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| 2 | Cant stop comparing myself to homeboy.Comparison is the thief of joy | /r/seduction | 22/07/26 03:09 AM |
| 3 | Field Report (David DeAngelo methods)I thought what OP did was fine. It was both confident and funny. The key to reading social ques is knowing when to double down and knowing when to dial it back. For inexperienced guys it's easy to get defensive or insecure if a girl doesn't reciprocate. For example if a girl doesnt laugh at the intended joke, you just need to dial back the cocky and make light conversation, before coming out with another funny joke. But If the girl laughs at your first joke, youre in and you can continue with th… | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 02:28 PM |
| 1 | I'm so done with cold approchesExcellent points here | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 12:39 PM |
| 12 | New York City vs Los Angeles (is NYC still worth the hype?)I'm jaded by the Big US cities. I live near Boston and know NYC and LA very well. Now don't get me wrong they're all really cool in their own way, but I just can't get past the fact that they're absolute cluster fs and everywhere u go its people on top of people, and traffic every 15ft. My perception of big cities completely changed when I started going International and saw cities like Vancouver, Sydney, Barcelona, etc. Now you want to start talking pleasant beautiful cities, go there. Blown aw… | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 08:50 PM |
| 13 | How do you subtly move forward after repeated eye contact without coming across as creepy, take the game forward?Agree, this is super important, DO NOT break eye contact first. Most men look away, and when you start not to, you'll notice women are very very good at holding eye contact. So much so that I've almost felt uncomfortable in some instances lol. Strong eye contact is a very underrated quality and women will pick up on it, it shows confidence. One big caveat is as soon as she breaks first DO NOT continue staring. If she breaks you then break. If you continue staring she will then right away put you… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 01:34 PM |
| 3 | If i am talking to tall girls and if taller guys approach the same group and set, should i leave? Because clearly, women prefer taller guys and i think, i become a block between them. I feel girls might be upset with me because of that. They just don't show it on their face.As a tall guy myself, I've seen many men shorter than me, look 10 times bigger because of their confidence. Being tall helps, being good looking helps, being rich helps, but men need to learn, the number 1 aphrodisiac for all women is CONFIDENCE. | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 08:30 PM |
| 6 | Why are women so fucking entitled these days?This is so so so true. When girls are young give them the only thing they want... Smiles and fun. That's all they want, the song is so true even today. Girls want to experience freedom and fun, so give them what they want and girls will magnet! | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 08:04 PM |
| 1 | What are the most distinctive signs of interest women show?Are there exceptions of course, I'm speaking generally. And a girl approaching you is also based off many factors. I'm simply saying generally, if you're a guy expecting a girl to approach...dont | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 02:17 AM |
| 144 | What are the most distinctive signs of interest women show?I think many men mistake how much a girl will make herself available to you. A girl won't go out of her way to be direct and walk right up to you, just not how it works. But women will 100% make it a point to show up near you, or make herself closer to you, hoping you make the move to talk to her etc. | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 04:24 PM |
| 2 | 34m someone teach me how to not be a total dork to women.Self Esteem is everything in the game, need to fix that first if any advice is to be of help here. Truthfully it's the simplest to understand the need to address, the hardest to execute. Try Books like the six pillars of self esteem, stuff like that will open different types of thought that will steer you in the right direction. Also no one wants to do it, but diet and exercise, key to physical AND MENTAL health. Gotta crawl before you can walk | /r/seduction | 12/05/26 08:10 PM |
| 53 | Went to a fitness eventLol yes, she wanted it right there and then, OP missed his shot /s | /r/seduction | 12/05/26 02:42 PM |
| 1 | I'm watching my life slip away while everyone else wins - need to break this cycle before it's permanentAnother very good book is the Six Pillars of Self Esteem. An eye opening book of accepting yourself as you are and how to go about applying it in your daily life. Another eye opening book but maybe a bit more advanced for some is Eckhart Tolles A New Earth..."Tolle describes how our attachment to the ego creates the dysfunction that leads to anger, jealousy, and unhappiness, and shows readers how to awaken to a new state of consciousness and follow the path to a truly fulfilling existence." | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 03:30 PM |
| 4 | Watching wholesome comedians has helped me so muchModeration is key here, bust out a banger, and then done. If she thought it was funny, just appreciate she loved the joke and got a chuckle, but don't go any further looking for a dad joke stand up routine | /r/seduction | 19/04/26 01:17 AM |
| 3 | What actually makes a guy instantly attractive?Yes, plus things are always misinterpreted on here. Your post was a good one and spot on | /r/seduction | 16/04/26 08:05 PM |
| 6 | What actually makes a guy instantly attractive?Lol not sure why you're downvoted, oh yea because reddit is filled with morons. Anyways this is exactly what presence is. Confidence is walking into a room looking for zero reassurance from anyone. Being present and chatting to whoever, as if you're as comfortable talking to your best friend. | /r/seduction | 16/04/26 07:02 PM |
| 20 | Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?You can pass but I'll take the ass! | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?Classic movie | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 03:13 PM |
| 56 | Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?Even big girls gotta get laid my man! | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 03:12 PM |
| 11 | Is pipe-smoking a turnoff?Any form of smoking is a huge turn off for most. Not saying it's a deal breaker but 100% don't advertise it or do any smoking in front of a date. Leave that shit for a month into the relationship, when you both have already gotten passed the initial "get to know" phase | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 08:52 PM |
| 7 | How did you go from zero to hero on seduction?This is the only reply necessary, very well said and similar to my story. Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women, but that only comes if you've built a healthy level of self esteem. Work on loving yourself first, and others will gravitate. It's a multi step process, after working on yourself, which takes months if not years, only then can you begin to apply that to seduction and the many techniques you can work on that compliment your personality. After being a total loser with women all… | /r/seduction | 09/03/26 06:55 PM |
| 3 | The abundance mindset is actually real and I didn’t believe it until recentlyThis is 100% the answer, and every man who wants to fully grasp seduction needs to listen to this reply by BurnitDownSR. To piggyback, a famous PUA was once asked... you have a lot of girls you call just friends, are you ever afraid of being friend zoned? He said no, because if he wanted to, he could escalate with almost anyone of them. Seduction works best out of the abundance of your female social circle, it's not about escalating with all of them, heck it's not even about escalating with any … | /r/seduction | 07/03/26 04:01 AM |
| 5 | Socializing with women is a skill. Master it. Weak social skills CAN OVERRIDE GOOD LOOKS AT TIMES..Im that person, considered tall and handsome, was a total loser with women through HS and College. You hear all the time that girls like older guys? Well people need to understand that part of being older is coming into yourself. I was a very late bloomer and had zero confidence with women in my youth. The #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence. Height is a nice to have, but nothing beats confidence, nothing. | /r/seduction | 05/03/26 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Am I wrong to get demoralized after this rejection?It's social awareness at the end of the day. These are two very well worded responses btw. Just to piggy back, Setting is often everything, moments are too, it really depends on the situation and scenario. Not saying a guy can't cold approach at midnight in a city street, I'm saying his odds of it working are stacked against him, vs a bar where women will expect it. It's reading the room, work on social ques, when to speak up, when to shut up. So many men are clueless when it comes to this and t… | /r/seduction | 28/02/26 09:48 PM |
| 2 | The Most Dangerous Mindset I See as a Men’s Dating CoachYes very true agree, all good points | /r/seduction | 27/02/26 03:21 PM |
| 4 | The Most Dangerous Mindset I See as a Men’s Dating Coach100% agree, this post is sort of bullshit in many ways. If Bruno was a higher value man then he'd get higher value women. He is not, the problem is not them, it's him. Work on yourself first, then things will start to align. As the saying goes, you need to crawl before you can walk. Men need to crawl and work on on their self esteem, and own issues, before any of them can start to walk on becoming good with women | /r/seduction | 27/02/26 03:15 PM |
| 34 | The Most Dangerous Mindset I See as a Men’s Dating CoachWhile I do agree with this, there are a lot of men who think they are better than they actually are. who's to say Bruno is any catch, and that he's settling? If he really were a higher value man then he'd get higher value women. Many times theres a delusion of just how much of a catch people think they are. How do I know this, because I was that person. looking back all the struggles I had with women, ultimately it had nothing to do with them, and everything to do with me. The quicker people kno… | /r/seduction | 27/02/26 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Coming to nyc next monthSorry just saw this. Northeast US is the hardest to game imo Bos and NYC. Girls have a thick skin and put up a hard front. You're better off down south or out west in the US where girls don't put up a front as much as they do in the northeast. Again I'm not saying northeast people are bad, I live in the northeast, its just hard when you're not used to it, and you won't be, coming from where you are. | /r/seduction | 14/02/26 10:42 AM |
| 23 | newly single at 40 - is 40 an actual barrier for a guy that reduces his opportunies with younger women (late twenties to early thirties)?I get way more looks at 40 than I did at 20 I'll tell you that. | /r/seduction | 12/02/26 03:19 PM |
| 25 | i think she flirts with me even though she has a boyfriendWhat is a platonic guy friend to a woman? It's like a dick in a glass case, in case of emergency BREAK OPEN GLASS -Chris Rock | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Coming to nyc next monthPlus this dude is going to literally the hardest city to game, if you're shy at all in NYC you'll get run over. NYC is very hard to game and the girls are tough. It's all a front and easy to work around, but won't be easy for a foreigner, unless of course youre good looking and have a good accent, then you'll do much better lol | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 01:57 PM |
| 3 | How does being less fixated on dating/women and focusing on your own grind make you more attractive towards women?Not to be mistaken for... you might get more flies with honey, but you get more honies BEING FLY | /r/seduction | 11/01/26 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Even though she is a smoking hot baddie that turn every head when she walks. Should I just approach?Growing up this was my biggest issue. If I saw a smoking hot girl I didn't necessarily put her on a pedestal, but I definitely got nervous and would over compensate by being overly outgoing or trying to be too funny (which aren't bad things to do, it just wasn't natural). It wasn't until I approached the girl with indifference that it truly cliqued... Remember ALWAYS, you are the prize not her, after all she could be a total lunitoon, or complete dud, but you my friend are charming af and so wha… | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 04:20 AM |
| 13 | My long term crush let's me cuddle but shoots me away if I push to far...really like herOthers are right, relationships are push pull. If you're doing all the pulling she had the upper hand. Only thing to do is push away. It's obviously counterintuitive to everything you want to do, but you have to show you have just as much value as her, show your value by showing her you aren't just a tease | /r/seduction | 25/12/25 11:42 PM |
| 177 | What are flirty signs guys miss?That hysterical, and something I would have totally done | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 04:30 PM |
| 9 | I Tried 100 Pickup Lines, These 3 Will Get You DatesNot really true, I agree with alot of what OP said. While the line is sort of lame, it's not ever about what you say, its HOW you say it. I like to go with something a little lighter and fun, like, wow that outfits pretty fly, you wear it well (smile and eye contact key here) You could say the lamest shit ever, but said with conviction with strong eye contact, and you have her full attention | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 03:53 PM |
| 6 | If you're a man you're always going to be perceived as a creep if you're a strangerSpot on, rejection sucks I get it, the less of a big deal you make it, the less she will. Act like you don't really care and she won't. Thatcould be a plus later, if she eventually comes around, she might perceive you different and the fact you were so cool about the rejection, might put you in a better light. | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 04:00 PM |
| 12 | The one belief that turned me from “nice guy with female friends” into the guy actually fucking themWhat if we are all running in just one big simulation.... MIND BLOWN | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on attracting older women 45+ im 32In all fairness both men and women are fairly clueless in their 20s, it isn't until 30 hits that people start to truly reflect on who they are and who they want to be, mainly because they're not trying to appease to the latest trends or what's cool or not, most of those games are over. I mean there are those that never get out of that stage but for many 30 is a decent barometer on being your more "authentic self" as the reply suggest. Truthfully it's also why men in their 30s do way better with … | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 02:16 PM |
| 5 | Is it a bad sign if girls don’t put much effort into dressing up, make-up or hair on the first date?if she doesn't put any effort in the first date, more than likely she won't put any effort into a second or third. I'd expect the man to also not do what this girl does on a first date. If you can't even put some decent hygiene in and show you actually put some effort to meet up and look good, than you don't have the qualities I want in a person to take it further... that goes for male or female | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 04:59 PM |
| 3 | How to look more sexually appealing as a woman.I would say hair and makeup, hone your skills. Makeup should look as natural as possible while complimenting your features. Hair is also important, styling, highlighting can all help a lot. | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 01:20 PM |
| 6 | This subreddit is full of creepsI agree up until the last paragraph. Sex is emotion, men want sex because the girl has qualities that turn them on. Same goes for women, if you are able to create emotion that turns them on, then you could get laid on the first date. Not saying it's the norm or it always happens but it can. And you can absolutely atleast still hook up very soon in the process....again do you have the qualities that make her emotionally turned onto you? Many men don't, which is why subs like this exist | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 02:20 PM |
| 19 | Putting Women on a Pedestal. How did you overcome it?This has to with building self esteem. It's the core to becoming good with women. You hear all the time be confident, be yourself. Well what does that mean? it's means tackling your insecurities, your vulnerabilities, often stemming from years of different challenges you've dealt throughout life. Many fail because this doesn't happen over night, for many it takes years to overcome their insecurities, some never do. | /r/seduction | 21/11/25 03:21 PM |
| 6 | Girl keeps teasing me at the Gym I go to. How can I seal the deal?Haha exactly, dude is already f'n it up. Need to strike a conversation ASAP before she's gone with the wind | /r/seduction | 20/11/25 02:48 PM |
| -1 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?Whoa look at the brain on Brad TLDR: Positive vibes magnet | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 06:50 PM |
| 4 | 24 deep truths about women & relationships that you won't hear from the mainstream.Yes I agree with your last point, the talking points are all pretty good, but it's something many men have heard a million times. It's the same thing as, just be yourself, or be confident. And while that is 100% true, for many guys that's impossible and therefore unacheivable and irrelevant advice. The best advice is the ones centered around building self esteem and self worth. Many men are inherently insecure and compensate using many different types of defense mechanisms to mask those insecuri… | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Got Rejected TodayThe moment you take rejection as a 2 people living, not being compatible, for the sake of what could be a million different reasons. The moment you realize rejection, many times, has absolutely nothing to do with you. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 08:40 PM |
| 6 | There Are Guys In This Sub Who Don’t Know The Difference Between “Sexual Attraction” and “Physical Attraction “😳It's 100% how a man carries himself, that's because the #1 aphrodisiac for all women is CONFIDENCE. What is confidence? Well that's where it gets extremely complex, the answer is simple the execution is not. You always hear people say, just be yourself, but what does that mean. well it means exactly what it says, don't look for validation from others, don't try to be something you're not. people see through fake, especially women, be yourself, be proud of yourself, and be your best self. Many on… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Which large US cities are the worst for pick up today in 2025?I've visited Seattle, that place is absolutely gorgeous, with a sick mountain back drop. Such a cool city and tons of awesome nature, in general many folks within the city seemed salty af, on the outskirts not as bad. | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Need some tips to improve my blowjobWtf this has to be a troll post 🤣 | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 07:15 PM |
| 9 | Which large US cities are the worst for pick up today in 2025?Haha Seattle has to be awful, bunch of miserable people | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 02:37 AM |
| 16 | What will happen if I start approaching daily?This, trial and error. You will fail, good, you learn from failure, gain courage from it, and if you're smart you'll learn more and hone your skills to be better each time | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys prefer a direct or indirect approach?Direct(ly) to my bed approach | /r/seduction | 20/10/25 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Do you think “confidence” is overrated in seduction?Being confident is the foundation to all of seduction... It allows you to be charming, funny, or whatever strengths you have. | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 05:54 PM |
| 1 | I think I am becoming a "Bad Boy"! 31MNever seeking validation from anyone conveys the #1 aphrodisiac for all women... Confidence Can be the hardest thing for men to achieve because that's really hard when you like a specific girl. If you don't seek validation you have to have the take it or leave it attitude...if you don't like who or what I am then I can't help that, but I'm not changing who I am to seek your validation. | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 12:56 PM |
| 2 | What are your tips for “talking with the eyes”?OK re-read what you said, I implied it differently my apologies | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 09:02 PM |
| 4 | What are your tips for “talking with the eyes”?I mean I agree get out in field etc but you are 100% false in saying that eye contact and body language aren't part of the basics, they are. | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Not Your Fucking Friend: A Guide to Breaking the Nice Guy MentalityOne PUA put it best, he said, he has lots of girls he calls friends, but if he wanted to escalate with most of them they'd engage. Why you ask? Attraction. Doesn't matter your intention or blah blah blah, it's attraction and emotion that wins every time. To put it another way, think of the model 10 girl you know, or know of, she has lots of guys she calls "friends" and she could escalate with most of them if she wanted to. She can because shes gorgeous. A guy can be that person if he has the qua… | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | How do I break the ice with pretty women at the gym?Yes I agree here, try to be social, and that will help bring familiarity rather than a cold approach at the gym which most women cringe at (they are already very self conscious at the gym). But if they recognize you and are familiar then you can begin to knock down their wall so to speak. From there it's escalation, playful banter, joking around and ultimately asking them out. Cold approach can work but it's a risky move and not very effective at the gym for a multitude of reasons (unless you ar… | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 01:05 PM |
| 2 | What’s the one book, seminar, video that gave you a good basic understanding of flirting and social skills/intelligence that you could build on?Yes I 100% agree on this, David Deangelo came up with the term "cocky funny". It resonated with me so much but it's a PUA style that won't be for everyone, but it will be for many. It's basically harnessing the two best qualities a man can have for a women, confidence and being funny. Now not everyone is funny, but anyone that wants to be good with women better be confident. It's the #1 aphrodisiac for all women. Anyways I loved the cocky funny technique, it resonates with me a ton and it 100% w… | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 07:14 AM |
| 3 | What are some signs that you are an attractive man?Actually this is alot more true than anyone thinks. If you ever want to know what it feels like to be a gorgeous woman in public (not in a good way, but in a disturbing everyone gawks at you way) go to a gay hub and you will 100% see lots of eyes on you, looking at you very differently. Man I feel terrible for gorgeous women, literally every creep and their brother cat calling them and giving them disturbing looks 24/7, that has to suck hard | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 12:38 AM |
| 1 | What are some signs that you are an attractive man?Did you just hit on me? So what are you doing this weekend? Netflix and chill??? | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 12:33 AM |
| 2 | What are some signs that you are an attractive man?Somewhat true, it's true girls will definitely lurk around you to make themselves noticed etc. but even an attractive guy has to initiate and lead the conversation. So that's not what no effort is, even an attractive guy has to put in effort. with that said it's effort in 'easy' mode, vs someone having to put a lot more work in | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 12:31 AM |
| 7 | What are some signs that you are an attractive man?This is true, however they will definitely look at you, vs them usually never looking at anyone and keeping their head down (mainly because their the ones getting gawked at most of the time). | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 12:26 AM |
| 106 | Why are hot girls easy to pick up than unattractive ones ?There is a lot of truth to this, this is why guys complain that a 6 girl has more of a chip on her shoulder, and therefore harder to hit on. It's because she been treated like anyone else her whole life, or as reply said, potentially been treated poorly. She has a chip on her shoulder based on those prior experiences, vs a beautiful girl has had her ass kissed since the summer she turned pretty. | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with shock on approachDelivery is everything, people say don't go direct, not true. It's not direct or indirect that guy's fail, it's their demeanor doing it. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Good on you for approaching OP, that takes guts, now keep doing it. The more you do it the more comfortable and better you get at it. Can't be nervous on the outside, okay to be on the inside, but everything on the outside should be tight and this happens through experience and failure. But through that experience and… | /r/seduction | 09/05/25 08:17 AM |
| 1 | So I (27M) have a friend from work (23F). Not sure what to think anymore, any advice?The best way to do this is not make it a big deal, the less you make it a big deal, the less she will and the less awkward it will be for both of you. Next time you're with her, joking around, whatever... "Ya know we should date, what are you doing Saturday night I know this really cool restaurant / bar I want to check out".... Now this will go two ways, either she'll be secretly excited you finally had the balls to say something, and say sure etc. ... OR she'll be taken back and say wait what, … | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 02:05 AM |
| 3 | What’s your single biggest most important “the one thing” that lead to a change in success?This x1000. So many times I ignored incompatibility and red flags because she was very pretty. I had nothing in common with her, but she was hot and I pushed through, those never worked. Also as the other commenter posted, it's being just as picky as they are. A pretty girl has choices, so does a high value man. So question is, how do you become a high value man... Start with self esteem and fixing that first (the hardest of all fixes because it takes alot of inner reflection) but self esteem le… | /r/seduction | 18/04/25 10:58 AM |
| 45 | Do the most gorgeous girls NEVER chase a guy?This is exactly it, they don't have to try very hard, nor do they need to be obvious. The most attractive girls get a ton of attention they don't necessarily want, but when they like someone they make themselves more "available". This goes for most girls actually, if you notice a girl lingering more than normal, or you're bumping into them more often. Sometime this is an indication that they like you, and they expect the man to take the lead and initiate the conversation and/or relationship. | /r/seduction | 17/04/25 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Girl pulled out last second feel like I fumbledAs being in OPs exact shoes many years ago now, 100% OP fumbled. I had same exact scenario, we went on a date had an awesome time all night, she really seemed to enjoy it, invited me back to her place, but me wanting to play it cool, because I really liked her, and didn't want to just hook up, politely decline and gave her a kiss goodbye. It never worked out after that. The lesson I took away from it, and now with my experience, women are hot and cold, and you almost always take advantage of whe… | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 09:08 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with "Boyfriend"And I have a dog, so what? | /r/seduction | 05/03/25 12:36 AM |
| 5 | Shot my shot at a lifeguard,Took an L. Do I look bad now?No who cares, every guy that's ever hit on a girl has taken an L, and some of the stories are way worse than here. First off great on you for starting a conversation with a girl. there are tons of guys that won't. you did, and each interaction you have with a girl gets a little easier and easier. why, because it becomes less and less unknown, the more conversations you have, the better you get at it. You're not going to click with every girl that you talk to, even if you have the best game in th… | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 09:42 PM |
| 86 | Fundamentals: The simple, crucial basicsExcellent bullet points I'd add... -Learn body language and how to carry yourself, learn strong eye contact! It's very underrated but very powerful | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 02:16 PM |
| 23 | Went out with a coworkerAgree, OP reached out and tried, she knows it. It's time to do your own thing OP and let her do her own thing. Unless she reciprocates, balls in her court now, you do you. | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 12:39 PM |
| 0 | How to be good in bed as a woman?As Daniel Tosh once said, just lie there and be hot 😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 05:26 PM |
| 4 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?This is common issue for men. Women make strong eye contact and then expect you to approach within a reasonable time. But if no action is taken you are automatically put into a different category (either she assumes you have a gf or you're not interested or you have no backbone) I've heard many pua's talk about how if a girl makes strong eye contact with you, you should approach within minutes. most men don't do this which is their downfall. You also have to understand approaching doesn't mean y… | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 01:51 PM |
| 10 | Are guys that work in porn good at pick up/game?Lol no | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 04:57 PM |
| -1 | What are your go to pick lines for approaching women irl or in dating appsExcuse me miss, Im gonna have to stop you right there and write you a ticket... Cause you got fiiiiine written all over you. | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 06:42 PM |
| 5 | Successful womanizer for years, now in healthy relationshipIt will get better with time assuming you mature, which not specific to you, many many men never mature. Later on you'll come to the realization that it was a phase, a fun phase, but you'll see that your life priorities change, not for the worse but life changes and we evolve. | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 09:04 PM |
| 11 | Did you ever get seduced by a women? And ls there a male personality type that gets more seduced than others?To piggy back this, as a man don't ever expect to get approached, it's just not how it's conventionally worked from an evolution standpoint. Not saying it doesn't happen I'm just saying don't ever expect it. To answer your question about what personality works best, I've come to the conclusion that being cocky is better than being shy no matter how you slice it. I can't stand a cocky guy, but there are always women that will mistake cocky for confidence (and vice versa of course). Shy hardly eve… | /r/seduction | 20/12/24 02:39 PM |
| 10 | How Attraction Works.Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac to all woman and while I agree that the word itself is way too generic because it's way more complex and simple then people realize. it's like trying to explain God in one word, again you're losing so much by simplifying an infinitely complex thing. With that said a simple Google search will show you a few things about what confidence consist of. and ultimately it's what people talk about when they they discuss inner game on this sub. what's inner game, well inne… | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 05:13 PM |
| 1 | How much does a great body help in attracting females?100% serious | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Plateaumean what you're saying is not wrong, I completely agree for a beginner, it absolutely isn't good advice, but at the end of the day, the advice I gave wasnt to give a dissertation on how to build self esteem and confidence. I was simply trying to summarize to the person, to give a quick overview of the end game. to actually achieve the end game is the hard part. I was simply pointing out that confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women, but it's not something that people just have, takes a lo… | /r/seduction | 16/11/24 03:16 AM |
| 2 | PlateauThe best example I can give for talking to a beautiful woman, is if you can go up to a woman and talk to her, in exactly the same way and manner that you would talk to your best friend, then you are doing better than 99% of men. It's that same mind numbing saying... just be yourself. there's no truer words ever said. Being yourself means your confident, you're not swayed by other people, you are who you are take it or leave it. You're not going to attract all people this way, cuz you're not goin… | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Should I approach women at my gym?Everything is, it's a totally different setting and mindset | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 08:49 PM |
| 8 | Should I approach women at my gym?I see a lot of terrible advice here especially people thinking that its okay to approach women at the gym, assuming it's not mid set etc. That's AWFUL Advice. I've talked to women about this, approaching women at the gym and it's mostly a No-No. women do not feel comfortable at the gym, they're sweaty, they feel gross, and they think they don't look good (even when they do). You are getting woman at their most vulnerable and least comfortable, which is never NEVER a good setting for approaching.… | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Stone face when talking to women I approach ?Playful teasing is always a good approach. Keep it light, fun, and not boring. Also helps you calm down a bit and reduce your nerves | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 02:48 AM |
| 25 | How to make women lust after you?It's as the reply seductive_allure said, carrying yourself means the confidence you have, it's all in your posture, your mannerisms, strong eye contact. all those nonverbal cues are so important to the way a man carries himself. The best example I can give from a fiction standpoint is James Bond. look how he carries himself, he's very confident, he's doesn't overreact, he's just cool, calm, and collective, but he's also charming and a ball buster (funny). You don't have to be James Bond, no one … | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 04:05 PM |
| 190 | How to make women lust after you?The piggyback and simplify even more. There are subtle differences between how women and men find the opposite sex attractive, there are many similarities as well. However there are two main distinct differences... Men are attracted to how women PRESENT themselves Women are attracted to how men CARRY themselves | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Nickname for your buddyLooking good Cinderella? | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 12:52 AM |
| -12 | What has your experience been with San Francisco?You mean far left womanazis aren't attractive, because most of them are miserable with resting bitchface!? Color me shocked | /r/seduction | 11/11/24 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Why am I terrified of approaching womanThis is great advice, OP needs social interaction, where he gets comfortable enough talking to strangers. can be anyone, the cashier, the old lady in the aisle, just have random conversations with people. OP should also start to talk to women that he's approaching, in a manner where he has no end goal. approach women you're not attracted to, again just for practice, get in social situations. The more you do it the more comfortable you'll get | /r/seduction | 05/11/24 04:17 AM |
| 1 | What are some of your go-to witty remarks?Are you autistic for not getting the joke? | /r/seduction | 04/11/24 01:49 PM |
| 19 | What are some of your go-to witty remarks?If your at a party walk up to a random stranger or a group and say. You: did you know that it's statistically proven, people who talk to themselves are more intelligent. Them: oh interesting You: I wasn't talking to you | /r/seduction | 02/11/24 04:18 AM |
| 6 | What does it mean when she says "I don't want to ruin our friendship"Yes completely agree with this reply... there's two issues going on here, the girl seems very immature and she'll learn her lesson the hard way and OP is not showcasing attractive traits that will get her to like him. Part of its her, part of its him. But agree, the kid is not OPs responsibility and as nice as you are to the kid you're probably doing the kid a disservice since the girl is just going to introduce some dbag and phase OP out. Create boundaries. Don't ignore the kid, be nice, but cr… | /r/seduction | 29/10/24 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible to clutch up in this friendzone situation?OP I hope you're listening to this guy's advice because it's spot on, everything he said in both replies. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 02:01 PM |
| -11 | The Most Underrated Way to Skyrocket Your Physical Attractiveness (Most Men Ignore This!)I skipped half the post because I was wasting so much time being a pussy about OPs post, wwaaaaa waaaa. How dare he waste my time with free advice, waaaa waaaa. Fu**ing baby | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 01:28 PM |
| -11 | The Most Underrated Way to Skyrocket Your Physical Attractiveness (Most Men Ignore This!)That is fu**ing rude a#@hole! | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 01:25 PM |
| -13 | The Most Underrated Way to Skyrocket Your Physical Attractiveness (Most Men Ignore This!)No matter what anyone posts, no matter how helpful, there's always people that whine and cry about how or what is said. People literally find a reason to whine about anything. If you don't like it, don't fu**ing read it. Simple | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 12:04 PM |
| 9 | She invited me to her house, how do I escalate ?It's so hard to tell people not to overthink, because reality is we've all been there at one point or another. But to piggyback some of the good advice here is enjoy the moment, not the outcome. What does that mean? You take all the fun out of everything by being outcome dependant.... Aka I have to get laid, this means Im getting laid! No no no, what many men fail to do on that situation is by focusing so much on having sex, you take all the fun out of the lead up to it. This alot of times makes… | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 06:30 PM |
| 1 | What are some ways to appear taller as someone who is 5’ 6-3/4”?Yeah that's actually a very good point if you have extra fat get rid of the fat first, but you always want to be adding muscle, muscle burns fat so it's sort of doing both, don't just go lean to go lean you want to add muscle always | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 07:23 PM |
| 4 | What are some ways to appear taller as someone who is 5’ 6-3/4”?For any guys always go bulk, most guys will never get to the amount of bulk a girl will no longer be attracted to. So unless you start to look as big as the Rock, get big and keep putting on muscle. This whole thing where people say girls don't like guys with too much muscle is bullshit, girls absolutely love muscle and big guys, again they don't like guys that look steroid big, 99% of guys will never get there so GET SWOLE! | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 03:55 PM |
| 0 | How do you guys handle girls fishing for drinks?This is 100% gold... I should buy you a drink? I'm sorry this is the 21st century, we are beyond old dated social norms, and what happened to women empowerment, shouldn't you be buying me a drink? (all said with a sarcastic smirk on your face) | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 03:05 AM |
| 0 | How do you guys handle girls fishing for drinks?This is 100% gold... I should buy you a drink??? I'm sorry what happened to womens empowerment, this is the 21st century you should be buying me a drink! | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 03:02 AM |
| 18 | Has your views changed since learning gameExcellent reply and spot on, love the points about qualifying. Many men have a very tough time grasping the fact, that just like a beautiful woman, who has many options and many suitors who'd gladly love the chance to date her...she has the upper hand in the fact she can qualify all men who approach her, which allows her to be very picky about who she dates. Well the same goes for men who are great at seduction, you get to the point that, it's not enough that she's beautiful, what else does she … | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 01:02 PM |
