Ever Since Seddit, I'm Now Way Too Quick To Dismiss Women.

2012-02-09T18:23:38+00:00

I guess all I can say is that maybe you haven't met the right person. I am in a similar spot...I can't get very excited to be around any girl, and I have 0 interest in a relationship with any of the girls I hit on/sleep with. There's just no passion at all, aside from the physical.

It's probably a byproduct of having hit on/slept with so many more girls than I used to. They all start to blend into one at a certain point.

nuckingFutz · 2012-02-10T03:02:12+00:00

"I came out of a 7 year relationship a year ago"

As someone who called off an engagement, I hope you enjoy being single for at least another year or two before you look for that spark again.

stewsky · 2012-02-09T18:36:34+00:00

I think a first date, if long enough can be a good indicator of whether you are interested in them or not. There's no reason to lead them on if you aren't feeling it. I know I wouldn't want some girl stringing me on and feigning interested just because she didn't want to hurt my feelings.

2012-02-09T22:37:16+00:00

You were younger, and being in a relationship was exciting then.

You have done all that before. You can't expect the same feelings to pop up again. At least...I don't think so.

But...don't go for someone, if you think you can "do better". That feeling will stay with you forever.

PRD3 · 2012-02-10T07:29:46+00:00

Why are you questioning yourself? This is precisely the right thing for you to do for yourself - if you're not happy with, intrigued by, or interested in the person first time around, then why waste more time with (and trying to explore deeper into) someone that can't naturally satisfy you? It goes both ways. Ask yourself; if it were the other way around, do you think you'd get a second chance if you screwed up the first date? Or lets say it were a job interview or a credit report check for an apartment or rental of some sort. Would they waste time giving you a second chance to give all that you got? No. You should be the same way, too, because I've come to learn that it's best to be that way, rather than giving people you don't even know a bunch of chances (when you know very well that most people wouldn't do the same for you). If it doesn't feel right the first time, move on. The more time you spend trying to explore something that's iffy, the more other opportunities you miss to run into that girl who could actually be the one. If things "spark" at some level the first time around, consider a second date. If not, it's goodbye and move on to the next one. Besides, it's better to be a quick dismisser than to be that nice guy who's always falling for girls, thinking too much, getting caught up in a fantasy land and being hurt in the end not understanding what went wrong. Don't totally dismiss them. Keep them as friends and be there to cheer them up, share some good times as experiences with, and hang out with sometimes, but don't try to push yourself to fall for anyone, especially if they aren't in to you first.

Title	Ever Since Seddit, I'm Now Way Too Quick To Dismiss Women.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	February 9, 2012 5:41 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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