:22 PM
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Well all I can say is, if you want to meet people they are not going to come to you. By going out alone, you slightly increase the odds of someone being interested in you based purely on the fact that you’re out where you can be seen. Plus, bars and clubs you can try approaching women and most don’t bat an eye because it’s normalized in those environments.
/r/seduction26/06/22 01:53 AM
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I’ve done it a couple times. Really want to try and do it more before I get too old. I can confirm it’s empowering and fun to get out of your routine/comfort zone. Just make sure to go in with zero expectations
/r/seduction25/06/22 07:42 PM
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Wow that’s a really positive way of looking at it 😂
/r/seduction24/06/22 10:20 PM
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I need your willpower lol. I always chicken out. Maybe I should try the 3 second rule
/r/seduction20/06/22 05:21 AM
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Okay. I guess if you want something you have to go out and try to get it, eh?
/r/seduction17/06/22 06:14 AM
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Produce better advice or shut the fuck up you tool
/r/seduction17/06/22 05:08 AM
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I’m at the point where family starts to notice and I’ve been going for 3 years so maybe I still need to bulk up the protein and calorie intake. Ugh. Oh well at least I’ve been consistent with workouts
/r/seduction17/06/22 04:31 AM
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Doing that right now actually. It’s a bit heart breaking but I think I’m starting to move on. At any rate, she’s wonderful and I’m glad she and I are on good terms
/r/seduction17/06/22 04:26 AM
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Doesn’t get much truer than that…
/r/seduction16/06/22 02:20 AM
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Can’t handle criticism is a big one for me.
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:31 AM
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Set a realistic, attainable yet challenging goal that resonates with you and don’t just chase it, obsess over it
/r/seduction15/06/22 03:17 AM
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A practical way to actually do this is to keep the promises you make to yourself such as going to the gym consistently or finishing a book etc. Also treat yourself well, like someone worth caring for. As you gain momentum with these practices, you’ll gain confidence and belief in yourself Because ultimately you become what you practice. Not what your thoughts are.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:26 AM
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It’s sarcasm
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:15 AM
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Good roundabout way to describe a healthy dating life. Take care of yourself and actually bring some value. After enough time your progress will speak for itself and then it’s just a matter of you capitalizing on opportunities.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:14 AM
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Like just approaching or attempting to break out of my comfort zone, maybe go to a bar on a Friday night perhaps, or ask someone at the library what they’re reading Yeah I know you don’t want to be a nuisance but I can’t think of other examples
/r/seduction10/06/22 05:33 AM
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I think it’s always been difficult. No matter what year it is
/r/seduction09/06/22 10:27 PM
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Pizza time
/r/seduction09/06/22 10:26 PM
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That’s a really bad mindset. “You cannot be happy if you haven’t got a girl” I may vomit. Speak for yourself
/r/seduction09/06/22 08:47 PM
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How did you get over your approach anxiety?
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:17 AM
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S’ the only right answer. If you’re not having success it might be prudent to think about why that is
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:38 AM
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That’s…. a good way of looking at it. Either way I’ll probably feel better for trying
/r/seduction08/06/22 05:43 AM
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Hey thank you for commenting and calling me out I was just feeling kind of down. I’m feeling a bit better and more invigorated now. Please know that I’m trying. Every day.
/r/seduction08/06/22 05:42 AM
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Thank you for taking the time to write this
/r/seduction05/06/22 08:19 AM
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I’d like to think improvement involves more than just working out and grooming but yes otherwise you’re right
/r/seduction03/06/22 05:42 PM
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Todd V said something that really resonated with me. If someone put a gun to your head and told you to approach that woman you’d do it. So just remind yourself that despite the anxiety you are physically capable of making the approach
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:34 AM
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This is the only right answer
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:32 AM
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No one is saying those other methods are not useful or more effective we were not born yesterday
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:31 AM
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Nailed it bro!! I wish I could give this post the Wholesome award
/r/seduction30/05/22 01:33 AM
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Don’t upload selfies period. Upload photos of you doing cool shit that you enjoy. Ones that actually showcases who you are and what you’re into. Makes a helluva lot more sense than taking photos of you and other women!? Tf are you doing on dating apps if you got women right next to you lol
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:27 AM
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God this sub has gone to shit. You realize how bloody difficult it is for some men to gain a social circle? If you’re not in college, If you don’t like your coworkers, if you’re shy, if you don’t connect with many people in events/clubs etc. what the hell is a man supposed to do at that point? Odds may be against you on dating apps but they’re also against you everywhere else so you might as well take some nice photos, put up a profile and if nothing else at least you can say you fuckin’ tried! …
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:20 AM
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This is good. I’ve been doing pretty well at this. Call the cashier by their name and if they seem receptive strike up a brief conversation. Easy way to practice some socializing.
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:38 PM
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I can confirm it’s a numbers game. I used to work in a McDonald’s drive thru in my early twenties. It didn’t happen often but on rare occasions you’d get a female customer that would call me good looking or compliment me in some way. So it really is just a matter of finding the person that likes you
/r/seduction26/05/22 07:21 AM
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Don’t see it as pickup. See it as connecting with other people and it gradually leading to something more if the time and place is right. Because that’s really what it is. Sure you’re trying to let her know you like her. But the most probable outcome is rejection anyway so there’s not much point in getting your hopes up. Therefore it’s best to view it as laid back wholesome social connection by showing genuine interest in the other person. From there you let the cards fall where they may. If she…
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:47 AM
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Men talk about being alpha all the time but you cannot realistically be alpha if you haven’t achieved some kind of personal goal or milestone I.e. a fit body. Work on yourself and you will embody the alpha male traits more naturally overtime
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:26 AM
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That’s not true. I have a friend who’s got very dark skin and he absolutely slays with women.
/r/seduction09/05/22 06:54 AM
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Yeah I know a lot of guys can be like that. Makes it that much harder for those of us that are not entitled pricks Also I wouldn’t say I’m afraid of rejection per say. It’s more to do with getting out of the comfort zone and fear of making her feel uneasy.
/r/seduction08/05/22 12:37 AM
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I wouldn’t dream of being rude
/r/seduction07/05/22 08:20 PM
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Read books lots of em
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:23 AM
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Thank you sooooo much for the encouraging post. Back to the grind!
/r/seduction05/05/22 06:17 AM
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Come on man. What are you scared of. This world will give you PLENTY of reasons to be scared. Accepting a bit of touch from a girl is not one of them.
/r/seduction23/04/22 11:27 PM
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I wouldn’t mind going out some weekend and trying this myself. But I don’t know how to push past my introversion. I’d feel like such a fraud
/r/seduction16/04/22 03:40 AM
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But that’s literally the whole point. If you don’t climb the hierarchy, if you don’t improve your income/socio economic status, you (I) will be far less likely to score at all. Sometimes we have to do things we are not passionate about because unfortunately I can’t see my passions paying the bills but maybe i just don’t believe in myself enough :(
/r/seduction15/04/22 09:20 PM
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Right back at you. Retard
/r/seduction15/04/22 06:41 PM
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Lack of both self control and emotional intelligence I’d say.
/r/seduction12/04/22 04:56 AM
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This is a solid comment. What in your opinion constitutes an attractive masculine man
/r/seduction08/04/22 12:13 AM
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There’s scientific evidence that supports having a nice body being more attractive And try to work towards the abs and big biceps. Otherwise what are you working towards?
/r/seduction04/04/22 12:50 PM
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I wish I had better advice, but at least you got your degree pursuit working out for you and 32 is not that old. If you’ve had luck before you can make it happen again Just know that any kind of victimizing whatsoever is unattractive no matter what you do. It’s almost paradoxical, you’re yearning for a relationship but that’s arguably precisely what is keeping you from having one You must learn to let go. Lean into your own self love, self worth and masculine drive and ambition. Women will pick …
/r/seduction01/04/22 07:41 AM
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“You can make more friends in two months trying to be interested in other people thank you can on two years trying to make other people interested in you” -Dale Carnegie
/r/seduction28/03/22 02:00 AM
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Well said! I’m doing 1 minute 30 second planks every day, trying to get the diet straighten out and have applied for program with a personal trainer. Looks matter. Use your body to your advantage. THE ONLY REAL DATING ADVICE IS SELF IMPROVEMENT. Think about what women are attracted to and become that
/r/seduction27/03/22 12:37 AM
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But you’re also encouraging me to do more cold approaches, yes? I’ve been dying to try that again lately...
/r/seduction26/03/22 08:08 AM
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Any tips for OLD? If I can’t take great photos I don’t want to bother. How many photos typically? What should the biography be like?
/r/seduction23/03/22 02:36 AM
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Personally I’m a believer in self improvement and letting them come to you. I’m too shy and reserved to approach. But your comment is greatly encouraging thank you
/r/seduction20/03/22 08:59 AM
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Yeah good point. I even forgot to do my planks today. Dammit!!
/r/seduction20/03/22 08:56 AM
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Personally I feel I could be trying harder
/r/seduction20/03/22 08:38 AM
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Look past the superficial and start loving yourself. I’m one to talk but who gives a FUCK what people think they can’t stop you from achieving your goals then looks won’t even matter. You know why? Because value matters more. Looks fade, value endures.
/r/seduction17/03/22 05:14 AM
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Hey thanks so much for answering sorry it was a rough morning for me. I gotta catch myself in the moments of spiraling.
/r/seduction15/03/22 07:56 PM
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“Sometimes life is like this dark tunnel. You can’t always see the light at the end of the tunnel but if you just keep moving, you will come to a better place” Thank you sir. I’ll keep pushing.
/r/seduction15/03/22 02:50 PM
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Agreed. Be the bigger man and do not react. Just take it on the chin and leave with grace. People will be mean, nothing you can do. Don’t add fuel to the fire
/r/seduction11/03/22 03:00 PM
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I can talk to random people for sure if that’s what you mean. I just don’t. (Although I’m not too down in the dumps about it, I’m just heaving a sigh and accepting that it’s supposed to feel difficult)
/r/seduction09/03/22 05:26 AM
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Because like it just DOES I see a woman I like and I think “oh god here we go am I gonna do it or not probably not because of all the ways it could go wrong oh there’s too many people oh it’s too early she doesn’t want to be bothered just improve yourself go back to school etc and then attract a woman naturally as you work etc” That’s my mindset right now I don’t think approaching works for me it’s too scary and doesn’t feel right
/r/seduction09/03/22 05:05 AM
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There is absolutely no answer or trick to this. You either do it or you don’t. That’s the hard lesson I’ve learned. And yes, most often you will get rejected sometimes harshly and you’ll have to take the next few minutes or even hours to walk it off and get over it. This is just it this is the reality the sooner you accept it the stronger you will feel and then maybe the anxiety will not have as strong of a hold on you
/r/seduction06/03/22 03:24 AM
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Oh.... sorry.. I meant that a woman could do way better than me in terms of finding a better man than me... but thank you 🙏
/r/seduction28/02/22 03:49 AM
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I would try asking more about herself, what her aspirations, goals and passions are. Once you get past the initial barrier of pleasantries
/r/seduction28/02/22 03:30 AM
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Okay yeah maybe not the best method
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:23 AM
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Thanks I needed this! I am going to go ham with the self work all weekend!! Work outs, piano lessons, reading, cleaning, meditation, gonna start learning coding. Let’s go!
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:06 AM
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Yeah agreed I need to learn to embrace and accept it as part of reality. It’s blunt and painful, but so is all the tough stuff of life that leads to greater things. It forces you to grow and change
/r/seduction26/02/22 05:18 AM
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I’m gonna go ahead and take this advice even though it wasn’t directed at me if that’s cool
/r/seduction25/02/22 06:42 AM
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Couldn’t it help to get past the initial barrier of approach anxiety?
/r/seduction25/02/22 06:41 AM
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Inner confidence is one of the things that we talk about here but yeah I know what you mean
/r/seduction24/02/22 08:57 PM
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No man is incapable.
/r/seduction24/02/22 08:55 PM
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Thanks sorry for the randomness of the post. I need to get out of my head, off the Internet and into my reality
/r/seduction24/02/22 08:52 PM
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You too. Be well
/r/seduction24/02/22 02:41 PM
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Thank you so very much. I’m bouncing back. :))))
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:33 AM
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No its definitely not a lie. I know my problem is the attitude, and impatience. I’m just trying to be more positive and less victimizing.
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:31 AM
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:( you were definitely just kidding right? Also thanks
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:25 AM
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Hey. Don’t know if you’re still there but just an update. I’ve been having trouble biting the bullet these days. It just feels really hopeless and I don’t want to bother people but I’m trying to keep a straight back and muster up more courage. Will try again tomorrow
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:21 AM
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Hey hey calm down no need for hostility.
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:09 AM
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I’m trying. Where would you recommend I start in terms of better self esteem? Please try not to be mean to me.
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:08 AM
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I don’t know what else to think. I know I’m not black pill though
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:02 AM
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Why the hell not. I’ll never know for sure if I don’t try. If she says no she says no big deal
/r/seduction24/02/22 06:57 AM
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Banter here and there but not too much more than that. And I’d like to think I’ll be more sophisticated than that
/r/seduction24/02/22 06:34 AM
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Ultimately this all comes down to whether or not you’re willing to make a move. If you’re more on the average side, don’t expect them to come to you. We HAVE to make the effort
/r/seduction22/02/22 06:17 AM
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Well said great post. I’m not touching the comment section of this with a ten foot pole. Just going to soak in the positivity of the post and be on my way. Thank you sir 🌸
/r/seduction22/02/22 05:28 AM
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Fair enough I might check that out. Always loved classic movies
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:48 AM
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Some good examples that I can think of in fiction are Cloud in FF7 Remake or Jotaro from JoJo. Definition of macho, masculine strong guys who don’t take shit from NOBODY and the lady characters are all over them.
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:08 AM
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Please enlighten me. In what environment is acting like an a hole appropriate? Like at work for instance obviously you can’t do that there at least most of the time. You will get called out. Or even the bar or something, make too much of a fuss and you will get kicked out. Not to say that every last person is owed my niceness but It just doesn’t make a ton of sense to me to be the polar opposite out of the blue
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:05 AM
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Been doing that quite a lot lately 💪
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:56 AM
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He’s obviously getting downvoted for the derogatory use of “autist” as he should be
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:52 AM
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Naisu
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:51 AM
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Well said....
/r/seduction19/02/22 09:50 PM
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Solid post by the way. Healthy reminders. Be a MAN not a pussy
/r/seduction19/02/22 08:08 PM
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That’s a valid point. You shouldn’t be nice to cover up weakness. That’s a low quality life
/r/seduction19/02/22 08:06 PM
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I’ve read it. Seems like I need to read it again
/r/seduction19/02/22 06:59 PM
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I think the best thing is a balance. If you’re sexually attractive, (muscular, confident, well groomed, stylish, on your grind) AND you’re a nice person!? That’s a gem of a man right there. Feel free to disagree but that’s how I look at it. Just don’t group together being nice with being attractive. I don’t know why anybody ever thought to do that. Being nice is synonymous with a civilized society where people get along well, support each other and are kind. NOT with being an attractive man. Bei…
/r/seduction19/02/22 06:50 PM
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Bro if you think being a jerkish bad boy is all it takes to get laid you’re not living in reality because that’s what it sounds like you’re saying. Chances are, men that get laid regularly are doing so because they are high value men. Or at least are attractive in other ways. They might possess the bad boy attitude because of their results in life, confidence and self assurance, not much reason to be a people pleaser if you’ve already proven your own worth. But being a straight up bully and noth…
/r/seduction19/02/22 06:41 PM
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The thing that I try to remind myself is that being nice and being sexually attractive are not the same thing
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:39 PM
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Could you possibly give me some tips to improve the confidence/non-neediness? I often feel like I need to be nice all the time especially around women, not because I want them to date me but because I just don’t know how else to act. Being an a-hole never and I mean NEVER feels appropriate. I feel like men tend to throw the bad boy adage around a lot when in reality, those types of men only get reprimanded for their toxic behaviour.
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:32 PM
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You should still be nice, to an extent. Not in a manipulative way in an attempt to make her like you because yes, that’s pathetic. Just make sure you bring other things to the table
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:20 PM
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At least you are putting yourself out there and trying. It takes real bravery to do that these days
/r/seduction19/02/22 07:59 AM
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I’m lonely. I can’t help it sometimes. Idk what to do
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:35 AM
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Yeah because I’m totally going to listen to one spaz on Reddit when all other evidence I’ve seen points to the contrary...
/r/seduction19/02/22 04:36 AM
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Man fuck off. Because approaching random ass strangers during a global pandemic is so effective right?
/r/seduction19/02/22 03:01 AM
1

