Goddammit she canceled while we had a date planned for this afternoon! Why?

If you ever felt that way before you might want to read below.

There are X reasons why girls flakes but usually they are separated in two categories that guys have trouble to figure : she was interested but something happened and she wasn't interested to begin with.

Those go on a you-fucked-up scale, from least to most important.

First case scenario, something came up and she HAD to flake. Maybe her job called, maybe her cat died, maybe her ex came back with flowers. Too bad for you, and for her. Try to reschedule, she might say yes.

Second, she was into you at first but you did something bad. Maybe your texts were needy. Maybe she stalked you on social media and figured you used to date her bestie. While one is improve-able, the other is just bad luck once again.

Then we go higher on the you-fucked-up-o-meter. Things went wrong and you were oblivious about it. No worries, I once too was there and blindly annoyed way too many girls. Reading the following lines should be eye opening.

It's a common mistake to try very hard on a girl who was not interested to begin with, girls don't give clear signals, they avoid confrontation. It makes sense when you think about it, guys get butthurt often and they are more physically imposing than women. Simply put, women try not to make men angry because an angry guy might hurt her.

Here I'm talking about girls who will give their number to have you go away. The root of the problem is not text game, it's that you're not making them comfortable/attracted to begin with.

This leads directly to the most common mistake when it comes to flakes : she was not invested in you. She stayed passive from A to Z and you kept pushing. The interaction was 80% you and 20% her and this is something you have to change.

Ways to have girls invest : - bring up topics they can't resist to talk about (ie themselves) - manage (sexual) tension - have value to her eyes

The logic there is that if you do not let a women invest in the interaction, she has no reason to go and hang out with you. A pretty face alone is not enough. People get interested in things that they put effort into.

TL;DR Girls flake because something came up, you freaked them out somehow or they were not invested enough (huge).

I talk about it in more details in this video :

https://youtu.be/iyUaukHxtRg

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