| 10 | Has your views changed since learning gameOh here we go with the misogynistic bullshit, I can't stand this shit. People say why is it okay for a man to sleep with 10 women but not okay for woman to sleep with 10 men. Because the game is different for both sexes that's why. It's evolution not any misogynistic bullshit that people love to throw out there. It's no more misogynistic than saying a man can't breast feed, it's called biology bozos, the sexes are different, fact of life | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 12:42 PM |
| 17 | How do I stop being a pu**y?Excellent advice, I'll piggy back and say if you need to start even smaller just start interacting with total strangers at random, doesn't have to be a girl, anyone and everyone. Do so in public, at the gas station or super market, wherever. This small talk is so critical in gaming because it conditions you to talk to complete strangers by learning improv, just come up with random shit to say to people. The more you do it, the more you get good at it. Then you elevate and make them laugh or get … | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 02:49 AM |
| 3 | What are your favorite openersExcuse me miss, I'm gonna have to write you up for a ticket, cause you got FINE written ALL over you | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 11:12 AM |
| 29 | Are girls built this way?This is very well said. The most important thing is attraction. Men chase girls they're attracted to, they put little to no effort into girls they're not attracted to. Smse goes for women, the game is different for them but both have one very important commonality between them ATTRACTION. If you're a guy thats attractive (and not just looks), attraction can be confidence, funny, charming. But as this reply said, it's the game. Girls put more effort into guys they're attracted to. And guess what … | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 03:46 AM |
| 5 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...I do agree that what he is saying is advanced but honestly excellent advice. The key is small talk, if you are inexperienced just do small talk with ANYONE and EVERYONE. Doesn't matter who, grandma in the market, old dude at the convenient store, WHOEVER. You see what this does is applies to what this replier was getting at, it's just being free and being you. If you do small talk with everyone you become so good at it that you can do it with cute girls no problem, why, becsuse the attitude is, … | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 03:38 AM |
| 4 | Break down deadbeat/hobosexual game for meI think the part your missing is acceptance. Dude not everyone is Brad Pitt, tall as a basketball player, and as charming as James Bond. Part of building self esteem is accepting you're not perfect, accepting you have faults, but doing your damn best to get better each day, improve a little each day. What 1 or 2 little things are you doing each day to be better tomorrow... If you say I'm not, then you have no one to blame but yourself. This religious saying is so true no matter what faith you fo… | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 07:23 PM |
| 7 | Girl has me wrapped around her fingerSadly this is true, guys become too emotionally invested too soon. Mainly because of the difference in sex's, men are the pursuers so they are the ones approaching and going after, women are used to this and are used to having multiple guys pursuing them at once (the world doesn't revolve around you, shocking I know). That is why many pua's talk about how detrimental one girl itus can be, it can kill your game and make you feel like you have no control, like the women here seems to be in control… | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 01:39 PM |
| 1 | As a 5'9 guy what are some good flirty replies I can use against girls?Haha defeatist attitude perseveres. You sound like a miserable cynic dude, and because of that you've already lost. Just 14% of men are 6ft+, looks like 86% of men are sol then, go join a monastery. | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 12:11 PM |
| 2 | It's okay for a man to cry?Let the flood gates fly open 😭😭😭😜 | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 02:57 AM |
| 32 | Why do girls(Early 20s) repel a kind and caring person and go for the oppositeThis answer should be read by everyone on this thread, because there are some poor answers, including one that says most nice guys aren't actually nice. Yea I get it, there are some insincere men that pretend to be nice to get in a girls pants, but that's irrelevant, since there some nice gentleman guys, that just aren't good with women, and this is why 'Daygame code' answer is the one. Girls don't want a nice guy, they want a strong man that is confident in what he does, but at the end of the d… | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 12:21 PM |
| 1 | How to reply to this commentLighthearted response... "Oh wow they must be really cool", said with a grin on your face | /r/seduction | 29/06/24 10:46 AM |
| 7 | Does anyone approach at the gym?This is a very good answer. Many here are absolutely right, gyms are a no no zone. However there are scenarios where there are signs of interest. I never initiate or approach at gym, but there have been scenarios where a girl has checked me out more than once, or while walking to and from she makes it point to say hi. In those cases I'd approach, but not while she's working out. Always outside the gym or while she's not preoccupied during a workout, like in the lobby or whatever. If there are IO… | /r/seduction | 29/06/24 10:41 AM |
| 2 | What have you learned so far and why are you here? (Guys)Yes 100%, need a lot of reps, it's like working out, keeping doing it, the stronger you'll get, even in the beginning when you think it's not working | /r/seduction | 22/06/24 09:36 PM |
| 2 | What have you learned so far and why are you here? (Guys)That's fair, which is why many people on seduction say to work on themselves above all else. No one gains confidence over night, its done through inner reflection, working on themselves to be better, more open minded, and build strong self esteem. I see alot of guys on this sub with poor self esteem wonder why they're struggling with women, well, when confidence is one of the main ingredients to being attractive, and you have poor self esteem, you don't stand a chance before you even say hi. Wor… | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 12:51 PM |
| 24 | What have you learned so far and why are you here? (Guys)Can i offer some advice on approaching? The best seduction come from guys who don't approach, they just live. Wtf is this guy even saying? What I mean is, approach every interaction with zero pressure on yourself to think of this as some big event to talk to this super cute girl, that you'd love to marry one day she's so cute. No no no no, you need to go into ever interaction with the attitude this girl is cute, let's make sure her personality doesn't suck. Then let yourself build the attraction… | /r/seduction | 19/06/24 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Baisc seduction without being creepThere is a ton of truth to this post and it's exactly how many men (who are true good people and not creeps) should think. Let me spin this another way, do you know how many women Ive talk to, who were really gorgeous, absolutely sucked personality wise? Alot! One of the gravest mistakes, I made when young, was picturing these beautiful women, like they're some Boy meets world Topanga. Just super cute and super nice and fun to hang out. News flash MANY ARE NOT, and alot of them downright suck tb… | /r/seduction | 16/06/24 02:04 AM |
| 2 | How did this convo with an actress/model go?This is excellent advice. I concur 100%. This is alot to take in for OP, so if I could give a good example of this, James Bond (Daniel Craig). If you watch his demeanor around women, he is very sure of himself, almost cocky. He never looks for reassurance from a women, because he is so sure of himself already, he doesn't need their validation. Now you don't need to be James Bond to get girls, I'm just giving you an example. I am not James Bond, I'm much more of a joker, so I use my strengths to … | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 01:36 PM |
| 60 | How did this convo with an actress/model go?The key to dating, especially in the intitial phase is to maintain frame. You said what you said, move on, don't over think, don't ask yourself, a hundred different ways you think she interpreted the message. Who cares, nobody, be fun, be cool, act no different around her next time you see her. What ever worked that got her giving you ioi's from your prior engagements, keep doing! Maintain frame and never look for for reassurance from anyone, be who you are and own it. | /r/seduction | 09/06/24 09:18 PM |
| 1 | After sex increase attractionStart by not looking for validation, it reeks desperation and non-confidence. Immediately after sex, asking how was I is lame, or how did you like it? After sex just say that was amazing, you're beautiful and snuggle with her if she wants to. But don't seek validation ever | /r/seduction | 09/06/24 07:37 PM |
| 16 | Would you guys date a high body count woman?I'd definitely proceed with caution, red flag imo, but I'm also not one to judge other people's business so Id just be careful and tread lightly | /r/seduction | 07/05/24 01:12 PM |
| 2 | How do I finally drop the soft nice guy personality and become a bad boy?I think there's a lot of misinterpretation with the term nice guy, nice guys are associated with the guy who pretends to be nice, but really isn't. they're only nice because they're trying to get into the girl's pants. That's a fake nice guy. Guys that put up a front just to get what they want. As for being a sexy nice guy, think Bond, yes this is an over dramatized example, but a good example nonetheless. Bond is a bad ass, but a gentlemen too. He will stand up for you and not back down, all wh… | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 09:43 PM |
| 0 | What to do when a girl says she has a boyfriendThis is the response | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Eastern Europe is so much better for dating than the west it’s crazyAs an American myself, I find the vast majority of women difficult to talk to at first. Many of them are very standoffish, but let me caveat, in the beginning, once you break through that you'll see that front go away and they can be quite open and sweet. The key is to get past that initial wall they put up. And in this day and age do you really blame them for putting up that wall? I mean just look at the amount of creeps out there and you'll understand | /r/seduction | 21/09/23 12:29 AM |
| 5 | Do men find straightforward and assertive women seductive?Depends on the man really, some guys wants to be the assertive one, but many men will love a girls attention especially if she's outgoing and friendly and even flirty. Really depends on the guy, but in seduction I've always maintained be who you are and don't deviate. Meaning just because a guy and/or girl is cute doesn't mean you'll have anything in common with them. So if you're a girl who's assertive, and outgoing... Absolutely be assertive and outgoing, don't change who you are just because … | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 12:26 PM |
| -1 | Approaching is normal and so many men are doing itQuit victimhood mentality? You mean 90% of reddit? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/seduction | 31/05/23 06:52 PM |
| 80 | If you lack self-confidence - try thisVery good advice, can't work on girls if you aren't working on yourself. The number 1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence, work on yourself and the next part is easy | /r/seduction | 10/04/23 02:06 PM |
| 1 | How do I get a idgaf attitude?People go their whole life worried about what other people think of them, only to realize that everyone is too consumed in their own head to really give a shit about anyone but themselves. Be you, do you, no fucks given... Literally have nothing to lose because people really don't care. | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 11:31 AM |
| 24 | Great Date, No Text Back (M)This is the advice I needed, thanks man. I gotta stop myself from self cockblocking. Definitely too much in my head and just need to chill a bit. Very much appreciated. | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 03:17 AM |
| 7 | Any advice on how to avoid the "i just didn't feel the spark"Yep, it's difficult for sure but imo the most important thing is to focus on the process and not on the end result. This way you will let loose "easier" and then you can "demonstrate" your personality more. Also, op, you can be lacking in the flirting department. Imo teasing is the heart and soul of flirting - obviously don't overdo it but girls like challenge. I am not talking about insulting the girl but busting her "balls" as you would with your best buddies. Also, try holding eye contact few… | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Not sure how to utilize my personality for good resultsDude everyone's in their own head. Of course there are nerves but as you said the more you practice and more you put yourself out there the easier it gets. Every approach guys are nervous most times, that's okay, stick to just trying to have fun, stay in the moment and not try too hard to be cool or act cool. If you're a nerd own it, it you're a jock, own it, just be you. When going out girls wont care what type of person you are if you're making them feel good and have fun. That's all they want… | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Not sure how to utilize my personality for good resultsConfidence can be had in all personality types. Biggest misunderstanding when it comes to men trying to date women. Like they have to change who they are to get a girl. No the opposite, be the best you. Confidence is being yourself and not apologizing for it. Being smart and intelligent doesn't mean girls will like you. Girls don't give two shits if you memorized the encyclopedia. When it comes to girls and mating, have fun. The intellectual stuff is boring (upfront), it's not fun. There is a ti… | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Confusion and Rant!You actually bring up a lot of good points and completely agree with you, never never change who you are just to get in a girl's pants. Meaning just because the girls cute doesn't mean you should ignore the fact you have zero compatibility with her. I remember being young and totally oblivious to the fact that you need to have compatibility with a girl to truly think there might be anything there. I would ignore this when I was young, and just be blinded by the fact I thought they were sooooo cu… | /r/seduction | 05/09/22 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Confusion and Rant!The problem is you're trying too hard to be someone you're not. The fact it's a group vs 1 on 1 should be irrelevant, either situation is irrelevant since you don't change who you are depending on the scenario you're in. Meaning you should be exactly the same 1 on 1 that you are in a group. Stop trying to be funny every minute, stop trying too hard to put your best foot forward when 1 on 1. Just be you. Now then you go on to say, when it's just you 1 v 1, girls find you boring. You want to talk … | /r/seduction | 04/09/22 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Could this be the reason women say they want nice guys?Here's the skinny, despite all the nonsense on the subject girls do in fact want a nice guy. However despite what you read and hear on reddit defining what nice really means is the important factor. Girls don't want a nice guy that is only being nice to get in their pants, that's insincere. Girls want a confident, strong, funny guy that is also a gentleman when it counts. They don't want some fake loser being nice to them because all the guy wants to do is screw then screw. Girls want a strong m… | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 02:25 PM |
| 4 | Does anyone else have to get absolutely shithoused to do well at bars/clubs?This is fairly common, most guys are much more comfortable and outgoing when theyve had a few. To answer your question it is a crutch and no alcohol won't make you better when talking to girls sober. Only way to improve sober is to practice sober. But start small if uncomfortable, don't need to conquer Rome in a day. The key to seduction is learning to become your best self and totally you when talking to girls. This takes practice, I equate it to working out. No one gets a six pack working out … | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 10:37 AM |
| 21 | I see people here saying women are rooting for you, just approach. But ive also seen the darker side of women. Some women i approached used me to brag in their social circle in a negative way. One woman even said to me ‘not if my life depended on it”Exactly goes both ways, guess what there are assholes on both sides! Weed them out and find the good ones. An insecure whiny b, is exactly that, insecure and whiny. why would you want to even spend 20 seconds thinking about them, deflect and move on | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 12:23 PM |
| 4 | How do I turn a platonic conversation into a flirty one?Don't underate this comment. It's not what you say it's how you say it. Flirting is subtle, but if done the right way it make you very attractive. You see as 'silent recipe' said its all about body language and eye contact... Learn the art and learn it well. Heck guys who gaze directly into a girl's eye during an otherwise bland conversation can be very attractive just by maintaining strong eye contact (projects confidence). Go to the side bar, many good examples of how to carry yourself and giv… | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 02:59 AM |
| 2 | I need helpAs others have said and will say on this sub...you can't just read books to tell you how to experience life. You're overwhelmed because there's alot of advice, but being able to tell the good advice from the bad on here is to go out and learn on your own. This sub is excellent in alot of ways but until you go out there and experience it yourself you're never going to learn.... Read...go out in the field... Read more... Go out in the field... Read...go out in the field. Rinse and repeat You fall,… | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 02:43 AM |
| 3 | I have rule - I ask girl out only one time and never ever again - is that good?Let me be more clear, I'm with you in the sense that if she never responded or got back to you on the 1st attempt then a 2nd attempt is not worth it. However in the OPs example some of the girls did reciprocate and responded but for whatever reason couldn't make the date or whatever. If the girl is showing any interest absolutely follow up. But I'm with you, asking a 2nd time as if she somehow missed the 1st attempt or came up with an excuse with little to no follow up, then yes don't bother in … | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 04:00 PM |
| 21 | I have rule - I ask girl out only one time and never ever again - is that good?It's a fine line between the two. You don't want to zero in on one girl but you also don't want to give up after one shot. People are busy and have busy lives, can't assume they drop everything for a date with you. If you get the girl reciprocating don't ignore them, follow up, they are atleast showing some interest. You as the man will have to take the lead and set up a time to meet, don't ever expect the girl to ask you out, ever. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 12:47 PM |
| 9 | I am probably going to permanently give up on dating. It just isn't in the cards for me. Maybe in the next life.I see alot of these posts and I get it, but guys who post this need to start at square one, which is the foundation of all seduction.. Self esteem, self worth... If you don't have this then forget any advice anything about this sub. Without self esteem and confidence you are toast when it comes to women. But there's hope... Try books like the Six pillars of self esteem and how to make friends and influence people. You hear guys say all the time on this sub, start with your self first, work that … | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 03:22 AM |
| 4 | I think I read too much of this shit and its caused me to way overthink things.I had exactly this issue, everyone I talked to, everyone I interacted with, I acted as if everyone was judging my every move, every word. It made me insanely insecure and the crazy thing was it seemingly came out of no where. I was confident and social but all of a sudden I became hyper focused on thinking people were judging me until I realized one thing... That I was right, everyone judges you, only what I failed to realize is, they judge you for like 3 seconds, until their mind takes over and… | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 03:49 PM |
| 0 | How do I flirt with a coworker?Here's an excellent video on flirting... https://youtu.be/8NalcOPBXvs | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 12:51 PM |
| 10 | How do I flirt with a coworker?I think what most people miss about seduction is that you can flirt with almost any girl without it being obvious to anyone, including the girl you're flirting with. Now before you say, no but I want the girl to know I'm flirting! Seduction is about the way a man carries himself, strong eye contact, confident, fun/funny, strong male body language. Heck just by giving amazing eye contact a girl can instantly become attracted. You see Seduction is about carrying yourself in a way that is almost al… | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 12:35 PM |
| 4 | How to approach girls on the gym?No its not you, women do not look at the gym as a place to meet guys. As the reply said, women go to the gym to get in shape, to look better. Many women are very insecure at the gym, they feel sweaty, gross, and surrounded by other women they think are hotter. It's just not a good spot to meet them as they are way too vulnerable. Women are way more comfortable when they are done up, nice dress, make up, hair done. At the gym they are none of that and that is not good for any guy to approach. Bes… | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 03:10 AM |
| 13 | How do older dudes, in their 40s, even those who aren't rich, attract pretty young girls, like in their 20s? Serious question, no BS.As a 40 year old myself who attracts his fair share of women it comes down to a good combination of... Confidence af, style, athleticism, hygiene, swag, and did I mention confidence? The #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence. My 25 year old self was insecure and still discovering himself. At 40 I am who I am, I don't give two shits what you think. I'm cool af and if you're not cool with that, cool. It's knowing how the work social cues, give excellent eye contact, have exceptional body lang… | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Men showing emotionDepends on the stage of the relationship, in the first 3 months hell no, that's weak and needy and a huge turn off for women. later on when you two get to know eachother more, sure go ahead and ball your eyes out | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 03:22 PM |
| 1 | What do I say now?He's right, you have nothing to lose sure but there's 2% chance she responds. In fact I wouldn't because the reply is right, you made the move and balls in her court. If she didn't get back it doesn't mean she missed it, it means she can't be bothered right now. Wait it out and see if she finally responds. Do not keep messaging her, it reeks desperation and you'll push her even further away. I'd move on and keep approaching and putting yourself out there, if she finally replies great, but I woul… | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 05:50 PM |
| 1 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at allVery good advice and well said | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 05:46 PM |
| 3 | I think I am a "Nice Guy", what can I do?Excellent reply and absolutely spot on, this guy gets it (speaking as a former "nice guy" turned confident man) | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 03:44 PM |
| 2 | After being convinced looks don't matter (much), I've gone full circleCouple points...why are men bent out of shape that looks matter? How do you think women feel? So stop whining you're not 6'4, the same can be said about a girl with a small chest. It is what it is, I do know one thing, I'd rather talk to a fun girl who's a blast to be around, that has a small chest. Than some cute high maintenence girl who annoying but has huge boobs. Yea so sure looks matter, but they matter way more for women than men. I'm not saying that looking good, good hygiene, well dress… | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 02:12 AM |
| 1 | A lot of people here downplay importance of physical attractivenessUm actually yes and no. Take a bald shorter fairly attractive guy, who dresses well, is funny and charming. That person will run circles around a better looking guy who has less style and zero game. Now there are limits to this obviously and obviously looks matter. But so does personality, so does style, so does the way a guy carries himself. All those factor, I've seen many attractive girls with guys that are so so, but confidence is sexy and that is what women are attracted to most. | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 09:18 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop girls from assuming I'm just a player?This is the way | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 07:00 PM |
| 10 | Advice on how to approach a girl at the gym 🙏🏻Agree here, the gym is super super hard for a few reasons... A. Girls feel gross and sweaty, they are not at their best (in their perspective even though you think they look hot af) anyways getting a girl vulnerable like that makes it hard for guys to approach with any success. Girls are used to being dolled up, makeup, pretty dress. Not sweaty and gross working out. B. Girls are significantly out numbered at a gym most times, like atleast 2 to 1, I know it varies but any cute girl is used to ge… | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Seduction "culture" has ruined many interactions with girlsI agree and disagree, I love openers to break the ice, things that work that just take the nerves off of you, as you get more comfortable talking. However after the opener, have a conversation, be real, be yourself. | /r/seduction | 25/02/22 02:40 PM |
| -1 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeI hate that argument, people will argue the 2nd you approach a girl the mystery is up, it says to her you like her which is total bullshit. Sure you're interested but nothing more, leave mystery for good push and pull | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 03:21 PM |
| 7 | Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the timeEhhh, mixed on this approach. Though I'm not dead set against a super direct approach like this, it sort of takes the mystery out of... Does he like me does he like me not. Still there are more than one way to skin a cat and that is certainly the case with approaching. The key in whatever approach you take is to be confident in what you say and how you say it. Girls find a super sure of himself guy undeniably sexy... It exudes confidence which is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 02:19 PM |
| 1 | I love attention from men when I feel lonely. Anybody else using this as a coping mechanism ?Yea I see both sides here. To me there is zero harm in flirting with the opposite sex, in many cases its totally harmless and fun. The problem is if it's consistent enough it can lead you down the wrong path. I'm a big flirt but have a good head on my shoulders so I'd never act on it. To me zero harm in flirting, but like I said there's always those that take it to the next level. To me it's totally natural for a woman to feel wanted, it's a huge reason women leave their SO's, because theyre not… | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 02:42 PM |
| 2 | How do I not give up hope after each rejection?It's this self defeating attitude that f's you. You can sit there and bitch about this and bitch about that or you can work with what yuu have and be your best self. Your best self doesn't sit there and cry about being ugly and not having what the next guy does. How the f do you think ugly girls feel? You think there's only ugly guys out there? Give me break dude. Of course not everyone is Brad Pitt, not every girl is Jennifer Anniston. People that work for their best self, work on their insecur… | /r/seduction | 05/02/22 09:31 PM |
| 1 | How do I not give up hope after each rejection?Great reply and well put! | /r/seduction | 04/02/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | How do I not give up hope after each rejection?I mean I get where you're going but don't let anyone fool you, crying to a girl is NOT ATTRACTIVE. I'm not saying lie to yourself and say men shouldn't cry blah blah, we all do, but there is a time and a place. Cry to your mom, not to some girl you like. In just a your two replies alone I can tell why girls don't find you attractive. Don't let all the BS in the media fool you, girl still want a man to be a man. Men lead, men make the first move, it's as simple as that. Men aren't beta, a confide… | /r/seduction | 04/02/22 02:29 PM |
| 7 | How do I not give up hope after each rejection?Case in point, OP posts a question then doesn't follow up with any of the answers people give. This is why people quit and give up easily, just proves most people are lazy. No one wants to put in the effort, give me the short cut, if I don't get what I want I give up | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 10:20 PM |
| 18 | How do I not give up hope after each rejection?It's really tough to answer this question because I really don't know who you are. you say you like attractive women, Yea no shit we all do. But if you're overweight, out of shape, dress marginally, and have average hygiene, you're not going to get a super cute looking girl. I think many men on this sub have a tough time being introspective of who they are and how attractive they are to the opposite sex. Back when I was much younger, I had that same delusion. Looking Back Now, on my older self, … | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 08:43 PM |
| 3 | I’m 23 years old and have wasted my life….I had a similar story to yours except insert zero girlfriends. I was a 23yr old loser stoner, smoking 5 times a day. You think at 23 you were supposed to do so much and have experienced so much and the fact is you are still so young and most people your age have no clue wtf they're doing the rest of your lives. most people are still so insecure about themselves at 23. Even people who think they know what they're gonna do change their mind by 30. Keys to success are, work on yourself, take steps … | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Went on 3 dates with a 10/10: My experience (so far)Sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, btw that comment she made is another shit test. Shouldn't have even entertained it, you either say, I have no idea what youre talking about and tell you have no time for this or you say Yea so I'm a man if thats a problem then I don't know what to say, either way youre not being defensive at all about her petty shit test | /r/seduction | 15/01/22 02:08 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]I can't stress this point enough. If your intent is to only get girls you're missing the point. Girls attract to guys who live their best self, they don't attract to guys trying to play games so they can do whatever they can to hook up. If you improve on yourself, build confidence, self esteem, and self worth... you won't have to do anything much because girls will naturally be attracted to you. | /r/seduction | 14/01/22 03:17 PM |
| 4 | I've been ripping off song lyrics to get numbersTrue, but you're gonna get girls who have no clue what you're saying... And that doesn't matter because it's all how you deliver it | /r/seduction | 11/01/22 09:54 PM |
| 7 | I've been ripping off song lyrics to get numbersThis gets into the whole topic of... It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Check the boxes below... Eye contact Confident in what you say have fun saying it Eye contact | /r/seduction | 11/01/22 09:15 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]I guess it depends on ones perspective. Your point is valid if all anyone's end game is always sex. And sure I get it some guys go that route, but to me that route is shallow and not very fulfilling. I like creating relationships with lots of people, I get a bigger pick of better people to hang out with, while filtering out the people not worth my time. Cold approaching sucks and more inefficient imo, it's attracts flaky people who flake in and out of your life and create little to no lasting re… | /r/seduction | 21/12/21 09:57 PM |
| 83 | [deleted by user]This is the biggest misconception in seduction, that if I get to know a girl first, or become friends with a girl first I will be friend zoned and she won't ever be attracted to me like I am to her. Let me give u an example, most of us have that cute girl thats just a friend right. Her attraction doesn't go away just because you're friends right? What if I told you guys can also be that to girls! I heard a PUA said it best when asked why he has so many friends as girls, he said because girls hav… | /r/seduction | 21/12/21 04:53 PM |
| 6 | Whats the best way to ask a girl out right after class?I mean this is a bit harsh, I remember being this age and DOING THE SAME THING! Now I will say he's right, you just have to man up and not over think. A couple things are is to isolate her after class and just come out with it... SIMPLE. and when I say simple don't say, oh I think you're really cute, oh you seem really fun... No no, not needed. The best way to ask a girl out is to do it casually... Hey I'm headed to such and such this weekend, do you want to join me? Now this does a couple thing… | /r/seduction | 08/12/21 11:56 PM |
| 3 | I feel like i cant be sexyAs others have mentioned confidence goes a long way. Look at alot of the PUAs, they are not all that attractive... Heck alot aren't even that fit... But they're confident af, dress well, have style, have that it factor that separates them from the next guy. Work on bettering yourself, being your best self. read models by Mark Manson, good start. Looks aren't nearly as important for men as they are women. For men it's all how you carry yourself | /r/seduction | 27/10/21 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Is it hot for a man to be shy, insecure and vulnerable?No dude trust me when I tell you, the #1 sexiest thing a man can do is portray confidence. It's the key to getting women, what OP said is the EXACT opposite of confidence | /r/seduction | 22/10/21 12:22 PM |
| 15 | Just Can't make myself cold approachStop thinking of it as cold approaching and start thinking of it as a chance to have a conversation with a stranger. You are putting too much pressure on yourself to number close or get her interested. Cold approaching is good in a sense that it helps you talk to total strangers in general. Practicing small talk is an art and the better you get at it the more people attract. Don't over think things, just start a conversation, that's it. Cold approaching is super super hard, so stop playing it as… | /r/seduction | 21/10/21 12:23 PM |
| 2 | Is it hot for a man to be shy, insecure and vulnerable?Lol exactly, this is actually the COMPLETE opposite... If you literally want to repel girls do what OP said | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 12:22 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]This You absolutely have to talk to her. Girls will give hints but they won't approach 99% of time, that's for the male to do. Trust me I learned from my own mistakes, and as hard as it is you need to initiate the conversation. All is not lost, she showed interest so that's very positive. now it's up to you to go talk to her. But stop making this a bigger deal than it is. You see guys tend to fall for a girl right away... Oh she's so cute, she's so beautiful, she looks so sweet..... STOP AND CHE… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 02:33 AM |
| 7 | If You Hate Women...LMAO wtf did I just read, dude no offense you sound sort of psychopath. How bout stop treating women like objects or like aliens and treat them like human beings with thoughts and feelings just like us, but in biologically different ways | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 02:01 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Haha, true good point in parenthesis This dude clearly doesn't know the concept of quality over quantity | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 03:12 PM |
| 4 | Girl in my classDo you have any opportunity to walk by her art and compliment on it, good conversation starter and gets you talking to her, everyone loves a compliment of work they put into something | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 12:42 PM |
| 7 | How to approach girls indirectly (from art of seduction)I mean it's as simple as that, guys over think this far too often. Stop walking up to every attractive girl and act like they're a potential marriage partner. Instead change your mind set and walk up to every girl just to see how they're like, if you have some sort of common interest and if they're cool or not. Stop listening to guys that say if I don't have intention I risk being friend zoned. Attraction doesn't go away, a PUA said it best when asked why do have so many friends as girls aren't … | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 01:47 PM |
| 37 | Can confidence hide inexperience or does it always seep out?Always maintain frame, you hear the word fake it till you make it? Not saying to be fake but believe in yourself even if you suck at dancing or if you're a virgin, whatever. A girl worth being with isn't gonna give two shits about how good a dancer you are, or how great you are in bed, or how many girls you've slept with... Girls fly off their emotions and those emotions change quickly, sometimes from super hot to ice cold depending on their experience in the moment. So the key is STAY IN THE MO… | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Fk help me with approach anxiety it's killing me ;(You have your answer in what you said, stop having any intention! Your game should flow the same in every interaction you have. whether it's a soccer mom or a hot college girl your game stays the same, that's called frame. You never let frame be impacted by outside presence, for example some douche walks up pounding his chest trying to impress some girl in front of you... Your frame doesn't change, you don't let that impact you, always maintain frame. Same goes with an average girl or a hot girl… | /r/seduction | 12/09/21 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Does she still have an interest in me?I mean it's not an idea situation but not the end of the world either, at the end of the day seduction is about building attraction, with friends there or not you can always build attraction. Have fun and remember to always act in front of girls you like in the same manner as you would your friends... Don't try to be this, don't try to be that, just be cool and fun and girls will naturally attract | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 11:39 AM |
| 2 | How do you not ruin things with a girl that has a crush on you ?Some girls are way more out going than others, some girls love to fish for attention from guys. Whether admitted or not every sex likes to have their ego stroked every now and then. You did the right thing in all honesty, best thing you can do is strug it off and act no different around her the next time you see. I think that's the biggest struggle with guys, too many guys would get turned down and then they act all awkward the next time they see her, this absolutely ruins your future chances. b… | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 09:19 PM |
| 5 | DO NOT TAKE APPROACH ADVICE FROM SUBS LIKE r/askwomenWise words grandpa wise words! This is true times a thousand, especially with women and relationship advice. Cant ask for a logical answer based on what is an emotional response. | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 12:11 PM |
| 12 | How to not lose frame when a dude is flirting with a girl in your groupDevout or not girls like attention and like to be approached. Don't ever wait for a girl to give you more signs or approach you. You need to initiate, you need to approach and start the flirting. I wouldnt interrupt a guy flirting with a girl you're with, that can backfire in more ways than one. The key to girls is maintaining frame and value. Never be afraid to approach other girls outside your group of friends, it shows you go out to just have fun. it's not like you're taking all the girls hom… | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 08:13 PM |
