Intro (not a must read). I write this so that i explain why it's not a DIRECT cold approach. I'm at a point in my life where i'm confident enough to do certain things, but i've began to give up on cold approach while im travelling on public transport. Why? Everyone is always thinking they are getting mugged or that I want something (material) from them. It's like they have a shield against possible evil (which is logical here in Buenos Aires). So now i just go around and just take action when I a clear situation, it's like a war within the excuses that my head creates not to approach and the ones i'm tryng to find TO APPROACH.

Actual FR: I was in the subway, and as always i look around and check out the several women. I always look for their eyeballs and test their confidence and i have fun when they struggle to look into my eyes but they can't. There was one that didn't even notice me, let's call her HB7.5. At certain point i see that there is a free sit and i head over there to sit on it. As I'm about to sit i that this HB7.5 looks over, like if she wanted to sit. The interaction went like this (in spanish of course):

Me: Oh, please sit, it's totally fine.

HB7.5: no, no it's fine

Me: come on, sit, it's no trouble

HB7.5: no, really it's ok, i'll stand

Me (putting my hand in her shoulder): are you sure? you can sit, it's fine by me

HB7.5 (little or no eyecontact): really, i'm ok

So the bitch didn't sit (pardon my language), and I didn't have any intentions behind my interaction,in fact, i wasn't planning on doing anything else. That was until we got off the subway at the same stop. As we walked out of the station I went to her and began the second part of the interaction:

Me: so do you like to travel while standing or did i just scare you?

HB7.5 (taking of her headphones): no, it was ok, i was getting off in a couple of stops

Me: oh ok, i just wanted to make sure, you never know, good luck!

HB7.5: ok, see you!

We went separate ways, and that's when i said: No! (i literally responded with a "No" to her "See you").

Exactly, we were not going to meet ever again, and the bitch had the disrespect of giving herself the opposite thought! (pardon my language). This had already happened to me, and I couldn't let it just end like that. I went back to her, gain her attention by touching her shoulder and here goes the final part of the interaction:

Me: hey, we are not going to see each other again, unless you want to.

HB7.5: what?

Me: yes, you said "See you", that's not going to happen, unless you really want to.

HB7.5 plays stupid. Says "what?" again.

Me: look at me (she didn't make eye contact in the whole interaction, maybe just a little). What's your name?

HB7.5: "Teresita"

Me: my name is Agustín, just give me your number (i hand over my phone).

HB7.5 (still kindda playing stupid, or maybe she was just embarassed or something, she couldn't really look into my eyes): oh just put it in your self

gives me digits

Me: Ok, great, i'll call you, or maybe text you something funny and a little stupid, and then we'll meet up to drink something. You live around here right?

HB7.5: yes, see you!

Me: yes, now we will

To tell you the truth, she didn't really look that convinced about it. I tried calling her after we split, but the phone was off. I texted her something like this: "This is my phonenumber. Kisses from Agustín from the subway :)". She didn't respond. Question for you, seddit, should i give it up? Is this phone number legit? How do i make girls more confortable about being approached by strangers, when they clearly think it's weird that someone approaches like that (i've been even told that explicitly).

I'm a rookie, but i think there are several things that could help out with daygame, specially if you have too much AA, or whatever you like to call it. What do i think is usefull from this FR?

  1. Be outcome independant. The fact that i was actually not tryng to approach the girl made my interactions much more relaxed. I was truly genuine with everything i said, and i think it got across perfectly.
  2. Be as persistant as you can, but don't over do it. Of all the approaches that i've made, there was always something i regret NOT having done. Just push your self a bit further every time.
  3. Find excuses, TO APPROACH. I know it may sound silly and super BETA, but as long as at some point you make your intentions clear, i think it's fine.
  4. Don't give a fuck about the people sorrounding you. When you approach think of yourself and the girl in other dimention.

Hope i helped you guys, sorry for the wall of text.