It’s okay breathe you’re not fucked. Dates and friends are not the primary purpose of school. How are your studies going?
/r/seduction18/02/22 04:22 AM
9

Ditto on the sugary drinks. Although milk is good for protein but other than that, strictly water or unsweetened tea or coffee.
/r/seduction17/02/22 05:03 AM
1

Thanks for the practical advice. Now how do I deal with the fear of being judged while approaching?
/r/seduction17/02/22 01:33 AM
1

Sure it’s hard. Might even be harder than it used to be. But that’s no reason to give up. That’s what weak people do. Come on man. You can be better than that
/r/seduction15/02/22 06:20 AM
1

I don’t think for the most part a man can control whether or not he is being creepy. Sometimes even is just existing in the same room as the girl can creep her out. It all depends on what her emotions are at that time. A bit sad but my motto is “know when you’re not wanted”
/r/seduction12/02/22 06:52 PM
5

Fuckin A man. If you’re gonna do something do it RIGHT. Don’t just put in the bare minimum and then wonder why nothing is happening.
/r/seduction11/02/22 04:16 AM
2

Here’s the solution. STOP PUTTING SEX ON A PEDASTAL
/r/seduction11/02/22 03:54 AM
6

Yes I agree. Dating is it’s own separate field of life. Of course having other stuff put together will possibly make it easier. But the whole point is to take some action. Ask somebody for their phone number. Take a couple photographs and post an online dating profile. Get out of your comfort zone and into a place where dating has a higher probability of happening. If you don’t, there’s no one to blame but yourself
/r/seduction10/02/22 09:11 PM
2

Das real good. Congrats 🎉 hopefully I can make something happen someday
/r/seduction10/02/22 06:23 AM
1

One thing that is important that I’d like you to remind yourself of. These bad feelings that you have right now regarding your lack of s3xual success, a lot of that can be attributed to influence of the media, adverts and suggestive to downright explicit imagery of our modern society making you feel bad about yourself so you go out and buy something. Do NOT give into it, take a step back and know your own worth as a man
/r/seduction09/02/22 03:57 AM
23

Well at least you’re aware of what you need to change
/r/seduction09/02/22 02:05 AM
17

If you don’t meet the standards then work harder to improve your lot. What kind of crazy guy gives up at 24. I’d kill to be that age again. Learn to relax and have patience. This stuff happens at different times for everyone. If therapy isn’t working try another therapist
/r/seduction09/02/22 02:01 AM
53

Jesus Christ I thought I was bad. For the love of god get some therapy. And remove the subconscious sense of entitlement. Women owe us NOTHING. At the end of the day this shit all comes down to luck, timing, and what you’re willing to do to improve.
/r/seduction09/02/22 01:50 AM
2

Baby steps
/r/seduction08/02/22 09:16 PM
1

Could you give me a realistic example of putting myself out there please
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:53 AM
5

That ain’t right
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:48 AM
0

Says the guy who whines like a BITCH on practically every post....
/r/seduction07/02/22 01:46 AM
1

Thank you
/r/seduction06/02/22 11:36 PM
2

I have a job thanks. When I find a partner you’ll be the first to know 🙄
/r/seduction03/02/22 02:44 PM
6

It’s been that way for over a year. I don’t think it’s going to change. I read good posts, occasionally make my own and take them down after getting a few positive comments. Do NOT scroll down to read all the comments. This place is absolutely miserable and I hope someday soon I’ll convince myself to let it go for good
/r/seduction03/02/22 02:39 PM
1

Brilliant. Every word. Expertly written
/r/seduction03/02/22 07:56 AM
1

By removing yourself from even the most subconscious sense of entitlement, loving yourself first and foremost because WE ARE ALL WE’VE GOT, and being proud of the fact that you are at least trying
/r/seduction03/02/22 07:48 AM
1

Well said
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:28 AM
2

Not necessarily as in the moment of the approach I’m more or less prepared for the very real albeit slim possibility that she will do so. Practically speaking, at that point I need to know what I’m going to say, how I’m going to say bye etc. Then after that it’s hard mode... do I text or call? What sort of date are we doing and when? Is this number even real etc
/r/seduction02/02/22 04:30 AM
1

Especially in this age of masks where you can’t see the smile even if there is one. Eye contact means nothing these days.
/r/seduction02/02/22 04:08 AM
1

Thanks for answering. As for my childhood I don’t remember many details. I want to say yes I was loved and shown affection as a child because it seems obvious but I’m wondering if maybe my parents could have done more...? I know I was occasionally criticized once or twice and maybe took it too personally.
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:41 PM
1

Bro are you still there. I don’t know what to do. I feel trapped. I’m getting a workout in before bed, then I’m gonna go see if I can buy a couple nice new pieces of clothing and maybe a good haircut. I can’t take this being alone thing anymore
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:07 AM
1

You can achieve eive anything if you’re willing to do what’s necessary
/r/seduction01/02/22 04:28 AM
2

Get vaccinated for fucks sake
/r/seduction01/02/22 04:19 AM
1

They do sometimes but that could mean anything and attraction may not be one of them
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:39 AM
3

Thank you I always appreciate the positive encouraging posts I really do.
/r/seduction30/01/22 10:43 PM
6

I almost never get choosing signals so I just give it a shot if I feel like it
/r/seduction30/01/22 10:28 PM
2

Thank you for the encouragement. Just to make it clear, I’m always a polite gentleman and know when to leave
/r/seduction29/01/22 04:30 AM
2

Just a brief update. I almost approached a girl today. But the train station was too noisy so I didn’t get a chance. But I mustered up the sense to block out any other feelings of hesitancy. It was literally just because there was too much background noise that would have interrupted me
/r/seduction29/01/22 02:47 AM
2

I have a couple of good friends that I could ask.
/r/seduction26/01/22 07:25 AM
1

How should I get past the barrier of it sucking because I can see that hurting my self esteem
/r/seduction26/01/22 06:07 AM
1

That’s what I’m thinking too...
/r/seduction26/01/22 03:43 AM
2

Okay fair enough I’m sorry for calling you stupid I was mainly talking about a scene not specifically the game itself that doesn’t make sense.
/r/seduction22/01/22 07:13 AM
0

I have bad approach anxiety so a couple things I was thinking of to take off the edge, is to have one drink, just one drink as that’s usually enough to make me feel less self conscious, (obviously don’t go full on wasted) and try to approach women that way, and if you’re too nervous to converse, you could hand them a note with your phone number and politely tell them you’re interested and to give you a call if they want. Then peace out.
/r/seduction19/01/22 03:25 AM
2

Sorry to make you cringe but I'm not going to just straight up deny how I'm feeling.
/r/seduction18/01/22 02:52 AM
0

What a stupid comment lol. You know some game scenes are literally designed to get an emotional reaction out of the player, right? It’s the same with movies. You’re making it sound like dudes are crying over CoD KD Ratio...
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:48 PM
2

Thank you I’m sorry for complaining. imma bounce back. Ive come close multiple times. There’s clearly something here that I can work with. I don’t repel women. I attract them with my unique presence, my kindness, my sense of humour, my good looks and my drive towards my goals and my passions for the beauty of life
/r/seduction13/01/22 08:16 AM
1

With all due respect. There is no guarantee. That’s part of why I’m upset.
/r/seduction13/01/22 06:54 AM
1

I kinda don’t but... it’s impossible to pretend it never gets to me.
/r/seduction13/01/22 06:50 AM
2

What are rels.
/r/seduction13/01/22 06:08 AM
1

I could have been giving this girl affection when she cried if I had just made a move sooner....
/r/seduction13/01/22 04:32 AM
2

It depends on what you’re playing, and I connect with characters really easily.
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:19 AM
4

What about like, crying a little bit at a sad or emotional movie scene or video game scene?
/r/seduction12/01/22 09:31 PM
3

Seconded. You have to make peace and come to terms with your cards dealt and improve what is in your control.
/r/seduction12/01/22 04:16 PM
420

If it does you were never meant to be together to begin with. Edit so many upvotes ACK thank you guys
/r/seduction12/01/22 06:30 AM
13

Good reminder thanks! I tend to fall in love pretty easily so it’s best to stay grounded and real like you said
/r/seduction12/01/22 06:29 AM
1

Fair enough. Of course action will always speak louder than words, spoken or written. But a little theory never hurt anyone
/r/seduction12/01/22 05:56 AM
2

Exactly when she says “spark” she means connection
/r/seduction12/01/22 04:59 AM
1

Thanks so much I’m not even insecure about the height but I do like to at least consider it
/r/seduction11/01/22 02:25 AM
1

Shame there used to be four avenues of dating, namely bars, clubs or house parties which I should have frequented more. All I had to do was lift more, dress nice and go out. That was the socially acceptable way to do it and now it’s been totally disqualified imo!! Major regrets
/r/seduction10/01/22 11:35 AM
2

Be attractive. 2. Don’t be unattractive. Applies to more than just physical appearance
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:21 AM
2

Okay fair enough. Guess I just gotta bite the bullet and try
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:17 AM
1

Cold approach and OLD I guess just to exhaust that option. Beggars can’t be choosers. But if I’m forgetting something please let me know
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:03 AM
2

I think the skating rink is a great idea especially if they got a limited amount of people in the rink also just mask up it’s no big deal. I wish I had better advice but hope you guys have fun! Maybe get hot chocolate afterward
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:40 AM
3

There’s definitely some truth to this but I found myself in the friendzone with this one girl even after I legit made attempts to hold her hand and asked if I could kiss her on the second date. Rejected both times. Sometimes she just ain’t feeling it
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:33 AM
3

Went up to a girl and gave her a compliment, to which she smiled greatly and replied thank you. Didn’t get her number but certainly made her day. Was a wholesome little moment
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:26 AM
1

Same. I have absolutely no idea what to do about it. Other than don’t despair and keep pushing.
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:19 AM
7

Staying friends with your ex is like saying “the dog died but you can still keep it” Don’t know how much I agree with that but it hits hard
/r/seduction08/01/22 01:13 AM
1

Timing for this was perfect although we only went on a couple of dates. (I’ve known her for a while though) I’m madly in love with her. I would love her with all my heart if only she’d let me. She means the world to me. But I don’t know if I can continue with this if she doesn’t feel the same
/r/seduction08/01/22 01:13 AM
1

Well I’m still trying to get those gains, but I’m actually really good with all of those except 4. But it’s for a reason. I’m shy and also Covid cautious. I don’t know how to fix this.
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:44 AM
1

Just because you’re the most impressive to her doesn’t make you the best person that ever lived. But yeah if you think she’s gonna come to you just like that then of course you’re gonna be disappointed
/r/seduction07/01/22 06:55 AM
2

I think he’s okay. A little on the desperate side though. I try not to follow PUA content creators. They make this seem like too much of a big deal
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:04 AM
1

Thank you I will. Also when you say there will always be another, are you referring to just a woman that will potentially reject me or one that could be interested in me? Because if there’s always another one that’s just going to reject me that doesn’t really encourage me 😞 not to whine
/r/seduction07/01/22 02:08 AM
1

So get out of your own way and compete. Show them why they should choose you
/r/seduction06/01/22 07:39 PM
2

I care. That’s why I made this post. Specifically for people in your situation because I’ve been there, hell I’m still kinda there and it sucks. Don’t give up
/r/seduction06/01/22 05:40 AM
2

Thanks I’m changing it
/r/seduction05/01/22 02:14 PM
2

Fine I’ll do it. I’ll do the damn cold approaches. If nothing else it’ll be fun to rack up as many rejections as possible
/r/seduction05/01/22 08:08 AM
1

The reality is, putting yourself out there is a tired cliche platitude that doesn’t work 99% of the time especially if you’re average. All you are going to do is creep people out and get rejected. I’m not pulling because I’m not a viable option. It’s the only conclusion that makes sense
/r/seduction05/01/22 07:59 AM
1

I pretty much sit at home when I’m not at work and try to be productive as I can. But I know better than to think anything will change just because I put myself out there. It’s not that simple
/r/seduction05/01/22 07:41 AM
5

If it’s any consolation, regardless of who you end up attracting or not, you pretty much have to work on and improve yourself anyway or this world will wallop you. As far as I’m concerned there’s no better use of your time “To those who have everything more will be given, to those who have nothing more will be taken” Use this quote to your advantage
/r/seduction05/01/22 06:16 AM
2

Okay mighty one
/r/seduction03/01/22 09:49 AM
1

Knew her for a good couple of years. Knew that she liked me for a time (she said so) and then to make intentions known I basically just took her on two dates. That was just a couple of weeks ago.
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:29 AM
1

Thank you for your support
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:13 AM
2

.......I’m gonna ...g-go now
/r/seduction01/01/22 07:55 AM
2

Well more like everything that matters
/r/seduction01/01/22 07:41 AM
3

I’ve got appointments booked. I’m telling them everything
/r/seduction01/01/22 06:10 AM
6

I think a lot of this is just negative emotion. Don't give it too much airtime. It will pass. At least you've had some good luck
/r/seduction01/01/22 03:10 AM
2

This should really be marked as NSFW
/r/seduction20/12/21 07:08 PM
1

Already booked
/r/seduction19/12/21 09:59 PM
3

Just do it. At best you’ll be able to say “wow I’m so happy I actually asked!”
/r/seduction19/12/21 09:24 PM
2

There’s no way money and status do not help so just keep plugging away this is not meant to be easy. You have a massive advantage. Now it’s just a matter of social calibration I guess
/r/seduction19/12/21 03:20 AM
3

I don’t know cause I worry it’ll never change. And I lament missed opportunities. I’m bringing it up with therapy next month
/r/seduction18/12/21 11:58 PM
1

Nah on WhatsApp she’ll still have her conversation even though mine is gone. But yeah fine I guess I was a little bit impatient.
/r/seduction18/12/21 06:09 AM
1

Just lower the number. Significantly. Go for 10 or 15 a month. That’s what I’d do. There’s not much they can do if you’re polite and walk away when asked
/r/seduction18/12/21 06:04 AM
0

Dude I didn’t block her or nothing I’d just rather not look at her profile picture everytime I open WhatsApp if it’s hopeless. The ball is in her court. Yes I feel bad about ghosting her but like what am I gonna do take her out when I was a mess? Hell naw
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:58 AM
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I think in general it’s always been an ineffective method. Rejection is the most probable result most of the time Don’t let it get you down but yeah try to keep in mind that it’s better to attract women naturally by working on yourself consistently
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:52 AM
0

It was the first date I ever had she meant a bit more than that to me.
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:49 AM
1

Lesson learned. The hard way
/r/seduction18/12/21 04:59 AM
4

Sienfeld and the first three seasons of spongebob are comedy gold. As well as some of those Disney channel shows like Suite life of Zack and Cody. They have some genuinely hilarious writing so I’d recommend breaking out some popcorn and trying to internalize that quick witted humour. Also a lot of humour has to do with the tone of your voice and your facial expressions as well as your energy levels. You can almost trick people into thinking something is more funny than it is by the way you say i…
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:52 AM
3

Sub this man!!!!
/r/seduction16/12/21 09:21 AM
2

Good way of looking at it but I wouldn’t give yourself too much exposure to it
/r/seduction16/12/21 04:41 AM
1

Happy early birthday 🎉
/r/seduction16/12/21 03:52 AM
2

Yes it makes me want to stop coming back here and delete posts sooner because it is a big downer
/r/seduction16/12/21 03:47 AM
2

I agree. It’s better than sitting around doing fuck-all about it.
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:38 PM
2