| 29 | This sub is probably cock-blocking youI mean I get what OP is saying and there's alot of truth to that. However I know a ton of guys who hit on everything that walks and they are completely clueless with women. So to counter you I disagree that guys don't need this sub. This sub is filled with tons of great advice when applied correctly. With that said this advice is useless if you aren't learning it and applying it in the field. Life is absolutely about studying, but not all about studying. Read, learn, practice in field... Rinse a… | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 03:12 AM |
| 1 | How do i respond?Ask her when she's feeling better, after whatever Arson activity she does on the side, if she's free to go out Friday night | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 05:48 PM |
| 16 | What self improvement are you into?For most of seduction I recommend two main areas of focus. Self Esteem, the greatest aphrodisiac for all women is confidence, if you don't have you struggle with women gaurenteed. I see many men on here with zero self esteem and it's killing their chances. There's plenty of self help books to build self esteem, like the 'six pillars of self esteem'. Self esteem is alot like working out, the dividends don't pay off for some time, but over time you'll begin to realize progress. Exercise, this is a… | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Just got rejected 12x in a row at the mallGood for you for trying, that can be the hardest part and many guys are terrified to approach so that's great you did. Now use the side bar and find out what went well and what didn't. Take mental notes for each approach and remember things like, oh she smiled when I did this, or she frowned when I did that... Each time you can improve on the things that seem to work and omit things that don't. Each approach you can learn and many times I've learned more from failing than I did from successes. K… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Being a straight up perv on the street?Haha some moron downvoted this, typically women are awful when giving advice to guys, but this is no where near that case. This is 100% true, never ever comment on a girl's beauty in any way. It's too direct imo and a good looking girl has been told she's beautiful 1000 times. What's not as common is commenting on her outfit, shoes, or hair. My favorite is hair actually because girls spend alot of time on their hair, and when someone says a nice thing about something you put time and effort into… | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 12:20 PM |
| 4 | Big problem with my EGOI forget the terminology of what youre doing but youre putting false future assumptions on events that never happened. when in reality you don't know any girl and who or what they really are until you start talking to them and get to know them. As with anything in life you can approach things negatively or you can approach them positively. If you approach things negative you'll remember and weigh more heavily the negative outcomes with girls, if you approach them positively you remember and weig… | /r/seduction | 03/07/21 01:27 PM |
| 3 | Crushing on a work colleague? Pursue it or drop it?I'm one of these against that rule. People find love in all places and work place happens to be one of the more common. Forget soft rules (outside of a hard company rules... Like direct boss of course or any other HR rule that might completely screw with your career) I say pursue for the sake of what could be a great match. like you said not like you'll be working closely together. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Is it a widely accepted and commonly held belief that men don't commonly give oral sex? Would most women I guess say that in your experience?Why do you keep asking vagina based questions on all different subs, get lost tool | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 03:54 AM |
| 6 | Does attractiveness really matter?I know this is long and I've written it before but it's worth it to post here.... The #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence.... Know it, understand it, live it. You see bad boys project a certain level of confidence which girls find very attractive.... Bad boys have I don't give a fuk what anyone says or thinks, I'm gonna do what I want to do. Girls love this, they find it sexy because someone who doesn't care what people think come off as confident, bold, cool, sexy. So you need to project… | /r/seduction | 16/06/21 12:00 PM |
| 9 | Any "beta" or traditionally non-masculime men here who are successful with women?I've always maintained there's more than one way to skin a cat. There are different personalities and with that different guys will approach women with their different personalities, it doesn't mean being a muscle jock alpha is going to be more effective than a charming smooth guy. Check out Richard LuRuina on YouTube he's a PUA that I really like, I love his tips because he's all about body language and how you carry yourself that attracts girls. He's not some alpha tough guy he actually seems … | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 12:16 PM |
| 3 | Effective ways to approach girls on street?Haha! Just to piggyback make sure you move in for the kiss to know you're serious! | /r/seduction | 29/04/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Common Sense Lifting TipsYes I completely agree, guys trying to teach other guys that being jacked or in the best physical shape is going to be the key to being successful with girls is just totally false. like the many other factors that go into being good at seduction, physical In-Shape guys is just one part of the puzzle. the best analogy I can say is you don't need to be tall in basketball to be good, but it helps. Being tall doesn't make you a good basketball player. Being in super great shape doesn't mean you're g… | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Common Sense Lifting TipsCaptain woot I totally agree with you, seduction is about all those things you mentioned but I would stress that a lot of guys would immensely benefit from working out. And it really has zero to do with women although it definitely helps. The #1 thing in seduction is confidence, it's the quintessential aspect to any guy in seduction, without it you are just another guy, with it and you can do wonders. And going to the gym, building muscle is very important for a lot of guys because tons of guys … | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Common Sense Lifting TipsYes so true do what you like and enjoy, with that said and as other replier said don't waste your time at the gym either. you should be doing some form of 3 sets and each set you do you should be doing until you can't physically lift the weight anymore. Anything less you're just wasting time at the gym and getting zero results. | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Got in my own head again trying to talk to a girl in public.Well there you go, now you know what you need to work on. And guess what, I know it's stupid and cliche to say, but knowing is half the battle. If you know you have a problem, you know you need to fix it. Believe me whe I tell you there are tons of people that would be too oblivious to even recognize that. Anyways back to being nervous speaking to strangers. I had bad anxiety for a time, I was able to work through it. My first realization was that no one gives an F about you. No seriously, no on… | /r/seduction | 21/04/21 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Got in my own head again trying to talk to a girl in public.Theres a drill alot of guys learning to talk to girls would use to get comfortable with small talk and that was to just bullshit with random strangers. How many times do you go out to the supermarket or the mall and you see a ton of people but don't talk to any of them. well next time you go out and run an errand start asking questions or make observations in front of people, can be a grandmother or some random dude, or some girl you have zero attraction to, but just start creating small talk. T… | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 07:30 PM |
| 3 | IMPORTANT QUESTION I want to understand why when I’m with close friends I can be my full self expressing talking in a confident manner , while with other people I’m self conscious not fully being myself more reserved talking in a soft manner ,The point is valid here however this is a bit extreme. This isn't a bucket where all people that aren't as comfortable have low self-esteem, EVERYONE IS MORE comfortable around their own friends than strangers...FACT. With that said there are ways to make yourself more confident around strangers that make it so you're not as quiet or shy. The key to getting girls is confidence and shyness is not confidence l, you have to be comfortable with yourself and not afraid to carry a normal conversation … | /r/seduction | 18/03/21 01:20 PM |
| 3 | Not everyone can have "it"There's hope, the first step is your here looking for answers. I was a virgin past high school and college far longer than I care to admit. In my 30s it clicked, I improved myself, improved my attitude, and can now out game all my friends who were all getting laid years before me. I have alot of game and alot of it has to do from learning and research. MODELS by Mark Manson is a very good read. Also go to the subs wiki here, tons of valuable information. Start reading, that's first, next is star… | /r/seduction | 17/03/21 08:54 PM |
| 1 | A word of warning to taking all the advice here.I've always maintained this about seduction, seduction isn't about changing who you are as a person, it's changing your perspective to become your best self, that just so happens to help you become more attractive to the opposite sex. Anything else is just false bs, become your best self and you will not only be happier, but that happiness and confidence will attract women. | /r/seduction | 27/02/21 01:57 PM |
| 5 | How do you escalate?Great response. #4 is so key, if done right it's all about making the girl comfortable. If she enjoys being around you and talking she'll be much more reoponsive when you escalate. The keys for me, to piggy back and add to ok_pension. When talking always always have strong eye contact, you shouldn't be breaking eye contact until she breaks first. Many girls have way better eye contact than men, so when you start to do this you'll begin to see just how much better or worse people are at strong ey… | /r/seduction | 13/02/21 02:29 PM |
| 3 | How would you react to bikini picture?Dude she talked to him, she's clearly interested! /s | /r/seduction | 19/01/21 01:29 AM |
| 104 | How to properly "fake it till you make it" to success with womenTo further that point, everyone is faking it until they make it. Not many people are 100% comfortable talking to a girl they find very attractive or they have a crush on. But getting through that fear and staying calm while talking to them is harnessing the nerves enough to sound like a normal human being, even if inside your stomach is turning. | /r/seduction | 18/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Beginners shouldn't use NegsUm no | /r/seduction | 19/12/20 01:57 AM |
| 57 | 6 Signs Someone is Attracted To YouEye contact Most men are terrible at this, most women are very good at it. There are exceptions for both sexes obviously, but in my experience men are terrible with eye contact and it's something if they improved would vastly improve their game. For example when you enter a room and you make eye contact with a girl never break eye contact until they do first (obviously you don't continue staring like a creep). But Strong eye contact is essential to seduction and is a total game changer almost no… | /r/seduction | 12/12/20 02:13 PM |
| 3 | How long did it take your to get good at game?This is garbage advice and simply not true. | /r/seduction | 04/12/20 03:40 PM |
| 5 | Where “fake it till you make it” holds some truth.Great post and great way of thinking about it | /r/seduction | 18/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Help me pull this Instagram modelNah I'd wait until person, you message her on that and you just become the 25k of followers. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Help me pull this Instagram modelThe big advantage you have is that you two have met in person, but you need to escalate. Next time you see her continue your fun flirty attitude, she clearly likes it, then after you're about to break ask her what's she's doing Friday night? Tell her I was thinking of going to _____ you should join me. She'll probably say I have a BF blah blah tell her ok np hit me up if you change your mind and leave it at that. The key is to never make it about her, don't say oh that's too bad your BF is a luc… | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls always catch me offguard? It's like every girl that has flirted with me has done so when I least expected itThat's because it's the old cliche, just be yourself and girls will magnet. When guys try too hard around a girl they like it's blaring obvious even though you don't realize it. The more you act around your crush in the same exact way you act around your best friend, the more you get the game | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 06:21 PM |
| 9 | I want to share my experience, how I learned that one of the main things to do is stop giving a fuckGood for you keep pressing forward! Be you, do you, have fun, be the fun, and girls will magnet. Not all will stick but if yuu keep this attitude you'll attract more than you don't. One thing people can't lose sight of is no matter how great your game, how tight it is there are girls out there you'll have nothing in common with. They won't get your jokes, they won't find you attractive, whatever. It means nothing, and has nothing to do with you. Just some girls we won't be on the same page with … | /r/seduction | 22/10/20 06:55 PM |
| 1 | If I wave at a girl and she waves back how should I take that?Idk why don't you walk over, say hello, and find out | /r/seduction | 17/10/20 09:34 PM |
| 3 | Get an escort to get over your fear of talking to womenDisagree this is terrible advice and unnecessary. I've always loved the saying the only one that gives a shit about sex are the ones not having it. Will people get it out of their heads that if you're a virgin it's somehow weird or you're somehow in the minority. Let me tell you a fact, virgin or not NO ONE GIVES A SHIT. In fact most women are really receptive to virgins because it makes them less insecure (oh he hasn't been with anyone else, which means he hasn't seen another naked body other t… | /r/seduction | 07/10/20 12:39 PM |
| 20 | Two girlsAt first The key is to win them both over, don't ever ignore or ghost one of them. Include them both in whatever conversation you're having. However Later on you should try to isolate the one you're interested in, then they'll both know who you like when the time is right | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 12:33 PM |
| 9 | Beginners shouldn't use NegsNegs are terrible don't use them period. They work on girls that are totally insecure and immature, two things I hate in a women. Teasing on the other hand is a different story. Light hearted banter is ten times more effective than Negging. Calling a girl a Dork is not offensive, it's teasing and light hearted. Teasing is similar to negging but all in all much more innocent and less confrontational. Negging can work, absolutely but I've had it back fire many times as well. Stick with "playground… | /r/seduction | 12/08/20 07:36 PM |
| 3 | How to be more flirtlyI like this approach as it gets past the whole I'm not talking to you because I want to be friends, with that said there are slight improvements that will increase your odds. For example... You say, you're pretty cool we should date... (Then you push), but just to warn you I have certain needs that have to be met. It shows interest but then shows her you're not some push over. You keep things mysterious in a way. She's thinking in her head... What does he mean by that? What's he thinking? Idk bu… | /r/seduction | 28/07/20 04:13 AM |
| 9 | Make me feel comfortable...at least the first dateThis escalated quickly lol | /r/seduction | 14/07/20 09:31 PM |
| 1023 | Do NOT waste time getting girls on social mediaYou have no idea what you're talking about bro, there's tons of hot Asian singles in my area | /r/seduction | 05/06/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | What's the best way to reply to a girl who is "checking in" on you, after leaving you on seen for 2 weeks?Sort of with the other guys here, with that said, why not shoot her a reply and ask to get together. If she doesn't reply or flakes again then move on...next | /r/seduction | 06/05/20 09:18 PM |
| 20 | Disqualifying womenNegging is unnecessary in the game of seduction, ive had it fail just as much as its worked. If I'm going to use a technique I need something more of a sure thing rather than hit or miss. 99% of girls love teasing. Other techniques that are more effective for your game to practice is body language (the way you carry yourself) , eye contact, and kino. All way more effective than Negging. Focus on those rather than disqualification. | /r/seduction | 18/04/20 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Could personality type factor into this and create an even higher consistency?What's NTP? Anyway this is a fair point. I think one pua said it well... Pretty girls want to be told their smart, smart girls want to be told their pretty. Everything is a play off of people's insecurities. That's why when you tell a pretty girl shes pretty, she rolls her eyes. She knows shes pretty and she's heard it a thousand times. Using techniques based on the person's character is an excellent way of using seduction, but it also assumes you know the girl. Walking up to a stranger you don'… | /r/seduction | 15/04/20 01:04 PM |
| 4 | Bad Eye Contact - The Needy EyesCompletely agree OP. Men are terrible at eye contact, women are way better. I learned this because I used to have TERRIBLE eye contact, but then learned. The great thing is it can get even awkward when you learn to give strong eye contact, some girls hold on for sooooo long. So long that you almost get uncomfortable in the beginning, but once you learn it gets less and less awkward and you become more and more attractive. Girls love guys with good eye contact, it exudes confidence, which is the … | /r/seduction | 14/04/20 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Why you must tell the girl you like that you like herThis is not terrible advice it's not necessarily good either. The OP is greatly simplifying the process, Yea sure hanging your dick out walking up to a girl and telling her (while pounding your chest) that you think she's pretty and you want to take her home will work on some insecure women who will mistake your cockiness for confidence and find it attractive. I do always say, better to be cocky than shy, but cocky doesn't make you a stud. Sure cocky will get you girls but not the best ones. Bei… | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Obtaining nudesThis sub is dead | /r/seduction | 28/03/20 03:16 AM |
| 2 | I’ve been hit with massive paranoiaI mean it's all in your head bs... Let's flip it... What if she likes me, what if she finds me hot, what if I'm her dream? | /r/seduction | 08/03/20 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Feeling depressed after another night out going home aloneNo you do both! You mix it in. Don't go in with the mindset of I have to score a girl tonight. go in with the mindset, I'm going to have fun tonight and approach a few girls and if see if they want to join in | /r/seduction | 07/03/20 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Feeling depressed after another night out going home aloneFirst off Day gaming is hard as f for even experts so don't get discouraged. At the clubs its not about scoping girls so to speak its about having fun. People naturally attract to guys who are fun they repel from guys trying to hard. Have fun and make every apprach about you and your fun NOT ABOUT validation.. Numerous girls will turn away but you be surprised how many don't, have a good time... As the song goes girls just wanna have fun, it's so true, so be that fun. if they don't want your fun… | /r/seduction | 07/03/20 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Girl (18) told me she is “too young” for me (21) for a coffee dateI wouldn't worry too much about her response, next time you see act NO DIFFERENT, say hi and bullshit with her and make no mention of your last interaction. If you keep it casual she'll be more comfortable around you vs you both acting awkward. Always be upbeat around her, positive vibes go a long way. Anyway don't worry about what she said, maybe she thinks you're 25 and you look older than you are | /r/seduction | 05/03/20 05:20 AM |
| 1 | [FR] I made a rookie mistakeYes thanks for correcting me you're right! | /r/seduction | 03/03/20 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Need advice, anyone willing to help?Brady is right OP, this is called onegirlitus and its bad in seduction because it puts too much worth into 1 girl. You have already built up this girl in your head to something she can't live up to, girls hate when you put them on a pedestal. This is what Brady is getting at, just have a conversation with her, say hi, tell her you think the professor is a Dork, whatever. But do not repeat do not make her this angel because she's hot... For all you know she could have a boyfriend, could be a comp… | /r/seduction | 03/03/20 10:51 PM |
| 3 | [FR] I made a rookie mistakeTotally agree, seduction is all about frame and never never never tell a girl she's out of your league, in fact even if she is you should be teasing her and saying you're out of her league! | /r/seduction | 03/03/20 08:16 PM |
| 19 | Giving up?Lol this late in life 22!?!? dude I was loserless girlless for years after that, and now can out game all my friends that were getting laid in high school and college way before I ever did. Keep self improving and stop playing the he's better Than me game. News flash if you play that game, you will always always always find someone better, richer, stronger, smarter than you. And the worst part about doing that is girls pick up on that because it's the exact OPPOSITE of confident. #1 aphrodisiac … | /r/seduction | 03/03/20 01:45 AM |
| 13 | Just witnessed a 29yo hot girl begging a 18yo guy for his number and it made me question lots of thingsOh well you know... I've been stalking them for a year | /r/seduction | 02/03/20 03:52 AM |
| 4 | I went to a partyHe's right you always focus on what you like, and what your hobbies are. But girls are not a waste of time don't listen to that second part. First off good on you for approaching I think what little men realize is that life is all about gaining experiences in the only way you learn in a lot of aspects is by trying and by failing. You talked to 15 girls! There are guys who haven't talked to 15 girls in a year. The thing about seduction is steps... EVERYTHING IS STEPS. Step 1 is to approach.. Ever… | /r/seduction | 29/02/20 05:52 PM |
| 2 | I’ve managed to largely overcome the mental blocks of anxiety and fear, but I can’t seem to control the physical responseThis is largely due to your subconscious reacting to stressful situations. For example I had a horrible blushing problem while talking to people, so bad i avoided social interactions with cute girls, cause no matter how much I built the courage to talk to them my blushing was out of control. 1 word cured all of this, hypnosis! What hypnosis does is train your subconscious and your body NOT to react in stressful situations. How it does this is you pretty much calm your body and mind by hypnosis. … | /r/seduction | 20/02/20 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Is it ever too late to go no contact on an ex?One thing about this sub is its more about how to interact with women and be better with them. You did a couple things wrong here, first and most glaring you sent her a text that said... Hey 3 weeks left in school do I still have a chance? Dude this is anti seduction, no guy should ever ask permission or ask for validation EVER. A guy needs to lead, needs to be sure if himself ALWAYS. Girls love confidence and that statement was anti confident. My advice is move on and learn, seduction teaches y… | /r/seduction | 14/02/20 01:15 PM |
| 6 | How to transition from Acquaintance Small talk to actual flirting? How do you break the wall?A sexy women is always sexy, her sexiness doesn't go away just because she's having small talk or doing something not sexy. Same goes for men, a sexy guy is always sexy because he carries himself in a manner of confidence that whether he's having small talk or doing something mundane he is still sexy. Many men miss that aspect of seduction and I always relate it to the hot girl in a group of friends. That girls sexiness doesn't go away just because you're friends. Same for guys, the way a stud g… | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Stop Getting So Hyped Up! NO Girl is EVER a For Sure Thing.He's not creepy he's just being real about a frustrating subject for many men. I don't fault him at all, with that said there are techniques that men can do that will improve his time with women. I do agree he is absolutely doing things that may turn off a girl of get her disinterested. But we all do that and we've all been there. I agree with the advice it's just learning more of how to carry yourself, be your best self and you will attract far more than you don't. Keep using this sub and advic… | /r/seduction | 25/12/19 02:26 PM |
| 3 | I’m about to have a 3 some and I have never been more nervousPinch yourself hard you're dreaming | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 05:22 AM |
| 3 | How can I transition a conversation to end up getting laid ?This is called kino (touch), use it along with super strong eye contact. You will be able to transition sexually much easier than you think when it's applied correctly http://www.thepuaschool.com/kino-escalation/ | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Girl i am seeing is sending me snaps of her chilling in bed with another guy...Don't let one immature girl to make you turn into a salty ahole. Your ego is hurt I get it but do not I repeat do not think this has anything to do with you. Insert any dude and this attention seeking immature girl would do the same. You need to maintain frame at all times, don't let her break your frame as much as it hurts your ego. Laugh her off as joke because she is, and say good riddance, I don't need to play immature games, I ain't got time for that. | /r/seduction | 14/12/19 02:37 AM |
| 12 | Girls asked me to go on a trip with them how should I handle this?Yes you're 100% overthinking this. Best thing about platonic girlfriends is they have friends and their friends have friends! Anyways go with them for sure! 1st there is zero obligation for you to hook with any of them, so go down there and have fun, shoot for the sky and if you don't meet anyone when u go out you have a fall back plan waiting for you at the hotel room So like a pretty damn good situation to me! | /r/seduction | 13/12/19 04:12 AM |
| 2 | How to do better with women?Then be honest about it with the people you are interacting with. People appreciate those who make and effort and those who are honest. It's not shameful to say hey listen I just want to say I think you're cute and I'd like to get to know you but forgive me if I sometimes come off awkward, I have a mild form of aspergers and I have trouble reading social cues. Listen I completely understand your frustration, but before you get women and use this sub I always tell guys this sub is useless to anyo… | /r/seduction | 28/11/19 04:45 AM |
| 3 | How to do better with women?Try reading models by Mark Manson. Good read with great tips and more important holding Frame around women. Just ask yourself why am I freezing around attractive women. You are because you are prematurely projecting who she is before yiu get to know her. you need to realize that an attractive woman is no different than any other women, other than the fact that you find her attractive. If you can maintain frame around any woman no matter if she's attractive or not you begin to learn the game. whe… | /r/seduction | 28/11/19 03:12 AM |
| 8 | A girl likes to poke her breasts at my elbows while walking. How to respond?Agree shes interested, flirt back by teasing her, tickling her in a fun way | /r/seduction | 22/11/19 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Women Are Insanely Attracted To Mental And Emotional StrengthThis is an excellent read and very true. In a nutshell this post talks about frame. Frame is critical to game because it shows confidence, when you are unphased by insults, you deflect move on, this takes confidence. Excellent point about the boxer, you don't ignore the insult you acknowledge and move on, you deflect, move on. An insecure person begins to second guess themselves a confident person never loses frame. I also like the end of the post about leaving on a high note. Instead of leaving… | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 10:52 AM |
| 1 | I Look like trashDon't listen to this tool he purposely posts crap like this... IGNORE | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 10:53 PM |
| 259 | Chasing Women Vs. Attracting Women99% of seduction isn't about chasing women, but it is about interacting with them on a day to day basis. When I was young I had the wrong mindset every girl I talked to was a potential mate. I stopped that because it's simply not true it also messes up your game because it makes you something you're not... You try too hard to be cool, bad, funny, whatever. Natural seducers interact with women in a way that has women naturally attracted to them. those men aren't trying to be someone they're not t… | /r/seduction | 09/11/19 01:51 PM |
| 2 | It isn't even about being top 20% for Tinder. It is more like being top 3-5%.Yea but the same goes for women! You think girls don't deal with this same thing trying to get into the top 5%!? I've known many a girl who looked top 5% online only to see them up close and personal and realize they werent even close. This replier is right, no male or female is gonna work miracles around genetic lotteries but tons of guys do themselves a huge disservice by not putting forth good profiles and more effort | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 04:25 PM |
| 2 | I’m struggling to understand what makes a man attractive.Agree 100%, self defeating attitude gets you nowhere, complaining gets you nowhere. Actions get you somewhere, take the right steps and continue to take the right steps to make your life better. End of story, no more excuses | /r/seduction | 07/11/19 01:23 AM |
| 7 | I’m struggling to understand what makes a man attractive.You struggle to find what makes a man attractive because mentally what you are is very unattractive. I'm not dogging you, I was there and I know the feeling. But let me get it to you straight, the #1 aphrodisiac for all women is CONFIDENCE. Girls LOVE confidence, nothing is sexier to a woman than a man with a high self esteem. He's fun, confident, and interesting and girls magnet to these men. So the key is to work on your self esteem issues first. First and foremost work on yourself and become … | /r/seduction | 07/11/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Got some questions!Or the sidebar, tons of good info there | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Instagram Model Reveals How She Feels About “Nice Guys” and “White Knights” on LAHWF.Wholeheartedly agree here. It's a balance, of course you can tell her she's pretty, don't be afraid to call her a Dork either. Don't just shower her with compliments, a well placed compliment is worth way more then a dozen of them thrown at her at once | /r/seduction | 01/11/19 03:17 PM |
| 31 | Instagram Model Reveals How She Feels About “Nice Guys” and “White Knights” on LAHWF.Not true, I actually commend the girl for being honest cuz most girls would never admit this but the reality is most beautiful girls want some sort of balance or challenge. A kiss ass is boring she's always used to getting her ass kissed. Guys telling her how beautiful she is and a goddess. that's the last thing you do when you're around a gorgeous girl but most guys do this cuz they're Clueless. Treat every beautiful girl as an equal not a pedastal. Bust their chops, call them a Dork, tell them… | /r/seduction | 01/11/19 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Outlook for guy around 40 approachingNeed to adapt friend, sorry. The games not hard for any age only hard for those not willing to put themselves out there and try new things, expand their normal social circle | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Outlook for guy around 40 approachingI'm older as well but know the game very well. First off I get not wanting to go to bars but you need to branch out socially if you expect any good results. Cold approaching is very very hard and girls flake left and right. Why because the game is all about making a girl comfortable to be around you, and further, excited to be around you... no matter how good you are at Cold approaching you're still a stranger, and the girl doesn't know you yet. there's going to be a certain element of hesitatio… | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 02:14 PM |
| 12 | Have you tried cold approaching on a bicycle? Or an e-scooter? What was your experience?Nothing screams "I get laid" more than a dude on a scooter | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 01:52 AM |
| 2 | The AntiSeducerThis for sure good reply. That along with being outcome dependant. You put so much pressure on yourself to get the girls number or to lock in a date and "score", that you miss the point of how seduction works. I say this time and again WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST then worry about getting women etc. I feel a better read for many guys on this sub is attacking their limited confidence, their low self esteem. Reading books like the six pillars of self esteem or a book related to overcoming your low confi… | /r/seduction | 24/10/19 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Not comfortable being a glow up. Anxiety making seemingly easier situations harder.Yea man don't sweat and you never need to tell people why you're red, most people don't pick up on it and those who do think of it as a term of endearment, the opposite sex finds it flattering | /r/seduction | 24/10/19 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Not comfortable being a glow up. Anxiety making seemingly easier situations harder.I like how you said, I did it for me no one else. that's the exact attitude that every guy on this sub needs to have. you make positive improvements to become your best self, not because of some outward goal for some girl or to get people to admire you, but it's for you and only you to become your better self. If you end up attracting more girls than great that's just an added bonus. You have anxiety, pretty common actually, especially with people that have gone through changes as well. the good… | /r/seduction | 24/10/19 02:05 AM |
| 2 | Not comfortable being a glow up. Anxiety making seemingly easier situations harder.I think you're not used to this new found fame so to speak. I've had this happen to me as well, it's because you're attractive! Be proud you look better, be proud you built muscle... You worked damn hard to build that muscle so enjoy your hard earned efforts by taking some of the glory of the added attention. You're insecure about the attention being on you that's why you feel the way you do. My guess is because you were insecure about attention when you were bigger and less attractive and maybe… | /r/seduction | 23/10/19 09:33 PM |
| 1 | How can I ask a girl out who is at her job without making it weird?No dude not in your first meeting, again a work girl is way different than other means of meeting women. Youre dealing with a few obstacles when asking a girl out at work. Girls are automatically going to be on the defensive at work and dating anyone at work... You have HR and company policy to deal with, then the stigma that most people don't like to shit where they eat. Most girls won't before you even start HOWEVER, there is no stopping emotion, if a girl becomes sexually attracted to you she… | /r/seduction | 16/10/19 07:58 PM |
| 1 | How can I ask a girl out who is at her job without making it weird?Agree orange kid, don't ask a girl straight out at work. Start by having a conversation, starting small talk, getting to know her a bit. If she's at work not like she won't be back, so you can atleast get to know her and flirt with her first to see if there is any chemistry before taking it to the next step. Couple key things with people at work, no way should you ever ask a girl out at work that you don't know. she's automatically going to be on the defensive because of the fact you work with h… | /r/seduction | 16/10/19 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Date took a complete 180, need adviceI agree you shouldnt chase but should atleast text or call once and only once. Just because she didn't kiss him doesn't mean she wasn't interested, you never know what she's going thru or why she said no to the kiss. I've had girls back off and were still definitely interested. With that said I don't get great vibes from this girl that she's interested based on what OP has explained but should atleast try once and not completely give up. Agree with other repliers absolutely never apologize for t… | /r/seduction | 15/10/19 07:40 PM |
| 13 | How do I get a gf who would be willing to be fattened up?Da fuk? | /r/seduction | 14/10/19 05:24 PM |
| 8 | Date took a complete 180, need adviceThe key to dating as its Push Pull if it's all you making the effort and she's not reciprocating then she's not interested or just very shy. The key to any relationship is give and take you need to get some effort from her, yes the guy has to initiate a lot of the upfront stuff, however the girl also needs to reciprocate some of it. If she's not reciprocating some of that then most likely she's just trying to ghost you or not interested. This is a very common theme with a lot of guys and your st… | /r/seduction | 14/10/19 04:28 PM |
| 22 | I was initially attracted to this community because it taught “I’m not good enough” was just a limiting belief that kept you from a good dating life. But after approaching hundreds of girls & getting rejected countless times, I feel like maybe that belief was right all along. Anyone else feel this?This times a thousand, I try to tell newbs on this sub that seduction only works if you have the foundation for it first... Self Esteem and confidence. Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women and if you don't have it they know it. Guys with low self esteem need to work on that first and foremost before looking at any advice on seduction. Work on building up a self esteem that for many has taken a beating for years and so it takes time and effort to build it back up. But you absolutely can… | /r/seduction | 07/10/19 03:03 AM |
| 18 | How To Approach a Girl You Don't Know (The SAFI Principle)This shit is awesome advice and is pretty much the game rolled up in a nutshell. Even the stuff he mentions outside of his SAFI principle is spot on. The key here is self esteem and confidence. ONLY MEN who have a good self esteem and confidence will be able to apply the methods this OP posted. The foundation of all seduction is confidence, nothing will work until you work on your self esteem and confidence issues. Then and only then can you apply these methods like smiling, body language, eye c… | /r/seduction | 01/10/19 11:33 PM |
| 2 | I dont know why people spread this so much. Looks, really dont matter.Agree to OPs point, there is a looks meter where some guy, and girls for that matter, can only reach so far out of their league. With that said all guys/girls can reach out of their league by applying what OP says... if you work out, dress nice, keep good hygiene, and have a fun personality with confidence, those 5 points go a long way. Its becoming your best self. Girls do this too, have you ever seen a girl with and without makeup, or a girl with or without high heels, or a girl wearing a cute… | /r/seduction | 24/09/19 01:54 PM |
| 4 | I'm falling for a girl.Dude in the end most of us find a relationship, assuming you didn't get friend zoned enjoy this girl who you connect with. An exclusive chick you love to hang out with beats 1000 1 night stands any day of the week | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 07:30 PM |
| 32 | How do i subtly flirt with a girl over text?I like to tease girls when I flirt. Whenever I give a compliment I always follow it up with something funny or tease her. Example, I loved ur dress the other day, youre looking almost as cute as me ;-) If you lay in sarcasm and some lite hearted banter girls love this. Don't just shower girls with compliments, it gets old quick and good looking girls are used to being called gorgeous. Make them earn it, make sure you let girls know you're the catch not just them | /r/seduction | 09/09/19 02:50 AM |
