[FR] I still have a long way to go...and my AA isn't actually dead.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-07-03T16:26:41+00:00

I used the fact that the place wasn't our "scene" as an excuse not to approach, when in reality it's just AA.

Make it your scene. There were women there who certainly felt the same way about the scene as you did, they were waiting for you to approach them and make a new scene with them.

2011-07-04T14:34:02+00:00

In my experience, there is almost never only one type of person at a party/bar/whatever. I mean you are not unique, so probably there where a lot more people there that wouldn't consider it their scene.

I a way this makes it even easier, since if you find them, most of the time they are open for contact and you already have some sliver of rapport. Just don't be (too) negative about the place, since you are there to have a good time.

l3fth4nd · 2011-07-04T21:36:59+00:00

skanky girls...half the people there gave off a Jersey Shore type vibe.

If the girls are hot despite being dumb as rocks, you can still have sex with them if you want. You don't have to have a connection in your life perspective in that case, only sexual chemistry.

they're with 3 chicks but the only two attractive ones are already taken

Keep in mind, if they're with douche bags you can totally just game the girl without acknowledging the dudes and take them away. I know in this case they might be with your friends(ambiguous) but otherwise assume the dude a girl is with is their short term boyfriend, dude who just picked her up, or random friend. You'll find out later if it isn't kosher when escalating.

but got the screw-face from two of them. Damn...I've actually never been blown out like that before.

Don't leave until they tell you to fuck off or walk away.

I just felt embarrassed.

You have to laugh about stuff like that, it gets easier as you do it more but the way you get better at this is by becoming emotionally centred and not being affected by other peoples' bullshit. When I get attitude from a girl when I go up now, I laugh in her face and keep going as if she's acting retarded. It's not about what I'm doing though, it's about how I'm feeling.

And I still didn't approach. It's not like I saw opportunities and turned them down.

That's great that you're disappointed that you didn't approach, that's the first step and is a feeling you absolutely have to keep when you don't do what you know you should.

The three ideas that help me with AA now are:

Every rejection makes me icier (unreactive and badass).

The world is my pickup lab, nothing is a big deal you're just messing around trying stuff.

"Just do it", I noticed after awhile that every time I did my first approach of the night(always the hardest by a long shot): I was hesitating, then said "Just do it!", stopped thinking because I was too busy moving, and approached. Disengaging your thought process halts your ability to make up excuses not to approach.

Title	[FR] I still have a long way to go...and my AA isn't actually dead.
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Date	July 3, 2011 4:12 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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