Thank you I’m going to look into that book
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:37 PM
1

I’m done with your bullshit interviews.
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:31 PM
1

Absent sounds more accurate
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:18 PM
1

Maybe subconsciously but I can’t confirm. It was more like a high self regard and a disdain for weakness and vulnerability
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:59 PM
1

Not at all. Like not in the slightest. This stuff is not all black and white
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:51 PM
1

Not necessarily critical but not really emotionally supportive at all. But even if they were I would close myself off because I had this rebellious self assurance my whole life. It made me cringe to be loved especially from the parents. Like ew fuck off I’m fine y’know. Strength. Gotta be tough
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:48 PM
1

Not nearly as much as I should be but it’s fuckin’ hard.
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:43 PM
1

Yeah okay WE GET IT your upbringing plays a role stop asking for people’s childhood accounts
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:40 PM
1

Rocky to say the least. I’m pretty much only loved if I’m making good use of myself. Granted I’m also really need to move out. But I can’t help but feel like it was similar in my late childhood to teens as well. (I could be wrong though)
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:35 PM
1

Wasting my life
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:31 PM
1

Great. I guess forget it then. I’ll just have to keep trying things out until I find something that works. Confidence can go fuck itself because it’s not happening
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:22 PM
1

So what am I supposed to do then
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:17 PM
2

I’m without women because I was a depressed sap who didn’t do anything about it. Now I’m trying harder to do more. Not just for women though. You won’t make much use of this life if you don’t put it some effort and go through a bit of pain
/r/seduction15/12/21 04:16 AM
2

Here maybe reframe it and think of it this way: every time you approach, you are getting either a yes or a no. You must be okay with either outcome. And remember even if you get a yes that doesn’t necessarily mean everything is fine and dandy. She might be crazy or abusive, she might be cheating, she might be financially unstable etc like you don’t know
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:52 AM
3

^ this
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:51 AM
3

I’m sorry to hear about that. But I’d wager that’s where thinking positive comes in. Remember it’s not anything personal because they do not know you. Therefore it’s pretty hard for them to judge your entire character. They are simply rejecting who they see immediately in front of them. It’s not a reflection of you it’s a reflection of their preferences. Anyways don’t let it get you down.
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:50 AM
17

It’s called “getting lucky” for a reason. At least you have the balls to try. Can’t always expect it to go your way. And yes some men have it easier but you just have to keep plugging away
/r/seduction15/12/21 03:40 AM
1

Can you elaborate more about volume please
/r/seduction13/12/21 04:46 AM
1

Thank you. At this point I have to attempt to get in the game get used to rejection literally for my own sanity. It’s better than doing mental gymnastics about it!!
/r/seduction13/12/21 03:52 AM
2

The solution is to keep working, save money, get therapy, improve yourself, gain progress and results in life. Be so busy that you don’t have time to be lonely. A girlfriend is supposed to compliment your life not define it.
/r/seduction11/12/21 11:32 PM
1

Grow the hell up.
/r/seduction11/12/21 05:26 PM
1

What if I feel incapable of even getting short term flings..? Should I just keep working out? That makes a difference, right?
/r/seduction09/12/21 10:36 PM
1

Depends on who’s actually into you dude. Don’t give up. At least you’re young. Plenty of time to grow as a person and become more attractive in other ways.
/r/seduction07/12/21 04:31 AM
1

Yeah it’s time for me to get the fuck off reddit lol. Spazzing nutcase
/r/seduction07/12/21 03:43 AM
1

Thank you you too. God bless
/r/seduction05/12/21 04:11 AM
1

I will thanks. Seems interesting
/r/seduction05/12/21 03:26 AM
2

I’m glad you’re well again
/r/seduction05/12/21 03:26 AM
1

Agreed.
/r/seduction05/12/21 03:25 AM
1

Laugh it off and don’t let it bug you. It’s a competition at the end of the day. Think of this like a strategy RPG. Find out where you went wrong, and change your tactics
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:03 PM
2

Agreed. Also don’t forget to groom yourself. Passions and hobbies are integral, but you don’t want to look like a slob
/r/seduction04/12/21 02:54 AM
1

Really successful back in college, eh? I’d be banking more on past success than photofeeler tbh
/r/seduction04/12/21 02:48 AM
0

I’m more than aware she doesn’t owe me anything But thank you for the comment I Guess
/r/seduction03/12/21 06:16 AM
1

Lol that’s good. Healthy to process that stuff, all the better that the gym helped you out with it! And yeah I agree. The importance of working out cannot be overstated. Health is wealth.
/r/seduction03/12/21 02:47 AM
1

Actually are you able to message me again in our same inbox thread so I can reread it? Can’t seem to find it.
/r/seduction02/12/21 05:11 PM
1

Oh hi lol. Thanks for the reminder
/r/seduction02/12/21 05:09 PM
1

Love Sara Anderson
/r/seduction02/12/21 07:40 AM
2

What’s new? Well I finally landed a full time job that pays decent. Gonna try to dig out of this proverbial hole I’ve dug for myself. Who knows, once I’m back on my feet maybe that girl will still like me enough to go on a second date with me
/r/seduction02/12/21 05:34 AM
13

Understandable have a nice day.
/r/seduction02/12/21 05:31 AM
1

Actually no who am I kidding it’s time to abandon this futile game
/r/seduction01/12/21 11:16 AM
1

Sent you a PM just in case
/r/seduction01/12/21 10:09 AM
1

Just sucks cause I was so close a little earlier. Two cuties that I met through sheer luck but because I’m an idiot who’s life is not in order at this time, I wasn’t able to do anything beyond a single date. Although I suppose that is an improvement considering it was my first one... Idk I’m trying to get my ducks in a row here but it’s just taking forever and like it or not, opportunities are slipping and the clock is ticking. I’ve majorly fucked up and I’m praying to God that I can salvage som…
/r/seduction01/12/21 08:43 AM
1

I don’t even care anymore man I think I’m just blatantly unattractive. And I’m too damn anxious to make the effort to approach. Not that that would work anyway. Trying to change my attitude but when you go year after year of nothing you start to really question your validity as a potential partner
/r/seduction01/12/21 08:31 AM
1

It’s rarer than a Shiny Mew but it does happen. There is some luck involved in all this.
/r/seduction01/12/21 03:33 AM
2

“I’m tough, strong, goal-driven, and I’m improving a little bit every day” “Walk tall” “Eyes forward” “Fight through it” It helps when you have incremental results to back it up. Don’t forget to keep a straight back.
/r/seduction29/11/21 08:00 AM
2

I remind myself that they don’t know me at all and I don’t know them so there is no reason to take it personally. As they have no concrete knowledge of my character to be able to effectively judge. If you get rejected, it’s not personal. You’re just not what that particular person is looking for. It’s okay
/r/seduction29/11/21 07:51 AM
2

Why did this post get removed. What jackass removed this this was the best post on this whole sodding sub.
/r/seduction29/11/21 05:38 AM
2

What if literally nobody is eyeing you up. What are you supposed to do then. Sit around and not take any initiative?
/r/seduction20/11/21 05:27 AM
4

Needed this thank you. Going through a rough time but I’m hoping tomorrow will work out and be better
/r/seduction19/11/21 12:40 AM
1

Yeah okay fuck that RIGHT up the ass
/r/seduction15/11/21 08:42 AM
2

You got some solid comments on here already but I’d just like to say thank you for perfectly verbalizing the exact issue I’ve been having for so long and have been unable to deal with
/r/seduction14/11/21 08:03 AM
2

Thanks yeah I pretty much don’t see her on social media anymore
/r/seduction11/11/21 11:13 PM
1

O____O no worries thanks!
/r/seduction11/11/21 10:25 PM
1

UGH you’re right you’re goddamn right. I’ll try something else.
/r/seduction11/11/21 09:40 PM
4

Might save money for a good quality camera, get my buddy to take some of me, then figure it out from there.
/r/seduction11/11/21 10:10 AM
1

Keep doing stuff. Keep busy. When you’re not at work, work out, when you’re not working out, study or read, when you’re not studying, hobbies. Find a routine or a schedule and stick to it. Don’t ever allow yourself to become stagnant. Gain knowledge and skills. Play to your strengths and write them down. This has helped my confidence Eff the person who downvoted
/r/seduction10/11/21 09:50 PM
1

She was casually meandering with her dog so I figured it wouldn’t hurt to try. Okay thank you for the advice and reminder. I need to loosen up a bit
/r/seduction09/11/21 08:16 PM
1

That’s a good point. I suppose it’s because I had a premeditated narrative for the approach. Not really the best idea as everyone is different and I should be perceptive enough to notice and point out what is unique about them
/r/seduction09/11/21 07:56 AM
1

I think the coat she was wearing. It was a long dark red wool trench coat of sorts. It looked good
/r/seduction09/11/21 07:46 AM
1

I think it was something like “okay let’s just try it, GO: ___”
/r/seduction09/11/21 07:35 AM
6

Stand up straight with your shoulders back!! :) I know this all too well but I still forget to uncross my arms. I keep the posture good but I don’t like to take up space. :S
/r/seduction06/11/21 08:40 PM
1

Fear of getting severely punished for so much as even trying to talk to a woman
/r/seduction06/11/21 12:21 AM
2

Thanks bro. I’m double vaccinated yeah. I do have a couple close friends. I’ll see what I can do I guess. The FOMO doesn’t help but hey, I should have thought about that earlier
/r/seduction04/11/21 06:43 AM
1

Yeah I realized this shortly after making this post which is why I deleted it lol.
/r/seduction04/11/21 12:35 AM
2

Yeah you got the right idea. Don’t be flipping desperate they hate that but don’t close yourself off entirely. It’s tough cause like how do you even do that lol but you’ll figure it out. Just relax work on yourself, engage in your hobbies and studies that’s the most important part
/r/seduction01/11/21 09:19 PM
9

Well you have a good attitude but I think you also have time on your side that might be why you’re not so worried. However, long term complacency is bad. Your youth won’t last forever so try to continue being proactive without overdoing it. Just whatever you do don’t make my mistake when I was younger and tell yourself you don’t want it
/r/seduction01/11/21 09:02 PM
1

Damn j was scrllling through this looking for a negative cynical comment but damn everyone seems to be more or less in agreement that the “f*** it” attitude kinda works. I mean it won’t always get you the girl but it will feel better to try than not try.
/r/seduction31/10/21 08:56 AM
1

Very very few. I only asked a woman for the time two days ago and that took all my willpower
/r/seduction30/10/21 07:29 PM
1

Good luck to you and all, but getting a date is not the hardest part. The hardest part is getting a second date. Then a third and so on.
/r/seduction30/10/21 07:10 PM
1

No. Just ultra sensitive to loud noises.
/r/seduction30/10/21 06:34 PM
-3

Yeah I wish. Damn loud-ass fireworks have always ruined Halloween for me. I’m staying indoors
/r/seduction30/10/21 07:24 AM
2

I’m getting less anxious! Getting better at just going for it :D
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:59 AM
-4

Maybe don’t say anything. It doesn’t need to be some grand announcement. Just let things develop organically, you’ll become bf+gf overtime if things keep up regardless
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:51 AM
1

And maybe it won’t
/r/seduction26/10/21 09:10 PM
6

Just accept her follow request my god this is not an issue dude who cares what people think
/r/seduction26/10/21 08:42 PM
1

I like to start by mentally hyping myself up “talk to her. Just talk to her you have to say something idgaf DO IT” “Hi do you have the time? 5:45 okay thank you” Small stuff like that can add up over time
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:36 AM
1

Vancouver BC
/r/seduction24/10/21 07:37 PM
1

Yo can you give me some advice she’s not replying. Was trying to set up a second date and it doesn’t look like it’s happening
/r/seduction18/10/21 04:01 AM
1

Please elaborate. I swear I didn’t pester her
/r/seduction18/10/21 03:54 AM
1

Mhm good point you never know. Sometimes it is for the best
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:32 AM
3

Forwarding your career > all. Just. Face. Facts. You need to have some kind of income to keep you sustained, education to keep you sharp and career to keep you relevant. Without that. Nothing else matters. nothing else CAN matter.
/r/seduction17/10/21 07:59 AM
1

Tonight?? Um... I highly doubt that but good luck I suppose
/r/seduction17/10/21 07:55 AM
4

Congratulations on the med school acceptance. Good luck to you A typical day for me apart from work would include working out, A LOT of house cleaning, writing my novel if I have ideas, trying to learn about computers and then spending afternoons with the cousins or siblings.
/r/seduction17/10/21 04:31 AM
3

What delusional clown thinks he’s going to be the main priority of somebody else’s life when they only just met?
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:39 PM
-3

There IS an initial attraction or we wouldn’t have exchanged numbers, genius! Had a date and everything. Not saying I secured the bag but it’s better than nothing!
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:34 PM
1

Yeah I’m definitely reading more and trying to brush up on knowledge and culture. Thanks for the reminder. What are you reading right now?
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:30 PM
0

Cool! So I might as well just delete this chick’s number and block her for good! Screw trying to get to know each other gradually. Screw easing into things and not rushing in. Since she’s not undressing herself in front of me within the first few minutes of knowing me I guess it’s a bust!!! WHY DIDN’T I SEE IT SOONER??!?!?
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:22 PM
1

Thank you
/r/seduction16/10/21 07:24 AM
2

Old post but yes. In my admittedly very limited experience Yes it is and I’ve learned that the hard way especially if she’s initiating physical contact herself. Make like Sebastian the Crab and “kiss the gurl” Otherwise you may very well have blown it. Like I did
/r/seduction16/10/21 06:52 AM
1

Okay I’m going to get a work out in tomorrow and do some other productive stuff as well. Now I suppose the real question is how do I quell the pure anxiety around getting older and worrying that I’ve missed my chance for good?
/r/seduction16/10/21 04:41 AM
1

I don’t feel comfortable. I’d wear a mask but good luck having anybody hear you. It’s a genuinely complicated time we are living in. I cannot reasonably just go out for leisure.
/r/seduction16/10/21 03:41 AM
2

Covid, bad weather and finances are tight :/
/r/seduction16/10/21 03:31 AM
2

Meh. Remove yourself from entitlement and you have nothing to feel “crushed” about
/r/seduction16/10/21 03:14 AM
0

That’s what he wants you to think
/r/seduction15/10/21 11:24 AM
1

This.
/r/seduction15/10/21 10:25 AM
1

Yes twice. She seems still interested in meeting but twice I’ve been turned down for whatever reason. It’s looking like a bust
/r/seduction15/10/21 10:00 AM
2

Thank you :)
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:22 AM
2

Bold of you to assume there will even be a “next time” but thanks for the insight
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:13 AM
-1

Please don’t choke your partner.
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:11 AM
3

I don’t know. It always has the potential to backfire hard. Anyways it’s looking less and less likely that I’m going to see her again so I’m better off not getting invested. I suppose if I had gone for it that would have increased her interest but oh well. Live and learn
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:07 AM
2

Consent is everything
/r/seduction15/10/21 05:55 AM
6

5 ft 8” here. I don’t view it as an obstacle at all. Although it may very well be in some cases, I’m not offended by it. Women are allowed to have their preferences too.
/r/seduction14/10/21 12:12 AM
1

Can you please give me an example. I don’t know what I’m doing and I’m anxious about a lot of stuff
/r/seduction14/10/21 12:04 AM
1

Thank you. I will keep going. I have a plan. But getting it started has been a herculean task
/r/seduction13/10/21 08:11 AM
1

I’m heading out to a possible job opening tomorrow. If I’m not hired I have a last resort that I’m not looking forward to but I’ll be left with no choice
/r/seduction13/10/21 08:10 AM
1

Specifically jobs and being brave enough to go outdoors
/r/seduction13/10/21 07:49 AM
2

Zero. I’m not the type of guy women want approaching them. I need to work on myself.
/r/seduction13/10/21 07:19 AM
3

Nothing in life worth doing was ever easy. ever The sooner you come to terms with that, the less the anxiety should bother you or come as a surprise
/r/seduction13/10/21 07:18 AM
1

