I feel like my reputation in school is hurting me.

ObiWan111 · 2012-10-06T23:24:47+00:00

I'm not sure whether to chalk up failures to something I did wrong, or to my reputation, or something else.

Forget your reputation. It's only going to hurt you if you're self conscious about it.

I feel like I've fallen behind in this 'race' to develop socially. I see alphas all around me and envy them for the experience they got earlier in adolescence that let them be that way.

Stop comparing yourself to other people. Besides from what you're saying it sounds like you're ahead of half the guys on seddit.

How do I know if I'm being a fun guy, or being annoying?

People want to be around the fun guy, and they don't want to be around the annoying guy. You should be able to tell by whether people want to spend time with you or not.

Is the way people used to see me affecting how they treat me now?

Maybe, but probably not. This is probably a bigger deal to you than it is to anyone else.

Any tips on when you discovered seduction/PUA, how quickly you progressed, what steps you took, and where you're at now?

I was a natural, but the community helped me hone my skills. Everyone has their own rate of progression so I wouldn't worry about how long it took other people. The only step it really takes to get better is practice. Even if none of this information existed you could find it all out on your own by having enough interactions with women. The one piece of advice I have is to try dating outside of your school, then you're reputation isn't even a factor. Be patient, you're progressing and far ahead of many other people; it will all come to you with time.

Poop_Land_420 · 2012-10-07T01:47:07+00:00

The good news is that after high school your high school reputation means nothing.

2012-10-07T02:03:24+00:00

High school is weird. It has its own strange subset of rules and all this other nonsense going on.

thesnowflake · 2012-10-08T06:04:32+00:00

don't use "faggot" as a slur, thanks.

2012-10-07T00:05:22+00:00

Hey man, I was in your same situation just 2 years ago. My senior year I just stuck with my friend circle and practiced my social skills with girls when I could. Practicing for that next phase of life...

COLLEGE! Go where no one knows you, which is most likely almost any school. Be a confident bastard! I was the worst with girls in high school and I've already had two girlfriends, both smokin hot.

Now I'll admit my first girlfriend was a bitch and a huge mistake, but this second one is amazing. My ideal girl.

Keep practicing your social skills and you'll have the opportunity someday to flaunt them. Just remember that social situations don't just come to your door step. Gotta get out there.

cannyfraunch · 2012-10-07T03:03:36+00:00

 I'm assuming you're a senior in high school. If you are, you're like me and the way I see it, fuck your school if you aren't having a good time. This summer I met a lot of kids from different schools at parties and whatnot, where they have absolutely no previous judgments of me. I am better friends with some of these kids I met, and the girls like me more than the ones from my own school. I would say, only because I'm in your position, that your reputation does indeed affect how people look to you years later, at least in high school. So fuck it, don't give a shit about your rep and make different friends; meet people who have never heard of you until you walk up to them. That's the best way to make it better.

2012-10-18T01:47:44+00:00

I think I may have been in a similar place as you. I was quite the loner for the first two years of high school. You know the type. Awful with self confidence and ladies at this point as well. Rejected many times. Then my Ipod broke junior year, so I was forced to talk with people. I think that really helped me out, socially. I really never hung out or talked with girls before that. I helped build up my social skills again and I realized I was quite spontaneous and good at making people laugh.

I'm in college now and a lot of people are complimenting me on my "game". It's kind of refreshing actually, since people look up to me for some of this shit. So I guess I underwent some kind of change, but I'm not afraid to look like an idiot or fail anymore. I did feel behind as you said, but I guess I was able to catch up.
I also had a reputation, I was kind of a loner and a creepy kid (I like death metal). A lot of those barriers break down senior year, when people realize that others have changed during their 4 years. Use that to your advantage. It'll build self confidence.

Title	I feel like my reputation in school is hurting me.
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Date	October 6, 2012 11:10 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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