| 3 | What’s the best cologne for a guy that’s under $30?Go to Marshalls or TJ Maxx, they have a lot of designer fragrance and others that are marked much lower than retail and can find a ton of good options. I've found Bvlgari, perry Ellis, versace all marked way down. It's hit or miss but lots of good options. Also some good cheap cologne there are banana republic and guess lines. They typically have those bottles for 20-30 bucks and they smell great. One disclaimer is TJ Maxx and marshalls typically lock all their fragrances because people steal th… | /r/seduction | 05/09/19 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Checking girls outDon't do this, you want your intentions felt but not in a blatant obvious way. The best way to check a girl out is to meet eyes, don't break eye contact until they do first, and then as soon as they break you break. You absolutely do not continuing staring, she will definitely look back but you better not be caught continuing to stare cause then you'll just look like a crazy stalker. You can break a minute then look back to see if she glances over, if she continues to check you out approach imme… | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 01:39 PM |
| 16 | So my first approach went well (not)Keep approaching, girls rude like this aren't the majority but it does happen. You're there to have fun and meet new people, fuck anyone else who isn't. Keep approaching they're are many good ones out there you just have to keep approaching | /r/seduction | 25/08/19 01:49 PM |
| 1 | I’m an anxious mess and I fucking did it... and I feel pretty good.https://youtu.be/STH2sUGVEek Here's link | /r/seduction | 24/08/19 12:41 PM |
| 3 | I’m an anxious mess and I fucking did it... and I feel pretty good.I took this from an old post I made anyway try this video blushing hypnosis but it can be used for any form of anxiety. Meditation is great but hypnosis is best for curing specific conditions, mainly because hypnosis is meditation with a purpose. The reason I mention this is so many guys on this sub talk about being nervous in front of girls, or even talking to them but if they used hypnosis they'd no longer be anxious. If Your purpose is to cure anxiety, go to YouTube and type in hypnosis anxie… | /r/seduction | 24/08/19 12:41 PM |
| 7 | I’m an anxious mess and I fucking did it... and I feel pretty good.I had crippling out of nowhere, if it weren't for hypnosis that I used on YouTube for anxiety, I don't know where I'd be. it literally saved my life, try it if you haven't yet. hypnosis helps train your mind to accept the anxiety and to remain relaxed when it hits. Good for you keep approaching | /r/seduction | 23/08/19 01:29 AM |
| 2 | How do you seduce your ex?People that pursue ex's have a bad case of onegirlitus. This is typically a terrible strategy. The key to win an ex back is to do things you didn't do before by applying all the things this sub tells you on the sidebar. Be your best self, your best self isn't needy and chasing ex's is typically needy | /r/seduction | 21/08/19 03:09 AM |
| 10 | (23M good looking, astonishing lack of game) This was the loneliest summer of my life, but luckly I stumbled upon the book "the game". Just finished it and want to learn more. I want to know everything. How should I proceed. Thank you all in advanced.The game is a great book but it's great for entertainment purposes only. It's very dated and is not a tutorial on how to game. I'd start with models by Mark Manson. Also tons of good info on this sub, look at the sidebar and sort on top all time comments. Great material | /r/seduction | 21/08/19 12:15 AM |
| 17 | Why does it feel so "illegal" to approach a hot girl?This is true however this doesn't get rid of approach anxiety. I think the biggest issue men have versus woman, is woman doesn't meet a new guy and think, oh he's cute I want to marry him, no they think oh he's cute let me get to know him to see if he's cool. guys need to have the same mentality, you see a beautiful girl, you don't say oh my God I have to marry her you, no you say oh she's cute let me get to know her to see if she's actually cool and she can back up her good looks | /r/seduction | 10/08/19 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Girl at work acting weird? U.K.Oh thanks got it | /r/seduction | 10/08/19 03:34 AM |
| 0 | Girl at work acting weird? U.K.It's not the girl he should be worried about it's the self deprecating attitude. You can't date a hot girl and have that attitude, confidence keeps hot girls, not build not looks not a nice car... Confidence | /r/seduction | 07/08/19 06:11 PM |
| 13 | Played the Numbers GameIt's great you did this, I think one of the biggest things is being able to create small talk with woman, random woman. just keep in mind cold approaching has very low percentages of panning out, building Social Circles is always better way but this is great practice of just being comfortable talking to girls and creating attraction thru the way you carry yourself. | /r/seduction | 07/08/19 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Interesting offerNot a good sign for you, but certainly not bad either. All else fails girls have other girl friends. Seduction isn't about meeting 1 girl, it's about meeting multiple girls you then can pick the best one you like (rather than settling). Anyways girls have other friends they can introduce you to is my point | /r/seduction | 06/08/19 01:41 AM |
| 1 | hey guys , where to start ?Nice I didn't know about his book I should check it out, thanks for the tips | /r/seduction | 24/07/19 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Am I coming off too strong?Great advice and to biggy pack never never clarify your intent so outright. Guys who do this take all the game and fun out of it for the girl. The old adage, does he love me, does he love me not. It keeps her guessing, keeps her interested on finding out more. Think of it as a game of cards, it's okay to show her a few cards but never show all of them. Your text comes off way too direct and needy, give the girl space let her free | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 04:12 PM |
| 3 | hey guys , where to start ?Tyler durden is a terrible choice for introverts because he's not at all an introvert, I always tell people pick PUAs that fit your personality because as they say there is more than one way to skin a cat. Anyway check out Richard LaRuina aka Gambler on YouTube. He has a totally different style than Tyler that I think is actually more effective at getting girls attracted because he implements alot of non-verbal cues that cut out all the B.S. games. Anyways he seems super mellow and chill much li… | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with my girlfriend from a year long relationship. I feel distraughtThis is good advice for sure but OP also realize you're not just going to get over your Ex in a day. There's a time to mourn and there's a time to do exactly what jwko88 said. But don't rush it if you're not ready. Meeting new people and new girls will always help you forget but if you're an emotional wreck because the break up is still fresh then don't force the issue. There's a time and a place to just get over an ended relationship and there's a time and place to get over it and move on. Peop… | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you think I was laughed at by these girls? Idk whyDon't give up loser! | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 03:52 AM |
| 2 | So this is it?I'd say you're missing a ton of seduction techniques. Your list is for more the foundation of what helps you get started in seduction. Mainly without your list you can't even get started in seduction, but what you listed is just the start of being able to seduce. there's a whole slew of Seduction techniques you can implement that will help you get girls AKA Push Pull, body language, eye contact, fashion, teasing etc | /r/seduction | 22/07/19 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Do you think I was laughed at by these girls? Idk whyI do, because youre one pathetic loser, but you have potential so don't give up bud! | /r/seduction | 22/07/19 08:25 PM |
| 80 | FR - Girls DO care about looksLooks help, height helps, money helps, status helps, fashion helps and list goes on BUT NONE OF THOSE ONE THINGS WILL GAURENTEE YOU GETTING LAID. As many have said before, unless you're in the top 5% of male attractiveness you fall into a category where you are mixed in with the majority of guys. So if a guy has the looks but his game sucks, Yea sure he'll have some luck but he'll miss out on alot too. If youre an avg guy but your game is tight you might be on par with the guy with better looks … | /r/seduction | 20/07/19 04:02 AM |
| 5 | So I approached this girl...Bro don't listen to this jerk off, you approached this exactly right. Just know that cold approaching is hard af, and girls will flake left and right. Keep doing it because it's a great way to practice talking to new people, keep learning how to approach and get over approach anxiety. But you're better off building social networks and get girls that way | /r/seduction | 18/07/19 01:21 PM |
| 0 | How do i handle these types of shit tests?Vynxe lol you're mad insecure and your responses prove it. You don't let any girl walk all over you, you also don't smother them by being a control freak | /r/seduction | 17/07/19 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Is it even worth it?Cold approaching is so hard that's why building social circles is more beneficial. Joining clubs, sports, other networking circles is much more effective. No matter how great your game there is always going to be girls with their gaurd up in the very beginning, and rightfully so, how do I know this charming funny guy isn't some deep down narcissistic asshole, you don't which is why it's better to build social networks where you get to know them or know of them where other friends can vouge for y… | /r/seduction | 17/07/19 02:10 PM |
| 3 | How do i handle these types of shit tests?This one's tricky, one part of me says who gives an f the other is like well its Kinda disrespectful. With that said trust is trust and you gotta let the girl be. A secure man let's his girl hang out where she wants. If she goes out and bangs that dude you absolutely say fuck you we're done. But more than likely if she opened up and told you she either wanted to be open and honest with you or it's a shit test. And let's say by off chance it is a shit test, you win by being indifferent about it. … | /r/seduction | 17/07/19 12:39 PM |
| 1 | How do i handle these types of shit tests?This is terrible advice, shows you're insecure, never show you're insecure | /r/seduction | 17/07/19 12:29 PM |
| 3 | Can’t f*cking approach (rant)I've always used this analogy when dealing with approach anxiety. Approach anxiety is alot like jumping off a high dive platform. People who sit on the edge looking at the water way way below them hesitate and think too much, then end up not jumping. Those who just run back and jump, do it. Never never linger when approaching, just go or don't go. don't sit there and think about because you won't do it. Approaching is all about just taking that jump off the high dive platform, just do it | /r/seduction | 08/07/19 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Clarifying your intentRemember this about seduction, you don't ever alter who you are, as you said, u become the best version of yourself. And just like guys have different taste in women same goes for women with men. So I agree you're not going to become a guy that can attract everyone, no one can. But you can become the guy that many women will be attracted to. Your self defeating attitude is what gets you, Yea sure we all have limitations and things that work against us, it doesn't mean you can't become the best v… | /r/seduction | 04/07/19 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Clarifying your intentNo never clarify intent, those are cards and you never show your cards. You lay hints of what cards you're holding but never show full intent and here's why Attraction isn't some logical choice it's an emotion, so when a girl tells you that she just wants to be friends on a coffee date, that really doesn't mean s*** because if you're attractive enough by the end of the date she might think twice about what you said the beginning, in fact she's no longer thinking about what was said the the begin… | /r/seduction | 04/07/19 01:14 PM |
| 3 | Girl keeps staring at me for a bit too long.This comment is kinda harsh OP but ultimately the replier is right. Always maintain strong eye contact with women and make sure they break the eye contact first before you do. | /r/seduction | 03/07/19 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Sober Seduction AdviceNah dude some of the best PUAs swear by not drinking because it fucks up their game. Drinking just helps guys initially stay more relaxed but it doesn't help you stay sharp. PUAs know how to stay relaxed without alcohol and therefor concentrate on their game to get girls. Lots of guys meditate or use relaxation techniques to stay relaxed in front of hot girls, talk to enough hot girls and you eventually learn it isn't even a 2nd thought going up to one. A huge huge help for me was eye contact, I… | /r/seduction | 02/07/19 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Don't make this mistake like I did ...This is quite common actually when I was younger I did the same type of thing. I wouldn't worry too much, a lot of it comes down to the fact that you're just not experienced in these situations. But then when you become a little more comfortable each time you will know when to make the move. don't beat yourself up this the first serious date you were on. We all get nerves we all do stuff we shouldnt have. Next time you know not to make that same mistake again, and that's life, we live and learn.… | /r/seduction | 29/06/19 12:57 PM |
| 7 | Secret crush affairThis doesn't belong in seduction Having a crush is perfectly normal for married people, it's called being human, you're inevitablely going to go thru crushes when you've been married for years. It's okay to flirt and chat but if you find yourself trying to find ways to cheat you need to be upfront and either talk to your husband or seek a therapist before doing anything. It's not fair to your husband to cheat behind his back. Be upfront and honest and work it out with him first no matter what pa… | /r/seduction | 24/06/19 03:08 AM |
| 11 | How to Handle Lying/excuses/ghostingAlot of good comments on this thread that I firmly believe in. One being the most important, learn to be choosy. So many guys see a girl they like and their Jaws drop and in their head they've already wanted to marry her. Omg she's so beautiful, she's such an angel, she looks so sweet. Nah bro I've known tons of hot girls that are total and utter duds, or lame, or boring, or bitchy, or full of themselves etc. So many guys are complete idiots around hot girls, putting them on pedestals and acting… | /r/seduction | 24/06/19 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Depressed virgin. I am typing this right now inside my parents' house. I am socially isolated and having moderate amount of FOMO. It is another Saturday night and I have no plans or anything. What would you suggest?This is very good advice, overthinking is so detrimental to all of us. In the end saying hi to a girl means nothing, tripping in the middle of the grocery store means nothing. People will look at you for 3 seconds then move on with their life and never think of you again. Have this attitude everywhere, DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I don't mean in an asshole way I mean in a way where you just don't care what other people think of you. don't be afraid to try new things and do things out of your comfort zone… | /r/seduction | 23/06/19 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Tried to have sex on a second date... failed but she wants a third date?Hunterpua is right. Also Sex isn't the vocal point of any relationship so don't make it. If you like her date her and the sex will come. if all you want is casual hook up be honest with her. You might still be able to hook up even after saying so. Tbh this girl likes you and you should give it a chance but if you're not ready for a relationship say so, if you're honest upfront she might escalate on her own knowing you're pursuing other girls. she might not want you to get away | /r/seduction | 20/06/19 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Find your own way of flirtingI agree there many ways PUAs can help you get better with girls but never let anyone take from who you, in other words no matter what advice you use, never stop being you. The key to girls is making them comfortable to be around you. There are many many ways you can go about this but at the end of the day of the girl enjoys being around you she's comfortable. And getting girls comfortable gets them more interested in you. There are many ways to go about seduction, some use laughter, others use m… | /r/seduction | 19/06/19 03:10 AM |
| 2 | How long until you see improvements/results?Lol don't listen to this guy, who the f has time to go out every night give me a break | /r/seduction | 13/06/19 07:56 PM |
| 1 | How long until you see improvements/results?You absolutely have the right mindset when it comes to seduction. seduction I've always maintained is a lot like exercising. people want to exercise and look good but many don't have the discipline to stick with it through the months even years it takes to make positive gains and get a six pack for example or ripped biceps. Seduction takes time, building confidence and getting good with socializing and talking to girls takes time, there's a lot of trial and error, and many people don't have the … | /r/seduction | 13/06/19 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Leveraging infatuation.I think you can do this without having to actually get with other girls. If you project as a male with plenty of options your actions toward your crush will never come off as, oh he likes me and likes me only. In other words flirt with other girls right in front of your crush, don't be afraid to even though this seems counterintuitive. It works because it shows you're a catch and it shows your crush that (hey I better be careful cause other girls will be all over him). Demonstrate qualities that… | /r/seduction | 04/06/19 11:29 PM |
| 7 | Approaching girls is a waste of timeAt 28 you still have a lot to learn | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 03:50 AM |
| 1 | When she calls you out on a negHonestly if she continues to shit test you dead her, fuck the snobby ones | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 01:16 PM |
| 5 | When she calls you out on a negExcellent answer here, you always maintain your own frame which should be fun and light. Never answer her directly give an answer much lime Leo suggested. And like Leo said if she doesn't enjoy your humor then you're probably not compatible anyways. Too many guys get hung up on looks. Yea sure if a girl is gorgeous guys will go thru all sorts of loops, this is a bad idea, because every hot chick gets old and a week in she's already annoying the f out of you. Go with the fun girls, their way more… | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 12:26 PM |
| 13 | A girl grabbed my phone and put her number in it.This is great, now you need to have the courage to approach girls and do fun stuff like that. We're all human and girls like attention from well put together guys, introduce yourself to them Guys have this thing in their head that every approach is a potential future girlfriend. No! How bout approaching with the idea of let me get to know this cute girl and see if she's worth having a conversation or two with | /r/seduction | 26/05/19 01:05 PM |
| 1 | How to open in barsI posted this sometime ago but it's my rock opener for bars... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4y5u58/my_99_fail_proof_intro_for_opening_a_set_of_girls | /r/seduction | 25/05/19 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Holding eyecontact is magical and hardThis is l actually very true, a great seducer comes off as subtle, the girl suspects nothing but she likes the way she feels around you, that's seduction in a nutshell. The best seducers are so unassuming. Perfect example is strong eye contact, subtle yet sexy | /r/seduction | 24/05/19 03:30 AM |
| 5 | Holding eyecontact is magical and hardThis is so true, it's funny after you've mastered it, some girls still hold on for soooooo long. Why? Well because they're so used to men looking away right away, they're not used to some one like me who gazes just as long. Number 1 rule and it's a tough one at first, don't ever break until they break first Girls love a guy who gives them strong eye contact, it's subtle yet very sexy | /r/seduction | 24/05/19 03:27 AM |
| 1 | 7 Daily Habits That Help You Meet Hot GirlsLol I laughed when he said he was from Cranston, as a fellow Rhode Islander this dude is spot on, I call RI hog Island because there is zero talent here, ZERO. Go to Boston or NY like he said, hot girls everywhere there. Rhode Island is SCRUB city, unless you're at Uni then there's hot girls everywhere, but other than that go to the cities | /r/seduction | 22/05/19 02:51 PM |
| 1 | When you're a virgin in your early 30s how realistic is it to want to gain experience from casual sex?I was a late bloomer, women could care less about experience, they literally don't give a shit, in fact they'd probably be excited you hadn't seen another girl naked, she'd be less insecure making her more fun and confident with you in bed. Any way by the time you get there she won't care. The build up is more important getting a girl turned on than the actual sex itself | /r/seduction | 21/05/19 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Is this pic ok to have on my online dating profile?This goes for both sex's actually. Keeping things casual it's a lot easier for men than it is for women. woman typically are the ones that want a relationship. you tell a guy that you want to be a Friends with Benefits most of them will jump on board and have no issues. no need to show a picture of yourself half naked. Just because you want to keep it casual doesn't mean you don't keep it mysterious and exciting in the pursuit. Half the fun is the build up, no build up if you just throw your bod… | /r/seduction | 20/05/19 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Please don’t hit on your cashier if you don’t know them.Enlighten me oh all knowing one T.O.O.L | /r/seduction | 17/05/19 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Girls who I tutor.The best seduction is done right in front of office or school. You see a good flirt isn't overtly flirty, he's mysterious in a way. A good flirt is hard to pick up from outside sources. A good flirt leaves the girl questioning, wait did he just mean what I think he meant, I can't tell (but I want to find out more). Anyways body language, eye contact, and tone can all be totally sexy without ever being work inappropriate. | /r/seduction | 17/05/19 12:58 AM |
| 33 | The Basics Of GameGood post, one thing about style which I agree is important is you don't need to go expensive. I do most of my shopping at TJ Maxx, Marshall's, or Macy's. I buy all my clothes pretty cheap but I don't sacrifice quality, most of my clothes are quality name brand stuff. Personally I never wear guess, just not my style, but everyone's style is different and so is our age group which varies by style as well. Anyway what works for one guy may not work for another and I'm always told I'm very stylish.… | /r/seduction | 16/05/19 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Please don’t hit on your cashier if you don’t know them.Haters gonna hate | /r/seduction | 16/05/19 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Please don’t hit on your cashier if you don’t know them.You're on the wrong sub, guys who know seduction aren't creeps, and would never do this. This sub absolutely warns guys of ever hitting on girls who work in the service industry, and to always be warry of bartenders because they're whole job circles around being nice and flirty to get paid, this is r/seduction newb 101. And tbh, if someone hit on you, who was good at seduction, youd absolutely be flattered, not creeped out | /r/seduction | 16/05/19 12:30 AM |
| 1 | How do I keep eye contact without being creepyI posted this with not alot of response but it breaks down eye contact and what you're asking https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7deeza/why_eye_contact_is_so_important_and_how_it_helps?sort=top | /r/seduction | 16/05/19 12:21 AM |
| 16 | How do I land dates as an attractive person?Read the side bar, find out that being attractive helps, but it DOES NOT get you girls. Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women. It's the simplest of answers yet the hardest to achieve. It takes years of building self esteem to get this confidence. Once you have it confidence helps you immensely but it does not gaurentee you girls. Nothing does, it's piecing things together that make you an attractive male. Confidence, Height, Physically fit, Nationality depending on location, Money, Funn… | /r/seduction | 15/05/19 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Do attractive people have a hard time confronting their crush?Agree I'm fairly attractive, confidence is everything. Had little to zero luck before I gained it | /r/seduction | 13/05/19 02:43 AM |
| -1 | Any man under 40 fucked a woman 60+?What the absolute fuck? Lol | /r/seduction | 10/05/19 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to attract girls with ZERO actual vulnerability?A self defeating attitude will get you no where fast The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result Ask yourself, is what you're doing working? If it's not stop being an asshole to everyone trying to offer you help. Good luck, you need it | /r/seduction | 10/05/19 06:49 PM |
| 14 | What did you start doing to get girls to view you sexually?This is overall a good answer I also think there are different ways to skin a cat. I let my intent known that I find girls attractive in general not just the specific girl I'm talking to. I'm a flirt and girls love my confidence and playful nature. I'm a big tease so in one breath I'll be telling them I like their hair in another I'll tell them they're being a dork. Push pull type of stuff. But to answer your question about body language it's so true. Guys completely underate body language but g… | /r/seduction | 08/05/19 10:16 PM |
| 9 | Picking up chicks in nyc?NYC girls put up a BIG front, in fact all New Yorkers do, it's all a facade and deep down we're all human. You need to get past their hard outer shell and show that you're not affected by their hard exterior, if you show you're not intimidated they'll respect that. Expect in New York to get major shit tested, again this is all a front, everyone puts up a big front but they're all a bunch of pussies deep down. All they're doing compensating for deep rooted insecurities, if you show you're very se… | /r/seduction | 08/05/19 02:42 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to attract girls with ZERO actual vulnerability?You can't come to the sub without handling your self-esteem 1st, try reading books like the six pillars of self-esteem before going on to the seduction page. you absolutely have to have confidence to have any game, no amount of game will help you if you don't have your self-esteem rooted | /r/seduction | 05/05/19 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Stuck in a rutI think this is a classic case of your stuck in your own head, you're overanalyzing over thinking. there was some sort of confidence you had on your Twenties that you didn't think about right, it was just blind confidence. You need some of that blind confidence cuz theres going to be stuff that you're just out of your control and there's nothing you can do about it. you don't know another girls situation, you don't know what her life story is, you don't know if she has a boyfriend, or she has he… | /r/seduction | 05/05/19 05:54 PM |
| 1 | How to start at 24? Very confusedWell you took the big first step actually, what you don't realize is the next part is easier and it's simply using this sidebar to learn how you can attract women. So I do agree with you there is a certain level of game that you need to have to attract women but what most men don't get on this sub is the fact that this sub is useless without the first huge step, which is what you did to improve your life, your self-esteem, and love who you are. After you do that, then and only then can you learn… | /r/seduction | 26/04/19 04:59 PM |
| 2 | how can I become what girls "want"?You need to read books like the six pillars of self esteem that help you get rid of your self deprecating attitude. Girls arent the solution they're a result of positive steps you take to improving yourself. The journey is long and it takes discipline but I promise if you legit stick with it for a year you'll see results you never thought possible | /r/seduction | 26/04/19 11:24 AM |
| 1 | If you think a girl is 'Out Of Your League'This comment is more true than you know and like OP said, if you approach her thinking she's out of your league you're DONE. Remember, know you're the catch not her | /r/seduction | 26/04/19 11:10 AM |
| 6 | How to start at 24? Very confusedI was an extreme late bloomer Virgin a lot longer than I care to admit. Total loser with women in both high school and college and when I was in my late 20s it clicked, all my friends who were getting laid far earlier than me I can out game all of them now. And now girls are very attracted to me. I guess my advice first is to read side bars, but you're absolutely doing the right thing by focusing on yourself first, going out staying active you see these types of guys are very attractive to women… | /r/seduction | 26/04/19 03:20 AM |
| 3 | Why is confidence so attractive to women?Ultimately because all humans are insecure, so what's more attractive to humans than someone who appears very secure about themselves. Confidence is attractive to both sex's, guys more so than women but only because men can be intimidated by a very confident women, but a confident man will absolutely find a confident women very attractive. Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for women hands down. Nothing is more attractive to them, not money not muscles, sure those help but confidence will score yo… | /r/seduction | 24/04/19 08:33 PM |
| 9 | What does it mean when i tell a girl that she is beautiful and she doesnt think that way? And what to do?Yea to piggy back here it all depends on the girl. The hotter the girl the less you do this, and more teasing you should implement. In other words never tell a gorgeous woman she's beautiful, she's heard that shit a thousand times and you want to be different, not like everyone else. If she is very attractive I always keep the compliment about her clothing or earrings or hair. For instance I love your hair do you always wear it like that or is it something new you're doing? Anyways girls love th… | /r/seduction | 23/04/19 06:05 PM |
| 1 | I wish I was able to trade in my height for an attractive face.The entire game all revolves around confidence ALL OF IT. Work on your inner game first, confidence is 85% of seduction and if you have issues there try self help books that work on self esteem and building confidence. Work that first then read side bar here for tips on seduction | /r/seduction | 11/04/19 03:05 AM |
| 2 | I wish I was able to trade in my height for an attractive face.Bro girls love tall guys, use what you have to your advantage and make up where you lack. If you lack in face you upgrade your wardrobe, dress classy, make sure your hair is tight, well groomed. STOP with this self defeating attitude, there ain't a guy alive that doesn't have weaknesses, those who don't make excuses and improve on those weaknesses are the ones that succeed, all others sit in the crying corner | /r/seduction | 11/04/19 01:36 AM |
| 10 | Do you chase women or do you see what comes your way?Approaching is necessary in seduction, that's the guys job. You never chase women but you Also don't sit on the sidelines watching girls go by. Don't be afraid to approach a girl and start a small conversation, nothing ground breaking, just a small convo to break the ice and get to know each other. Simple as that, too many guys go all in on a girl.... Oh shes so hot I have to talk to her Omg I love her. No fuck that, sure notice she's hot then say okay does she have the personality to back it up… | /r/seduction | 10/04/19 12:24 AM |
| 1 | this is bluepill and braincels in oneWambulance | /r/seduction | 10/04/19 12:16 AM |
| 6 | Any advice?Attraction isn't an age it's a mind frame. First stop with the self deprecating attitude and realize you have no idea what it's going to be. Girls will attract to guys based on many factors and not all factors you bring to the table will be them, so make up for it in other ways. Confidence confidence confidence will get you laid more than age, good looks, money. Sure all those help, but nothing helps more than confidence | /r/seduction | 10/04/19 12:15 AM |
| 10 | Here's an idea: be grateful for rejectionAgree here, I think men have a tough time with this but in many cases men do it to themselves. To your point women hate confrontation, they hate telling a man straight up no because they're not built like men, they're women and women would rather not offend you buy hoping you get the hint, ignoring or ghosting. Men are more direct women aren't, don't be mad, accept that reality. Just like you can't be mad women don't approach, the reality is that's the man's job like it or not. Women will attrac… | /r/seduction | 26/03/19 09:54 PM |
| 2 | (43m) How do keep going when everyone else is better than you?Get a shrink | /r/seduction | 25/03/19 03:10 PM |
| 5 | hate seeing hot couplesJealousy and envy will get you no where l, neither will a self deprecating attitude. Ask yourself everyday, is what I'm doing improving myself in anyway, if it isn't don't complain when you see other guys with their shit together. You can be them if you just changed your attitude and mind set | /r/seduction | 25/03/19 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Oneitis turned to a whore, rose-tinted glasses shattered, feeling ..disappointed.You have the wrong attitude, blame yourself not her. Name me a girl that doesn't like attention, heck name me a guy that doesn't? You do you just don't know it. Anyway you failed to escalate and let her know where you stood, why would you blame her for that. Im not knocking you because I had the same self deprecating attitude once. At the end of the day the issue is you, girls naturally attract to men they find sexy. If you're not doing attractive things you won't build attraction. You're in the… | /r/seduction | 24/03/19 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Is seduction about seduction and not sex?Seducing isn't about being outcome dependant, seducing is enjoying the moment and the company of women. if a women wants to hook up, great added bonus to continuing the fun night you're having. If a girl doesn't want to hook oh well, either continue on or meet new women Seduction is about become a sexy guy in general, a guy that naturally attracts women just like a cute girl attracts men. Both men and women have slightly different routes when it comes to attraction but a sexy guys attraction jus… | /r/seduction | 21/03/19 03:11 AM |
| 1 | How to seduce with my boyfriend so he finds me irresistibleKinda agree here, sometimes it's doing too much that isn't sexy. Two things can happen, you play hard to get and he starts to beg for it or you start throwing yourself at him, grab him playfully and tell him to f you. Two options, do the opposite of what you've been doing to see if you get a reaction | /r/seduction | 20/03/19 01:28 AM |
| 18 | How to be better than 90% of guys at attracting women (10 ways)All of it is very true, I would add Body language and eye contact. These subtleties completely set you apart from men who are in most cases completely clueless to how women read body language. how a man carries himself and strong eye contact can be a big difference maker | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Approaching a girl with her guy friends aroundNever expect a girl to approach, it's your job. Love it or hate it that's the way it is. So even if the seat was open don't expect the girl to have the guts to sit there. That doesn't mean she's not interested it's just girls aren't the approachers guys are. Learn it now and fight through approach anxiety, that burden falls on guys. That's why I said be open and social, it's not about hitting on girls right away, just because she's cute don't make her fun, she could be a total bitch for all you … | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Approaching a girl with her guy friends aroundReally hard to interrupt with guys, hot girls are almost always going to have guys around them. But forget that for a second I think what most guys mistake is they focus on the girl and when you approach you never focus on the girl you focus on the social interaction and thru that interaction girls become attracted. What's that mean, it means you are the shit and no matter who you approach its about the social event and not about the girl. So figure out ways to address both the guy and the girl,… | /r/seduction | 13/03/19 09:16 PM |
| 8 | My twisted view of monogamy. Is it even worth it?Well couple things, grass isn't always greener, bit presumptuous to say you would do better don't you think? But here we are. Dude stop over thinking this, the whole point of seduction is to become the man that doesn't settle for the first girl willing to get his noodle wet. You become the best person you can be that allows you to be pickier, not settle for just anyone, and be with someone that 'gets' you. And when you become that person girls won't leave because they'll know the gem they got in… | /r/seduction | 13/03/19 03:23 AM |
| 1 | I have gotten pretty decent at this, but I’m starting to not be able to handle the dark sideBe honest and upfront with them, trying to only hook up with a girl isn't being dishonest with them all its saying is you're not ready for a relationship right now. Why feel guilty about that when you're upfront about it? Seduction isn't about being dishonest in anyway, if you feel this way you're doing it wrong | /r/seduction | 10/03/19 02:22 PM |
| 14 | I’m not good at talking to people until I get to know them, alas the friend zone is my worst enemyWhile this reply says a lot of right things seduction is more than just this. Essentially OP you need to carry yourself in a way that is attractive to women, just like this reply says some thjngs that will absolutely help you. A PUA was once asked, you have tons of girl you call friends, are you ever afraid of being friend zoned? He replied, no because if I wanted to I could escalate with anyone of them. Why isn't he afraid, well let's role reverse it, many of us have that hot girl that's just a… | /r/seduction | 05/03/19 03:02 AM |
| 1 | NO RESULTS AND HUNDREDS OF APPROACHES.....First of all you're mentioning cold approaching which is extremely tough even for advanced seducers. you have to build the social network first that's the that's the best way to get girls, you meet friends, friends have friends and more friends. it's joining clubs, joining the gym, joining activities, stuff like that. Just get you out versus meeting a girl out at a coffee shop and just getting her number, that's really hard to do and really hard not to get flaked on. It's not personal either, me… | /r/seduction | 04/03/19 02:04 PM |
| 2 | How did you overcome AA? I just stay there, until the chance is over.Agree here, AA will always be there, and guess what that's okay! Accept it and concentrate on what you're saying. The more you give it power the more anxious you get. It's okay, accept it and move on Don't let anyone fool you, Cold approach is by far the hardest of all pick up. Best building social networks, girls have friends and friends have more friends. I don't care where you live there's no such thing as only cold approaching | /r/seduction | 26/01/19 05:58 PM |
| 1 | I finally gained some confidence!The definition of confidence is accepting who you are... Good and bad | /r/seduction | 25/01/19 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)I use it to flirt and approach, I use it everyday. Used correctly like I said is an important factor in all phases of life. For instance eye contact is crucial in a job interview | /r/seduction | 25/01/19 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)Haha once I discovered it I was shocked how long some girls will hang on. To answer your question Long eye contact is only creepy if you hold it, they look away, you continue to hold it, they glance back to see you still staring at them. THAT IS CREEP LEVEL 1000. as soon as they break you absolutely break away too, never keep staring. The key in all of this to make sure they break away first then you break away after. I typically only smile if they smile, so if they smile, I reciprocate and smil… | /r/seduction | 24/01/19 10:22 PM |
| 2 | A reminder why you should approach every women you’re attracted toIdk but I'd guess it's better than staying in your mother's basement the rest of your life | /r/seduction | 23/01/19 03:33 AM |