Gee thanks what are you a parrot
/r/seduction12/10/21 10:40 AM
1

It’s still a good deal nicer than being told straight up that you’re useless trash
/r/seduction12/10/21 10:24 AM
-2

I mean I love Mark Manson I think he’s a super cool dude but yeah I haven’t bothered with that book. It doesn’t apply to the situation for a lot of guys here so I’m not sure why it gets recommended so much
/r/seduction02/10/21 07:19 AM
1

Sorry for the negativity. I’m in a bad place at the moment but I’ll fix it
/r/seduction02/10/21 12:26 AM
2

K thanks sorry. Bouncing back bit by bit
/r/seduction02/10/21 12:26 AM
2

Could be a variety of reasons. Maybe she’s got a boyfriend already or just started seeing someone, maybe she just broke up and doesn’t feel like getting back into dating right away, maybe she’s dealing with some family drama and isn’t in a dating mood. Don’t take it personally
/r/seduction01/10/21 11:12 PM
1

Nice I’m happy you gave it a shot.
/r/seduction01/10/21 07:36 AM
2

Get the hell out of here dude... “you chose to be a loser” stop that toxic bullshit man. Nobody appreciates it
/r/seduction01/10/21 07:32 AM
2

I did just thank thank you. She said she’ll let me know if the date I suggested works for her. If not I’ll probably try one final time but then after that we’re moving on.
/r/seduction01/10/21 07:16 AM
2

“The most probable answer to will you give me your number is are you kidding?” Knowing that, makes it sting a little bit less for me because well, if you weren’t prepared for it, that’s on you
/r/seduction01/10/21 06:41 AM
1

Just admitting defeat
/r/seduction30/09/21 12:47 PM
2

Why the hell would you not want to do both. Lift heavy objects for increased strength and better mental health. Attention from women is never guaranteed and is a byproduct anyway
/r/seduction30/09/21 10:36 AM
3

DON’T LET YOUR DREAMS BE MEMES
/r/seduction30/09/21 02:42 AM
1

Had me in the first half, not gonna lie
/r/seduction30/09/21 12:12 AM
1

You’re insane
/r/seduction29/09/21 11:49 PM
4

I’m not sure if you have the money but you could always try another therapist. You are not limited to just one. I’ve had 3 different ones Just a thought. Maybe he wasn’t a good fit for you. That’s a common thing with therapy
/r/seduction29/09/21 08:39 AM
3

None of the guys I know found success with women until they got significant results in the gym so no you’re wrong
/r/seduction29/09/21 06:47 AM
15

I’m 28 and I’m feeling a bit similar. I think some guys just get unlucky in this game especially if you’re like me and you procrastinated. But I’m not about to give up. Have you tried therapy? I think you and I are both due for it.
/r/seduction29/09/21 06:46 AM
1

I don’t know. I’m just stressed and nothing is working for me right now. I feel so undesirable and I’m easily discouraged. Work starts up again tomorrow so hopefully the return to routine will help me
/r/seduction29/09/21 06:38 AM
4

Going to the gym and bettering yourself is not a load of crap
/r/seduction29/09/21 06:36 AM
1

Look just because you go out clubbing doesn’t mean I feel comfortable doing that. Just because you’ve netted success with that method doesn’t mean I will. I might just set myself up for disappointment. The focus needs to be on me
/r/seduction29/09/21 06:09 AM
1

I see online dating as an absolute last resort
/r/seduction28/09/21 09:28 AM
16

I’m all for taking responsibility, but if you’re trying to sell me on the idea that luck doesn’t exist, you’ve got another thing coming
/r/seduction28/09/21 08:47 AM
4

Once I would say 7 as others have given me that rating but If I’m being really honest with myself it’s more like a 6.
/r/seduction28/09/21 08:26 AM
1

Well said
/r/seduction27/09/21 09:43 PM
1

Your physical strength? Your confidence? Your income? Your skillset? Your style? I don’t know you tell me!! 5”8 is not THAT short. If it bothers you that much maybe be glad you’re not even shorter? Try to see the positive. By no means are you fucked, my brother is the exact same height as you and he SLAYS. And if it helps, try just taking a deep breath and accepting your height. Say it out loud. You have to make peace with the fact that you cannot control your height
/r/seduction27/09/21 12:32 PM
2

Wtf? Can you just let us comment without belittling us? We can say whatever we want
/r/seduction27/09/21 10:45 AM
1

Get over it already, christ. You’re just using that as an excuse to not improve yourself in other ways
/r/seduction27/09/21 10:07 AM
2

I’d sooner cut of my own limbs than try to forcibly extend them. Batshit crazy idea
/r/seduction27/09/21 10:06 AM
-1

I’m neither attractive nor valuable. No wonder I don’t get laid. Thanks for clearing that up
/r/seduction25/09/21 11:18 AM
1

So do you think it’s feasible for me to do from time to time? I’m just scared and anxious about going out when I don’t need to
/r/seduction25/09/21 12:32 AM
1

That’s what I’m saying. But I guess this situation is pretty common. I’ll just have to distract myself, do other things and get on with it. I should have gone out more before Covid. It’s my fault
/r/seduction25/09/21 12:15 AM
1

Well I suppose I could try it but I don’t want my already low self esteem to be lowered further by dating apps. Even though I don’t think I’m that bad looking
/r/seduction25/09/21 12:12 AM
7

If someone shoves you in public I hope you fucking say something. Don’t just take that shit
/r/seduction25/09/21 12:09 AM
1

just be careful. If you cold approach, (obviously wait for your second shot) keep track of your approaches. I wouldn’t recommend doing more than 3 per week. All the best.
/r/seduction23/09/21 07:40 AM
2

Good job for taking action! I don’t really have advice to give as I’m 28 and in the same boat but you go! Your mind is in the right place just keep at it.
/r/seduction23/09/21 07:11 AM
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K well first of all, getting vaccinated is great thank you for doing your part, but by no means are you immune to Covid or it’s variants so please don’t go walking around approaching multiple strangers like everything is back to normal... Secondly relax. You’re young. You are not the first 23 year old virgin by any means and it’s not pathetic at all. Be patient as this happens at different times for different people
/r/seduction23/09/21 06:54 AM
0

Why did you even post? You seem so dead set in your views. Just leave people alone if you’re so convinced that you’re a nuisance
/r/seduction22/09/21 11:19 PM
12

My career prospects and overall skills. Not having any direction is a mad blow to the confidence
/r/seduction22/09/21 11:28 AM
1

Been watching and reading his stuff for months. It helps, but ultimately I’m the one that needs to implement change
/r/seduction22/09/21 09:21 AM
1

Art. Particularly music and stories. Tales of epic fantasy, with depth of lore and compelling characters. Especially playing those characters and acting out the role. Bringing the story to life with my own performance. Orchestral music and soundtracks that bring to life and enhance the experience of the stories told. I have to find a way to pay the bills and live my passion at the same time. So it feels like I am both contributing and actually enjoying my time on this earth. Nothing for it
/r/seduction22/09/21 08:15 AM
14

I think to become a little more interesting you should try and include some cultural artistic things into your routine. What kind of movies do you like, books do you read etc.
/r/seduction22/09/21 07:05 AM
1

Fine. Here’s hoping it’s not too late by the time I get there.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:44 AM
1

I agree. But you know what doesn’t agree? My stupid brain who’s often depressed from the social isolation. I honestly might be in big trouble. By the time I get to where I want to be I’ll be in my late 30s at least. By then it will likely be too late to attract anyone.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:34 AM
1

It’s not that I can’t find the information, it’s that I cannot chose a direction because I’m plagued with doubts about my abilities. I’ll admit I spent my twenties kind of drifting but I’ve smartened up since then. I’m willing to put in the work I just don’t know what kind of work I should be doing
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:30 AM
1

Fine nothing yet. But only because I seriously don’t know what to do.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:25 AM
1

Not a ton. But I’m working on it
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:19 AM
1

I. Don’t. Know!!
/r/seduction22/09/21 03:23 AM
0

I would say the odds are about the same. But I don’t personally like online dating and stuff like Tinder Gold is just another subscription draining your savings so I hypothetically would rather talk organically in person
/r/seduction20/09/21 08:23 AM
29

Nobody is saying the odds are in your favour but if you sit around and do nothing you’re guaranteed to get just that; nothing. So go try. It’s not about bagging every girl you see. It’s about building connections until you find one that likes you That’s how I look at it.
/r/seduction20/09/21 08:07 AM
1

You described me pretty much to a tee. I don’t know why I’m having so much trouble changing
/r/seduction20/09/21 06:03 AM
2

Did you get the job? Congrats if you did! You might at least get to be around other people while on the job which is better than nothing.
/r/seduction20/09/21 03:59 AM
2

I like your attitude
/r/seduction20/09/21 03:54 AM
2

As for “just be yourself” I always pair it with “everyone else is already taken” and that gives it a little more merit in my opinion
/r/seduction20/09/21 03:31 AM
1

Well you have good taste I’ll give you that. I main Sephiroth, Cloud and Snake how about you? You have the right idea I think. It’s certainly not going to happen by sitting at home. No matter how much I dream about my waifu Nobara Kugisaki, she’s just a drawing and aint never coming out of that screen... even if she did, it would be to punch me in the lip lol.
/r/seduction20/09/21 03:29 AM
1

I pretty much don’t go out at all because I’m in no position to be going out and advertising the shitty underdeveloped product that is myself. Hopefully your situation is different though. I’d try to make more of an effort if I were you . And don’t feel bad about staying in
/r/seduction19/09/21 02:52 AM
1

I’m 28. Thanks. We’ll see how it goes
/r/seduction19/09/21 01:10 AM
15

Watching others do it and reading about it really doesn’t help much imo. You have to just do it, yeah it’s uncomfortable yeah it probably won’t end well but ultimately if it’s something you want to do you have to try it. And once you do, the ironic part is you’re not going to remember all the stuff you read
/r/seduction19/09/21 12:47 AM
26

You had me until the nipple part
/r/seduction15/09/21 10:23 PM
1

You poor soul :( I hope you turn things around soon. 40 may be kind of old but you still have some time. Best of luck and take care 💜
/r/seduction15/09/21 08:04 PM
1

I don’t feel attractive enough and don’t want to disturb them. I also don’t want to encounter a radical feminist who calls the cops on me
/r/seduction15/09/21 07:58 PM
1

Good point. I’m just so starved for social interaction that I tend to post here a lot :(
/r/seduction15/09/21 09:44 AM
1

I admit I can be but that doesn’t mean I don’t ever think for myself
/r/seduction14/09/21 05:37 PM
1

Look I can it’s just that the logic of those opinions stands out to me more than the others. It’s the typical situation of negative clickbait. It’s simply likely to overpower the positive
/r/seduction14/09/21 05:35 PM
2

I can take a different opinion I’m just saying it’s the same situation every time
/r/seduction14/09/21 05:34 PM
54

I actually agree. The only time I’ve ever been noticed or complimented by girls is when I wasn’t trying to get their attention at all. Everytime it happened it would catch me totally off guard. Do your thing, improve yourself, and just be. They will come if the time and place is right.
/r/seduction14/09/21 07:19 AM
2

I agree. I guess my post was just talking about the present and stopping the spiralling.
/r/seduction14/09/21 01:10 AM
1

Yes that too. Hence why I included working out in the post. Say hi to Josuke for me
/r/seduction14/09/21 12:50 AM
2

That’s why it’s definitely good to unplug and do a wide variety of screen free activities
/r/seduction13/09/21 07:06 PM
1

Well I sure freaking hope so considering my brother is the same height as you and me and he’s got a hot girlfriend.
/r/seduction13/09/21 07:03 PM
2

I’m no expert on this subject but a good piece of advice I heard for social anxiety was to not avoid socializing and certainly don’t avoid looking at people. Let me say that again. LOOK at people. Don’t look down and don’t slump your shoulders. See them for the individuals that they are with their own stories and insecurities. Maybe this will help you get out of your own head
/r/seduction13/09/21 08:08 AM
-1

I regret giving advice to a narcissist who doesn’t want advice. Hypocrite...
/r/seduction11/09/21 10:15 AM
1

Working out until you’re strong enough to handle whatever jackass you encounter. Or take up martial arts, if you know how to defend yourself, or at least strong enough to hold your own, there’s not much to fear Obviously this takes a lot of work but I can’t think of a better answer to your post. Become an AMOG yourself
/r/seduction11/09/21 04:14 AM
1

I’m sorry can you elaborate
/r/seduction09/09/21 08:21 AM
1

Not trying to be a smartass, but there’s a difference between “working out” and actually having visible gains to your physique. That’s the whole point. Regardless be proud that you workout anyway. It’s vitally important
/r/seduction09/09/21 04:01 AM
8

Proud to say I worked out today and yesterday! Will keep it up 👍
/r/seduction07/09/21 04:54 AM
1

No that was the best one I could think of. I have the tab saved on my phone indefinitely. It’s too good
/r/seduction06/09/21 11:41 PM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pgqy60/do_you_feel_a_spotlight_effect_while_approaching/
/r/seduction06/09/21 01:10 PM
2

It’s only awkward if you’re immature about it
/r/seduction06/09/21 09:11 AM
5

Bite the bullet and say hi and smile politely. Make small talk from there. If she doesn’t want to talk you’ll know. There’s no magic secret. Just do it
/r/seduction05/09/21 09:34 AM
1

.....?
/r/seduction05/09/21 06:28 AM
1

5” 8 so not really
/r/seduction05/09/21 05:33 AM
5

Sorry you had to put up with that. I understand you were just trying to help.
/r/seduction03/09/21 05:19 PM
51

Don’t worry about trolls. They’re everywhere. Just keep doing your thing
/r/seduction03/09/21 05:12 PM
1

How can I form a backbone then?
/r/seduction02/09/21 10:28 PM
5

Thanks for this. This was the exact issue that stopped me from making an approach yesterday
/r/seduction02/09/21 09:39 PM
1

That’s like telling a homeless guy to just buy a house. How do you build a social circle when you lack confidence and have no friends and very little going for you?
/r/seduction02/09/21 07:20 AM
1

Actually yeah it does when the comments are actually helpful. So thanks for spamming negative comments like that makes you any better
/r/seduction02/09/21 07:02 AM
1

Thank you sir I needed that. I know damn well it’s not going to lead to any dates but the growth that comes from getting out of the comfort zone is undeniable
/r/seduction02/09/21 06:59 AM
1

I would say go for it but like you said, you seem to have drastically different life directions so expect that to deter some things. But you never know, good luck
/r/seduction02/09/21 06:57 AM
2

K someone needs to temp ban this guy or something he’s just spamming random bs
/r/seduction02/09/21 05:46 AM
2

If it’s in the back of your mind, sure. I’m just saying let it stay there unless something happens organically. Contribute to the purpose of the event or your goal of meeting people is just going to backfire
/r/seduction02/09/21 03:29 AM
1

No but if your only goal is to drink you could easily buy something from the liquor store and do it at home
/r/seduction02/09/21 03:27 AM
5

I would suggest smoking weed Please leave
/r/seduction02/09/21 03:22 AM
1

Thank you for your immensely helpful feedback
/r/seduction02/09/21 03:11 AM
7

Bars and clubs are the exception. The whole point of that is to go and meet people. At least that’s the impression I get. But for something like sports, book clubs and the like, you’re not there to hook up ffs. If it happens cool, it sure wouldn’t happen by sitting at home. But by no means should you expect it
/r/seduction02/09/21 01:06 AM
1

No she didn’t I’m saying it could happen and I’m scared of insinuating such a response. Canada
/r/seduction02/09/21 12:05 AM
4

“The most probable answer to will you give me your number is: are you kidding?” -Jordan B. Peterson. Accept that the odds are simply not in your favour and take pride in that fact that you are trying anyway. Detach from the outcome
/r/seduction01/09/21 06:15 PM
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Whatever you choose, just make sure you are not going to that activity for the sole reason of meeting people or you risk looking desperate and (sorry) creepy. Go there because you like to do the activity, meeting people should be a byproduct.
/r/seduction01/09/21 06:10 PM
1

