I think of it this way:

Starting the interaction with a new girl is like operating a train. In the first few minutes there will be a spit in the track to go two different directions.

At the end of one of those tracks is the station of platonic friendship...and at the end of the other is the station of panties on your bedroom floor.

And it's nearly impossible to get these trains in reverse. They're one time use engines. You have to struggle endlessly pushing the train back by hand if you don't like the path that happened.

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Hope the analogy make sense and maybe motivates some of you to actually take risk and make moves, actually hit on girls, actually escalate. You can't play it safe or the interaction/relationship will not go to where you want it to go. You have to show intent, make moves, cross lines, escalate. It's your level of intent in this way or lack thereof that chooses which track you go down and how fast.

I put this post up on my old account that has ways of not playing it safe and building sexual tension. Ways to get the train rolling down the right track.