Everybody’s in Lala land and think it’s all solely off personality and game so let me bring up reality rq. If you’re not fit and don’t take care of yourself good luck finding someone that’s hot. If you have nothing to show for your successes good luck seeming intriguing.

Why would a skinny hot girl find interest in guys that might influence her not to take care of herself. And why would a girl that wants stability find comfort in a guy with no clear ambition. Providing is important as a guy.

Yes there’s girls that will overlook this (most likely at a young age when they’re not thinking of this) but a big chunk don’t care about your struggles and what you went through. They’re at the finish line looking for the winners. I’m not saying it’s not possible to hook up and date without all that but the longevity of a relationship can be questionable. (been in 4+ relationships) am doing really well for myself and my gf thinks I’m a prize. She doesn’t have to say it either.

That’s not to say that personality doesn’t matter cause it does. But sometimes how you display your self worth completely cancels all of that out. Take care of yourself and you’ll attract.