No. But it has been a while since I went on a nature walk
/r/seduction01/09/21 06:00 AM
2

Okay thanks for commenting. I’ll bring it up next session
/r/seduction01/09/21 05:32 AM
1

I don’t have time to read the whole post but I’m happy for you. But how do you put yourself out there in the first place is my question
/r/seduction31/08/21 12:50 PM
1

Okay thanks. You’re right I need to bounce back and play the part of the person I want to be. I’ve been trying to emulate Jotaro Kujo. I need to be tougher anyway. You have a point. Wallowing in the past is not going to propel me forward. It’s only too late when you quit and I’m certainly not a quitter
/r/seduction30/08/21 10:57 PM
1

Thanks for replying. Well, I did just manage to get a job as a general labourer in roofing. So i am trying to get my sh*t together. Things are not sunshine and daisy’s at the moment but I have strategic plans laid out to improve. I’ve started working out regularly and being more conscious about what I eat. But in terms of social life, I currently have one friend. I never went out, and I’m kind of regretting it. I’m trying to focus on myself without feeling lonely or like I missed my chances
/r/seduction30/08/21 10:37 PM
1

I’m where I am because of low confidence and no real results in life I guess.
/r/seduction30/08/21 03:28 PM
1

...OKAY I’LL BITE
/r/seduction30/08/21 01:49 AM
2

...can you not
/r/seduction29/08/21 08:59 AM
1

My brother is your height and he’s dating a 9. I’m only an inch taller and I’ve had several women compliment my looks. Own your height. You can’t change it. Stand up straight and accept it. Don’t take any offence, but maybe stop acting entitled. Women are allowed to be attracted to taller men. Work on what you can control and ignore that which you cannot. I can’t BELIEVE we’re still talking about this. Everyone needs to get over the height thing already it’s seriously getting old. “Sorry you’re …
/r/seduction29/08/21 08:53 AM
1

Thank you. You know what it is? It’s not putting the damn phone down when it’s time to sleep. You stay up too late that’ll affect your mood
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:37 PM
5

Don’t lie
/r/seduction28/08/21 01:27 PM
1

It’s terrible. I do have one good friend but that’s it
/r/seduction28/08/21 12:45 PM
4

To enjoy yourself (in loose subjective terms) means to engage in meaningful activities that are in alignment with both your values and your interests. If can also mean you are simply having a good time, having a nice meal, jamming to your favourite song or playing a great game
/r/seduction28/08/21 11:45 AM
1

Women have told me I’m good looking but I still feel unattractive and creepy at the thought of approaching a woman. Im so frustrated with this.
/r/seduction27/08/21 08:58 PM
3

I don’t even pay attention to the purist haters lol. Remake is and will continue to be excellent. That combat system is seriously god like
/r/seduction27/08/21 08:09 AM
3

I love your profile picture!!!! Remake for life!
/r/seduction27/08/21 06:02 AM
1

I disagree. It’s pretty hard to feel confident when you look like a hobo
/r/seduction27/08/21 05:12 AM
6

This reminds me of a good quote by Jordan Peterson. “Why should you even bother improving yourself? ...so you don’t suffer anymore stupidly than you already have to” It is in your best interests to live your life wisely and virtuously and find a purpose as soon as possible. Every man needs a purpose, a true calling to conduct him through life otherwise why is he even here? I implore you to do some deep thinking and journalling about what your values are in life and how you can integrate them int…
/r/seduction27/08/21 05:09 AM
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Boy you had me flexing my typing fingers with that post title lol
/r/seduction27/08/21 05:03 AM
1

Hey can you update this comment thread whenever you feel better?
/r/seduction26/08/21 08:47 AM
2

Get well soon
/r/seduction26/08/21 03:47 AM
2

Good luck
/r/seduction25/08/21 08:27 AM
2

To the first question. I have yet to overcome it. But even when I do find an excuse to approach I still chicken out because something inexplicable just stops me. So maybe that comes with experience and just biting the bullet and saying something. As for the second question, it helps to remember that we can only improve. But we cannot ever be perfect. There is always the potential for a social interaction to go south even for the best of us. Accept it and move forward
/r/seduction24/08/21 06:19 AM
2

Precisely. I don’t understand why people think looks are the only thing that ever matters. We are more than just out physical appearance and your status can and will affect your attractiveness. Non issue my foot
/r/seduction23/08/21 08:51 PM
1

Don’t really need multiple jobs that’ll just burn you out better to stick with one full time do it well and save the money
/r/seduction23/08/21 08:50 PM
1

I’m in a similar boat as you. Really think critically about what it is you are willing to tolerate and then swallow your pride and give it your all. Also make sure to get enough sleep to make the days at work easier.
/r/seduction23/08/21 09:16 AM
2

I needed this post three years ago
/r/seduction23/08/21 05:25 AM
7

I would focus on finding some employment as soon as possible. That seems to me like it should be your biggest priority right now. Good luck to you
/r/seduction23/08/21 05:14 AM
6

Bruh great comment
/r/seduction23/08/21 02:20 AM
2

Stand up straight with your shoulders back. Look people in the eye when you talk to them.
/r/seduction21/08/21 05:29 AM
1

Ah life.
/r/seduction19/08/21 09:49 PM
2

Good post. Good luck with your book thank you for this. So in a nutshell you’re saying who I am needs to be in alignment with what I want? Easier said than done but hopefully I can make it happen.
/r/seduction19/08/21 06:49 AM
1

Im 28. Okay good to hear thanks.
/r/seduction18/08/21 06:43 AM
4

Thank you for the reminder. I need to get more shit done
/r/seduction17/08/21 07:07 AM
20

Just putting yourself out there and making a move is all you can do. If you want it to lead to s3x, the woman has to reciprocate your advances. So just do your best and be outcome independent. I.e. try not to make it obvious that you want to bang. That won’t look very good
/r/seduction17/08/21 03:06 AM
1

You will be fine. Give it time and either try to talk to someone else or go do something else.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:24 PM
2

I guess I meant you need to actually get out with people to an extent.
/r/seduction16/08/21 09:03 PM
5

Congratulations! Confidence is key but also having a social circle to go to parties and such is arguably even more important. I need to find a way to get that
/r/seduction16/08/21 07:31 AM
3

Sorry to hear dude. At least you know now that you have to move on ASAP
/r/seduction16/08/21 07:21 AM
15

You’re right the Metoo era certainly requires us to exercise caution but a friend of mine once told me something: There’s always going to be a million reasons not to do something.
/r/seduction16/08/21 05:03 AM
9

Read books. Lots of em. Brush up on your world history, or maybe some good fiction.
/r/seduction15/08/21 04:53 AM
3

Pretty hard to do when you feel so painfully inadequate
/r/seduction14/08/21 08:00 AM
1

Good good! Know your own worth. If she’s not talking what’s the point, right??
/r/seduction14/08/21 07:35 AM
4

Yeah of course are you kidding me women love a good handyman that’s valuable Hell who even cares if it attracts women or not you’d be set for life with those skills
/r/seduction14/08/21 06:10 AM
1

W E L P. Too late for that. I guess I’ll have to swallow the pride and take action next time.
/r/seduction14/08/21 12:02 AM
1

Thank you
/r/seduction14/08/21 12:01 AM
1

Nope :( I just didn’t know what to do or how to handle the social aspect of dating if it came to it. Was too far outside my comfort zone I guess
/r/seduction13/08/21 11:21 PM
2

Rejection is not only a good thing. It’s inevitable and should be expected. Thanks for the reminder
/r/seduction13/08/21 10:00 AM
0

Okay fine fine you got a point. Sorry if I seemed rude
/r/seduction13/08/21 09:26 AM
2

That’s totally fine. Different strokes for different folks. Maybe I’m just not used to it because I only recently started doing it regularly 😂
/r/seduction13/08/21 09:24 AM
0

Yeah thanks captain obvious but that doesn’t mean we can’t discuss the cons of dating/sex. Especially when it needlessly permeates almost every aspect of our culture.
/r/seduction13/08/21 09:12 AM
0

I’m talking specifically for adventure/fantasy films. I love sex too but the scenes themselves don’t add anything substantial to the movies at all
/r/seduction13/08/21 09:09 AM
2

Keep up the body building for sure. That’s a good thing to be addicted to. That alone will work wonders for the self esteem
/r/seduction13/08/21 08:55 AM
2

Well most social interactions tend to feel draining for me unless the activity was really fun. But yeah oftentimes I need to retreat into solitude to recharge so i can relate
/r/seduction13/08/21 08:26 AM
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Just brutal dude. I wish I had advice. But all I can say is take care and good luck out there. Sobering stuff. Maybe try getting a new therapist. They are supposed to be supportive but this guy just sounds like a dick by your description
/r/seduction13/08/21 08:13 AM
1

I’m one of those weirdos who mains Noctis lol
/r/seduction13/08/21 04:48 AM
1

Honestly it can go pretty deep if you really analyze it. It’s more than just making your bed for the sake of it. It’s about holding yourself to a certain standard, being clean, and deriving order from chaos.
/r/seduction13/08/21 04:46 AM
2

Thank you for your incredibly valuable insight
/r/seduction13/08/21 04:43 AM
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Thank you for not being in fantasy land with this post and actually addressing the fact that YES someone women will harshly reject you and that’s just part of the game. It’ll sting for a good few minutes maybe even a whole day but not much longer than that.
/r/seduction12/08/21 02:12 PM
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Just make your bed period. Starts the day off right everytime
/r/seduction12/08/21 02:05 PM
2

Stiff upper lip
/r/seduction12/08/21 06:17 AM
4

Glad you’re getting out of your comfort zone. I’m trying to do more of that myself. It’s so easy to feel inadequate but I know that I’m trying my best anyway... And rejection only really hurts when you’re expecting too much anyway
/r/seduction12/08/21 06:00 AM
2

YES. YES IT IS.
/r/seduction12/08/21 04:16 AM
1

I’m looking into a martial art ASAP. I’m doubly vaccinated. Surely there’s something out there
/r/seduction12/08/21 04:13 AM
2

I might have to look into a book club online, or see if there’s any kind of social distanced class that’s available to sign up for. Maybe GOD FORBID I should try hitting up a bar if there’s any open...
/r/seduction12/08/21 03:53 AM
2

They can’t all be that bad. Excessive social isolation and withdrawal is not doing me any favours here.
/r/seduction12/08/21 03:50 AM
1

Can you send me a PM please
/r/seduction12/08/21 03:34 AM
1

City. Nothing too heavy in terms of restrictions at the moment but it’s also not to be taken lightly I suppose. I’m 28.
/r/seduction12/08/21 01:53 AM
5

Have fun. Don’t try to hard about making it special. Just try to enjoy each other’s company
/r/seduction11/08/21 07:39 AM
2

It’s a bit of both because on one hand it counts as exposure therapy, but on the other hand yes I do tend to ever so subtly shrink away. With every single interaction. Because I’m fearing for my life. I know the kinds of abhorrence people are capable of and I am terrified of encountering it. That and also burnout. Not even the weekends are relaxing for me anymore because that’s just more responsibility outside of work and in the house. Im feeling absolute burnout yet I can’t give myself the prov…
/r/seduction10/08/21 09:15 PM
1

That’s not really an environment that traditionally encourages socializing
/r/seduction10/08/21 01:34 PM
1

Oh yeah I heard about that, border’s opened up for the vaccinated. My hobbies.... gaming, reading, writing, music/piano learning, fantasy stuff, exercise, I wanna learn chess. Etc. I’m quite grateful to have such a wide array of activities to choose from but it is getting harder to ignore the lack of friends or partner
/r/seduction10/08/21 07:58 AM
2

Canada. Thanks for commenting
/r/seduction10/08/21 07:52 AM
1

Thank you
/r/seduction06/08/21 02:02 AM
2

I think this is the post I needed. Hopefully I’ll get off Reddit for good soon
/r/seduction06/08/21 01:24 AM
1

This is a MOOD
/r/seduction06/08/21 01:19 AM
1

Well for starters? Maybe stop calling yourself subhuman just because you are single. You’re not
/r/seduction06/08/21 12:59 AM
0

Scroll down the subreddit someone made a post saying they are from Toronto :) make sure to click “new” on the right to see recent posts. have a nice day Oli.
/r/seduction06/08/21 12:56 AM
0

You don’t really. Because often that’s exactly what you’re doing. Just be polite and take rejection with grace
/r/seduction06/08/21 12:15 AM
1

You make a valid point. I need to give this a break and do something else.
/r/seduction06/08/21 12:10 AM
1

You know something, I completely forgot I just made that previous post a few minutes ago... might need to do a phone detox soon
/r/seduction06/08/21 12:06 AM
0

I FUCKING LOVE RE ZERO DUDE!!! Emilia-tan stole my heart in season 2 😭 😭 😭 JoJo’s bizarre adventure is great as well. I’m a big Harry Potter fan as well still am. I’m also an absolute SIMP for Final Fantasy.
/r/seduction04/08/21 06:36 AM
1

Yeah......so? What’s your point? Get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:56 AM
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Thanks broski. I needed that. It helps to keep yourself busy and just sorta not think about it too. Whether that’s work, hobbies, exercise etc. Just be a good hard-working man.
/r/seduction04/08/21 02:50 AM
1

Not only that escorts are illegal. You could ruin your life. And it’s expensive. Just do other things and meet women organically. Keep yourself busy
/r/seduction03/08/21 10:38 PM
6

Simps are more or less synonymous with creeps. You don’t want to be that
/r/seduction03/08/21 01:48 PM
5

Start saving man. Every little bit counts. Some of us need to stop fantasizing about girls and pay more attention to the shit that actually matters.
/r/seduction03/08/21 06:47 AM
6

I don’t even mind if it’s tiny. If it’s your space it’s your space.
/r/seduction03/08/21 06:30 AM
2

Damn right. Which is why I walked away. Not gonna put up with that crap...
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:23 AM
1

It’s been a long time since I finished Harry Potter but thanks for the reminder
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:22 AM
2

Blimey Harry, aint that the ruddy trooth.
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:16 AM
2

Thank you for this. It helps to get offline and off the screens and do something productive or interesting. Like you suggest. Because you can be damned sure that at some point the media is going to throw some kind of sexualized advert in your face and (if you’re dumb and impressionable like me) you’ll take it to heart and feel that heavy FOMO But if you just relax, unplug, live your life and pursue meaningful goals every day, you will feel better
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:26 AM
3

Don’t let it, man. Your post carries a very good message. Self improvement is imperative for your life regardless of its contribution to your attraction.
/r/seduction02/08/21 03:43 AM
2

Bro save some money go to the store and buy equipment for your home.
/r/seduction01/08/21 08:12 PM
2

It has more to do with working with what you have
/r/seduction01/08/21 08:12 PM
8

“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today”
/r/seduction31/07/21 09:19 PM
1

And this is why sex and romance need to be taken off the fucking pedestal. It’s so so toxic and people wouldn’t feel half as bad if they were not almost made to feel bad about it
/r/seduction31/07/21 05:52 PM
1

Y’know IN THE BATHROOM
/r/seduction31/07/21 05:49 PM
6

You can complain or you can put in the work. Accept the cards you’re dealt with and move forward.
/r/seduction31/07/21 09:41 AM
8

Good job sir Edit. You people and your fucking arbitrary downvotes need to fuck off
/r/seduction31/07/21 08:22 AM
4

Just talk to em! Be polite. Say like “hey how’s your classes going” and go from there. You can’t just expect them to fall into your lap.
/r/seduction31/07/21 08:15 AM
2

I may need to consider that app for sure. My hobbies include gaming, reading, piano practice, (as well as music in general) writing and exercise.
/r/seduction31/07/21 03:54 AM
7

It can be difficult but it’s not impossible. Work on yourself ASAP
/r/seduction31/07/21 02:54 AM
1

OK but how do I stop the paralyzing fear that makes me stop going after it
/r/seduction30/07/21 09:42 PM
1