| 7 | I find women annoying now.You just got out of a relationship that took both energy and time away from you. Maybe you just need a break in general. Clear your head, you do you, you'll get your psyche back when you're good and ready. In the meantime focus on yourself and improving yourself | /r/seduction | 21/01/19 06:41 PM |
| 6 | Best Opener To Use For Any ApproachI agree with other reply about direct openers and being comfortable with uncertainty, however that is advanced seduction, that is for guys who've approached many women with success and have built up confidence so much so that they could careless about being outcome dependent etc. However this can be very tough for younger less experienced guys, and I myself who has had very good success in general, can say canned openers are awesome and often take the pressure off the approach and interaction. T… | /r/seduction | 18/01/19 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Few things I still don't getYou can be a gentleman all while displaying alpha confident male tendencies. Don't confuse being alpha with not being nice. A confident man is still nice he's just not a kiss ass. You see fake nice guys are being nice all to get a girl. Girls pick up on this fake nice and are turned off by it, because it's blatant easy to spot, and not sexy. Don't be nice because you want to get in a girls pants be nice because you are truly a nice person. Tons of total assholes play the nice guy routine, when r… | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Studies found 50% success rate in day gameHere come the grammar nazi's smh | /r/seduction | 11/01/19 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)You hold until they break but as soon as they break, you absolutely do not continue staring then you'll just come off as a creep. So once you both break give it a little time before you look back over if she looks back over don't lock too long again, again creepy the 2nd time. But if she looks again you should approach for sure | /r/seduction | 10/01/19 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)That's an excellent point btw, it's true pick one eye. | /r/seduction | 09/01/19 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)I agree there is definitely a fine line between being creepy. Don't just blatantly stare at a girl across the room. Never never never keep staring after the girls looked away | /r/seduction | 09/01/19 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)Not true, this happens alot actually, the key in all instances is don't be the first to look away trust me many many times girls look away quickly after I meet their eyes. It's not a negative sign, it could even be a positive sign that says she shy or embarrassed you caught her checking you out | /r/seduction | 09/01/19 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)Exactly, it's so nuts how much girls are better at it than we are, EXCEPT the r/seduction crew! It's a great secret weapon and girls love guys that confidently look into their eyes. Its funny I've had some hold on so long it was uncomfortable even for me after I knew about eye contact. I'm glad I learned about it and how much it can help a man's game. It's both great for girls across the room but also vastly important in one and one conversation. | /r/seduction | 09/01/19 08:09 PM |
| 26 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)Eye confidence is HUGE It's my secret weapon and it works wonders. Girls are so much better at holding eye contact than men. Don't believe me, here's a test go out and when you meet a girls eyes in public don't break UNTIL they break first! Go ahead try it, you'll see some girls hold on for a LONG time, don't give in though don't break till they break first. Key in conversation too, don't break until they break first, try it, it creates alot of intamacy. At first you'll find it weird but more yi… | /r/seduction | 09/01/19 03:55 AM |
| 5 | Eye Contact (My experience and why it works)This guys on to something actually, you see it's not important how she interpreted the situation. It's never about that, why because you never lose frame in seduction. A girl does that to me and you need to say something along the lines of... Well I'd be flattered of course! Never never get defensive, especially when girls shit test you, this is them looking for a reaction and if you act defensive in anyway you lose. The key is to maintain Frame, and always play the situation to your favor. Key … | /r/seduction | 09/01/19 03:49 AM |
| 2 | How to seduce a very seductive woman?Well a seducer will know another, they click so to speak, if you don't think you have the game to keep up fine, accept that don't be intimidated by it. Accept she's attractive, fun, and flirtatious. That's awesome better than a girl that isn't. People magnet to fun and accepting people... Not people who try to hard to be something they're not, not people who are tough, not people who are overly cocky. They flock to confidence and fun, this girl is attractive and confident, that is sexy. So be se… | /r/seduction | 05/01/19 07:40 PM |
| 5 | How do I cure oneitis?Exactly this, take action, shit or get off the pot. Don't linger, linger leads to nothing but prolonging the inevitable. Either ask her out or go after more girls, no in between. What if doesn't get you anywhere, action does its as simple as that. We all live in our heads GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD, you don't know shit you know nothing, your mind can't read other minds so stop wondering what if and ask her out, make a move, or move on. | /r/seduction | 01/01/19 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Crazy CoincidenceRead the sidebar this has zero to do with seduction. In fact you blew the first chance by not approaching, using the excuse of hanging out with your buddies. You got lucky with her initiating the approach, this is beta, you just got lucky no offense. | /r/seduction | 01/01/19 02:29 AM |
| 3 | How do I go from Beta to AlphaAgree here, read side bar tons of good info. But guys who ask this are ultimately devoid of confidence, it's not about being alpha, you can be alpha yet a total douche and no one likes a douche. You want to be a man sure if himself, and a beta man is not sure of himself. Try reading books on self esteem, six pillars of self esteem or other self help confidence books. That will help you more than even the side bar since I've always maintained the info here is useless if you don't have a foundatio… | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 01:38 PM |
| 1 | I just had a MINDBLOWING realization and I have to get it out.People are scared when they don't understand what could easily be at their finger tips if they just let go of their ego. You call him manic because you're defensive, your ego is defensive | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 01:03 PM |
| 3 | Snapchat: Luna.geutherGtfo | /r/seduction | 24/12/18 11:51 PM |
| 3 | Non neediness or just passive?Good question and good reply here Simple answer, don't be like other men Your tactic is ok but it's not the best. It's good to convey interest, so get that out of your head. Absolutely show interest BUT DO NOT show INTENT. The key to seduction is to stay wishy washy, keep the girl on her toes. Don't show her all your cards. Does he love me, does he love me not? That's what you want her guessing. This is the cat and mouse of it all. You see the difference between you and all those other guys hitt… | /r/seduction | 24/12/18 06:29 PM |
| 4 | So I'm a hardcore people pleaser, which seems like a bad thing for attracting people. My issues mainly come with attempting to make people laugh and not make them mad. How do I break this bad habit?You can please some people all of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you'll never please all the people all of the time. Abe Lincoln Good response by replier, I learned after many years that they'll always be haters no matter how cool you are. Took me many years to fully embrace, fuck'm. Be you and only you and change for no one | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 03:32 AM |
| 6 | Experienced Sedditors; How do you go about?I went from complete loser with women to a successful sedditor. I ended up settling down and getting married. Basically what seduction did for me was to be picky. So many guys settle for a women, seduction taught me to look for more than looks. That just because shes hot I don't need to deal with her shit, nor settle for it. As you get older you begin to realize that capability is so crucial in the long run, if the girl doesn't share atleast some of your interests you're gonna not be happy in th… | /r/seduction | 18/12/18 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to learn good game from only pure experience?Everything is learned thru experience and only experience but reading and learning gets you thinking and knowing as youre going thru the experiences that things start to click. You begin to remember things people said, Things you read in books and begin to say... Oh yea that's what the guy meant when he said that in the book. But ultimately they only click when you go thru that experience of doing it yourself. Think of it as sex, everyone and their mother can tell you what and how sex is but unt… | /r/seduction | 17/12/18 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Is this line too forward?It's actually not terrible to do if you say it with a smirk where she knows your half joking. Now you'll get all sorts of shit tests in some cases so if you go in strong expect some resistance, the key is to maintain your composure and not back down. Alternately some girls could be shy and find it too forward. My advice is you can use it on hotter girls but I probably wouldnt on girls that aren't as good looking as it might make you come off too cocky to them. If you do use it on hotter girls, j… | /r/seduction | 17/12/18 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Tip for maintaining frame in front of beautiful womenYea I was just having more of an open dialog, always appreciate insight from the opposite sex so thanks! | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Tip for maintaining frame in front of beautiful womenI think when guys are young it's very difficult for them not to be affected by looks, men are very Visual and we can get quite nervous around pretty girls, it takes a long time to mature enough to realize that just because she's pretty doesn't mean she's a good fit for me. When guys are young we tend to over weigh looks and look past glaring personality flaws. But it goes both ways, young women are quite naive as well, they see some cocky guy and say wow he's so sexy and confident when in realit… | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 06:44 PM |
| 7 | If a girl has handsome guy friends...Lol that dude is a forefather to the game, he's the reason seduction forums exist like this. He's absolutely legit | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 10:07 PM |
| 6 | If a girl has handsome guy friends...See Neil Strauss | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 06:23 PM |
| 23 | I want to thank this community!There's plenty of dudes who get cold approached, or given blatant hints from girls and totally blow it... Happens alot more than you think | /r/seduction | 03/12/18 03:52 AM |
| 16 | How to give off a sexual vibe?Look at YouTube Richard luruina, he is this and has great tips | /r/seduction | 22/11/18 11:15 PM |
| 18 | Should an average looking guy act like he's physically attractive when approaching girls?Yes yes yes! It actually works better for average looking guys because girls are like, who the heck does this guy think he is? Then they say (in their head) , hmmm how is he so confident, it's kinda sexy. Playing the role reversal is very effective in the game, going up to a hot girl telling her to stop checking you out it's making me insecure is both funny, not normal, and shows confidence. A very good looking guy absolutely could NOT do this, but an average looking guy can get away with it. Th… | /r/seduction | 22/11/18 02:18 PM |
| 2 | How do i stop being nice without being freaking cocky and a douche??First by stop trying so hard. Meeting new people is no different than meeting other people you do know, only difference is you don't know them yet so stop putting a future outcome on them without getting to know them first. The easiest yet hardest part of the game is going into meeting new girls, by being no different than you normally are.... NO YOU DON'T NEED TO BE SUPER SMOOTH, SUPER FUNNY, OR SUPER STUDLY. so stop trying to be, those are the guys that fail, girls are so used to guys coming u… | /r/seduction | 22/11/18 01:56 PM |
| 2 | where to start with the "game"Mystery method is outdated and the book the game is more of an entertainment read not an instructional one. I'd start with models by Mark Manson. Also YouTube Richard laruina, David dangelo, and or Tyler durgen. All have their own style but effective so pick the guy that most fits your personality. All those guys will teach you stuff either way | /r/seduction | 22/11/18 01:18 PM |
| 2 | How To Tease A Girl And Spark Sexual AttractionI mean I totally agree with you but looks have a very broad range. Look at Neil Strauss, the dude is no Brad Pitt or Ryan Reynolds yet he's banged more models we'll ever see in a lifetime. Looks matter but not nearly as much as guys give them credit for | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Girls saying they felt like it was more of a friendly hang out than a date during coffee datesI see alot of decent advice on here and a lot of horrible advice. At the end of the day flirting is an art and so is seduction. Guys need to get it out of their head that if you do this or that you're more likely to get friend zoned, or if I take a girl to X it will lower your chances or increase it. Yes sure some date destinations are better than others BUT NO destination of a date is a deal breaker, what is a deal breaker is how the guy acts on a date. Guys don't friend zone themselves because… | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 02:24 AM |
| 1 | How To Tease A Girl And Spark Sexual AttractionRemember looks for guys is alot how you carry yourself. Guys are not hot, we're guys and we are not sexy creatures... Women are the true beauties. So guys make up for it in other ways....power, strength, confidence, and dress are all important factors for elevating a guys status among women. Sure good looks help but not nearly as much as they help women in this department. | /r/seduction | 17/11/18 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Socializing is boringI'm gonna be blunt and I don't mean to be offensive but you're self absorbed and selfish. You don't give a fuck about anyone but yourself. A couple things about self esteem, it's only exists if you love yourself and are acceptance of others. You're so far up your own ass that you think there's no way out or that the way you perceive reality is the way it is. Yes maybe to you it is, but no one else. Anyway get the fuck out of your own head and open yourself to a whole new world of people and expe… | /r/seduction | 15/11/18 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Got my first date this weekendI know you're excited but stop playing the end game here. Focus on having a good time, it's not about whether you take her home or not, or whether you hook up with her that night or not. Make sure you have a good time. That you get to know her, meaning even if you think she's a super model, is she cool, does she have the personality to back it up? Are you even compatible? If you focus on having fun and getting to know her the rest will work itself out. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 06:17 PM |
| 14 | How To Tease A Girl And Spark Sexual AttractionAgree the hotter the women the more essential teasing becomes, teasing shows hot girls you're not afraid of them, that it's you who's got the upper hand not them. Tells them you're the catch | /r/seduction | 12/11/18 04:31 AM |
| 2 | How much do girls care about body fat?Yes and I'll give it to you straight, girls with big asses, big boobs, and high cheak bones will also play the game on easy mode. For the 90% of us we gotta put in work. Girls get their hair did, make up tight, and their outfits cute or sexy. Guys work on building confidence that shows a girl you're comfortable to be who you are no matter who you're talking to. Be fun, have fun, and girls will naturally magnet | /r/seduction | 10/11/18 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Why Loving Yourself is the Most Attractive Thing You Can DoLol this was down voted, people are truly clueless | /r/seduction | 10/11/18 05:22 PM |
| 10 | Why Loving Yourself is the Most Attractive Thing You Can DoBoth of you are right, I always said the #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence, nothing is more attractive to women. It's what every man should have in their toolbox of seduction The answer is both simple, yet so vastly complex to achieve | /r/seduction | 10/11/18 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Friends challenging me to get a date (with a 10/10) in under 36hrs, how do I win this my dudes?You're fucked | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 04:45 PM |
| 3 | ***7 Things Men Do That Turns Women Off***Some tips while interacting Never lose frame, girls will always test you, never stop doing your thing. Never give direct answers, deflect and always put them on the spot not you. The whole validation thing is very important, never answer their questions about who you are as a person you're the shit and you already know it so no need to prove it to anyone. Trying to prove it shows you're insecure. Make them validate who they are! It's the bait and switch, totally flip the game on them, get them t… | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Best coaches for online sessions for a newbie?https://youtu.be/-unuqF4uklE Heres a good start | /r/seduction | 07/11/18 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Need help with securing a dateYou can say that, I opt to say something less insulting (not that what you said is that bad but id keep it lighter) and say something more of lines of... Please you wish you could hang with my skills Or something that is cocky/funny But I just reread, what your reply said is good too. Escalate and say loser pays for dinner? | /r/seduction | 06/11/18 09:38 PM |
| 1 | How would I respond to this.Your answer... "Good I'm not trying to settle down either, want to hang out Friday night?" | /r/seduction | 06/11/18 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Best coaches for online sessions for a newbie?Learning seduction is alot like public speaking, you'll always be nervous but thru practice you learn to concentrate on the conversation rather than the nerves you're feeling. Accept you'll be nervous, it's okay, just make sure to continue to focus on what your saying and what she's saying and you'll be fine and the nerves will eventually subside. Anyway I like to give two types of PUAs depending on your personality type go with one that suits you most Extroverts use Tyler Durgen or David Deange… | /r/seduction | 06/11/18 08:25 PM |
| 1 | How To 10x Your Confidence With Women By Entering A Flow StateIt depends I'm from RI which is the Northeast, girls in the Northeast have a tough front but it's all a front. Go to NYC and girls will be difficult to talk to randomly because hardly anyone in NYC goes out of their way to chat with people just not the culture. With that said people are people and some may put up a big tough front but that's all that it is, a front. If a girl wants to move to another line because you asked her a simple question, then who gives a fuck. It has zero to do with you … | /r/seduction | 03/11/18 05:10 PM |
| 30 | How To 10x Your Confidence With Women By Entering A Flow StateOne tip that helped me was forcing myself to have small talk with cute girls. I didn't go in with the added pressure of trying to pick them up, I didn't try to go in to impress them. My goal was to hold a conversation where I was just nonchalantly talking to her, no pressure on her, no pressure on me. Through this exercise I found out it became easier and easier to just Bullshit with people, to just small talk about whatever my surroundings were. It also helped me work on essential seduction tac… | /r/seduction | 01/11/18 12:57 AM |
| -5 | HOW TO GET AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN’S ATTENTION WITHOUT TRYINGYour response to the question is easy... "I am the VIP and just so you know you're lucky to be talking to me" (said with a sarcastic grin on your face). Deflect and reassert dominance | /r/seduction | 30/10/18 01:43 PM |
| 15 | HOW TO GET AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN’S ATTENTION WITHOUT TRYINGDefinitely agree, hot girls are so used to guys NOT being normal that when they meet a guy that is their ears and eyes perk up. Be cool and she will be too. And I don't mean cool in the sense of trying to be cool, I mean talk to her like a normal human being, strike up a conversation and just stay calm and nonchalant and you'd be surprised how good most of the reactions are. | /r/seduction | 30/10/18 01:39 PM |
| 3 | Post-Breakup Game SOSAgree you are bummed bro, comes with the territory, focus on yourself for once and stop worrying about girls until you feel ready. You'll know when the time comes but in the mean time focus on improving yourself and getting over your previous relationship | /r/seduction | 27/10/18 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys ever find yourself just randomly not taking opportunites and feeling stupid later?First off go out to have fun nothing else. Stop over thinking the situation, that girl didn't, and hooked up with a guy 10 minutes later that could have been you. Youre not back backing to find your marriage partner your back packing to have fun and meet new people. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take so take them with zero regrets. Of course you'll second guess yourself, of course your mind will say maybe not, but you need to say this trip is once in a lifetime and even if I make a total … | /r/seduction | 27/10/18 03:56 PM |
| 1 | What are the indicators that I should walk away after a successful approach?I'm good with girls though am no expert, but many PUAs always talk about how you need to get in and get out, either number close quick and get back to your friends OR isolate and/or change the location giving the girl the effect that's she's done alot with you over one evening. By changing the scene she now has a separate new adventures with you. Sorry I know there's more detail on it that I'm not explaining well | /r/seduction | 27/10/18 03:49 PM |
| 1 | When seduction almost gets you killed. My brother is now obsessed with power and seduction. It's put our family in danger.Da fuk? | /r/seduction | 25/10/18 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeQuality men have options Quality women have options The stud guy knows hes got game and confidence, The hot girl knows shes hot, Both have options It's okay for stud guy to pursue girl he likes, he does so knowing he's got high value and he portrays it, and he let's girl know it by the way he carries himself. One girl itus is okay because as a pua once said, he never gets friendzoned. Why does a stud guy never get friendzoned, it's just like the hot girl never gets friendzoned. We all know that … | /r/seduction | 24/10/18 03:46 AM |
| 2 | How To Be Cool (in a woman's eyes, at least ;) )We all have flaws, it's those who own them that exude confidence Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women... FACT | /r/seduction | 18/10/18 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Stop what you're doing and ask yourself, am I mentally healthy?Exactly, without getting your self esteem and confidence in check no amount of seduction advice will help very much. Sure techniques might help but like replier said you'll still feel empty and alone inside and what good is that? | /r/seduction | 18/10/18 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to be successful at seduction while being depressed?You can have success but any real sustainable success will ultimately be extremely hard to achieve. The #1 key to seduction is confidence, without confidence the game is virtually impossible. That's why so many guys talk about focusing on you and becoming the best you before you focus on girls. Self esteem is so essential to the game that you're so much better focusing on reading books on self esteem and working on your depression in general than you are working on seduction. No amount of seduct… | /r/seduction | 17/10/18 02:12 AM |
| 1 | More knowledge isn't the answerRead models by Mark Manson or no more Mr. Nice guy. Two excellent reads on seduction that will give you a fresh perspective. Also tons of YouTube videos showing you how to flirt with girls etc. There's Tyler Durgan, David deangelo, Richard laguna all guys with different seduction styles but all seduce. Pick the guy that most suits your personality | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Negging Is For 10sAs a long time advanced seducer negging is not effective. It only works on super insecure girls and who wants those? Alot of dumbass guys do but insecure girls are great only for other insecure guys. No thanks Teasing is the art guys want to master. Never insult a girl outright, never, its immature and will not get you quality A girls. Sure negging works on dumb bimbos but I don't want a bimbo I want a beautiful girl with a great personality to match. And girls with great personalities will ofte… | /r/seduction | 11/10/18 03:11 AM |
| 8 | More knowledge isn't the answerSeduction goes like this... Read, learn, practice, fail, read, learn, practice, fail, read, learn, practice, succeed.... Rinse and repeat | /r/seduction | 11/10/18 02:58 AM |
| 14 | It's scaring me (28m) that literally nothing worksYour self esteem is shot. Try reading the six pillars of self esteem. You need to work on your low confidence and self esteem before anything on this sub will help you | /r/seduction | 04/10/18 03:00 AM |
| 2 | 8 Unique Attitude Shifts To Help DESTROY Your Approach AnxietyI'm an expert here because I had huge approach anxiety... Fact is you WILL BE NERVOUS YOU WILL NOT BE COMFORTABLE. ...and that's okay So many people offer advice, think this way, distract yourself that way, but what worked best for me was accepting that yes no matter what I'm going to feel nervous, but I don't fight it. I let myself be nervous all while I concentrate on what I'm gonna say. Staying focused on the task at hand rather than fighting emotions that are always going to arise is so much… | /r/seduction | 04/10/18 01:25 AM |
| 6 | depression feeling when seeing hot girlsYour projecting a false future outcome. Girls are people too that's why girls hate guys that put them on pedestal just because they're pretty, they know there's more to them than their looks so they hate guys that make them feel so special just because they're hot. I know a lot of pretty girls and let me tell you they all have flaws, everyone of them, some are cool others are total snobs, annoying, bratty, self centered. You don't know that until you get to know them. So stop projecting a false … | /r/seduction | 01/10/18 01:27 PM |
| 6 | Finished Models by Mark Manson. Got a question about The Game.More of an entertaining read not a tutorial, good entertaining book though so I'd still read it. | /r/seduction | 28/09/18 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Dating tipsRead the side bar, tons of good stuff. Remember, don't try to impress, see if she can impress you. This concept is foreign to alot of men, but guys that are good with women do this | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 01:50 AM |
| 3 | First Major Heartbreak - Feeling Lost (22 Turning 23) and Seeking InspirationNot sure why someone down voted this, it's a solid answer and it's from a girl, which to know offense to any girl, typically it's awful for guys to get advice from girls about relationships. It's just doesn't work sorry but this answer was solid. The op is still in shock and needs to go into monk mode so many on this sub talk about. I'm not a fan of monk mode but I am in this circumstance. OP needs to lick wounds do some soul searching and work on becoming a better overall man/person. Focus on s… | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 01:35 AM |
| 4 | When you know she is interested, how to just go straight up to her and say something. How to act?I think the confusing thing for young men is the concept of the girl you just met and instant attraction. The key you learn is that you want to to know her first before you even like her. That's why guys say, just say hi and have a normal convo. Don't try to be sauve don't try to be Johnny tough guy, be you and talk to her as if youre talking to your best friend. So many men make the grave mistake of falling in love at first site. Don't do this, just like you made friends with your best friend g… | /r/seduction | 06/09/18 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Do any of you guys have "real core confidence"? How did you develop it?Start with reading the six pillars of self esteem. Also read how to make friends and influence people. Two great starts | /r/seduction | 03/09/18 12:22 PM |
| 1 | "Treat her like your kid sister" - Examples of how to tease a girl - Steal some of these and make them your ownThe people who comment saying this is stupid or lame don't know shit about seduction, I love this technique and use it often. It's ball busting and we all do it, even to our guy friends, it's the universal funny easy going banter. Anyway David dangelo came out with his material that closely resembles OPs point, it's call cocky funny, look it up, Def works. With that said not everyone has the personality to pull this off, it's an effective technique but so is the Gamblers technique aka Richard la… | /r/seduction | 31/08/18 03:41 AM |
| 1 | I often notice girls looking at me, how do I proceed?I kinda agree though, the sidebar has a ton of good info, read up then ask questions related to stuff youre stumped on. This questions been asked 1000 times With that said a simple read the sidebar reply would have been enough | /r/seduction | 31/08/18 03:18 AM |
| 1 | How to stop being terrified about girlsThanks man, Yea that's a great point by Mark, I remind myself every time I see a gorgeous girl | /r/seduction | 26/08/18 02:21 AM |
| 5 | How to stop being terrified about girlsI like all the suggestions here but the one right now that will most resonate with OP is letter C. Men make the grave mistake of making every interaction with women a potential girlfriend opportunity. No dude stop, talk to them like a human, they're not your future gf or wife they're a human you haven't met yet. So stop acting like, oh she's cute I need to see if she likes me. As models by Mark Manson says, why don't you approach her with the attitude let's see if she is cool, what does SHE brin… | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 01:39 PM |
| 3 | Plagued by inactionBro we're all in our head, and everyone of us gets AA. Not a human Alive, the key is, and this is something I've also always struggled with, is ACCEPT THE FACT YOU'RE NERVOUS. Ive worked very hard at this and sure enough my stomach still drops at times, but instead of letting that freak you out think of it as a normal reaction everytime you're brave. When I feel my stomach drop I acknowledge it and move on, I don't fight it I don't let it grip me, I accept this nervousness and even if the nerves… | /r/seduction | 23/08/18 12:52 AM |
| 2 | I'm quitting night game for the time being. Considering Meetup groups.Night game is tough, it is what it is, good for a lay but it sounds like you're now passed that stage and looking for more out of a relationship. I have no clue what meet ups are not familiar. I'm 39 my advice is to join clubs and common interest groups. Join them because you want to not because there are women there but I've always maintained when you do stuff that you like you meet people with common interests and many times they have friends and friends of friends, again it's expanding your s… | /r/seduction | 19/08/18 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one who isn't here to simply seduce girls into having sex with you but to form a genuine connection with one?Seduction isn't about the end game its the journey. Seduction helps form connections with women that men otherwise struggle with. Whether you're in it for sex or in for intimate connections seduction is for everyone, you take what you want out of it | /r/seduction | 18/08/18 01:45 PM |
| 3 | First ApproachThis Manage fear don't let fear manage you. Approach anxiety never goes away, what's great though is you learn over time to accept it and it becomes less distracting over time | /r/seduction | 17/08/18 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Sexual PresenceFlirting With Hot Women is Exhilarating There’s nothing more sexually intoxicating than flirting with a hot woman. This is particularly true when she’s flirting back. When she’s smiling and laughing. When those thick, silky lashes are fluttering up and down. When she’s turning toward you. When she’s leaning in. When she’s giving you “those eyes.” When she touches you (or if you’re really doing things right - when she gives you a playful elbow to the ribs). These silent cues are what make flirtin… | /r/seduction | 17/08/18 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Sexual PresenceI agree, it's not what you say it's how you say it. It's not that you walk but how you walk. Body language is crucial and playing it cool shows women you're confident af. | /r/seduction | 17/08/18 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Sexual PresenceThis shit is $$$$$ So so so true, non reactive shows so much confidence, why because ultimately what this says is that you're the one that causes reactions, not hot girls, not any outside sources. My advice to men is this is actually pretty advanced stuff here, not in the sense of understanding but in the sense of living it. Confidence is hard and having a strut like this shows ultimate confidence, it shows that no outside source will sway you because you are who you are and you're not gonna wav… | /r/seduction | 17/08/18 03:03 AM |
| 9 | What are books that are a must read for a solid seduction foundation?Surprised no one has mentioned Models by Mark Manson, excellent read on seduction and just being you. Also many guys here have much bigger underlying issues to resolve than reading books on seduction. And I'm not saying that's a bad thing, since that was me years ago. So with that said read six pillars of self esteem. Great read on building self confidence on yourself and insight on practicing how to fix negative thoughts. On a more spiritual level and also working on getting rid of negative tho… | /r/seduction | 13/08/18 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Do not use tinder as a crutchThis is so true and excellent post. Tinder for many masks a problem with many men which is being able to socialize and flirt with women. It's kinda a double edge sword because Tinder literally helped men get laid who otherwise had no game or experience with women. So I can understand why men love it, why make the game harder than it has to be, tinder gets me laid which is my end goal. Well what many people don't realize is its hurting you in the long run and punting problems down the road that w… | /r/seduction | 12/08/18 01:31 PM |
| 5 | [FR] A girl asked for my numberYou did so many unknowingly right things. Frame, game is all frame. It's not being super flashy its not be Johnny tough guy As you said you can literally have a conversation about anything and it doesn't matter, it's how you carry yourself. If you're easy going and genuinely fun to be around girls will magnet. You took a boring convo and made it funny. You were comfortable with yourself enough to joke with her which can be and is very hard for alot of guys. Girls just want to have fun and you we… | /r/seduction | 12/08/18 01:13 PM |
| 3 | Leaving this here - Fucking amazingI think this is difficult to address but a great question. Thats the problem with seduction and why so many people give up or think its bs. The issue with seduction is its alot like working out. People with six packs and jacked muscles didn't end up that way because they went on a crash diet and worked out super hard for 3 months. No those people almost always have been going regularly for years. So the analogy is that seduction is a lifestyle not a fad, just like exercise is a lifestyle not a q… | /r/seduction | 09/08/18 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Field report. Feels good, but critique me.Sponge is right in his frame, when it comes to game its all frame. That frame can be formed in different dynamics but the frame is key. For example, unlike sponge I almost never show I find the girl attractive even if I think she's super hot. The reason is I want her to validate she's not a tool first. I fucking hate annoying stuck up hot girls, so I simply talk to them as if they were a gym buddy of mine, no different. Talk to them like a person no different than anyone else in the room. My fra… | /r/seduction | 08/08/18 01:46 AM |
| 1 | how seduction has changed you?I went from zero game dud and a virgin far longer than the average male or female for that matter, to being the guy most girls in my social circle secretly want to bang. I like using that example because what most guys need to realize is that girls want to hook up with guys, they just get turned on a different way than men do. If you can trigger those turn ons girls will find you sexy and sexy doesn't go away much like sexy doesn't go away from the gorgeous brunette in your class or work. | /r/seduction | 01/08/18 03:24 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Second night of overwhelming successKeep reading the sidebar tons of good info from people that are way better than me. Also my best advice is find a pua that most matches your personality. Not everyone is as extrovert as Tyler Durgan, if you're introverted try the gambler aka Richard laguna he has a ton of good tips on YouTube and he's great with body language and kino. always have fun and don't get discouraged while out partying. Meaning back in the day I'd be gaming and a girl wouldn't be interested in me and be all butt hurt s… | /r/seduction | 23/06/18 08:43 PM |
| 8 | [FR] Second night of overwhelming successAs someone who is considered pretty good with women your FR proves you know what you're doing. You're gonna kill it out there, keep learning because as long as I've been good (trust me there were years of bad) there are still weaknesses you just have to keep working at them. Touch is so important to game but you know what can be just as effective as touch without touching them and can be used even more quickly than touching... What you mentioned, EYE CONTACT. it can be so intimate if done right,… | /r/seduction | 23/06/18 01:20 PM |
| 1 | What are you favourite/most powerful 'outergame' things?Yes but I keep it more about what fits my personality so you need to find a pua that fits your style. I tailor my game around David dangelos cocky funny. I love teasing girls and I'm naturally funny so cocky funny works great for me. But if youre not into that or not as extroverted I always tell introverted guys to check out Richard Laguna aka the gambler pua. He is not over the top at all he isn't super extroverted like some of these PUAs he's just smooth af. I learned alot from him about body … | /r/seduction | 08/06/18 03:16 AM |
| 1 | What would you do?Lol I did give you advice buddy, keep being negative see how far it gets you | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 08:41 PM |
| 0 | What are you favourite/most powerful 'outergame' things?I mean good for your for getting out and gaming. You seem to genuinely want to learn which is awesome and if you continue to learn you'll continue to get better with girls. One thing on the type of girls, super hot girls are very tough in the sense that either you need to be tall and handsome with some game OR have game so tight like one of these professional PUAs. Don't let PUAs fool you they are super excellent at social interactions with women, they practiced it 1000x more than the average gu… | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 04:06 PM |
| 1 | What would you do?I'd wait, don't come off clingy, you've projected your interest she needs to start reciprocating | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 03:51 PM |
| 3 | My Seduction AffirmationsDon't misinterpret what I'm saying. Staring too much is absolutely creepy and should NOT BE DONE. But this advice is universe a man should never break eye contact until a girl breaks first I don't care what country you're from. BUT THIS IMPORTANT.... As soon as she breaks contact you do too! DO NOT continue to stare because then you look like a creepy stalker. The same can be said in conversation, maintain strong eye contact and I typically don't break eye contact until she does but I mix in a f… | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 03:49 PM |
