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Confidence is a habit

MegatronLoverForever

April 23, 2015

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A lot of people like to think that there is some magic formula to becoming a wholesome and confident person.

You see this in the PUA community as well. There are posts and videos that offer up some fix all trick that will get you confident.

The cold hard and ugly truth is that confidence is not something that is gained in a day. Confidence comes from doing something so much that you are sure of your actions.

People ask the question, how do i be confident? but most of the time the answer is already at the back of our minds. To be confident we have to put hard work and time into whatever we may do.

The more you do something, the more confident you will be about it. The same is with pick up and game. If you want to get good you have to do it.

There is no short cut, get out there, approach, get rejected, face success and repeat until you are confident.

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Title	Confidence is a habit
Author	MegatronLoverForever
Upvotes	1
Comments	1
Date	April 23, 2015 3:47 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/33k2q1/confidence_is_a_habit/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/confidence-is-a-habit.1295303 https://theredarchive.com/post/1295303

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[–]Mouthpiece 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Confidence is a muscle that needs exercise or all atrophy. But if you put in the work you will get stronger.

And just like building muscle, you start with small weights and gradually work up to heavier ones.

Nervous about approaching? Practice talking to people who have to talk back to you, like cashiers, servers, bank tellers and the like. Once you're comfortable doing that, you'll have the ability to strike up a conversation with a stranger in an elevator. Then talk to the dude on the barstool next to you. Then walk across the bar and talk to an ugly girl you don't care about.

As you get comfortable with each stage, you'll become ready to move onto the next.

Soon, you will develop the confidence to walk straight up to a group of extremely attractive women and open.

I'm a pretty open and friendly guy, but I've got a friend who makes me look like the amateurs. He literally talk to everyone he meets. He and I were going from a bar to a dinner party and as we left the bar, he walked up to a table of eight women and in 10 seconds he had them all laughing and in the palm of his hand. If we were already leaving, he probably could've taken one or more of them home.

That comes from just simply not giving a fuck what other people think, and being in the habit of being interested in people who cross your path during the course of the day.