That the thing I second guess and stress about everything. My mind would literally rather have me do absolutely nothing than try and fail and get b****ed at.
/r/seduction30/07/21 09:26 PM
1

Save your money. Can’t exactly live without it. Got nothing to do with dating
/r/seduction30/07/21 09:17 PM
3

Yeah why not just keep it casual and don’t expect anything
/r/seduction29/07/21 04:00 AM
1

I used it loosely
/r/seduction28/07/21 01:50 PM
2

Yes agreed you can hardly expect to meet your soulmate from the first couple approaches. Gotta build up those callouses and gain experience
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:58 AM
1

Hmm. Tricky. Seems to me like a lack of confidence but it could also be something deeper rooted than that. I would do some journalling and dig deep as to why you think you react this way. Why you are so easily embarrassed and what it is you’re really afraid of. Consider bringing it up with a therapist
/r/seduction28/07/21 01:07 AM
1

....not really what I was looking for but maybe it’s an interesting perspective
/r/seduction27/07/21 09:49 PM
1

Honestly just ignore him. He sounds absolutely miserable and I regret not deleting the post sooner
/r/seduction27/07/21 09:26 PM
2

Commenting on something to do with the immediate environment can be helpful. Especially if it is something she is wearing or a book she is reading
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:55 PM
1

Man this sub is dead
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:22 PM
2

Hmmm fun question. I might have to go with Steve Rogers not just because of looks but because I like his strong badass personality particularly when he’s suited up and in the heat of battle. It contrasts well with his smiley confident look when he’s off duty
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:10 AM
1

Can’t argue with that logic.
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:05 AM
1

This is all good stuff but it only applies to the men who are talking to women in the first place.
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:57 AM
1

Bruh can you really call them anecdotes if it’s so common to hear stories like that? I know a couple guys like that myself. Stop being so negative
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:24 AM
1

Agreed! This is what I try to do. Make the most of my time and evenings alone with hobbies, book reading, productivity, exercise, heck even dancing like a fool to my favourite tunes. You are the only person in your life that you are with for the rest of your days. You might as well be positive about it. Mindset and attitude is everything
/r/seduction19/07/21 08:16 AM
3

Hmmmmm idk man Lord of the Rings is pretty good.....
/r/seduction19/07/21 08:15 AM
2

Ah I forgot all about him!! I gotta get back into his stuff I think he’s pretty great
/r/seduction14/07/21 02:51 AM
1

Not necessarily. You paid for the dinner and/or coffee. Which you would have had to do anyway. And then you managed to charm her enough to get her to sleep with you, which is never guaranteed.
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:45 AM
1

Sent you a message again
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:17 AM
0

Aaah You caught me lmao 😂
/r/seduction11/07/21 07:00 PM
3

I mean like the little voice in my head that tells me to just keep walking. I’m not gonna hurt anybody.
/r/seduction11/07/21 06:59 PM
1

Ascertain your goals and move in their direction one day and one step at a time
/r/seduction11/07/21 06:42 PM
1

Yes the right attitude is key
/r/seduction11/07/21 09:06 AM
2

Thank you
/r/seduction11/07/21 12:57 AM
5

It’s not stupid at all, come on. What he means is that procreation is the fundamental purpose of sex. Regardless of what either party is looking for. And unwanted pregnancy is a very real consequence if you are not cautious
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:01 PM
2

That’s kinda harsh but I get the idea
/r/seduction10/07/21 11:24 AM
20

I’m in this post and I’m pretty embarrassed by it
/r/seduction10/07/21 10:48 AM
2

I sent you a message did you get it
/r/seduction10/07/21 09:46 AM
1

I just want to feel like I have a chance. Like I have a chance to make a difference. To achieve my goals, be who I want to be and find love and connection. Maybe I need some more therapy but all I can see is insurmountable barriers between me and what I want in life. I need confidence ASAP or I’m literally gonna lose my mind
/r/seduction10/07/21 09:44 AM
1

WHEN AM I NOT
/r/seduction10/07/21 08:21 AM
0

Don’t treat your opinions as facts idiot
/r/seduction10/07/21 04:44 AM
1

shakes fist
/r/seduction10/07/21 03:54 AM
2

The best way to alleviate this (apart from leaving them alone if they ask you to) is to strike a casual and pleasant conversation. Never explicitly hit on them or ask them out right away. Like one time I was observing this one guy talking loudly on his phone on the park bench across from mine. Once he hung up I inquired about what he did for a living based on his conversation and attire Me: “ you work in film?” Him: “no ima musician” Me: “ oh yeah what instrument?” Him: “violin” proceeds to sere…
/r/seduction10/07/21 02:49 AM
1

That was you???
/r/seduction10/07/21 02:45 AM
1

I wouldn’t worry to much about that. Just be honest and say you were interested in conversing with her and got her socials from a friend. Simple as that. If she’s turned off by that you’ll just have to move on.
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:58 AM
1

Just talk to her like you would a friend and then as you get comfortable with each other go from there. You don’t want to immediately start out assuming you’re a couple because you’re not. Go in bit by bit
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:52 AM
2

Okay. I guess I’ll just have to continue trying to work towards my best self every day in ways that I know I can.
/r/seduction09/07/21 10:42 PM
1

Behaviour for sure, my thoughts I’d say are pretty accurate. And then there’s.... just everything else. My lack of self development and minimal confidence. I’m not unattractive, but I don’t live an attractive life. And the pandemic has barred so many of my plans to change that. I’m just exhausted of thinking about this. Everything feels impossible. I’m so ambitious but every day I just go to work and am cooped up at home because those seem like my only options. I don’t wanna jump the gun though.…
/r/seduction09/07/21 10:19 PM
1

Yes I do but I just feel pinned against the wall everytime I think about it
/r/seduction09/07/21 10:08 PM
1

Wow seems like a great channel! Thanks!!
/r/seduction09/07/21 09:16 PM
1

Yup even if I did go for it, I was guaranteed to fail with the drab I was wearing. God...
/r/seduction09/07/21 09:38 AM
2

Working out, saving money, reading books, complete wardrobe makeover, fixing hair, standing up straight, not being a bitch, chasing my goals, maybe a little cologne
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:46 AM
5

Exactly what I needed thank you
/r/seduction08/07/21 02:19 AM
1

I’m 28 and I’m pretty skinny... Okay good to know. I guess I just need to make sure my scheduling is well organized so I have a little more time
/r/seduction07/07/21 06:07 PM
1

That’s a good point.
/r/seduction07/07/21 07:43 AM
1

Great.
/r/seduction07/07/21 07:25 AM
1

Afraid not
/r/seduction07/07/21 05:58 AM
6

Good stuff. Nothing ventured nothing gained, as they say
/r/seduction07/07/21 04:52 AM
3

It is done. Sorry just... just finishing your username there
/r/seduction07/07/21 04:51 AM
4

Verily, thou makest thine point plain.
/r/seduction06/07/21 08:39 AM
7

Not entirely sure how I’m supposed to comment but this is well written
/r/seduction06/07/21 08:36 AM
1

Old comment I hope you are still there. Are you saying you agree with me? What’s your idea of the best cold approach?
/r/seduction06/07/21 04:24 AM
4

100% agree. Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.
/r/seduction04/07/21 06:58 AM
7

Work out. Consistently. The three guys I know who are great with women did not get to that point until they increased their muscle mass from the gym
/r/seduction04/07/21 05:13 AM
2

I like this. I feel like there could be a couple more things added such as stand up straight, don’t be a pushover, talk with confidence and have a purpose. But otherwise good post. Especially the don’t be a simp. I learned that the hard way
/r/seduction04/07/21 03:19 AM
3

Good luck to you. Hopefully I can find reason to leave myself soon
/r/seduction04/07/21 02:44 AM
1

I won’t. In fact I’ve already forgotten it
/r/seduction03/07/21 08:31 PM
1

Yeah well if you are so offended about someone crying for help you didn’t have to comment, fucking asshole
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:12 PM
1

At least I can type legibly
/r/seduction03/07/21 09:24 AM
2

That’s true. You know it’s going to be exhausting as hell trying to fake a fun personality and life just to keep them interested
/r/seduction03/07/21 08:58 AM
1

Thanks brother. I guess nothing worth doing was ever easy
/r/seduction03/07/21 05:56 AM
2

If you are successful that’s half the battle. Get out there
/r/seduction03/07/21 05:07 AM
3

I’m gonna have to say cooking. It’s not just a hobby it’s an essential life skill
/r/seduction03/07/21 01:03 AM
1

Yeah good point. Back to the grind
/r/seduction02/07/21 03:54 AM
1

Doesn’t mean it will work for me
/r/seduction02/07/21 03:50 AM
2

There’s nothing casual whatsoever about sex. It’s not just the pleasure. It’s about procreation and there’s nothing casual about having a baby. I wish society would start treating this as such. The casual sex culture is toxic as it tends to demonize men who don’t have it, ignores the dangers and risks involved, and trivializes the very real heavy responsibility of childbirth and childcare. I yearn for the day sex gets taken off the damn pedestal and treated like the diplomatic exchange of consen…
/r/seduction01/07/21 10:58 AM
2

Thanks you too :)
/r/seduction01/07/21 03:38 AM
1

That’s just what I needed thank you. You guys are lifesavers.
/r/seduction01/07/21 12:43 AM
1

Speaking as if I was the girl separate from myself
/r/seduction30/06/21 04:10 PM
2

That’s great that it’s working for you but I’m just trying to power through with occasional therapy, exercise, hobbies, gratitude and positive thinking. I don’t think meds are for me
/r/seduction30/06/21 10:35 AM
2

A little. A couple areas of my life are improving but overall I’m lagging behind.
/r/seduction30/06/21 10:05 AM
1

That was lovely to read. Thank you 💜
/r/seduction30/06/21 09:42 AM
4

Standing up straight, swallowing your pride and putting yourself in a position to make a move. Also work out and do what you love to do. Live your life it will give you more confidence which can help with attraction
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:37 AM
1

I think what I really need to do is find and commit to a direction. Covid didn’t help matters of course. But once I get the ball rolling again maybe I can make something happen
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:20 AM
1

That could be it... then it only gets more challenging from there. I’ll have to socialize, be vulnerable, possibly embarrass myself and get out of my comfort zone. There’s no way it’s just some endless high when you are dating someone. It comes with intense anxieties of its own I’m sure
/r/seduction28/06/21 06:36 AM
2

Thank you for replying.
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:35 PM
3

Look just don’t give up and don’t despair. I know that feeling of spiralling and it doesn’t help matters What helps me is to distract myself with something else like the gym. Do not allow yourself to feel or wallow in self pity. Keep working until you see results, which you will if you are doing the work right. The simple fact is this type of thing happens at different times for different people. Sometimes it takes a little longer for you to find your person/partner/f***buddy. That’s okay. Also …
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:12 PM
1

Except for when literally no woman whatsoever is giving you signals or signs of interest. What the hell do you do then? This is like waiting for things to come to you.
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:04 PM
-1

I don’t recommend approaching women in a place where she cannot easily back out. Like a bus or subway train.
/r/seduction25/06/21 07:25 AM
2

Bro I keep looking back to this comment I actually don’t think I need this sub anymore thanks so much. My copy of No More Mr Nice Guy has been collecting dust, time to finish it!
/r/seduction25/06/21 05:35 AM
1

Any good tips for summer wear? I look awful in shorts and tshirt but really good in winter coats and long pants
/r/seduction24/06/21 04:50 PM
1

Thanks a bunch
/r/seduction24/06/21 07:05 AM
4

You will drive yourself insane if you do the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Try a different more creative opener
/r/seduction23/06/21 07:54 AM
1

Oh I read this as lack of motivation after first DAY I’m like ooof this man having a hard time lol. Anyways uh... yeah find something that inspires you and pursue it. Eliminate distractions and commit to the process.
/r/seduction23/06/21 03:05 AM
1

Like literally the same park for example.
/r/seduction22/06/21 07:46 PM
5

While I am generally an advocate for the right cold approach, you need to be smart about it. Approaching multiple women in the same public area is absolutely going to raise eyebrows and is asking for trouble. I would greatly encourage you to scale back a little bit. Approach maybe 1 or 2 girls in the same area and then dip before people start questioning you. Otherwise you may as well be playing with fire.
/r/seduction22/06/21 06:25 PM
2

Yeah right? Who’d do that? Lol kicks away blender
/r/seduction20/06/21 10:30 PM
1

For some reason this comment made me panic a little bit lol
/r/seduction20/06/21 10:21 PM
3

“This interaction is what all true warriors strive for!”
/r/seduction20/06/21 10:05 PM
4

Good job man. Be proud. You took a risk and that takes guts
/r/seduction20/06/21 08:57 PM
1

Of course. I hope you have better experiences in the future.
/r/seduction20/06/21 07:26 PM
4

I’d like to apologize on behalf of the sub. This was an excellent post and a good reminder of what is most important. Thank you again!!
/r/seduction20/06/21 03:06 AM
1

Well come on now let’s not go that far
/r/seduction20/06/21 03:03 AM
3

Thanks for the reality check. It’s so stressful thinking about where I want to take my life/career but I have to make up my mind eventually. Might need more therapy to help out with that
/r/seduction20/06/21 12:00 AM
1

Thank you for the eye-opening comment. It’s clear being direct and overly formal is not effective
/r/seduction19/06/21 08:54 PM
2

Man who cares we are not entitled to anything even if it is the more polite version of get lost I’ll take it lol. It’s better to try than wonder what if
/r/seduction19/06/21 08:37 PM
2

Okay okay just curious.
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:57 PM
3

No you are right absolutely right hence why just asking for number right off the bat is so likely to get rejection okay I get it thank you
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:25 PM
-1

For sure but you must remember that attraction is usually non negotiable. If the girl really liked me she probably would have said yes to my offer But I understand that It gets repetitive
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:13 PM
1

Thank you 💜
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:06 PM
5

It was my first time trying. I’m not going to be an expert. Hence the post.
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:01 PM
3

Thanks mate
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:54 PM
5

Go somewhere else then 👍 I’m not here to entertain you
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:36 PM
-5

Not to be that guy. But how are you going to night clubs in a pandemic..?
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:19 PM
1

Yeah you really do need to work those social muscles eh. Thank you
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:14 PM
1

Okay fine got it I’ll attempt a conversation next time. I would think that is what a possible date was for but I see your point
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:12 PM
2

Yup I might do this next time it’s an easy non threatening way to get my foot in the door a little more thank you
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:09 PM
2

No pain no gain.
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:08 PM
1

Yeah maybe if I had one but yeah that’s not a bad idea
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:07 PM
1

I figured as much when she literally rejected me
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:06 PM
2

What exactly is funny about this
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:05 PM
2

Well my mentality was to make my intentions clear off the bat so as not to waste her time.
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:04 PM
6

Thank you for your insight and compliment ☺️
/r/seduction19/06/21 07:29 AM
6

I really couldn’t think of what else to ask
/r/seduction19/06/21 07:16 AM
5

Thank you bro.
/r/seduction19/06/21 07:07 AM
2

That’s true I just didn’t want to bother her too much. But that’s also a reflection of my lack of confidence I guess. Was desperate to leave shortly after lol. This shit is scary
/r/seduction19/06/21 07:06 AM
10

Yeah well. It’s better than nothing.
/r/seduction19/06/21 07:02 AM
4

No. No I would not. And it’s tough to remember to remind myself that but I am doing what I can to make things better.
/r/seduction19/06/21 02:37 AM
6

Idk I had to make it quick
/r/seduction19/06/21 02:27 AM
14

LG. Life’s Good :) Also thanks
/r/seduction18/06/21 10:24 PM
174

scribbles down furiously thanks boss
/r/seduction18/06/21 10:20 PM
20

YEEE thank you sir
/r/seduction18/06/21 10:19 PM
1

I would just Google search best places for dates. Not experienced with relationships sorry
/r/seduction18/06/21 03:49 PM
2

Amen
/r/seduction18/06/21 03:48 PM
2

Keep trying. Keep plugging away. Lots of women out there. It’s only over once you decide to give up
/r/seduction18/06/21 03:23 PM
9