| 0 | What would you do?Don't bother posting if you're not gonna help Anyway op you need to stop worrying about the other guy, it ain't about him it's about you and only you remember that always. Never bring up the other never mention him. If you've been on two dates you should have escalated by now, you're friend zoning yourself. On date two absolutely should have made a move of some sort. But hey keep pursuing and make sure to flirt keep it fun NOT SERIOUS DO NOT BE CLINGY I WANT TO GET SERIOUS GUY. Girls run so far … | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 03:04 PM |
| 10 | Tried to approach a Girl on the bus stopFirst off awesome job You'll learn as you go just keep lurking this sub. Your journey you should think more about social interaction rather than picking up girls. Picking up girls is outcome dependant vs social interaction is just meeting and getting to know more people and if we end up hitting it off with a girl then awesome, there's an added bonus. Next time you talk to a cute girl just talk to her. Don't be outcome dependant because that only adds unnecessary pressure. Next time approach and … | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 02:57 PM |
| 16 | My Seduction AffirmationsI tend to agree more with smiling than not although id say strong eye contact is more important than whether you smile or not. For instance if a girl glances my way and we lock eyes it's not the smile that will project confidence or not but the strong eye contact. My rule of thumb is this, if I walk by a girl and she catches me looking at her don't look away, simply lock eyes and smile or say hi but lock your eyes! But alternatively if you catch a girl checking you out I lock eyes but don't smil… | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 02:50 PM |
| 41 | My Seduction AffirmationsThis is an excellent cliff note version thank you, although this seems a little to text booky. meaning some guys on here take this too far and spend all their time thinking about... Okay so she said this so I need to do this, she did this so I need to say that. From a natural perspective just go out and have fun and enjoy socializing with women. Let me add more on body language because it's so so underrated and girl's naturally attract to it if you do it right.... Stand up straight chest out (no… | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Seduction/Pickup villainized the mainstreamTrue agree and I think Mushi is also speaking to something that is extremely hard to do even for pua vets. I'm very good with women (I wasn't) it took years of inner searching bettering myself blah blah. Anyways even for me cold approaching is so so hard. You're better off adapting around social circles and networks, getting to know people who know more people. It's so much easier to gain trust and get girls to let their guard down when you're a friend of a friend than it is for them to warm up … | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 11:33 AM |
| 6 | I was told that when it comes to online dating, I should comment on something on their profile. Is this true?This kid is deflecting good advice and doing what do many people do which is only accepting their view of reality, big mistake. | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 01:47 PM |
| 2 | girls don't like guys who look youngHoly shit this There's not a person that walks this earth that doesn't have limitations and guess what they'll always be someone bigger stronger taller more athletic and better looking than you. Work on things you can improve and forget what limitations you possess, some limitations go away with improving yourself, others never will, but accepting them is critical for long term confidence | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Made an attempt at talking to this one girl...If I had a dollar for every awkward moment I had with a girl I'd be a rich man. Anyway dude it's live and learn. Think of talking to girls like giving a speech in front of 30 or 40 people. At first YOU SUCK, but with more experience and practice the less you freak out, you freaked out because you don't do this often and that's okay, keep at it. And even after 50 speeches you still get nervous but you're experienced and know how to garner the nervousness and focus on the task at hand. Anyway keep… | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 11:13 PM |
| 0 | Past Tinder date contacts me out of the blueExactly never give the attention girl what she wants. Never play her game you play yours. I never take a girl seriously when she says she's not looking to hook up. Listen if you turn a girl on theirs nothing that's gonna stop them from hooking up with you, no matter how much she didn't want to initially or even how much her friends try to cock block you, nothing stops the emotion of attraction. So play your game and make her fight for your attention. Tease the shit out of her, tell her she's rig… | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Approaching At The Gym?... When Every Woman Wears Headphones!It's been covered do not approach at gym, just dont. If you can try to get them in parking lot or outside of gym where the girl isn't doing a work out. Girls don't want to be approached at the gym, they feel gross they feel like they look gross (even though they don't), odds are against you is all I'm saying. | /r/seduction | 17/05/18 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Is the gym a good place to hit on older women?Agree very hard at gym. Girls hate it because they feel gross at the gym and not all pretty and dressed up, they're insecure and closed off as a result. Go to bar, plenty of older women dtf | /r/seduction | 04/05/18 08:14 PM |
| 3 | What do you think of this opener?This, u can frame anything and if you're fun or funny the girls not gonna care if you're talking about tinder or trash cans | /r/seduction | 04/05/18 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Out of FZ w flirty friend? NOT oneitisKino look it up and use it, YouTube is good source on kino. She is touch flirty AWESOME, you need to do same, flirt back, tickle her, tackle her playfully if she hits you jokingly. Touch touch touch that's the key to physical escalation, it will get to the point she'll beg you to make a move. | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 02:05 PM |
| 34 | How To Improve Self Esteem And Self Worth: 9 Powerful WaysGood article, more self esteem info needs to be sifted on this sub not because it's directly seduction related, but the fact the entire seduction sub is useless to anyone without self esteem because self esteem is the foundation to seduction. Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women, without it no techniques here will work Also read six pillars of self esteem, good book | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Shit test questionAlways keep the focus on how awesome you are. I always have that mind set and it's typically worked with shit tests etc. I'd say Yea she's cute but I have way more personality ;-) By saying what she said she was kinda alpha with the conversation, wow she's hot blah blah and then taking over the conversation, always need to one up an alpha girl to project who ultimately is in charge (you). Or something to that effect. Not to insult your other friend it's just keeping focus on you and how awesome … | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 01:11 PM |
| 1 | 23 year old college student with crippling sexual anxiety looking for advice (long).Let me start off by saying this is not all that uncommon for both sex's actually, so don't be ashamed or think you're some freak you're not and our minds are powerful things. Let me give you what helped me stop my crippling anxiety.... Meditation is great but hypnosis is best for curing specific conditions, mainly because hypnosis is meditation with a purpose. The reason I mention this is so many guys on this sub talk about being nervous in front of girls, or even talking to them but if they use… | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 03:09 AM |
| 0 | Girl at my gym that i've never spoken to has just added me on Facebook. What should i do?I agree a thousand % about the reply Here are the key points Is this good. Yes Does this mean much. No Is this only good for a good opener. Yes Other than that it means very little other than a perfect open for you. This is sometimes the hardest part for men and you basically got a free opener. However as with most girls they'll find a guy cute and then talk to them and want to run from the hills they so turned off. The reason guys ball bust is to show girls they're not afraid of their hotness, … | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Where to next?Dude you hooked up stop over thinking it. Text her next day, which you did, good. Then wait a few days to set up plans for next weekend. If she's busy say OK cool have fun and act like nothing happened. Don't say ok np what about next weekend! That's desperate. Play it cool and she'll be cool, play it too aggressive she'll flee. But stop over thinking, you guys hooked up, awesome. Play it cool fonz things will work out | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 10:19 PM |
| 5 | When a girl says in her tinder profile she "isn't really looking for a boyfriend"I think we have to have a healthy balance here. Im actually in agreement with that darkPUA kid but I also am not calling this a failure. Here's the deal no guy should EVER go into any relationship with any girl with the intent of making her your gf. That's not the point, you two will become bf gf when that time comes, but guys on here are jumping to conclusions, like we went on two dates and we kissed does that make her my gf? My point is WHO CARES. I honestly don't care if a girl wants a bf or … | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 10:13 PM |
| 5 | How to be natural/comfortabke with a girl you are really interested in ?This reply is on to something, girls pick up on when some guy is insecure and not being themselves. Girls want natural they don't want fake fronts or awkward nervous shy guy. I never try to approach a hot girl without treating her like anyone else, even as it I'm talking to a grandmother. Key to seduction is make the intro cool and calm so that she isn't freaked out by nervous tension or rolling her eyes at a guys cheesyness. Get her guard down by making her comfortable to be around you then lay… | /r/seduction | 26/04/18 03:22 AM |
| 1 | I don't have a fear of being rejected. I have a fear of people seeing me being rejected.You're judging them based on your own insecurities, so really it isn't about them it's about you and something you're trying to compensate for or hide. Think of the short guy who drives a bug truck, the short guy is obviously trying to compensate his shortness by driving a big truck... You're doing the same by judging someone months years | /r/seduction | 26/04/18 03:15 AM |
| 19 | I don't have a fear of being rejected. I have a fear of people seeing me being rejected.It's a mistake all of us have made, but seriously you're right. No one gives two shits about anyone else. Why? Because we're all stuck in our own heads, and everyone is always worried about themselves than anyone else. In fact anyone else worried about you is really just a reflection of their own insecurities they can't handle so they project those insecurities on other people as a way to take the burden off of themselves... So in the end it's all about our selfishness as a human, it's in our na… | /r/seduction | 25/04/18 03:19 AM |
| 36 | I don't have a fear of being rejected. I have a fear of people seeing me being rejected.More like You will be judged for 5 seconds and no one will give a fuck and never think about you again... Go seduce | /r/seduction | 25/04/18 02:04 AM |
| 3 | The absolute BEST way to Day Approach a cute girlThat's extreme, this opener isn't great but it's no cringe and if delivered right will have zero impact on what the girl perceives of you... Why because it's not what you say but how you say it. Frame it's all frame | /r/seduction | 17/04/18 01:14 PM |
| 5 | Girl asked if she’s staying in the same bed as me?You're fine but make a move either way, you're totally in good luck | /r/seduction | 17/04/18 03:34 AM |
| 0 | My thoughts on this subIt's clear by your post you don't get this sub, read the sidebar because alot of what you said is either newb 101 or flat out wrong | /r/seduction | 17/04/18 03:26 AM |
| 1 | I have inner game, highly developed inner game, but why do I not get results?your replies say it all, I can see why you're repelling women | /r/seduction | 16/04/18 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Women on tinder gotten really picky?Truthfully Tinder is great for women horrible for Men. Mens game was always about using words and projecting confidence even if you had a lack of looks. But how can you truly shine on tinder when tinder is all just pictures. Only the top 5% of men are initially attractive to women, the rest rely on confidence and the way they carry themselves to turn women on. | /r/seduction | 16/04/18 01:54 PM |
| 1 | I have inner game, highly developed inner game, but why do I not get results?Your inner game is never as developed as you think it is, but even so the reason people say inner game is so important because all this seduction information is completely useless if you don't have inner game. But just because you have confidence doesn't mean you get seduction. Bro seduction teaches you techniques on how to improve game, there are two aspects inner and outer game. You need to start on ground zero, inner game, because outer game is useless without the foundation of inner game. Ex… | /r/seduction | 16/04/18 01:48 PM |
| 1 | I both won & lost the genetic lottery with womenWell said you got it man, that's it in a nut shell | /r/seduction | 15/04/18 01:28 AM |
| 1 | How would you define Outcome Independence?Simply put many guys put pressure that in every approach and girl you like if you don't get a date or hook up it's a failure...that's outcome dependency. Every girl you meet you should want to get to know before you even think about wanting to date or hook up. Enjoy the ride have fun, flirt. By living in the moment of now you're not over valuing some unreal future event your head just magically envisioned but isn't real | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 02:09 PM |
| 2 | I both won & lost the genetic lottery with womenI wrote this to another person but most of it applies here The #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence.... Know it, understand it, live it. You see bad boys project a certain level of confidence which girls find very attractive.... Bad boys have I don't give a fuk what anyone says or thinks, I'm gonna do what I want to do. Girls love this, they find it sexy because someone who doesn't care what people think come off as confident, bold, cool, sexy. So you need to project this and if you see an… | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 02:05 PM |
| 3 | How much time between the first and second date ?Mark Manson said he used to text after a date and say something like I had a great time blah blah and then mentioned something that the girl said she was doing, like good luck with your test Friday. Something that showed you genuinely listened on the date. Then a couple days he'd call her to make plans for next weekend | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 01:54 PM |
| 7 | Dates at a bar with alcohol when you don't drink yourselfBro millions of people go out and don't drink, in fact many PUAs never drink before they go out because it fucks their game up. Remember an issue is only an issue if you make it one | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 01:52 PM |
| 12 | I'm about to do my first approachesYes DON'T BE OUTCOME dependant like you said. Go in with the thought that I want to genuinely meet new people and go from there. Michael Jordan wasn't born a hall of famer, it took years and years of practice and experience to be great. Understand they'll be many failures on the way, accept them and learn from them never take them personal and ALWAYS HAVE FUN AND SMILE. never forget this is a marathon not a sprint so enjoy the ride. Good on you bro | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 01:49 PM |
| 2 | How many of you hang out in social circles vs. how many of you game alone?I wish I could offer my help but honestly I don't really know, since cultural differences play a roll in ways people socialize and some cultures have bigger walls than others. What isn't cultural is confidence, women from America to China absolutely love it so my only advice is accept that in some cases people and groups or people have built up certain walls so never take a cold shoulder personal ALWAYS ALWAYS maintain frame and be you, stay confident and keep approaching. Girls and guys natural… | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 01:44 PM |
| 1 | People overthinking thingsYes I definitely agree with you | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:31 PM |
| 1 | (fr) didnt pick up on her picking me upIf she says she's seeing someone say that's okay I'm not looking for a relationship either, then approach and escalate. She was certainly dealing with some emotions and being attracted to you, girls almost always put up this last minute slut defense that says I shouldn't I shouldn't even though I really want to fuck your brains out. Girls are very emotional and once you miss your opportunity in the moment where sexual tension is high you missed your opportunity to escalate. Anyway the key is to … | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal that I experience regret in every step I take?Great answer, your anxiety and emotion will NOT GO AWAY EVER. but I promise you if you do what this guy said, accept that you'll be nervous, accept that you'll have emotions it will keep you focused on just being the cool af dude you are in front of the cute girl The key is acceptance, don't be scared of it, accept the nerves and you'll realize that they're not gonna kill ya | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:19 PM |
| 4 | People overthinking thingsI get what youre saying and we all get into our own heads only to fuck things up more. But the key to this sub is to build you the tools that allow you to be cool and comfortable around women, so that you're not over thinking not over analyzing. This sub tries to teach guys to be the best version of themselves so that they're not over analyzing what should I say, what should I text. The answer is I'll text whatever the fuck I want because I'm the fucking man that's why. | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:15 PM |
| 8 | Salvage line for when she doesn't respondNot a good line sorry, it's kind of a last ditch desperate attempt and the key to seduction is never look desperate, the key is to maintain your high value. Flaking is a part of life, make absolutely no more than 2 attempts and in most cases I just do 1, if the girl hasn't responded, sending multiple texts as if she somehow missed them is a waste. She saw your texts she just flaked and decided to ignore it, oh well next. It's a hard thing to let go but abundance is key. And when I say abundance … | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:11 PM |
| 4 | How many of you hang out in social circles vs. how many of you game alone?Social circles are way way easier than going it alone. Going it alone imo is only for the far advanced PUA. you have to have rock confidence to do it and it's much harder to make plans with a women you just met 3 minutes ago. One of the keys to seduction is getting a girl to let her guard down with you. And it's very hard to do so in a 3 minute span, and even then you deal with flake after flake and so on. Further game isn't all about just being good with women, the best seducers are good social… | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:04 PM |
| 3 | In the process of being friendzoned and wondering where I went wrongYes that was a great move, you teased her and girls secretly love teasing, it's a male female dynamic that dates back centuries. Teasing is funny and keeps things light, it also makes you look confident because in her head she's saying did he just tease me about that (insert blush). Some tips, I like to call girls dorks, nerds, make fun of them for a joke. I keep it light because u never want to be offensive. Tease them in a way that it makes you look like the catch not them, almost like things … | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 02:23 PM |
| 1 | In the process of being friendzoned and wondering where I went wrongGreat reply, love the last paragraph especially, one of my favorites is to turn any shit test into a positive compliment my way | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:12 AM |
| 2 | I'm being rejected daily...Well in a way I agree with you but if you don't think there are things that generally attract women and things that generally don't then you don't get the game. | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 12:43 AM |
| 3 | In the process of being friendzoned and wondering where I went wrongYou asked how to flirt in a comment, flirting is key but what's more key is how you carry yourself around her. Remember seduction is all about how the man portrays high value. You are a catch, know it, live it. My flirting technique is based on all teasing and strong eye contact body language. I love to eye fuck girls when taking to them, I maintain very strong eye contact through all interactions only breaking eye contact when they break first. And then I love to tease, bust her chops as if she… | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 11:44 PM |
| 3 | In the process of being friendzoned and wondering where I went wrongAt this point after hanging out with her some, and getting to know her, then is the time you Need to be more direct. Girls want you to take control of the situation and if you let things just waddle and sit things will get cold and she'll friend zone you. The guy her friends want her to get with was most certainly a shit test, you ignore the guy and always keep things on you, say why are you interested him do you think I'm out of your league? In this case she'll laugh because you basically said … | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Approaching at their workplace?Um be for warned dude that a bank teller falls into the same category as waitress. They see guys ALL DAY, any cute one probably gets hit on multiple times a day. Im not saying you don't have a chance but you cant be like every other Joe shmo hitting on her, must be different. Just tailoring your expectations, because in any service industry the girl is paid to be nice, she's not treating you extra special, she's just doing her job | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 07:04 PM |
| 4 | Best books, movies, and programs to help with Social Anxiety, Confidence, etc.Models by Mark Manson is 100 times better at teaching the game than Neil's book the game. I loved The game but it's more for entertainment than for tutorial. Read Models or no more Mr. Nice guy, awesome books on seduction | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 06:57 PM |
| 4 | What to do when she asks "Are you hitting on me?"I actually don't like this answer at all, 'only if it's working' Basically tells her yes but in a soft I'm scared to actually admit way. Im with the train of thought, every girl knows why you approached them, so a girl asking you if you're hitting on her, is really just stating the obvious. Better answers are... Yes, but I'm not so sure about you yet No, let's just stay friends and go from there No, I'm not ready for a relationship thanks, you're not one of these clingy girls are you? Yes, but b… | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Leaving CollegeThis I was a loser and had no girls in college, after college I crushed it. Why? Because I came into my own, finally became the man I wanted to and had the confidence I never had in college. Don't think because high school or college is over that your chances of getting all these girls goes. No for many we've only just begun! | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 05:56 PM |
| 7 | What to do when she asks "Are you hitting on me?"My favorite answer is... No I think we should just be friends and go from there. It's funny and shows her you're the catch not her | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 05:51 PM |
| 13 | I'm being rejected daily...Take this a step further though, you've taken a big step that alot of guys can't get over which is fear of rejection. Once you realize that rejection is much much more complicated than what most frustrated guys think which is... What is wrong with me? In many instances rejection has nothing to do with you, in some cases it might, but at the end of the day that's all irrelevant because what you need to work on is creating the best version of yourself. So now that you've accepted rejection what yo… | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Don't daygame or go to bars aloneYea you're absolutely right | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 02:36 PM |
| 13 | (FR) Shortest “date” of my lifeHonestly I hate when girls do this actually, they don't have the balls to say no to you, so they do something like this instead. COME ON DON'T EVEN GIVE ME THAT. Good on you for setting boundaries, on to the next. Out of 7 billion people let go of the ones who don't see your awesomeness | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 02:12 PM |
| 14 | (FR) Shortest “date” of my lifeAgree great answer. This is actually very common with girls who are wishy washy. Good on you for creating boundaries, surprised it was a guy, a lot of girls do this with a girl friend. They have them tag along because they are unsure or don't want you to think its a date. Yea it's disappointing but the last thing you want is to be strung along and a lot of guys do this hoping that some day she'll come around. No don't waste your time in fact girls will respect you more if you set those boundarie… | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 02:07 PM |
| 4 | [Lay Report] 4'11" asian girl, bubble butt,To further answer from an ass guy. A bubble butt can be seen on a skinny girl with a fat ass. Her ass/hips are big but her stomach is tight. | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 01:10 PM |
| 2 | She say's I'm "too nice"?I don't understand why guys do this, why do you care if she's exclusive or not? I see so many guys do this and it's unnecessary. Let me ask you a question, if she is fucking you why do you care what the relationship is labeled? At the end of the day this is perfect, she doesn't want a commitment, awesome for me I'll keep hitting on other girls and having this girl too! You should never ask a girl for reassurance, when you asked why do you call me nice? You're acting defensive and you should neve… | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 01:06 PM |
| 5 | Are any of you very PRO direct, or PRO indirect?I think Direct is the way but you have to be careful because people mistake the definition of direct. Take this for example, smooth21 was very direct but at the same time he was telling her, ya know just because youre cute doesn't mean I'm gonna bend over backwards for you. Basically what he did was keep himself high value. Too many men make the mistake of being direct then bending over at her every move. Oh you're so beautiful, you're so sweet, let's hook up. It doesn't work like that, it absol… | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Hey guys I have confidence problems, but how important is it really?Wow man thanks alot, that my first gold, that's awesome much appreciated. Let me know if you have any more questions. I'm very good at the game now, but I wasnt for a long time. I was a former virgin loser with girls for far longer than I care to admit. But it was thru all that struggle that I ended up learning more and ended up with way more game than all of my friends who were getting laid 5 years before me. Like I said keep at it, this is a marathon not a sprint. Later | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 05:39 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep your drive?Exactly it's life, we all have them. Even the ones that seem to be the happiest people have those days they feel like shit. The key is recognizing it and being aware, that way you can use the correct positive tools to combat it when it hits | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 05:29 PM |
| 2 | How do start value yourself truly in depth.I think you need to read a couple books that I highly recommend... 'The six pillars of self esteem' and 'A New Earth' by Eckhart Tholle. Two eye opening books that will help you recover from the delusions of being inferior or a bad person. | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 04:18 PM |
| 2 | What’s the best way to seduce girls in my business classes and ask them out on dates?To answer 1: you always friend a girl first, make her comfortable with you first and get her guard down. Guys gets friendzoned because of the way they carry themselves, a good seducer never gets friendzoned because no matter how long they've been friends with a particular girl, this particular girl has secretly wanted to fuck them that entire time. | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Just got rejected and it feels bad manRejection is awesome and is necessary in the game of seduction, not a soul alive that hasn't been rejected. You learn far more from your failures than you do your successes. Looking back on all the times I was rejected, I find it funny how clueless I was and just how incompatible I was with some of these girls, like zero in common yet I was hurt like I was some loser reject. Nope I was just a moron and had no game. Fast forward to today if a girl rejects me, it's because I either wasn't my true … | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Don't daygame or go to bars aloneAt a club and a girl asks where are your friends? Answer: in the other room | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Do girls always have a delay in reciprocating interest？The reason this seems that way is because girls are used to being hit on so it's gonna take more than a Hello to get her wet. Unlike guys, if a guy sees a hot girl he's already copping a hard on because guys are more visual than girls. Girls need emotion, they need That spark that says this guy is confident af and the way he carries himself is sexy af. It's the old saying, you attract guys thru their eyes, you attract girls thru their ears. Meaning, I'm not saying looks don't matter but they mat… | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 02:45 PM |
| 1 | How to approach tall girls as a short guy.I'm with this approach at 5'8 you're not short you're not tall but a girl that is 5'10 is Def in the minority and is used to shorter guys coming up to her. 5'10 girls hate being tall so guys hitting on them short or tall is flattering. Confidence adds 6 inches in all aspect of life, whether it be height or length confidence is what makes girls wet so project you're the man no matter if she's 2 or 3 inches taller, always | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Hey guys I have confidence problems, but how important is it really?Well it's a fine line that's the hard thing. Typically in my experience being cocky is much better than being timid nice guy which is why some girls like your aggressive attitude. With that said the key to seduction is learning what does and doesn't work and then critiquing it. Listen all girls are the same but all of them are different in their own way, if that makes sense. (for example, all girls want a confident guy, but not all girls want a big extroverted confident guy or not all want a big… | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Hey guys I have confidence problems, but how important is it really?There's tons of good info on this sub, I've learned a lot and a lot of what is said here I've related to real life situations. How are you at talking with girls? How do you flirt? For example confident guys talk to girls as if it's nothing, they don't change who they are because they're hot or gorgeous, they act exactly the same way in front of a hot girl than they do their best friend. That's my example of showing your outward confidence, your outward confidence says im so confident in myself t… | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Hey guys I have confidence problems, but how important is it really?Well that's the tricky thing to explain, since confidence in itself is extremely tricky to teach since it's not one thing, it's a combination of many things. I will say this confidence is projecting it both inward and outward. A person that's truly confident knows and lives it, it's noticeable in every interaction he has with people on a day to day basis. So if you are truly confident in yourself people pick up on it (they don't knock down your door and say hey youre really confident, so don't e… | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Thinking about just giving up on women.Yes the number one thing holding this kid back is pity. This isn't a pity party, we can only help those who want to be helped. It's a complete waste of time because this guy doesn't want to be helped , worthless giving advice to someone like this because they don't constructively use it. he just wants people to confirm his own bias and shake their head yes I feel bad for you. Sorry kid stop being a pussy and man up, being a whiny cry baby won't get you girls. | /r/seduction | 06/04/18 02:57 PM |
| 2 | How to not screw up the first date?Read side bar, this question is too vague | /r/seduction | 06/04/18 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Unsure of what is holding me back...Youre not alone, alot of people have this same negative mindset, GOOD ON YOU FOR RECOGNIZING IT! that is important when understanding ways to get past this. Listen most people don't give a fuck, people are stuck in their own world and in their own minds. Think of things differently, GET OUT OF YOUR OWN MIND. And what do other people help us do, they help us GET OUT OF OUR OWN MIND. heres how you need to think and how I approach EVERY RELATIONSHIP....What can I learn from this person? Every conve… | /r/seduction | 06/04/18 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Really weird question but... How do you take a proper shower and be groomed for the day?Good advice and quite thorough, I'll piggy back. When it comes to grooming body hair pick up a good set of nose trimmers and or beard trimmer (can be used for more than just face) . I use an electric trimmer on my privates too. typically I only trim my shaft nothing else, not by balls, cause to hurt and its worthless because it's too much work, but shaft is important plus it makes you look bigger and you know us guys are looking for every Centimeter lol. Even if you're not getting laid it's a go… | /r/seduction | 06/04/18 02:16 PM |
| 7 | Hey guys I have confidence problems, but how important is it really?Confidence is the foundation to all seduction, it's the simplest statement to hear and its true but its the most difficult to grasp and takes months and even years to gain. Know this though, The #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence.... Know it, understand it, live it. You see bad boys project a certain level of confidence which girls find very attractive.... Bad boys have I don't give a fuk what anyone says or thinks, I'm gonna do what I want to do. Girls love this, they find it sexy becau… | /r/seduction | 06/04/18 01:56 PM |
| 10 | Where does the myth come from that most guys are too scared to approach women?It's not a myth its real, Yea those guys you see hitting on women are the extrovert guys who have no intimidation hitting on girls. Well that's the minority... Let me give you an example, let's say you like a girl in school she's so adorable but you don't know her or her friends. You have a group of friends you hang out with and a fun social circle you're comfortable in, but let's say you leave your social circle for one day and try to go to the cute girls social circle. Are you going to act EXA… | /r/seduction | 23/03/18 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Telling women they are pretty or not?I'm with this sentiment, I compliment but I absolutely confuse the shit out of her by push pull. I'm sarcastic and ball bust girls all the time, so they know I'm not a mushy push over. This then allows me to throw in compliments that look sincere and aren't some... Oh hey you're so hot I love you blah blah. I keep my compliments specific, never be general and say you're so pretty. No try this... I love what you did with your hair did you just get it done it looks great (insert girl blushing) gir… | /r/seduction | 23/03/18 06:33 PM |
| 4 | Had a 10 give me the friend talk....Good comment, replier says it well in #2. I think the key in #2 was maintaining frame. 'YesIStick' heard the shit test so many girls give to guys but notice how he NEVER loses frame. So many guys would say okay I understand or reject what she said and so no no no I'm not like other guys I'm a gentlemen and will treat you right. The key is maintain frame when girls shit test you, frame keeps it about you not her. Don't take her bait, you're the bait not her, you're the catch not her. Men need to … | /r/seduction | 07/03/18 01:39 AM |
| 28 | A girlfriend...Read the six pillars of self esteem, people need to read that book before jumping into seduction. The very basis of seduction centers around confidence, if you don't have it you need to work on that first before anything seduction can be of value | /r/seduction | 02/03/18 11:34 PM |
| 1 | My dating experience as a short guyYup exactly, if you make them excited they'll do lots of things they never said they would. Not in a malicious way, just that they'll be all about you all of a sudden and you'll be like whoa where did that come from | /r/seduction | 02/03/18 08:55 PM |
| 1 | My dating experience as a short guyKeep in mind One thing I've learned about girls is shit they say means SO LITTLE. Half the time they have no idea what the fuck they're saying based on their actions. Girls work off emotion not logical thought when it comes to attraction. This is why you hear girls say oh I want a nice guy to bring me flowers, and sweep me off my feet then they turn around and date the douchebag bad boy. Take what they say as nothing l, half the time they don't mean what they say and hold no value in it based on… | /r/seduction | 28/02/18 02:47 PM |
| 1 | I try to escalate fast to not end up in friendzone, but ironically that turns girls off...?It's only weird if you interpret it that way. You need act unphased at all times, meaning you ask a girl out, she acted weird and kinda rejected... In this very instance ACT NO DIFFERENT THAN BEFORE. Girls get scared sometimes the key for you is to maintain frame and act no different after its revealed you wanna hook up with her. If she gets cold feet and kinda backs away, and then you freak out and back off and maybe get defensive the entire situation fizzles and you miss your opportunity to at… | /r/seduction | 25/02/18 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Help - Addicted to Female ValidationStart by recognizing every negative thought that enters your head that tells you you're not good enough. That's your ego that's your ego hoping you feed it more so your mind can continue to go down that same rat hole and spiral. I highly recommend reading 'a new earth' by Eckhart Tholle, he is a genius that is years beyond where our minds are. Anyway he talks about what our ego is and tries to negatively do to us. He identifies those negative thoughts in your head and helps you deal with them an… | /r/seduction | 23/02/18 05:06 AM |
| 1 | 3 months ago, I posted about being the funny guy to being a Man who's funny. Today I want to share my tips for Inner Game and Life.No it wasn't I saw it on YouTube but have no idea which video it was. I do know the pua is the gambler or Richard laguna (might be wrong spelling). I highly recommend him, I'm an extroverted guy but he isn't, he seems much more reserved and chill and he has some really good tips without being the overlly cocky funny guy. I typically like the cocky funny routine myself but I also like to see different ways of the game and this guy has some awesome angles that every guy should learn. | /r/seduction | 23/02/18 05:01 AM |
| 6 | How to deal with alpha attacking my masculinity?This 100%, I'll piggy back some more, the key to any shit test, that be it from a girl or guy is first internally take every insult as a compliment. And when I say internally, I mean in your head vision it as a compliment. You see for most people You're first reaction to any insult is to look internally to yourself and say is he right am I really a pussy, Omg is she right am I really too chubby? No no no no no, lol you need to already know you're the shit in every aspect of your being, there's n… | /r/seduction | 23/02/18 04:49 AM |
| 1 | STOTD - I like big strong menGirl: I like big strong men Guy: I doubt you could handle me Shit tests are easy and no need to post a shit test of the day, shit test are easily deflected the key is to never never take the insult... The key is to either deflect or reaffirm what they're saying sarcastically. I personally always like answering shit tests making sure she knows who's the man in charge, me not her. Girl: You're outfit looks kinda gay Guy: Yea how is it i have more style than you? I have lots of good advice for you | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 09:59 PM |
