Every paragraph is other set so TL:DR are last 2 paragraphs

I'm focusing on just doing approaches with good body language or at least trying to make it better(3rd part of TofuTofu's guide).

I went out and of course it's fucking snowing and cold again. I strated feeling like shit just after meeting my friend, we went to the club where I just chilled until I felt better. I have health anxiety so just the fact I stayed instead of going in panic mode is a success for me.

I couldn't get myself together and approach so I lost a lot of time, my friend wasn't doing much better either. When was sitting in more chill area (feeling not well) there were 2 girls and a guy sitting on the same couch. My friend came, talked to me a bit and then opened the guy with "Hey dude, congratulations, you've got the best girls in the club!" to which he replied "But they're not my girls..." So my friend's just introduced himself to the girls and "got back" to me. I'm writing about him because their faces lit up, the sitting situation was just perfect and NONE of us actually started talking with them. I didn;t because I had a fucking blank mind.

After that I went into non-approaching chode mode again and lost a lot of time again. We played a little game to unstiff ourselves and I showed him a girl, he approached and did something funny (just to unstiff). Turns out he used "What if you meet the guy in club (...) it's all great,, you're at your or his place and it turns out he has a very tiny dick?" Girls laughed so I asked him what he said. Then I choded again and he decided to help me a bit and approached two cute (HB6 and 7 maybe) girls thath I want to ask them a question... wel I asked them about the tiny dick and they laughed. They answered something and asked if that's all I wanted to ask. I know I could've talked to them even more judging by their body language, tonality and eye contact but I had blank mind again.

Shortly after we decided to leave and before we did, I wanted 5 minutes to walk through the club and approach a girl with dick question ("what if you met a guy blah blah and he had very tiny dick?"). I approached a 7 ( afterwards my friend told me it was 8-9) and asked her. She didn't understand me and gave some different answer so I repeated and for the second time first respone was her: "Oh no, I'd never do that, blah blah" I started relaxing body language and I think it went to "relaxed/ trying" from "grounded" me: "Oh yeah I feel you, sex is bad!" her: "No it's not bad blah blah blah maybe I'm conservative but not on (club/dance)party" I think I lost frame here and compromised my own beliefs me: "Yeah you might be but you're a bit right that eg. in clubs like this it just is a bit too <liberal> and some girlls are just too <easy> " words in these <brackets> mean that they meabt this but not exactly these words. She told me it's her first time in this club and shes from far away blah blah (but never told me where) so I just thanked her for answer, shook hands and ejected and left the club with friend. It was one of longer interactions I'm having (5 minutes is like top of the mountain for me because of my convo skills)

Last set was outside the club, two girls (probably 5 and 6) waited for a taxi. I approached with "Hey my name's... what's yours?" and she told me with drunk, indifferent expression and then it was a moment of silence where I HAD NO IDEA WHAT TO DO then she run a few steps to hide from snowfall and was absorbed with her phone and taxi. My friend took care of the other girl and while I was stantind like a chode he did something I CAN'T comprehend. friend: <grabbed her by elbow> "Hey! I know you from somewhere!" (lame opener, I'm already thinking she's going to reject him quickly) her: "blah blah but you don't have to grab my elbow blah blah" ( not friendly tonality and body language, I'm sure she's rejecting him)... And a few moments later I see them hugging, her face lit up and making fun of and with his cap (the one covering ears). He and I were then pretty sure he might have made-out if he pushed harder or got a few minutes more before taxi came.

Thins I know have to learn

  • What the fuck do I do after opening? Like really except asking stupid questions. I always stand there like an idiot, let girls go or eject. Should I get physucal immediately, maybe remember some easy subjects for conversation?

  • Getting physical, I'm just focusing on approaching at all with good body language if I don't forget about it. Most of the time I just forget about voice tonality and body language.