Good job taking that first step
/r/seduction18/06/21 03:21 PM
1

I’m in the same boat I would say we both need to find something else. Literally anything. And immerse ourselves in it. Become so invested in our goals and aspirations that sexual validation becomes something we no longer crave. It can be done
/r/seduction18/06/21 09:06 AM
6

It’s not that simple. If it was this subreddit wouldn’t exist
/r/seduction18/06/21 03:00 AM
4

You have to not give up. Rejection is INEVITABLE and you need to accept it. No it’s not nice but it comes with the territory. The fact that you are taking a chance with approaching at all is HUGE and you should be proud of yourself. You are taking action to make things happen in your life. That alone tells me you have good self esteem.
/r/seduction17/06/21 08:51 PM
26

Great timing. I needed to read this thank you
/r/seduction17/06/21 01:27 AM
2

Jane Eyre. It’s wonderful. Need to get back to it soon
/r/seduction16/06/21 10:09 PM
1

Yuppitty yup yup
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:58 AM
1

How can I make friends with people who don’t want to be friends with me? I need to work on myself but I’m going to be alone for life if that’s the case. The self work is pretty much never finished
/r/seduction14/06/21 09:52 PM
1

That is very true
/r/seduction14/06/21 09:45 AM
5

Fair enough. Thanks
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:56 AM
29

“Do not approach a woman walking alone on a secluded street” At night I totally understand. But daytime too...? You might as well be saying don’t approach women ever
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:25 AM
0

I’m speaking from a purely logical perspective. A dad body is not conventionally attractive and not likely to win over a muscular body. If you can’t wrap your head around THAT maybe you’re the dense one
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:16 AM
6

Aint no loser. Game tf on bud. I just picked up Yakuza 7 can’t wait to get it started this weekend. E3 is going full force these next couple days as well!!
/r/seduction13/06/21 04:23 AM
2

Alternatively, no woman is going to say “oh my god look at his slouched shoulders that make him look shorter, he’s so hot!”
/r/seduction13/06/21 03:03 AM
1

He objectively improves his chances by hitting the gym alone. Nobody is saying anything is guaranteed.
/r/seduction13/06/21 03:01 AM
1

I don’t think that part is meant to be taken too seriously. Especially when a LARGE portion of the gaming population is female.
/r/seduction13/06/21 02:59 AM
1

I told you he was into us!
/r/seduction13/06/21 02:54 AM
0

No there absolutely is. I can attest to that. I could eat a Big Mac every three days and not gain a pound. It’s outrageous.
/r/seduction13/06/21 02:51 AM
1

Who in their right mind would be attracted to a dad bod as opposed to a fit muscular physique? The very idea baffles me
/r/seduction13/06/21 02:48 AM
1

The trick is to learn to make something like the gym a habit. Something you look forward to rather than dread. Using pure white knuckle “discipline” tactics will only last so long I’ve found
/r/seduction13/06/21 02:45 AM
1

I literally haven’t seen a Disney movie in years lol.
/r/seduction12/06/21 08:37 PM
2

That’s very true. Nothing in life worth doing was ever easy. Maybe it’s a matter of reframing the mindset
/r/seduction12/06/21 08:58 AM
4

Unfortunately this is the reality of cold approach. They do not owe anybody anything, least of all a positive interaction. The best you can do is be proud that you tried.
/r/seduction12/06/21 07:30 AM
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K I get what you’re saying but sometimes rejection doesn’t even have to do with looks or attraction. Assuming you are referring to cold approach, that’s gonna be like 99% rejection no matter what you look like. You don’t know if she’s spoken for, or what kind of day she’s had, or if she’s asexual or lesbian. Maybe her dog just died and she’s not in the headspace to flirt. Maybe she just had a breakup and is sick of even looking at guys right now. Maybe she just doesn’t like talking to strangers.…
/r/seduction10/06/21 11:13 AM
1

Something like that yeah. Nothing inherently wrong with it I suppose. But I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that I just don’t look all that good. I’m 100% aware of it as fact but it brings down my self esteem hugely. But like irrespective of that, I’m not going to lie to myself
/r/seduction09/06/21 10:36 PM
1

Neither of those options will make a difference but thank you. I just need a hug, not that complicated. But I’m not gonna get one so... 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction09/06/21 11:03 AM
9

I agree with this. Nothing will happen if you do not put yourself out there. A month ago I was minding my own business on a bench by the ocean, there was a guy on the bench across from me in heated discussion on his phone. I overheard most of the conversation and asked him if he was in film or something. He said he was a musician and proceeded to tell me his life story and serenade me with some of the best fiddle playing I ever heard So yeah. You never know who you’ll encounter.... even if they …
/r/seduction09/06/21 05:13 AM
2

Absolutely loved that game.
/r/seduction09/06/21 01:02 AM
1

The eye contact is always tough for me. I tend to look down a little bit or to the side.
/r/seduction08/06/21 05:43 PM
1

For me it’s less about building rapport and more about being respectful and socially aware of the fact we are complete strangers and that I am putting her on the spot.
/r/seduction08/06/21 05:42 PM
2

Agreed. Don’t know why this was removed it’s worth discussing. But then again maybe it’s worth taking down to avoid possible negative drama
/r/seduction06/06/21 06:20 AM
1

You know what’s great, I went for a long nature walk in the park with my siblings today and felt utterly at peace.
/r/seduction06/06/21 04:01 AM
1

I know this was removed but what helps me is to remember that A. No one is entitled to anything anyway B. There is nothing you can do about your height Accept these two facts ASAP and keep your chin up. There’s other things you can work on and it’s not impossible just because you’re short. My brother is 5 foot 8” and he’s on his second relationship. Both are very attractive girls. I saw another 5 foot 8” guy holding hands with a girl last week. ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE
/r/seduction06/06/21 03:58 AM
2

That’s better than nothing, eh
/r/seduction06/06/21 01:13 AM
2

I know it’s so exhausting like of course not every girl is gonna be into me just like how I’m not into every girl but like. I’ve literally had women say to my face that I’m good looking. Yet it’s done Jack shit for my confidence. It’s driving me insane. I need help
/r/seduction06/06/21 12:43 AM
3

Women do not approach men unless they are exceptionally attractive which is not the majority. It’s generally expected for the man to take action if he wants any kind of romantic relationship. I’m sorry but you are living on another planet
/r/seduction06/06/21 12:32 AM
2

Thanks for the encouragement. I’ll try to make the most of things where it’s reasonable
/r/seduction06/06/21 12:05 AM
1

Well you’re also not likely to attract them being a total slob who doesn’t do anything with his life. I’m pretty sure a self respecting woman is going to quickly lose interest once she discovers he is a lazy good-for-nothing who lives in a pigsty. But what do I know. I’ve never had a girlfriend in my life and idk if that’ll ever change
/r/seduction05/06/21 11:50 PM
1

Dang right. I had ten years before the lockdowns to do something productive and outgoing with my time. Got no one to blame but myself.
/r/seduction05/06/21 11:49 PM
2

Seriously hopefully by this year the vaccinations improve the situation because I am dying to get out there and take a martial art
/r/seduction05/06/21 09:43 PM
2

1st. I mean it’s a step forward if nothing else
/r/seduction05/06/21 07:29 PM
2

I agree but I don’t think I’m gonna do that during a pandemic. Hopefully the vaccination effort improves the situation ASAP. I get mine in 3 days
/r/seduction05/06/21 07:10 PM
2

Nice thanks for this
/r/seduction05/06/21 05:13 PM
1

This post felt like a reassuring hug. Thank you
/r/seduction05/06/21 02:09 AM
1

Casey Zander is a bit of a tough customer but he’ll wake you tf UP
/r/seduction04/06/21 05:15 AM
2

That’s great dude I’m sure it’ll go good. Have fun!
/r/seduction04/06/21 05:14 AM
3

Well done. All the best to you
/r/seduction04/06/21 12:37 AM
3

“Learn to fall in love with the things you don’t feel like doing” THIS
/r/seduction03/06/21 04:32 PM
0

Doesn’t mean it can’t become compulsive and get in the way of other things or backfire. Sometimes excessive masturbation (especially on an empty stomach) gives me cramps. Use with caution and in moderation
/r/seduction03/06/21 04:18 AM
3

Honestly don’t let it bother you. It’s certainly not the youngest but it’s not old either. You’re not even 30 for gods sake. And honestly, I greatly enjoy being older, it means i have a lot of years and memories to look back on. Us late twenties early thirties guys grew up before the age of smartphones. That’s something to be grateful for. Wear your age like a badge of honour my man.
/r/seduction02/06/21 06:07 AM
1

A couple years or so at least
/r/seduction02/06/21 03:18 AM
2

When it came to attraction and success with women yeah at first body was all they needed. Obviously they continued with other areas but the body was a game changer for them. No surprise there
/r/seduction02/06/21 02:41 AM
1

Body/physicality. Big time. As well as other areas like career, skills and hobbies
/r/seduction02/06/21 02:37 AM
3

Well said Micheal, as always! The best part is, as you begin to grow and develop your life you will become less needy and dependant on the attention of others because what you are doing is (hopefully) already fulfilling enough. Be your own man
/r/seduction01/06/21 10:15 PM
2

Holy CRAPOLA I needed this. Thank you for the reminder. My biggest issue right now is anxiety. I’m literally too scared to wake up and leave the house. I start a new job tomorrow I need to make sure I sleep well and show up. And hopefully from there it will be an upward trend for my life
/r/seduction01/06/21 10:13 PM
1

Good job sir. That takes guts
/r/seduction31/05/21 09:50 PM
2

I don’t have any advice but dang good for you bud. Nice to know that working on yourself really does make a difference
/r/seduction31/05/21 09:32 PM
3

The timing for this was perfect this is exactly what I needed. Thank yooooou
/r/seduction29/05/21 10:08 AM
7

I’m doing okay thanks. Struggling with confidence and self esteem and just about everything under the sun but I’m still here
/r/seduction28/05/21 06:29 AM
6

J.P. Is the best I need that new book
/r/seduction27/05/21 10:30 PM
5

I’m loving the positivity here. Congratulations on your progress! 💜
/r/seduction27/05/21 07:49 PM
1

I’ve only asked like 4 girls out in my whole life but if we want successes, this girl did kiss me once a looooong ass time ago at a party. Back then I had so many more opportunities that I did not take advantage of and now Idk what happened I guess I stopped being attractive somehow :( frustrating
/r/seduction26/05/21 12:17 AM
4

This post is everything... I need a career and a life. Not a woman.
/r/seduction25/05/21 05:57 PM
1

Good post I like the positivity
/r/seduction25/05/21 04:41 AM
1

Okay yeah starting small is the way to go. Ask for the time, say good afternoon, baby steps.
/r/seduction23/05/21 10:24 PM
1

I can help you out what do you need friend
/r/seduction23/05/21 09:22 PM
2

And what is an example of an acceptable social gathering? What could be deemed acceptable to you could be absolutely unacceptable to someone else. Most social events or gatherings have a purpose and if a man decides to make meeting woman a priority rather than the purpose of the event itself, that could be problematic as well. I honestly give up. I really am going to die alone. Dating is just impossible
/r/seduction23/05/21 08:08 PM
58

Smile? Most people are wearing masks though
/r/seduction23/05/21 07:42 PM
5

Dude. Apps are FAR from the best.
/r/seduction23/05/21 07:32 PM
1

WHY WOULD YOU REMOVE THIS?? I was hoping to read through it again :(
/r/seduction23/05/21 07:30 PM
44

Solid post. From my perspective, cold approach when done RIGHT (I.e. respectful and polite, socially adept, giving the other person plenty of space to back out, and promptly taking your leave at the first hint of rejection, also not spamming approaches especially in one area) is a valid tactic for meeting women as long as you are mindful of the situation and don’t take up too much of her time. Simply put, dating apps are not algorithmically developed or monitored in favour of the average man, wh…
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:59 AM
7

If you actually took the very few minutes it takes to READ it you might think differently...
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:55 AM
2

Agreed Micheal Knight has some good content.
/r/seduction22/05/21 11:58 PM
5

Work out of course, but also find something to keep you busy, for me it’s trying to learn piano. I practice at least 30 minutes to an hour a day. Take up a language on Duolingo, and keep your space clean. Also read books, fiction and non fiction. Keep yourself busy and preoccupied. You got this bro
/r/seduction22/05/21 10:51 PM
2

Holy shit it works
/r/seduction21/05/21 02:40 AM
43

Nice roundup of all the basics. Thanks!
/r/seduction21/05/21 02:36 AM
1

Give me R E N T
/r/seduction20/05/21 10:12 AM
2

Crying eyes out rn but thank you
/r/seduction20/05/21 07:04 AM
3

Thanks :)
/r/seduction19/05/21 11:10 PM
5

So what do you do if a girl you meet and like is your only option? What then? How exactly does one cultivate abundance
/r/seduction19/05/21 09:50 PM
1

Just to chime in here, you said you’re only 24. That’s pretty young. It doesn’t happen right away for everyone. Don’t lose hope
/r/seduction19/05/21 04:50 AM
1

True.
/r/seduction18/05/21 08:09 PM
3

This is good. I’m so done with trying to change my demeanour and put on an act in an attempt to appear more attractive. It’s just exhausting and it doesn’t even work.
/r/seduction18/05/21 12:28 AM
2

Remember that very few things in life worth doing were ever easy. And just because it is easy for some guys does not mean those same guys do not struggle in other areas.
/r/seduction16/05/21 07:44 PM
3

Swallow my pride and approach because at that point it’s almost rude not to
/r/seduction16/05/21 01:53 AM
15

This is gonna be a useless comment but I seriously wish you all the best. At least you’re putting yourself out there and actually trying so you clearly have some confidence
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:18 AM
2

That’s pretty much it. Be nice but don’t be a door mat, also be mentally and physically strong and purpose driven. Don’t be a total jerk just for the sake of it. That’s hell on earth and nobody in their right mind appreciates it. Nobody
/r/seduction13/05/21 06:46 AM
1

It’s not my no1 focus but I would if I could. I would like it to be natural but I have no idea how to do it. I’m not interested in paying for it so I just kinda put up with it. Idk. Kinda makes you question a lot
/r/seduction12/05/21 06:50 AM
1

I’m not that ugly but the social anxiety is through the roof
/r/seduction12/05/21 06:49 AM
1

Bout a quarter of the way there
/r/seduction12/05/21 06:49 AM
1

Well played
/r/seduction12/05/21 06:48 AM
1

I’m not saying it’s perfect and nobody should stay on here for longer than necessary because your life is only going to change through actionable steps and not Reddit posts so the main thing is to get off Reddit entirely which is what I’m trying so hard to do but it’s kinda tough.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:01 AM
1

This is madness I need some Jordan Peterson speeches
/r/seduction12/05/21 12:28 AM
1

I’m....randomly feeling better for some reason. I need to give this sub a big break
/r/seduction12/05/21 12:13 AM
1

It’s just that nothing feels like it’s enough. I can’t choose what to prioritize for my self improvement. I have ideas and goals but my discipline SUCKS. Same with my confidence, all I can do is point out the negative of what I have or have not done. And I get so overwhelmed with tasks that barely anything gets done. I struggle to stay motivated as well. I haven’t worked out in a week it’s such bs. My mind is my worst enemy. All it wants to do is stay in its comfort zone despite my best efforts …
/r/seduction12/05/21 12:02 AM
1

Because if you are late 20s and don’t have your life together just don’t even bother. And i don’t see it happening for me because I feel so incapable of flirting and socializing. dating seems so foreign to me and that’s because I chose to ignore it my whole life for whatever reason and now I guess the natural desires are catching up to me but I’m not in a position to attract anyone. Procrastination is a slow death
/r/seduction11/05/21 11:48 PM
2

Thank you I’m bringing this up to my therapist ASAP. Why do I want love and affection? Why can’t I find something else to fulfill me
/r/seduction11/05/21 08:50 AM
1

