r/Seddit, I've read many posts, articles, threads that say "If you focus on any one girl you've already lost." Well fuck it. I want to hear your story about you falling head over heels but still got the girl.

Shineox · 2012-10-22T10:14:23+00:00

I'll tell you about a guy who use to be in my class. He was a classic nerd, hardcore, lower beta. He fell for a girl who is hot as fuck, and she's a gamer. She sees him as a friend and they hang out daily. This girl is one of the sought-out girls in the entire school, atleast in my class (we read computer-science, a gamergirl = winning the lottery). About one month before school ended I got dumped and I decided that I, too, should make a move on her. On graduation day I kiss the girl whilst the dude who 'loves' her sits in a chair far top drunk to do anything.

Fast-forward 4 months: Me and gamergirl are fuckbuddies and she tells me stories about how the other guy 'finally confessed his feelings for her' (she knew how he felt all along) and how she tells him to just move on, and he can't. He still don't know me and her are fucking because it would crush him.

The reason I tell you this is - you clearly started this thread to find justification to still hunt for that one girl, and you really shouldn't. It may work 1% of the time, and among those 1% of the relationships engaged will last. In the other 99.99% it will end in misery and unnecessary pain. Turning a girl over is so hard and even perfectly played has almost no success-rate. Find yourself without finding this girls love, that is my advice for you. "The one" is probably getting assfucked by a douchebag while you read this anyway

PS: this is not necessarily directed at you OP, clearly in your story you didn't focus on the girl and that is why you got her. This is directed towards the dudes who suffer mad oneitis

kicksnspliffs · 2012-10-22T13:14:53+00:00

I had crushed HARD on my first GF for over a year. I saw other people in the meantime but I was truly obsessed. We all went out one night and I decided to kiss her while essentially kinoing all night. She kissed me back, and we dated for almost two years.

2012-10-22T13:40:57+00:00

OP, you didn't kill the myth. What happened was you stopped focusing on one girl during your break, and then you got the girl because you stopped being so needy/clingy.

Sorry, but if you're needy, clingy, and desperate, there really is no hope. Or, there is such little hope that it's incredibly insignificant and not even worth mentioning.

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