Hi guys, long to follower, first time poster. Before I go into my example below I want to forward something to the community that we dont often talk about. How salvageable are fuck-ups during the pick-up process? The prevailing belief is that we should maintain our abundance mentality, and hence if we make a major mistake with a girl do we have to move on to the next one even if we really liked the girl we were creating a bond with?

Please feel free to post below any examples when you saved yourself in the seduction process and got back on track, or if you just moved on etc, and also any specific advice for my situation would be incredible.

I was at a function a few days ago held by my college for one of the faculties and decided to go to it with a couple of my closest mates, and knew other guys and girls that were going to be there that study similar classes to me. It was on the day of the 9ers/seahawks game because I remember I was pissed at how bad the 9ers played.

After a drink at my mates house we went into uni for the event, and it started at 8pm, it was a black tie/standup cocktail affair with an open bar the whole night, and the event ran from 8 till 12.

I started talking to a pair of HB8s because I had met one of them before in one of my classes (girl B), and with the two girls we traded some playful banter for a few minutes over a drink. I soon realised I was interested in her friend that I hadn't met before (girl A), but after a few more fun comments I excused myself and proceeded to go and continue opening sets throughout the function room. I would go to my buddies, and then open new sets of people for a brief chat, and then bounce around through the room like that for an hour or so.

I always seemed to find my way back to the two girls, or mainly just the brunette (girl A), who now I was isolating fairly consistently, we were sharing brief conversations, but mainly the whole night I danced with her and other people on the dance floor. I remember I did have one fun conversation with her outside the bathrooms at about 10.30 talking about her interest in artistic things (trying to elicit the passions she had for creative things), and about 20 minutes later I had her sitting on my lap talking about more comfort building stuff with friends sitting near us as well. For the last 30 minutes or so we were just back inside dancing, but I kept having to check on my friend who got fucking hammered.

So throughout the night I had built attraction and there was a solid connection there, but I hadnt been able to isolate entirely for deep rapport building or the kiss close as we were surrounded by friends most the night.

I had only had about 4 drinks and she had 5 I think throughout the night so I drove her home, and as we got there we were sitting for a while hugging, then she was leaning on me as if she was sleeping. She was softly grabbing my crotch so I knew she was keen and then we hooked up and did some I was playing with her panties for a while.

She wanted to go back to my place but my grandparents came from interstate for the week and there was no room in my house, so I said I should probably just drop her home.

We haven't really talked much since the night, and she was been a little unreceptive on text, she passed off the hookup as her being drunk and apologised to me for it. I read Richard La Ruina's book "the natural" today and there was a section of buyers remorse.

I THINK THIS IS WHERE I HAD MY BIG FUCK UP. I didn't spend enough time talking to her and comfort building throughout the evening, mainly just dancing, and then by hooking up and going to 2nd base in the farm she probably got anxious about how quickly we escalated things sexually, and now I might not be able to get the follow up date.

I wish now I had rebuffed her advances in the car, or spent more time alone with her throughout the night talking to her in a comfort building scenario. Still I think we had a great connection for the whole night and wonder if I can save it somehow.

TL;DR I may have fucked up my pickup of a girl at a function by escalating too far, she seems to regret what we did. Am i overthinking this, should I continue to see whats there based on our connection, or did I ruin it and is the wreck not salvageable?

Please discuss whether you think fuck ups like these are salvageable and anything thats happened to you similarly in the past.