| 1 | STOTD - I like big strong menAgree if you're getting post sex shit test that chick is cray | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Am I overthinking? 23MShe's being nice, back off, you've made multiple moves to reach out and she's gone cold. Balls in her court now, but I'd plan to move on | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 09:47 PM |
| 4 | I try to escalate fast to not end up in friendzone, but ironically that turns girls off...?I'm gonna steal from what i wrote earlier because it will relate to this topic... On the topic of being fried zoned One pua said it best, I'm surrounded by girls a lot, most of who are only friends, I just like hanging out with them and bullshiting... So there was a question to him, aren't you afraid of being friend zoned? No he said, i could easily escalate with 95% of the single ones. So what's that mean... Well let's elaborate, let me give you an example most of you can relate to. we all have… | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Help - Addicted to Female ValidationValidation reeks of neediness. A stud looks for validation from no one because he already knows he's the shit. Love who you are and women will naturally attract to you. People who seek validation don't love who they are because there is a void missing they're trying to fill. The more you seek validation the more you'll need it, but that thirst will never go away and you'll just need more and more (same goes for Instagram girl models, they don't love themselves, they're filling an empty void by s… | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Why dating apps are killing your gameThis is so true, apps are actually a huge disadvantage for men for exactly that reason, only the top 5% of men are attractive to women (initially) Because with men it's so much more than about physical looks to women. So to your point all they have from a profile is physical traits... The traits that hook line and sinker women are found no where in any dating app... Confidence, charm, and how you carry yourself. | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Approach anxiety to the point of freezing!Exactly this, fact is those 2 guys are in the circle of friends and you're not. You don't have to become their best friends but inserting yourself into social circles is important to seduction because it allows girls to atleast get a taste of who you are and if you're fun or not. Listen dude you're young I can clearly tell and you have a crush on a girl you don't even know (I did to when I was young). You've already put her in a pedestal when you haven't even gotten to know her. Get into the cir… | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 08:50 PM |
| 55 | 3 months ago, I posted about being the funny guy to being a Man who's funny. Today I want to share my tips for Inner Game and Life.Good post overall, I think 4 needs tweaking. My advice... is simply stop approaching with the end result of getting laid in your head. How bout just talking to women to get to know them better? Approach with the attitude of nothing other than this girl seems cool, let's see if she is. Instead of approaching, this girl is so cute i have to ask her out, I want her so bad! One pua said it best, I'm surrounded by girls a lot, most of who are only friends, I just like hanging out with them and bullsh… | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Just keep practicingI didn't get laid until 10 years after my friends were, yes it was depressing. Now in my 30s I can out game all my friends combined... From total dud to stud Seddit is a great resource, keep learning, keep failing, but keep getting back up | /r/seduction | 21/02/18 08:28 PM |
| 7 | STOTD - Isn't that guy cute?!I can't believe people are up voting mkunis. Dude get a fucking clue, that shit is funny as hell and the girl will definitely laugh. It projects confidence and being funny... Win win. She'll think you're gay as fuck because you are gay as fuck | /r/seduction | 07/02/18 03:52 AM |
| 1 | The top 6 traits any guy must have to be considered “cool” or “attractive”. (mega-post)Again another excuse, there will always be people luckier than you, deal with the cards your dealt like everyone else and stop making excuses. That's the main reason you're in this rut | /r/seduction | 22/01/18 02:42 PM |
| 7 | The top 6 traits any guy must have to be considered “cool” or “attractive”. (mega-post)Or it could be some of you are too reliant on others for self assurance. Confidence comes from within not some outside source, stop looking for others to justify your self dignity, because you'll be looking unsuccessfully all your life. A confident person doesn't need reassurance from anyone because any outside source is irrelevant to the person they are within. Happiness begins and ends from within. As for looks, that shits an excuse, bro look at men in general we are not good looking creatures… | /r/seduction | 22/01/18 02:57 AM |
| 14 | Not being a "nice guy" doesn't mean you can't be nice.Here is in a nut shell... Be a nice guy DON'T BE A PUSHOVER. Some nice guys are fake, some are genuine, some girls test nice guys because they want to make sure you're not a wimp. Be nice, be a gentleman but absolutely don't take shit from anyone including girls who want to shit test you. Never waiver from being you and doing what you want to do all because you're trying to impress some girl. Girls find guys who do what they want when they want without reassurance from anyone... That's confidenc… | /r/seduction | 21/01/18 07:20 PM |
| 5 | Did my first approach todayI agree with you except for your last point, eye contact is crucial and it separates the afc from the studs. When you first make eye contact with a girl you absolutely DO NOT look away until she does first. This shows confidence and tells her you're not intimated by her beauty. After the initial eye contact though make sure you break after she breaks because if she sees you continuing to stare you'll now be in creeper territory and you don't want that. Go ahead and try it you'll be surprised how… | /r/seduction | 21/01/18 01:49 PM |
| 2 | worst date everYes you're absolutely right good point. I think that sort of insight comes through trial and error. My guess is op is young and not as exposed to these circumstances, I know back in my early 20s I would have been op and looked at myself as to what I did wrong when the truth is I did nothing wrong. It was just a shitty circumstance and the girl wasn't worth a penny of my time | /r/seduction | 21/01/18 01:39 PM |
| 17 | Stop living on RedditI agree good post Game should be 2 parts practice infield 1 part studying. You can read all you want but it won't be until you start practicing where you'll learn the most thru trial and error. Point 2, guys put so much emphasis on one girl or one date. The girl or date doesn't go well and all of a sudden their searching for all kinds of answers of what they did wrong. Now that I'm good with women and am much older now, I look back and realize there are countless times I DID NOTHING WRONG! Peopl… | /r/seduction | 17/01/18 07:12 PM |
| 1 | What should I do?This is absolutely the right reply, self confidence is the foundation of all seduction, without it no amount of tips and tricks will help you get women. Everything starts and ends with confidence so before you begin getting into seduction start with your self esteem. Plenty of good books on it's, the book 6 pillars of self esteem is a great start but there are many others | /r/seduction | 17/01/18 06:51 PM |
| 1 | What are ways to open/flirt on a chick that your friend, or aunt, uncle, cousin, etc introduce you to?You have to be careful, there is no mystery with direct. Girls don't want to know right away you're crazy about them, they love the old adage....does he love me, does he love me not!?! Girls will naturally attract to guys they find sexy, sexy guys don't need to he direct because again girls naturally attract to them. This works in their favor and girls come flocking because... A. he's charming and B. hes mysterious or even a challenge. Don't miss out on some of the best fun, the chase, the what … | /r/seduction | 16/01/18 03:48 AM |
| 5 | What are ways to open/flirt on a chick that your friend, or aunt, uncle, cousin, etc introduce you to?Flirting is an art, I remember one pua saying seduction is so unassuming, the girl has no idea what is going on but all of a sudden she's wet and turned on by you. That's because flirting isnt necessarily always obvious. In fact I flirt at work with girls all the time, my Coworkers have no clue I'm flirting because I'm charming, yet discreet, I'm never obvious which is also the sexiness of it all... Girls love to question, did he just hit on me? I can't tell. The answer is yes I did and did so b… | /r/seduction | 16/01/18 03:38 AM |
| 0 | Girl doesn’t want to get hurt?Shit test galore, use it against her or don't respond. I would have responded ok whatever | /r/seduction | 11/01/18 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Initial attempts at "negging" but I can't follow it up?Well hard to say, you see watching a film is different, you want to step up to seducing at that point, flirting, looking in her eyes and not breaking until she does, kino which is touching her gently in conversation, holding her hand or hand on her leg. You see during a movie I'd be trying to play the cuddle game and getting more intimate. I bust chops before hand when we're just Bullshitting or hanging out somewhere, maybe bust her chops while we get a cup of coffee or just taking a walk... You… | /r/seduction | 10/01/18 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Initial attempts at "negging" but I can't follow it up?That's not negging get that out of your head, it's called ball busting and having fun and you should always do this to keep things light. It's awesome and girls find it funny. I liked the response, youd make a bad girlfriend it's perfect. And she replied with a great response also finding it funny. Bonus was she felt the need to explain herself, awesome that means she kinda felt bad. Keep it light, again setting up dates is all about projecting fun and being funny if you can (basically it takes … | /r/seduction | 08/01/18 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Keeping text momentum?Agree fuck text buddies it's too informal escalate to meeting in person asap to show the true charm. Many people on both sides can suck at communicating thru text, so do it minimally and in person lay out the thick charm | /r/seduction | 08/01/18 08:49 PM |
| 94 | I have kind of realised that I'm pretty easy on the eyes, and there are several girls I'm taking a liking to. What options do I really have?You have an issue many many guys have and I used to have. We guys jump to conclusions, we like a girl and all of a sudden we want to marry her because she's soooo cute and soooo nice Forget all that bro, live in the moment, girls love guys that just live in the moment, college girls dont think LTR, they just want to have fun. Be that fun, you want to flirt with girl A go do it, you want to take girl B home do it. Stop predicting the future and just do you. The moment you put the pressure on your… | /r/seduction | 08/01/18 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Can someone help me understand what the hell happened here?Dude girls emotions flow with the wind. Listen you had sex so you know she liked you and she responded to your texts the day after. Whatever is going on in her life has nothing to do with you trust me. My guess is something threw her in a loop and the last thing she can deal with right now is a relationship. Trust me don't beat yourself up, it isnt you so dont over think it. Chalk it up as a series of unfortunate events that led to you two just not working out at this time in your lives. Sometim… | /r/seduction | 02/12/17 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Can someone help me understand what the hell happened here?Dude this is really weird, you definitely got a unique issue. My only guess is her surgery may have been alot more than you thought and its really stopped her life. Idk hard to tell, nothing in your texts were bad and I dont think.you ever got to needy. When she said dont get weird on me this is where guys need to assert dominance, don't say of course I wont, no need to defend yourself, ever. I would have tried to say something to the effect of, yea i.hear ya I was thinking the same thing about … | /r/seduction | 01/12/17 04:48 AM |
| 3 | I spent a lot of time studying how to tackle approach anxiety and consolidated my findings into one document.Great read thanks | /r/seduction | 01/12/17 04:39 AM |
| 1 | So nervous when it comes to meeting up with a girlIt's normal tbh, of course you're nervous everyone gets nervous before a meeting. But the problem with you is you're putting too much emphasis on a negative future outcome. That's why you get nervous...oh what if I fuck up, what if I stumble, what if I don't impress her. All that shit is just nerves and you're over valuing her, over valuing the meeting, and under valuing yourself. Presence Acceptance Focus Presence These rules I try to live by in nervous situations. Presence keeps you in the pre… | /r/seduction | 20/11/17 02:41 PM |
| 2 | What I've Learned Over TimeGood post thx | /r/seduction | 16/11/17 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Confidence vs Feeling PrettyYes exactly! And even though their insecurities come out in different ways , both sexes struggle with confidence and insecurities issues just in different manners is all | /r/seduction | 14/11/17 02:56 PM |
| 1 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outJust Google hypnosis or hypnotherapy and there are a ton of reputable news sources. Listen I dont need anyone to tell me whether or not hypnosis works, I know 100% it does but if your looking for more evidence here is an article from a PHD professor from Penn State to debunk your misconceptions about it.... http://news.psu.edu/story/141251/2014/03/18/research/probing-question-does-hypnosis-work | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 01:32 PM |
| 2 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outAwesome, keep doing it every day! It's like working out, the more you do it the more effective it will become in the real world | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 01:23 PM |
| 1 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outI did this every day for quite some time until my anxiety went away for the most part, now I do it every few days. I should do it every day though it's so effective. What I didn't mention in my post is I actually did it because I had severe anxiety out of no where, even in front of people I was close with! It scared the hell out of me and I almost sought counseling until I did a ton of research and came upon hypnosis and how the thoughts I was having were irrational and completely derived by my … | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 01:20 PM |
| 1 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outActually youre right and wrong, I agree with you about exposure but what hypnosis does is it envisions that exposure, so ur actually being exposed while in a hypnotic state. That's why it's so effective. Your subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between real exposure and envisioned essentially. It only knows what it reacts to. Your mind is a powerful thing | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 02:45 AM |
| 1 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outNo keep the audio playing the whole time | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 12:43 AM |
| 1 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outThere's more than one way to skin a cat, with that said you're clueless if you think hyonosis and meditation don't help cure anxiety. Those techniques are used a ton by many professionals. Some argue theyre the single handedly best way to cure it | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 12:41 AM |
| 6 | Avoid “Event” DatesI'm with you the article is stupid, not terrible but kind of stupid. First off for alot of guys event dates are a great first date because it allows guys to get caught in the moment of just having fun rather than the pressure of what to say next, like at a dinner date. Listen I get it, this is a seduction forum and guys that want to get laid want to do it quickly and in abundance, but not every guy in seduction wants that. some guys are willing to put into high-value high-reward rather than abun… | /r/seduction | 02/11/17 11:41 PM |
| 1 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outExactly People have so many misconceptions about hypnosis mainly thru movies and shit. Its super powerful in the sense that it helps free your subconscious of all the shit holding guys back...nerves, sweaty palms, stuttering. It's so powerful in the sense that it can single handedly build you a frame full of confidence and presence. Imagine acting no different in front of your best friend than in front of a legit super model. Well hypnosis can help train your subconscious to be perfectly chill t… | /r/seduction | 02/11/17 08:46 PM |
| 3 | How to cure approach anxiety and talk to your crush or HB9/10 without freaking outDoesn't matter, best is actually when you first wake up because your mind is least active. But anytime is fine, even bedtime if that's the only time you have however id recommend earlier in the day not latter since you want to be able to use that hypnosis during the day, not sleep on it | /r/seduction | 02/11/17 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Confidence vs Feeling PrettyYou're absolutely right,HOWEVER, when girls don't feel pretty they are standoffish and will flee from the situation even if it's their crush who they like. So it's working against them just like lack of confidence is working against you. Both scenarios are irrational, because you know she's pretty and you know you're true self is confident | /r/seduction | 01/11/17 06:28 PM |
| 3 | How do I not be retarded around "high risk/high reward" women?You're beginning to have feelings which is fine I get it but you need to check yourself and realize that this is just another girl and stop jumping ahead and over thinking things. a lot of guys hav a problem with this, they see a girl they like, they start to get feelings, and all of a sudden they're thinking marriage (exaggerating but u get my point), no no no no check yourself! this is just another girl, so see where it goes. always have the attitude let's just see where tomorrow brings one da… | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Date 1 went well, how do i make her my FWB?I'd send her a text mid week and ask her how the surgery went and how she's feeling. Just a little something that shows you care, she'll appreciate it. Don't mention any other date though, yet. Let her respond and then leave it as well hope you get better soon and leave it at that, for now. A FWB you never mention you simply want to project that you're a busy guy and you're dating, and that you would be down for whatever life brings you but at this point you're too busy with (job work sports wha… | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Enough is enough!Great point there, they'll be great workouts and bad workouts just like they'll be great interactions with girls and shitty ones | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Drug addiction and it's relation to onegirlitusYes exactly, and my point wasn't to say you couldn't be exclusive with one girl but like you said in the beginning don't put all your eggs in one basket. Better to have options since it makes you more versatile to things that will pop up in the dating world. My post was also for all the guys that are friend zoned and need to get out of it. Thanks for your reply | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 01:44 PM |
| 41 | Enough is enough!Remember one thing on your journey...this is a marathon not a sprint. For example, I always attest seduction is just like working out. 10 out of 10 people have tried in their lifetime to work out, to get healthier, and look better. however, people are inherently lazy and most of those people do not stick to that work out routine because it takes far too long and too much discipline to see the results people want to see. Shit takes years not weeks to get a six pack or look jacked. Same with seduc… | /r/seduction | 10/10/17 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Girl who tried to friendzone me gives mad IOI's at bar, would love some comments about the situation.Some advice on mindsight of seducers, always assume she's interested, always assume you're the catch so assume she likes you as a result. Having that mindset gives you more confidence which in turn makes you more attractive. Will it always work, no, but you better believe you'll attract more than you don't | /r/seduction | 10/10/17 05:40 PM |
| 22 | Don't just make eye contact with women, smile at them.Yea pretty young girls are used to every kiss ass loser smiling and being nice to them. You see they haven't learned the wisdom yet to decipher between the sincere nice guy and the insincere one so you all get lumped into the same bucket. So the key is to keep doing what you're doing because the key to seduction is saying fuck everything else, I am who i am whether it agrees with you or not, but I'm not changing for anyone so jump on the train or get off, either way is cool with me. | /r/seduction | 10/10/17 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Looking for advice on how to become a well-spoken,smart and attractive manIt is an eye opening book, simply an awesome read and one book I've read more than once. You won't regret it | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Is it safe to assume that "signs" that a girl likes you are bogus and you should just go for it every time?Plus by assuming she's attracted to you it actually makes you come off as more confident, since A. You're confident because you think she likes you and B. She likes how confident you carry yourself by having that impression. Long story short it's better to assume you're the mother f'n man than it is to not With that said there are definitely clues girls give that show they're attracted, but none of it means anything without men being assertive and making a move. Once you get better at the game y… | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 03:15 PM |
| 7 | (M30) I lost my virginity at 27 with my ex we were together 2 and a half year and I haven't try to talk to another girl since she broke up with me almost a year agoThis reply is right, so many guys act like women are this alternative alien race that we need to decode in order to have relationships with. No talk to them like you would your best friend or even your mom. They're just people like you and people like talking to other people. Be fun, create convo, stop looking at every girl as a potential mate and look at them as a potential person to have fun, talk with, and even flirt with. Then go from there, not every girl is a potential mate so just enjoy m… | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 03:11 PM |
| 2 | girls hit me with eye contacts but i avoid it like a pussyThis reply is great It takes practice, and I used to be horrible at eye contact, now I eye fuck the shit out ofgirls and they loveit. It's so powerful once you master it, but it takes lots of practice so do it every day. Practice in one on one convos too. So important to maintain strongeye contact in any relationship. Awesome for getting girls interested quicker | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 03:26 AM |
| 15 | Girl who tried to friendzone me gives mad IOI's at bar, would love some comments about the situation.Dude she got out to go with you, stop being too "cool", you should have sat next to her and bantered with her when she left the car to go with you. You see it's not about playing it cool or uninterested so that it somehow gets her more interested in you, it's about creating the attraction that gets her crawling to you. Yea playing hard to get may work but it's a not the most effective way of gettin her to hook up with you. Conversation is ALWAYS BETTER THAN, mystery of why won't he talk to me, d… | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Looking for advice on how to become a well-spoken,smart and attractive manWant to become the smartest person in the room read A New Earth by Echart Tholle. Basically a book about letting go of your ego, many successful men in life have read this book. However it's almost counter intuitive to what you think you need to be successful in life. In a nutshell your ego defines you, but it's actually holding you back. What this book does is helps you identify it and recognize it when it comes up. For example you are insecure about your friends being smarter than you, but tha… | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Needy or notGirls will make time for guys they like but with guys they're wishy washy on they'll be harder to get. Id give it more time, and maybe throw out one more text a week or 2 from now to see if she's still interested. Hope for the best prepare for the worst and never stop gaming other girls | /r/seduction | 14/09/17 01:34 PM |
| 1 | No motiveLet me ask you how is your social life, do you feel like that in general. That meeting new people is a waste of time or too much effort? First and foremost STAY IN THE MOMENT, meaning when guys meet a new cute girl they get giddy and say omg I'm so attracted to her, I want to date her, marry her, have her children. But guys need to check themselves since we become attracted so quickly unlike women who need to warm up to us before attraction sets in. It's like sex too, guys will get a boner at th… | /r/seduction | 14/09/17 01:29 PM |
| 22 | Need advice: good looking guy with ZERO self-confidence with womenGreat reply here completely agree. I was OP once, I am tall and good looking but I was a total loser with women because of the way I carried myself. The game is all confidence, yea it's mastering other stuff too but confidence is the foundation and without it you'll get no where. The problem here is people want a quick fix but confidence isn't developed in a month or 2 it takes months and even years, that's why so many fail at seduction because they don't have that patience. Think of it like wor… | /r/seduction | 25/08/17 03:42 PM |
| 10 | Today a very sad event made me come to a realization.Sad story but let's get to seduction and your mind frame. You see right now your frame is insecure (I'm not insulting you hear me out). You are insecure because you are genuinely worried about what people think about you when you say or do something. Just like you did in your post, you were worried that you'd come off as a creep or a loser or whatever. The key about sed is FRAME. You always hear people say, it's not what you say it's how you say it. Well what does that mean. It means two guys ca… | /r/seduction | 22/08/17 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Better for a male to peak in 20s or 30s?Doesn't matter, learn from this sub and continue to learn as we all do regardless of skill. I was a virgin all thru high school and college, some say I missed out on so much by not being good with women and having low confidence. Fact is maybe they're right maybe they're not, at the end of the day I'm just happy I learned at all. Being such a late bloomer I learned so much thru my failures, I suffered a lot and as a result i came out better. I can now out game all my friends who were getting lai… | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 01:15 PM |
| 1 | How do I get over feeling like I am creepy when I try to talk to girls? I feel really embarrassed by my last few interactions.It's okay I am hyper aware too, it took me a long time to be comfortable with who I was once I did I crushed it, all because I was still hyper aware only I was using it to my favor not letting it become a deterrent. First of all good for you for coming here and seeking advice it's a great sub and it will help you immensely in the long run. However right now you need the foundation to all seduction and without it all the advice on here means nothing. That foundation is high self esteem and confid… | /r/seduction | 17/08/17 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Approach Anxiety from 6 Months out of GameKeep doing it! You'll get better and better and before you know it you'll be super calm in anxious moments | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with a girl who is use to getting what she wants.Good for you maintain frame and never let her dictate the situation. Don't be afraid to make advances though, again in order to maintain frame no bf will impact you from being you. So don't be afraid to ask in passing that she should go out with you Friday night to <insert cool place>. Never ever mention her bf, never say are you broken up yet, always make it about you no one else. Now either she'll reciprocate or not. The key is to pursue but not chase. If she's still wishy washy then fine, you… | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 09:25 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with a girl who is use to getting what she wants.First off AWESOME way of handling it. I mean that's some advanced sed technique whether you even mean it or not. You see she was looking for a reaction, she wanted you to get emotional and pissed and whatever. You didn't which actually pissed her off. I mean your responses were fucking awesome bro, take it from me, I'm no expert but I'm very good with women. Anyway best way to handle it is act as if she never said anything about the bf. Meaning act NO DIFFERENT, flirt with her (NOT OVER TEXT THO… | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 08:05 PM |
| 11 | Stare Into The Eyes Of FearThere is actually an interesting article i read from a sed expert about being comfortable being uncomfortable. Let me articulate, because its a lot like facing your fears. At the end of the day I am always nervous on an approach ALWAYS. that nervousness never goes away, which is a big misconception for guys on this sub. You see you're never going to get over feeling certain emotions as they hit. So instead of trying to overcome them accept them and move on. I've learned over time to no longer fi… | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Approach Anxiety from 6 Months out of GameThis is one I use but there are plenty on YouTube Watch "Cure Blushing FAST Self-Hypnosis | AmplifyU Coaching" on YouTube https://youtu.be/STH2sUGVEek | /r/seduction | 11/08/17 04:30 AM |
| 5 | Never be invasive with womenYea I hear you on this, I also think it's why a lot of pua's say don't stick around initially, stay for a short time get the number and leave. By leaving first you show her you're not clingy. You stuck around for 20 min where she finally said she had to go, then immediately called her the next day. That can scare a lot of girls away and is grounds for being a grade A clinger. | /r/seduction | 08/08/17 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Ghost of an almost-relationshipYou seriously live in your own world to post something like this. 2nd this is not the sub to post a question like this. I'd recommend /relationship_advice but the sounds of your post maybe you should post to psychiatrist help | /r/seduction | 08/08/17 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Question about dating coaches and YouTube PUAs...YouTube pua's are fine despite what clueless haters will say. I've taken a lot away from them. They won't give you the complete picture but you can absolutely take away things that some pua's really excel at. Pua's have different personalities so some go about the game differently but that by no means doesn't say there isn't something you can take away from them. For example Richard Laruina aka the gambler has a way different personality than let's say Tyler RSD. But both can offer some great in… | /r/seduction | 08/08/17 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Approach Anxiety from 6 Months out of GameFirst off you never get over approach anxiety, but what you're doing is not accepting the feelings you get when it hits. You see, I'm always anxious when I first approach but I accept it, I don't fight it. You're fighting those nerves which only make you more nervous. How do you accept. Well I did thru hypnosis, it's basically meditation with a purpose. I use any anxiety driven YouTube audio on hyonosis then visualize during the hyonosis approaching and talking to a beautiful woman. Because I'm … | /r/seduction | 08/08/17 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Asking a girl out from workOk then now time to make excuses to chat her up. She came to you now it's time for you to go to her. Keep it casual. Bullshit with her for a little bit and when the time is right casually tell her you're goin to such and such Friday to grab a drink or whatever, would you like to join me? This is good for two reasons, it kinda gives her the impression you're going there with or without her so it's not really a rejection if she says no, and the other reason is it makes it casual, you're putting li… | /r/seduction | 03/08/17 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Asking a girl out from workYou can ask a girl out at work don't listen to people, in some cases you shouldn't but in others absolutely no issue. Especially in this sense where you're not working directly with girl. Anyway not sure the context, I mean have you never talked to this girl? Any time where you know you'll see her. Pretty inappropriate to ask while she's literally working but if she's on break or getting a coffee strike up a convo. You got a week left so don't waste time. Ask for her number and tell her your sit… | /r/seduction | 03/08/17 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Would a guy want to be asked out at the gym?Okay to ask a guy out anywhere But guys should never ask a girl out at the gym. Unless youve talked on multiple occasions and/or have gained some comfortable banter asking a girl at the gym is off limits. Girls are vulnerable at the gym and they feel gross because they're sweaty and not dolled up. A girls greatest seduction is her beauty, gym (in her eyes) takes that away | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Dating for nerds (part 1): problem diagnosisGood read | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 02:22 AM |
| 1 | What are some ways to convey interest in daygame that aren't creepy?Day game is all about using situational awareness....example girl in supermarket has coconut water, casually go up to her as if you're browsing by and say, hey what's the deal with that stuff I see everyone drinking it, is coconut that good for you? What's the deal? Then boom you broke the ice with something and now the rest is just remaining cool, giving good eye contact, and maybe even smiling. Then telling her hey you're really cute, can I get your number and grab a coffee some time? Maybe yo… | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 02:14 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys get out of low points in your life and long dry spells?You're 21 and slept with 5, when I was 21 I was a virgin. At 30+ I slayed, it's just a learning game and you're doing great. It's not the number it's the quality, I would trade it all for like 2 girls that were the creme of my crop, over any abundance. The best thing about learning seduction is growing into the mindset that you're the picky one not any girl. A picky guy doesn't sleep with a lot of women, he sleeps with onlt the best of them | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 01:33 AM |
| 1 | How to learn from anybody. (A post about insecurities, growth, and the truth about confident people).OP you should read a New Earth by Eckhart Tholle. That inner voice you speak about is your ego, he breaks it all down, phenomenal read | /r/seduction | 25/07/17 01:29 AM |
| 5 | How can you express your sexuality without being creepy but not asexual with a girl?You express your sexuality by the way you carry yourself. Another replier said it perfectly, a box of chocolates and flowers from one guy vs another could mean two totally different things....from one guy it's totally creepy from another guy it makes her wet. The reason is because of the way the guy carries himself. If you're a stud a girls not gonna care if you tell her that her boobs look great in that dress. It's because of the way the stud carries himself. On this sub you learn how to carry … | /r/seduction | 24/07/17 09:38 PM |
| 5 | I asked a girl to have coffee with me. She insisted a dinner so I agreed. I wanted to be a date, but I didn't specify. Now she wants to bring a friend. I asked who she wanted to bring she said she didn't know yet. How do I handle this situation without being awkward?Id say best course of action is to flake on her last minute. Text her a couple hours before and say something came up and you can't make it sorry. Don't give a reason let her think about why. Sometimes this works in your favor actually. Later if u want to pursue, make sure it's a 1 on 1 nothing else | /r/seduction | 24/07/17 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Seddit vs other PUA platformsI think some of the pua stuff is dated tbh, seddit is a live blog with new ideas and FRs every day. A lot to be said about that. With that said both will work, I've always maintained the belief that you find your niche and go with it. A quieter introvert guy may not want to use David deangelos cocky funny technique but those who use that technique have seen great results. It's kinda where I started, since I was naturally a goofy kinda guy. So if you find a pua where you kinda like his techniques… | /r/seduction | 30/06/17 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Becoming better at Casual Dating/HookupsI think a the gambler pua put it really well once, I have lots of girl 'friends' but I'm never friend zoned, I know I could escalate with most any of them when given the chance. You seem to have all the right tools for dating multiple women, the key is to he honest and upfront. In fact this typically works in your favor because you'll say that you're just casually dating and just looking to enjoy the moment when most girls will see this as a challenge. You see by showing you're not all in with a… | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 12:20 PM |
| 2 | A good looking guy who is frustrated beyond beliefI think your texts are fine up until a certain point. It's good to say how sexy you are but don't repeat it, it's good to say you're handsome, but don't repeat it. You are borderline cocky which will repel girls. Tone it down but stay with the confident tone. Girls like your confidence upfront ,which is why they show initial interest, but you seem to take it an inch too far and that just comes off as arrogant and cocky. No need to remind her how hot you are, the fact you repeat it shows insecuri… | /r/seduction | 14/06/17 03:17 AM |
| 2 | How to take advantage of being physically attractive (but still mentally weak)Why are morons down voting this? Op asking a very general question which is fine everyone was a newb, but read the side bar, it will help immensely | /r/seduction | 14/06/17 03:04 AM |
| 43 | Comfort VS Attraction - Why Comfort Is Much More Important Than Attraction & Why It Took Me So Long To Figure THIS Out + Infield PullThe older I get the more i realized it's all comfort. I think the OP video separates attraction from comfort more than he should. To be an attractive male you need to be able to build comfort, in other words part of your attractiveness is how comfortable she feels around you. That is a very attractive trait a man can possess. If your cool, calm, easy going, fun, you are really comfortable to be around...you are really attractive. It wasn't until I was much older that i realized just how uncomfor… | /r/seduction | 13/06/17 08:38 PM |
| 3 | I speak like a retard, can I improve?Hypnosis, with practice you can get your unconscious mind to remain calm when nervous or can't think of things to say. You can train yourself to handle anxiety when you begin to panic. Saved me for sure | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Most important thing when it comes to attracting women? Pick one thing (even though I picked two)Nah dude, girls can be standoffish in the beginning and girls can be receptive neither is indicative of what your chances are. The standoffish girl could just have her guard up and once you get past her bitch shield she opens up, or the receptive girl could just be a flirt with no real interest in getting with you. The key to seduction is CONFIDENCE, it's hands down the most important aspect to game. Yea there are tons of things important to seduction but the #1 aphrodisiac for all women is CONF… | /r/seduction | 06/06/17 04:14 PM |
| 13 | rejected even for simple friendhips.Read how to make friends and influence people. Great book, you need to start there | /r/seduction | 06/06/17 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Shedding the shackles of virginity in my mid 20sHere's my point, yes you want to come off as a man sure of himself and man booming with confidence. I get that a virgin isn't going to be booming with confidence because he's insecure about being a virgin. My point is the fact your a virgin is irrelevant and the a girl, who is way more insecure about her body than you are, will be way more comfortable knowing you haven't seen another girl naked to compare her to than a guy who's slept with 100 girls. When a girl sleeps with a man for the first t… | /r/seduction | 06/06/17 03:06 PM |
