Hoping to Get some advice on coffee shop chick

2011-08-23T14:18:48+00:00

Hmnmmmm. Hang on before you make any sudden moves.

You must consider that your lack of subtlety could ruin your coffee-shop and (worse yet) your chances at coffee-shop girl.

Ask her what she does for fun instead. "What do you do when you're not being the coolest chick at the coffee house?"

This is straddling flirty and friendly. You put the ball in her court, which means two things:

1) She feels safe. If you come on too strong (read: obvious), some girls who aren't really feelin' it end up putting a stop-order on any momentum you may have had, friendly or otherwise. Women spook easily, sometimes -- especially the cool ones. (Plus, cmon ... she's at work. Talk about on the spot, ya know? She's paid to be friendly so if she gets uncomfortable, it's extra awkward.)

2) You've just complimented her and casually fished around for something in common. The dialogue in her head will manifest in her body language.

"Is he asking me out? That would be awesome" body language is uncontrollable smiling, an eagerness to laugh at everything that comes out of your mouth after you ask that question.

"Umm, did he really just ask me out?" body language is flat, her attention can't leave you soon enough.

At any rate, good luck! Update!

VoodooD2 · 2011-08-23T04:18:35+00:00

you are Fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Abrupt can be good, but i always found i sold my self short that way. Short game can burn, but long game they know what your selling and probably like it.

sparklyteenvampire · 2011-08-23T06:40:36+00:00

Go for it. Seddit is with you. Be sure to update when you can.

crunchyCal · 2011-08-23T14:08:54+00:00

I have found that short game only works WELL if you come off as supremely confident and have social proof.

EX: getting ice cream with a friend (girl), i noticed the ringer was really cute. Her: Together or separate? My friend: oh separate. we're not together. Her: Is that it? me: yep.. one ice cream.. and your number.

Eye contact, strong smile. easy #close.

Title	Hoping to Get some advice on coffee shop chick
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Date	August 23, 2011 2:53 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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