K. ...😭
/r/seduction11/05/21 08:25 AM
5

I think you’re over complicating it. It’s just talking to women. At worst he’ll get rejected, at best he’ll gain a partner, middle ground a new friend. If you don’t advocate cold approach that’s fine and all but people have found success with it and it’s one of the main points of this whole sub so this might not be the place for you. Idk
/r/seduction10/05/21 05:52 AM
4

Agreed. What I kind of meant was to remember that nobody owns anybody. Even if you’re married ten years she is still her own person and is under no obligation to stay. She can and will stay if you “put in the work” sure, relationships are just as much hard work as they are romance and fun after all, but the minute you start faltering or slacking you’re in big trouble. So in that sense my comment becomes. It’s your turn. KEEP IT THAT WAY.
/r/seduction10/05/21 04:39 AM
7

Keep us updated
/r/seduction10/05/21 04:36 AM
1

Be careful and good luck.
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:10 AM
6

All of which is just a longer way of saying “she’s not yours it’s just your turn”
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:09 AM
1

I’ll do my very best thanks a lot. Good luck to you and happy Mother’s Day
/r/seduction09/05/21 08:39 PM
5

Hit the gym then.
/r/seduction09/05/21 08:27 PM
2

Yeah I agree. It’s easy to get addicted to it though...
/r/seduction09/05/21 08:03 PM
1

Thanks friend 💜
/r/seduction09/05/21 01:55 PM
1

Yeah nothing for it. I’m sleeping too much and I don’t think I can afford to anymore
/r/seduction08/05/21 07:42 PM
1

But I love bbq wings :(
/r/seduction08/05/21 06:34 PM
1

Yea I got a couple pets so going out isn’t often on the radar.
/r/seduction08/05/21 06:34 PM
5

I’m struggling big time. I want nothing more than to go balls to the wall with my self development but every single f***ing day there is crap getting in the way. Whether it’s work or family obligations, or a crucial tool I don’t yet possess. It’s maddening...
/r/seduction08/05/21 06:32 PM
2

What the hell I thought it was thursday. Ugh... I’d love to go out but i work late and have too much else to think about...
/r/seduction08/05/21 06:40 AM
3

I’d argue not approaching because that can potentially haunt you for life. A rejection you’ll get over after a couple days. Imo at least
/r/seduction07/05/21 09:16 AM
2

In my experience rejection pain goes away after like two days so don’t even stress. Jam to some hardcore tunes and drown it out.
/r/seduction07/05/21 06:44 AM
1

Thanks bro. Back to work
/r/seduction07/05/21 04:51 AM
2

I’m working out after dinner tonight, heading to work my first day tomorrow and will save to get rid of the money stress, writing down my long term goals and working on them as much as possible.
/r/seduction07/05/21 04:28 AM
2

Got a new job after being unemployed for months, struggling financilaly and trying to save, living with parents in late 20s, need a new computer to start my main goals and don’t have one yet, skinny AF, insecure about being 5 feet 8” I could go on
/r/seduction07/05/21 04:14 AM
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I think the key takeaway here is stop thinking about dating and work on becoming someone worth dating yourself. That’s what I’m doing at least.
/r/seduction07/05/21 03:57 AM
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He’s not THAT good looking first of all. Secondly please get therapy you sound like you might need it
/r/seduction06/05/21 06:32 PM
1

Work out, take up an instrument, learn a language on Duolingo, eat right and sleep sufficiently, read more books, save your money, keep your posture straight, stay groomed, clean and hygienic. And overall just pursue excellence in every aspect of your life.
/r/seduction06/05/21 03:31 AM
2

This is a good reality check. It’s easy to romanticize cold approach but the fact is until you get enough experience you’re probably going to feel like shit while doing it. A lot.
/r/seduction05/05/21 09:22 PM
1

Thanks I needed this. It’s just stressful when it feels like things are not working. Or there’s so many insurmountable barriers. But maybe I need to start a little smaller
/r/seduction01/05/21 06:01 PM
2

But.... then you might as well just buy your own coffees :/
/r/seduction01/05/21 05:29 PM
1

Thanks for the post. When you say attractive do you mean someone that looks good but also has their shit together and maximizes the looks they have? Because I am trying to work on that
/r/seduction01/05/21 04:20 AM
2

I only recently came to this realization and it feels much clearer now.
/r/seduction30/04/21 09:53 PM
1

Hey man great comment but I’m struggling with what to say/how to start a conversation? What would you say is the best thing to say? I used to think it was a compliment but unless it’s genuine that might not be the best idea
/r/seduction30/04/21 07:34 AM
3

Well done and good luck. That takes guts
/r/seduction30/04/21 06:05 AM
7

Thanks for this
/r/seduction30/04/21 04:28 AM
1

Excellent post and a great mindset to have
/r/seduction30/04/21 01:07 AM
2

Thank you for replying. I really need to read that book
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:32 AM
2

Just breathe and try again when you can brother. It’s not too late. Focus on your uni work for now and don’t stress out
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:15 AM
1

Oh don’t worry I got it. Thank you
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:04 AM
3

Yeah this is something guys don’t like to talk about. Even if you start dating regularly it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Relationships are hard work
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:35 AM
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I’m really sorry bro. You at the very least deserved a more polite rejection. You still had the guts to make a move and you should be proud. You’ll get over it soon okay? Think of it this way, would you really want to date someone like that anyway? Hell no. Chin up
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:34 AM
1

Who the fuck does that
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:12 AM
17

Jesus lady I’m sorry you had to put up with that. Some men are just clueless
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:10 PM
3

Yes but... the fact remains I’ll never know for sure if she really liked me. You can easily give your number to someone just to get them to leave you alone ASAP and then block them shortly afterward.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:07 PM
2

That last part is actually untrue. I once had a girl give me her real number only to be rejected a couple days later before we even had a date. Otherwise good points
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:00 PM
1

Once you start to make progress in your goals you will feel better. Trust me.
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:44 PM
1

You can be nice but it cannot compensate for a lack of physical and mental strength, masculinity and assertiveness. A man who is physically capable of fucking you up but chooses not to because he is nice and polite is more attractive to girls.
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:42 PM
2

You and me both brotha <:[
/r/seduction27/04/21 02:07 AM
11

inhales B E G O N E T H O T
/r/seduction27/04/21 01:56 AM
1

I have a couple. I enjoy piano playing and writing and reading non fiction. By my absolute favourite hobby is gaming. Had to say it
/r/seduction27/04/21 01:27 AM
1

ALLL HAIL PLANKTON
/r/seduction27/04/21 01:18 AM
1

Well then the first logical step would be to actually have a great life, yes? Or at least close to that
/r/seduction27/04/21 01:18 AM
1

Thank you for your kind words
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:50 AM
2

UM YES ACTUALLY THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING. frick dude early 2020 I had plans to go balls to the wall with extra activities but then the pandemic hit and I was screwed. (Then again that’s what happens when you procrastinate)
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:46 AM
2

Thank you
/r/seduction25/04/21 10:33 PM
3

Exactly
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:46 PM
3

Just that when push comes to shove, and someone is in dire need of something important. (Change tire, dressing a bad wound, leaky faucet etc) They are not going to look to me for help and that’s a problem :(
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:44 PM
2

Dog I needed that so hard holy crap
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:43 PM
1

I’ve actually considered it but idk if I’ll actually take em. Thank you though
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:40 PM
2

I’ve been (rarely) catcalled by girls. It makes little difference if your social skills are poor and you have anxiety and depression
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:39 PM
3

There ya go :)
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:37 PM
3

Yes of course but I’m saying I can lower the chance of rejection and increase confidence if I know I’m bringing home the bread. I’m 28 years old man I’m not 19 anymore just going “out” might not be enough to cut it. Edit: then again you cannot negotiate attraction. I think the whole point is to just make sure I don’t regret my time spent on this earth
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:36 PM
1

Thanks
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:35 PM
5

Yes indeed but it was like 11:30 at night when I posted this XD
/r/seduction25/04/21 07:35 PM
2

That’s great man. Yeah it always helps to have something going for you to give you that confidence boost
/r/seduction25/04/21 05:54 AM
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This one says removed
/r/seduction25/04/21 02:33 AM
1

I’m in a similar boat I guess my best advice would be don’t sweat it too much. At least you’re applying for jobs, save some money and find things you like doing any work on them daily. You’ve heard it many times, working out is crucial. So make sure you’re getting that done. And yeah just try not to stress because stress is gonna make the situation way worse.
/r/seduction24/04/21 11:33 AM
1

Did you delete the post? It was a good one
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:38 AM
1

I say if he’s experiencing no results then he is doing something wrong and should try something else
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:57 AM
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The problem is I don’t think I will ever be confident. I have some good qualities and yea I still got some work to do sure but the fact of the matter is, no matter how much better I get, when push comes to shove and I’m in a social situation. I inwardly panic and become super quiet and small.
/r/seduction24/04/21 04:15 AM
1

K there’s some good stuff here and all but I swear this is a repost
/r/seduction24/04/21 04:08 AM
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“Approaching dating from a place of no confidence is pathetic” Hoo boi you don’t pull any punches do you
/r/seduction24/04/21 04:04 AM
1

You just convinced me to finally get a haircut OP and now I look way better. Thanks for the very practical post!
/r/seduction22/04/21 11:41 PM
3

Athlean X videos are great to help build motivation! I watch his tutorials and immediately get in the mindset of working out. It’s fantastic!! Just gotta watch that form. Imma work out today, thanks for the reminder OP!
/r/seduction22/04/21 02:36 PM
2

I agree but it is very hard for me to step out of my comfort zone. I wish I could talk to more strangers but it feels wrong and foreign :( I want to get out of my shell and make more social connections. I’m tired of being a total isolated hermit. As comfortable as that can be
/r/seduction22/04/21 04:46 AM
1

Okay thank you for replying
/r/seduction21/04/21 04:35 AM
1

Hey it’s me again. So would you say a change in attitude makes a difference? Not the number 1 answer but if you don’t believe in yourself you won’t have any luck, right?
/r/seduction21/04/21 01:01 AM
1

Makes no difference to my anxiety whether they are male or female, attractive or average
/r/seduction21/04/21 12:17 AM
2

I’m sorry I disagree. If you classify as any one of those titles you are objectively fit. It’s just different body types.
/r/seduction20/04/21 09:44 AM
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A-frikken-men. Gonna be embarrassing if I come out of this without some kind of significant change. I need to get back to piano practice tomorrow and another workout. Sidenote: quarantine has actually been such a HUGELY transformative and reflective time in my life. (Yea I know it’s not over yet) was easy for me to come to terms with my own mortality and the general fragility of life and how nothing should be taken for granted.
/r/seduction20/04/21 09:33 AM
7

Fit is not subjective.... wtf are you on about
/r/seduction20/04/21 09:23 AM
1

And you’re a cunt
/r/seduction18/04/21 04:26 PM
1

I only nodded because we were randomly making eye contact and I felt there was a small connection. I’m not nodding at every single pedestrian I pass, just so we’re clear.
/r/seduction18/04/21 04:25 PM
2

Ha indeed. tries desperately to think of clever Harry Potter reference
/r/seduction18/04/21 04:13 PM
2

Valid point. I’m just trying to toughen up.
/r/seduction18/04/21 04:07 PM
1

Might be worth considering. Although I doubt anything significant is happening during the pandemic. I don’t really see anyone as “normies” tbh. Just people.
/r/seduction18/04/21 04:07 PM
1

I meant people in the sub more like. What the hells the point of posting about a success if dudes are just going to tear it down. (In my experience) it seems so counterproductive
/r/seduction18/04/21 03:05 PM
1

Lack of confidence derived from mental health issues
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:56 PM
1

Well I’ll literally never be Chad soooooooooo...
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:54 PM
2

Something to consider. Zoom is there for a reason, right? Thank you for replying. I’m still hurting but it’s hurting a little less now 😊
/r/seduction18/04/21 09:21 AM
2

That’s all very true. And there’s other things too, I could possible join a book club or a martial arts class (again, pandemic but we’ll be past it eventually) Once it’s safe to take classes again I’m going balls to the wall with extracurricular activities. I need to get out there. Improve myself, learn, experience, grow.. Oh my god that’s it. That’s how you live life isn’t it? And then as you learn and grow your self love and confidence grows with you. Then people notice that and want to be aro…
/r/seduction18/04/21 08:58 AM
1

i thought the whole point of the sub was to break out of your shell and try to talk to people. Cold approach is far from the best method but it is also one that is preached here RELIGIOUSLY. Am I in the wrong sub or something? I’m confused. Anyways whatever. I already deleted the worthless ass post
/r/seduction18/04/21 08:53 AM
1

Thank you for replying. I know I’ve been seriously thinking about signing up for a cooking class because I need more experience with that department. (Covid notwithstanding) hopefully I can make something happen there. Although the main goal would be to learn to cook better.
/r/seduction18/04/21 08:49 AM
1

Lol that’s not a day that will ever come
/r/seduction18/04/21 07:39 AM
1

According to some responses you’d think this was actually a step backwards
/r/seduction18/04/21 07:37 AM
0

It took the hugest amounts of guts I’ve ever had but yeah who fucking cares, right?
/r/seduction18/04/21 07:36 AM
1

“But I have no job” That’s a valid reason. Get out there and find some work. How else are you going to pay for dates?
/r/seduction18/04/21 07:18 AM
2

Sex? What’s that.
/r/seduction18/04/21 06:37 AM
0

Yeah I will try it again dammit. It’s a fucking nod. Relax. If anything it was nothing more than a friendly gesture Forget it, I’m out. This place is toxic and makes absolutely no sense. I finally made a move and half of what I’m getting is discouragement. Screw this
/r/seduction18/04/21 06:35 AM
1

I don’t know but it’s honestly making me want to quit this subreddit for good. I was hoping for support and while I got it, I got a bunch of hate too. I barely even did anything.
/r/seduction18/04/21 06:32 AM
1

Awe that’s sweet lol. Takes some confidence I’m sure
/r/seduction18/04/21 05:46 AM
7

I don’t hate you
/r/seduction18/04/21 03:56 AM
1

Wow... what an absolutely useless comment
/r/seduction18/04/21 12:42 AM
1

Well then again it’s not like it’s illegal to just strike a conversation.
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:54 PM
1

That’s pretty profound about the black screen
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:38 PM
1

It’s not. But it could be a stepping stone for a beginner
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:27 PM
1

I dunno. Nice eyes nice hair.
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:27 PM
0

F you dude
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:21 PM
1

Excuse me? No need for the hostility. It was a brief nod of acknowledgment not a catcall God why do I even bother
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:20 PM
1

Thanks man
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:18 PM
1

You do have time. 27 is not that bad. Just make the next few years count
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:24 PM
0

Just be smart and don’t overstep your boundaries. And don’t be so resistant to approach anxiety. I believe it’s there for a reason.
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:18 PM
1

Sorry thank you ☺️
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:17 PM
1

Pretty sad world we live in when something that innocent can get you arrested.
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:10 PM
2

I never expected nor intended for her to stop and speak to me
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:06 PM
0

Well it’s sure not a fake one :P
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:04 PM
1

Well okay then. Thanks for replying
/r/seduction17/04/21 09:58 AM
1

May I ask why this is such bad advice? What’s the big deal. It sounds to me like the much quicker easier method. Like the girl doesn’t even have to say anything and you’re out of there in a flash.
/r/seduction17/04/21 09:47 AM
4

Mmmmmhm. My main struggle right now is figuring out what kind of hard work/career I want to do... I’m scared of choosing the wrong thing and spending years working only to fail. It’s paralyzing.
/r/seduction17/04/21 09:36 AM
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It would have been creepier if I had just maintained eye contact and didn’t do anything so I lightened the tension with a nod. What even counts as a “bloke” anyway? But... yeah you could be right.
/r/seduction17/04/21 09:31 AM
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Chin up bro. Indian food is delish
/r/seduction17/04/21 08:43 AM
1

Personally I view them as the reverse. For what it’s worth, ours was a downward nod.
/r/seduction17/04/21 07:25 AM
2

Sometimes I really do wonder how this subreddit even came to be. I thought this was common knowledge across the globe
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:57 AM
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