| 2 | How do you look alpha after doing something really beta?Good news Bad news...good news you know you fucked up and are aware your texts are total Beta moves. Bad news is it's too late to get back with her. Lurk this sub on how to project attractive man traits, learn to not be beta and defensive, your last text was a man not sure of himself, a man looking for validation. No real seducer ever needs validation because you should already know you're a catch. Plain and simple | /r/seduction | 05/06/17 09:25 PM |
| 6 | Shedding the shackles of virginity in my mid 20sDon't sweat it, continues learning from This sub. Let me repeat this...GIRLS FUCKING LOVE VIRGINS. You think they want some guy that's fucked 100 women? I was former late virgin too and it's irrelevant, you watched plenty of sex to not be a total fuck up when the time comes. When that time comes the girl will be more nervous than you, trust me. Stop sweating it and continue getting your PHD, you're still young as hell and the work you put in now will help you so much more for many years to come … | /r/seduction | 05/06/17 04:30 PM |
| 6 | What to tell girl when asks about experience?Kinda irrelevant, deflect and move on. Tell her you're dating but haven't found anyone serious, none of her business what your experience is, the only experience that matters is the one between you and her. Look to the future not the past | /r/seduction | 05/06/17 04:24 PM |
| 3 | How to get over missed opportunities in the future.Try to use your environment, it's the easiest way. For example try to find similarities. Instead of saying hey what are you reading, say oh is that such and such book, I heard about it, how do you like it so far I'm thinking about picking up a copy myself....boom something as simple as that can get you into a long convo. Or feel free to keep it short and sweet. Again practice | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Little advice with a girl.Understand dude keep at it, you're on the right sub | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 07:48 PM |
| 2 | How to get over missed opportunities in the future.Ok so now start talking to cute strangers | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Little advice with a girl.Step 1 forget this girl because you have ZERO chance Step 2 read the side bar because you have a lot to learn about seduction. Not being an ass because I was once oblivious too, but you need to seriously study this sub if you want to even sniff a girl like this in the future. | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 02:49 PM |
| 9 | Can anybody explain / breakdown various weak approach invitations and WTF women imagine what guys will do when they really do?Bro what deranged reality have you conjured up in your head. Stop over thinking and do you. Why the fuck are you so worried about what is she thinking what am I thinking. You approach a girl because you want to approach a girl, you don't approach because she gave you this ioi or that ioi. Like you've made clear, trying to guess what ioi she gave and what it meant to you approaching is irrelevant. Why do u act like interactions with other girls is so awkward? A simple conversation or saying hi is… | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Prom Night Last Stand?Lol this seems drastic but I'm kinda with Game here. It's your best friend so you have to change your approach a little. Be a ball buster but definitely tell her she looks hot in that dress. Girls spend a shit ton getting primed up for prom so tell her she looks gorgeous, then follow it up with id almost let you date me. Compliment but then up your status, remind her your the catch not her. | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Is it even possible to overcome history of being a loser socially?I was there and recognizing you need to work on your weaknesses is a great step, a lot of guys don't even recognize they have to improve. I suggest going into study mode and just read the side bar here. Tons of great material here and you just need to suck it all in by reading and watching videos. I'd actually start with a couple books, since you need social help I highly suggest the book how to make friends and influence people. It's a great read and will help you become better socially. Also s… | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Could you guys pump me a bit for this Saturday?Dont forget Kino! Oh and stop putting pressure on yourself and her and just have fun. Girl magnet to fun guys, be fun | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 01:42 PM |
| 2 | How to get over missed opportunities in the future.I gave you the answer...approach I know it's easier said than done my point is you're not going to have some magical potion that will make approaching easy, that's why I posted what I posted. It's a learning process and because you never approach like that in the park you have to start. You start by fucking up, go in with low expectations or go in with simple questions like, hey do you have the time. You see people are even scared of simple interactions so start small if you have to. Ask her the… | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Anyone help me understand the structure of a relationship?I only do Reddit on my phone you should see an icon at top right that has an i | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Holding frame?You're insecure of the situation, you see a guy as a threat and automatically your defense mechanism kicks in and you become insecure as a result. Holding frame is not worrying about others, not threatened by anyone because you know you're cool as fuck and if this girl doesn't see that then so be it, not everyone recognizes greatness. I'm exaggerating but you get the drift. Guys who maintain frame welcome other guys because you're all just trying to have a good time and have fun. Focus on being … | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 02:55 AM |
| 1 | How to get over missed opportunities in the future.Approach, fuck up, go on this sub and read side bar learn, approach, slightly fuck up, go on this sub learn, approach, kinda fuck up, go on this sub learn more, approach, SUCCEED ...rinse and repeat | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Anyone help me understand the structure of a relationship?Dude read the side bar lots of good info there | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 01:56 AM |
| 2 | Serious question, why are you in this subreddit?Pua is real and it works, what also works is having your exact attitude. You absolutely do have control of the situation the reason you do is based on how confident you are. You see I don't think you even realize that you're being really confident by just being honest. Being honest is showing women you actually are so comfortable with yourself that you don't front, you don't try to be something you're not. You're you and it's honest and sexy. Girl love a guy that doesn't care what you think beca… | /r/seduction | 02/06/17 01:54 AM |
| 2 | If you're a girl who likes a guy, ask him out. Please!Well it depends on the scenario I guess throwing out a quick hey what's up text is okay, basically to say, hey I'm here make a move lol. But if you get no traction try what I told you before. I usually tell guys the same type of thing in a way, for example , I tell guys the way to ask out a girl and make it less committal or more rejection proof is to ask them to go out in a way like you were going to a place with or with that person. For example...hey I'm goin to this really cool museum on Frid… | /r/seduction | 30/05/17 01:45 PM |
| 1 | If you're a girl who likes a guy, ask him out. Please!No you're not being needy by texting first. The key is as a girl to put yourself out there but not necessarily make the first move, meaning you're not gonna text a guy, hey id love to take you out to dinner sometime how's Friday night? You say things that tell you where you'll be, like hey me and my friends are going to so and so if you're not doing anything stop by, i heard the band is great. Things that show interest but still can be perceived as innocent in case there's no interest on his par… | /r/seduction | 30/05/17 02:12 AM |
| 1 | If you're a girl who likes a guy, ask him out. Please!However Throwaway is absolutely right, the reason you're getting rejected is your technique not because you pursue. First off most men are pursuers it's just the social or evolutionary dynamic, and whoever is doing the pursuing is the only one who gets rejected since they're the ones sticking their neck out. So getting back to your original post, you only get rejected when you pursue, because the only people that ever get rejected are pursuers. Getting back to technique, as a former loser with g… | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 11:04 PM |
| 1 | We all know attraction works differently between women and men, meaning things that attract men to women are different than what attracts women to men...but after that attraction sparks why do men know definitively they like X, when women still seem so wish washy about XGreat response man you have some excellent points and gave me a different perspective. I definitely agree with you men and women aren't that polar opposite. I have many girlfriends as well, in fact unlike most guys I have no problem being the only guy hanging out with a group of women, I can chill like one of the girls and not in a needy or the designated gay friend way either. Thanks for the insight | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 04:36 PM |
| 1 | We all know attraction works differently between women and men, meaning things that attract men to women are different than what attracts women to men...but after that attraction sparks why do men know definitively they like X, when women still seem so wish washy about XFirst off I'm completely with you in the empathy part of seduction, nothing is more important and of greater value than reaching women right at their level. I'll copy a response that I had in response to another reply since they're similar... how can you say attraction is the same when men and women play completely different roles in the seduction game. I mean a women simply doesn't initiate 8 times out of 10 because of our evolutionary background. Guys are the pursuers not women so the role of … | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 03:49 AM |
| 1 | We all know attraction works differently between women and men, meaning things that attract men to women are different than what attracts women to men...but after that attraction sparks why do men know definitively they like X, when women still seem so wish washy about XThanks for your response and I agree with a lot but there are some questions. For instance how can you say attraction is the same when men and women play completely different roles in the seduction game. I mean a women simply doesn't initiate 8 times out of 10 because of our evolutionary background. Guys are the pursuers not women so the role of seduction varies greatly between the two. Which again impact the attraction aspect. Men complain all the time about how there's so much pressure to purs… | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 03:44 AM |
| 2 | I'm 25 and I've never had a girlfriend, despite graduating college and I get depressed about how much I missed out on. Is there still hope for someone like me?Exactly the key to nice clothes and nice hair cut isn't the nice clothes and hair cut it's the small amount of confidence they give you. You're not gonna get a girl with a nice hair cut but you'll better your chances than if you didn't, same goes for clothes etc. Gym is so big, you see again having a nice body won't get you girls but it helps a lot and more importantly guys that work out are proven to be more confident and sure of themselves. Confidence is what's killing your game nothing else. … | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 03:31 AM |
| 1 | We all know attraction works differently between women and men, meaning things that attract men to women are different than what attracts women to men...but after that attraction sparks why do men know definitively they like X, when women still seem so wish washy about XWhile I agree with much of your advice I'm actually not someone who struggles with women, I'm quite advanced and have many women interested in me. I appreciate the help though and I especially agree with your last point on friend zoning, men do it to themselves. I always give the example to people, you know that girl in your circle that is so hot that most guys would love to hook up with her, well guys can be that same thing, they can be the guy that all the girls in that circle want to hook up … | /r/seduction | 19/05/17 03:53 AM |
| 2 | We all know attraction works differently between women and men, meaning things that attract men to women are different than what attracts women to men...but after that attraction sparks why do men know definitively they like X, when women still seem so wish washy about XGood explanation thanks | /r/seduction | 19/05/17 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Anybody else find pickup a blur?Have you read models by Mark Manson? | /r/seduction | 16/05/17 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Any useful resources to help improve personality?Read the book how to make friends and influence people. It's an eye opener | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Kino problem.Good YouTube videos in kino check them | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 04:21 AM |
| 1 | I don't know how to have fun.Okay good for you on improving man, that is awesome positive steps that will continue to help you on your journey. I think you know by now it's a marathon not a Sprint each day you improve slowly just like your body takes time to improve from working out. Anyway have you tried reading, how to make friends and influence people. It's and excellent read and it's not only good for game but in your career and all aspects of life. Basically it's excellent for social situations like a party. It's takin… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Kino problem.Totally understand and get what you're saying but I like a good shoulder touch after she says something I agree or even disagree with. For instance she says I like corn, you respond....i totally feel you (as you Graze her shoulder with your hand). Just a quick hand on her shoulder or arm. ) This works easily as well when disagreeing....she says I hate corn, you say, what you can't be serious can you? corn is awesome (as you say it you touch her shoulder to emphasize what you're saying.) Make the… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Emailing a lady after having no ballsBut like others have said chances are slim | /r/seduction | 04/05/17 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Emailing a lady after having no ballsEmail her that's fine, first thank her for the results and say hey I thought you were pretty cool was wondering if you wanted to grab a coffee some time (or something not too formal.) Tell her I thought about asking for your number after the exam but you were working and I didn't want to be unprofessional. It gives you an excuse for why you didn't ask her out then, plus it shows you're actually conscientious Imo it's the gretzky saying, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take | /r/seduction | 04/05/17 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Every time I'm close to get serious with a girl I build up distance to her. Why is it that way?With this guy, too much value too quickly. You are judging people based on looks, you have your guard up for no reason. The biggest problem guys have with girls is thinking they're some other species that you interact with in some different manner because their different in general. Fact is a stud is friends with lots of girls, good looking or average, but a stud at every given moment would have little trouble escalating with anyone of them. I have plenty of girl friends but I'm never friend zon… | /r/seduction | 04/05/17 12:09 AM |
| 1 | I got a girl horny then another guy closed herYou hit it spot on, whether the option is seemingly better or not humans like one thing, familiarity. The devil you know is better than the devil you don't. Not sure the analogy fits this scenario but you catch my drift. We're creatures of habit, girls like situations they're comfortable and know | /r/seduction | 19/04/17 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Best resources for PUARead models by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 18/04/17 04:27 AM |
| 3 | Feel like BodyBuilding for girls is a waste of time if you're already normal weightAladdin is spot on, what's killing your game is your horrible confidence. You wreak of insecurity which is the #1 worst thing a guy can portray since confidence is the #1 Aphrodisiac for women. Superficial things all help your game...looks, physique, height, weight, style...but nothing is more important than confidence. I've seen tall jacked dudes get no girls all because they had zero confidence. You said it yourself, take one insecurity away another one pops up. Yea no shit, look at all the mo… | /r/seduction | 18/04/17 04:25 AM |
| 2 | I got a girl horny then another guy closed herHe had history with her, history is worth more than a lot of other things, even a new guy who's seemingly flirting and doing the right stuff. At the end of the day one of the main keys to seduction is comfort. Think about it, girls just want to he comfortable around the guy enough so to hook up. Lack of comfort has crushed many of one night stands. At the end of the day this guy brought more comfort mostly because they have history and familiarity with each other. I had a girl flake on me becaus… | /r/seduction | 18/04/17 04:15 AM |
| 25 | Zen and the Art of PickupTl;dr can be summed up by this one paragraph from the OP... "You will feel good about yourself when you stop needing sex and emotional validation from women. And approaching women and facing rejection head on again and again is the most powerful and thrilling way to become someone who doesn’t rely on others’ approval for their own happiness." | /r/seduction | 07/04/17 12:43 PM |
| 3 | The Truth About Cold Approaching (The PUA industry doesn't want you to know)While I don't disagree with much of what this guy said in the video you have to be careful about misconceptions on seduction and Pua. I wholeheartedly agree that cold approaching is hard as hell and 9 times Outta 10 its not the way you're going to meet girls. however don't think for a second that the techniques learned in seduction and in the Pua Community you couldnt use elsewhere through friends, through approaching at a bar, club, school, work whatever. Fact is there are ways to attract women… | /r/seduction | 07/04/17 02:34 AM |
| 3 | Asked for a date got "Im going out with my friend if you want to bring a friend and join us"Seduction takes all forms, done right, whether you're on a double date a triple date or a date that includes her mom if you charm her to pieces she'll want a piece of you. I wouldn't worry about the fact she wants a friend to tag along, sure it's not the best sign but like I said, no girl resists attraction when you've gotten her attention, gotten her intrigued | /r/seduction | 07/04/17 12:38 AM |
| 8 | Found a very good "eye fucking" article.Most of the advice here is off, the reason it came off creepy is because you missed the window. You see its okay to eye fuck her when you first look at her, it establishes dominance, however when she looks away you sure as shit better look away too. If she looks away and then looks back only to see you continuing to stare you'll come off creepy af. Don't do this Also, once she chatted you up and you both went your separate ways it was your time to move on or atleast in that moment. The fact that… | /r/seduction | 06/04/17 09:27 PM |
| 2 | I realized I might've misunderstood what Seduction is all about and the mentality that one should haveNo guys value looks more than girls do but I don't say looks don't matter and girls do check out guys based on looks. But men are more visual and that's why we have playboy and penthouse because guys love looking at girls, but how come playgirl never made it? Because girls don't like just looking at guys they need more. In the spectrum of dating let me give you an example about looks. My scale is a simple 1 to 10 in looks. When it comes to dating (not a one night stand) For example a 7 guy will … | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 02:45 PM |
| 1 | 5 Proven Teasing Tricks That Work Like MagicI will say some of these examples are dumb but overall teasing ABSOLUTELY works when executed correctly | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 03:17 AM |
| 1 | 5 Proven Teasing Tricks That Work Like MagicI agree the crotch one was really stupid but don't tell me teasing doesn't work with girls, it absolutely does, and if you insist it doesn't you're a total square with little sense of humor | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 03:15 AM |
| 1 | [INFO] What would you take to become an advanced pua?Yea dude field reports, just learn learn learn, you'll be a samurai in no time | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 03:05 AM |
| 12 | Why are girls attracted to me?Hard to tell from your post and also the type of girls that say they find you attractive. Are they nerdy girls too? Common interests are big. But if you're looking for seduction sub advice on why girls may be into you it's could be many. But based on what you said about looks and conversation not being your strong point id have to take a stab at confidence. You see above all things in seduction confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for women, in fact you may not even realize it but you may carry your… | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 03:02 AM |
| 2 | I realized I might've misunderstood what Seduction is all about and the mentality that one should haveDoesn't matter what matters is the range, for example a 7 guy will rarely go down past a 6 girl. No way a 7 guy dates a 4 girl, but you better believe a 7 girl would date a 4 guy. The range is key, for instance no matter what the sex is a 2 will never date a 9 in any sex. However the range of looks is different between sexes. Guys have way better chance to score out of their league than a girl does, that's because girls value confidence more than looks. And like I said, looks count but the weigh… | /r/seduction | 28/03/17 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Field report (FR) - first one writing, not a good result.You did great, cold approach is so so tough even the pros only hit a %. I mean think about it, every stranger I see I'm skeptical about even if they seem friendly (imagine being a girl asked out). Anyway good job the key is to know how to make the person comfortable bullshitting, once they're comfortable they enjoy the interaction which can lead to her opening up more. You didn't do anything wrong, maybe you weren't her type, maybe she has her heart on a secret crush, hell who knows. The key is … | /r/seduction | 28/03/17 09:03 PM |
| 1 | I realized I might've misunderstood what Seduction is all about and the mentality that one should haveTrue needs to be some level of attraction but not as much as you think. For instance a girl will date a guy who's an 7 if he's beaming with confidence over a 10 out of 10 guy with zero confidence. | /r/seduction | 28/03/17 02:02 PM |
| 6 | I realized I might've misunderstood what Seduction is all about and the mentality that one should haveAs a former good looking virgin past college, I too was frustrated beyond belief and I was actually a social guy too with plenty of friends, so why did girls I like want me!?!? The problem was I wasn't sexy. Let me give you an example, a women's best attraction trait is her beauty, beauty makes men's stomachs churn. We all have that sexy girl 'friend' right, that girl we know that's just so cute and every time you see her you enjoy her company. Her sexiness never goes away right? Her sexiness is… | /r/seduction | 27/03/17 02:17 PM |
| 1 | The positive reaction of back handed good deeds and being a challenging gentlemanIt never comes off that way but thru writing I can see why you say it comes off needy. I'll continue to do with good success (and the girls I'm with are not insecure either) | /r/seduction | 26/03/17 01:54 PM |
| 1 | The positive reaction of back handed good deeds and being a challenging gentlemanYea but that's the point I'm not asking them to. I do it as a joke, they never buy me dinner nor would I expect them to. I'm just playing off gender role reversal which can be funny. It's like telling a girl what kinda job she has so she can support a stay at home husband. It's all said in a joking manner and playing off women equality, using that to your advantage. Anyways is just said in lighthearted joking way, but everyone's different, it works me all the time but hey if it's not your style … | /r/seduction | 25/03/17 01:35 PM |
| -2 | The positive reaction of back handed good deeds and being a challenging gentlemanLol I'm definitely not justifying it and I do it because I genuinely want to, I actually have a sense of humour unlike letsgetrandy alpha big balls | /r/seduction | 24/03/17 06:11 PM |
| 2 | I'm very attractive, but I lack confidence and struggle to keep up a casual conversation with girls (or anyone).I agree here, you need to listen to people and take a genuine interest in them. To take it a step further engage them, challenge them. For example it's great to ask questions but u don't want to sound like an old interviewer so ask follow up. If they say they like to play softball, u say oh yeah how long have you played when did you start. Nice I love baseball I play on a rec team blah blah. Engage them, ask follow up,and then insert yourself by also telling them about yourself. If you're really… | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 07:49 PM |
| 6 | I'm a virgin. How can I improve?First of all men think women are all about looks no, its all about confidence. Looks help but confidence is key and tinder doesn't help show that off. You're not a bad looking guy you just need to up your style. Fix your hair style first and foremost, in one pic your shirt is a disheveled mess, fix it. In fact your clothes should be form fitting not loose at all. Tight but not too tight. And you need better pics, remember you need to give your best foot forward when posting pics on tinder. Smile… | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 01:55 PM |
| 2 | What prompted you to join/lurk /r/ seduction?Because I'm a former total loser with girls turned stud. Was a virgin past college with little to no luck with women and now can game better than all my friends who were having sex 10 years prior. I'm a success story and I like helping those who have questions and are confused as hell like I was back in the day. This sub is an excellent source and most (not all) of the advice is good for getting help attracting women. Game is all about attraction, most guys are clueless how to be attractive to t… | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 01:46 PM |
| 1 | My friend is gonna introduce me to some of his fit friends, give me advice!Bro stop putting them on a pedastal. Your first problem is you're nervous talking to a group of girls. Stop putting pressure on yourself and act no different in front of them than you would your best friend....ACT NO DIFFERENT, girls respect guys who just act themselves. I know just be yourself is cliche and horrible advice BUT IT'S THE FUCKING TRUTH, people put so much added pressure on a situation bit when YOU ACT NO DIFFERENT IN FRONT OF A GROUP OF GIRLS THAN YOU WOULD YOU'RE BEST FRIEND I'M … | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 03:17 AM |
| 1 | when it comes to sex do you have no standards?Funny thing about seduction is it teaches you to be picky. When I was young I looked at every cute girl as a potential mate. Oh she's so cute, I have to have her, she seems so sweet innocent, gentle, whatever pedestal creating bullshit I could muster...now I see a hot chick and I still want to get to know her but I also want to make sure she's not a complete tool, I test her personality and girls like when guys do that, they respect a guy who questions her who challenges her not to just be a pre… | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 03:12 AM |
| 2 | [REQUEST] - How do you guys mitigate the self hate that comes from being single?Because your self hating yourself insert anything and it doesn't matter you'll replace it with something else. This mind frame doesn't go away by having a gf, you'll just replace it with something else. The key is to stop the inner voice in your head that tells you you're not enough. Read declutter your mind or a new Earth by Eckhart Tholle, a genius of today who teaches to let go of your ego , let go of the negative shit in your head. Great reads | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Confidence learned from a mole.How do you know it will look bad if you never shaved it before? Shave it for shits and giggles. If it doesn't look good so what, grow it back. But don't automatically assume it will look horrible. Shaved is Def better than receding hairline even if your head isn't perfectly proportioned | /r/seduction | 13/03/17 05:22 PM |
| 1 | How does one not "smother" a person who never initiates?Yea Def agree with you | /r/seduction | 13/03/17 03:01 PM |
| 1 | How does one not "smother" a person who never initiates?I mean I can't say I disagree with you on your points because I'm totally with you, I just think there are some exceptions and they have little to do with conscious decisions and more to do with subconscious. If you've been accustomed from an early age to not initiate its not that you expect others to do the work it's just ingrained on your DNA. My point is she got mad at me, not because she didn't want to put the effort in or put no work in, it's just the thought never crossed her mind. She's c… | /r/seduction | 13/03/17 01:47 PM |
| 1 | How does one not "smother" a person who never initiates?I disagree on your point #4, if she never initiates she's not interested period. No this is not necessarily true. And yes I hear what you're saying but I knew a beautiful girl who NEVER NEVER initiated anything, honestly I think it had to do with the fact she was so gorgeous that she never had to in life. Her life was catered around people always putting in the effort because quite frankly she was gorgeous. Not that she was stuck up she was just used to people coming to her so the routine of her… | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 02:32 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Took Seddit Advice and Approached My Classmate For a DateFirst off there was nothing wrong with what you said and where you were going. Great job approaching it the way you did, but next time don't do it in the middle of class, that was your first mistake I think. Not that it was terrible but it caught her off guard and also she may have been distracted listening to the teacher. Next time do it after or before and say I know this cool bakery in (insert exact place, not the few across town like u said), wondering if you wanted to check it out with me o… | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 03:43 PM |
| 0 | A girl that I was hitting on told me that her boyfriend cheated on her a few days ago. I'm not sure of what to do.Tell her oh too bad, let's pay him back by fucking me | /r/seduction | 07/03/17 05:06 PM |
| 4 | If it's not looks, then what is it?What can you do, continue reading the side bar. You up your looks by working on the small things, problem is everyone wants a quick fix. There isn't any, work on improving your wardrobe, workout, body language, flirting techniques, how to have a simple conversation with strangers, etc. All tips found thru side bar and YouTube. Start researching and learn | /r/seduction | 07/03/17 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Advice for how skinny guys should dress?Simple tips are your clothes should never be too baggy or too tight. They should he form fitting, a little tight is good but your pants shouldn't show your ball bulge if ya know what i mean. Posture is important and the way you stand and walk,back straight etc. Look up how to carry yourself confidently, body language is very important along with style. Don't have too many accessories but a couple are good to have, a nice necklace and/or watch. As for cologne pick the style you like but smelling … | /r/seduction | 07/03/17 04:23 PM |
| 2 | How do you escalate from playful flirting?At this point change... You've clearly stated your intentions and she's brushed them off. Now it's time for push pull, lay off now, be distant or not as available. I'm not saying ignore her all together but don't reciprocate her flirtation. Start to become more of a challenge and she'll be like a little kitty cat chasing the string. Take this next with a grain of salt because every situation is different but this is an option.... If she confronts you and says why are you being lame, grab her and… | /r/seduction | 07/03/17 02:54 PM |
| 2 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"I'm gonna follow suit here, this dude should be a psychiatrist. Excellent read and broke down OPs issue to a T. Thanks this was helpful to me and I consider myself very confident and advanced with women. This post can help anyone and everyone | /r/seduction | 02/03/17 03:45 AM |
| 5 | How to handle seeing a girl who ignored my day-after text at the bar again?This, act no different, the less u make it a big deal the less she will. Act no different, smile at her, have a convo as if neither of you hooked up before | /r/seduction | 24/02/17 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Fact: Women like MusclesAgree here, muscles help, but confidence is more important. What you see here is a two pronged effect, muscles give you confidence which makes you double the attractive man you were before. I too transformed and definitely agree I get a ton more looks and second looks, but all those muscles mean nothing if I don't back it up with confidence and charm | /r/seduction | 24/02/17 04:45 AM |
| 13 | My COMPLETE guide to gameI will preface this is a good read and I can tell this all works, but as someone who considers himself very good with women it's crazy how robotic and systematic guys are with game. This dude has broken it down to a science which to me seems like it takes all the fun and mystery out of it. She says this, you know to say that, you say this and get her to react like this, so on and so on. Just seems very superficial is all. Not hatin cause clearly you know your shit | /r/seduction | 23/02/17 02:36 PM |
| 2 | [help] I'm scared to take the next step 90% of the time because of self esteem issues that I having problems changing.Don't think of seduction as changing your values, if you don't want to sleep with alot of women so be it, you don't need to. But you can still be friends with a lot of them and then eventually meet the one for you and pursue her. You need to think of seduction as this because people think that if im friends with lots of girls I'll just be friend zoned, no guys get friend zoned because of the way they carry themselves not because a girl says to herself, oh we're friends therefore we cant escalate… | /r/seduction | 23/02/17 02:10 PM |
| 3 | [help] I'm scared to take the next step 90% of the time because of self esteem issues that I having problems changing.Half the battle is recognizing the problem which you seem to do. The other half is actually doing something about it. What's the definition of insanity, doing the same thing and expecting different results. Listen I used to smoke weed, it's a motivation killer, it's also a very introverted drug which makes you internalize and not be social. I loved weed but it murders game and motivation. I'm not saying give it up but only do it at night after you've done everything... Studied, worked out, socia… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 09:47 PM |
| 2 | "At least you are..." modelHaha yea you played that good without even knowing it. You should have laughed and said yes, at least you try hard it's a good quality. Said with a joking laugh. Girls love banter it's the push pull. Other word for it is back handed compliments, you look really cute in that skirt, those were really in during the 90s. Or like what was said, you're really cute like my sister. It's giving them validation then taking it away. Banter is fun and playful and it definitely lightens the mood, girls love … | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to filter this sub by videos?Not that I'm aware of but if you want good videos go to YouTube, tons of seduction material, realife field reports, seminars, whatever | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Girl was into me until 4 of her friends pulled her away. Is there anything I could have done better in this situation?Agree here, girls will always cock block its in their nature to protect their friends. The key would be to try to isolate, the more attraction you build the less she'll listen to her friends. Either way good for you for putting yourself out there, keep doing it success will come | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 03:09 PM |
| 6 | What am I doing wrong?Make no mistake cold approach is hard as fuck. Good for you for trying. Even the best PUAs have small success in cold approaching because it's so quick, so short. Girls take longer to build attraction so how do u expect a girl to be excited about you in 3 minutes, it's just really hard. Most men here will benefit from social circles, finding hobby, sports, or activities that bring people together. Most women want some avenue to know a guy, whether it's a friend of a friend or you're in the same … | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 03:04 PM |
| 2 | I am [20/m]. I was her crush (19/f), and after sex she is not talking to me!Yes this exactly, you see girls pick up on guys who act differently around them all of a sudden. The bigger deal you make it the bigger deal she'll make it. Hit the reset button right now just like replier said...what got her attracted to you, what did she like about you before all this went down? by going back to what worked and forgetting what went down between you two is essential. So next time you see her DON'T ACT DIFFERENT. Be social be flirty, fun, act like you're having the most fun out … | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Seriously considering giving upGood advice this guy better answer you, I fucking can't stand all the guys asking for advice yet never follow up with people that offer good advice. My story is somewhat same, Virgin loser until after college, no game, no girls, no sex. Just you're typical nice guy who couldn't attract a grandmother. Anyway long story short I'm a stud now. OP, there's always hope, always | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 10:43 PM |
| 1 | when a girl is meanShe wants you to joke/banter back, she's testing your frame to see if you're a square or fun. Don't be a square banter back and hold frame. A male ALWAYS should have stronger frame than a female ALWAYS. | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 10:40 PM |
| 7 | CleavageIt depends actually, in the beginning DO NOT LOOK at cleavage, just no no. In the beginning it's eye fucking only, look her in the eye and get to know her (just like she is with you). ONCE you know you've built attraction THEN you can have her catching u glancing at her cleavage or even her mouth. When you're gazing into each other's eyes start looking at her lips too. This signals kissing, when she starts staring at your lips boom go in for the kiss she definitely wants u to. But like I said, c… | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 09:11 PM |
| 1 | My friend and I live in NYC, why do we have a lot more success with European women than American women?Interesting read thanks | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Can we get some success stories from people who shouldn't be successful with women by conventional standards?Okay how bout this for debunking all myths about looks.... I'm 6'3 tall, white, good looking guy, friendly, funny, skinny, dressed marginally well. So you're thinking Oh wow you MUST have always done great with women WRONG!!!!!!! I was a Virgin loser thru both high-school AND college! That's right and COLLEGE! No real girlfriends, no LTRs, no friends with benefits. nothing and I was friends will lots of people! So these guys that ask the same questions about game, oh what if I'm short, fat, ugly… | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 06:36 PM |
| 2 | What are some things everyone should be doing everyday to become more attractive?A lot of good advice but everyone is different. The key is to work on your weaknesses. Are you out of shape, work out. Does you posture suck, read and learn how to improve it, do you have approach anxiety... Meditation, hypnosis, anxiety techniques to learn to improve your AA. It's having the knowledge to look within you to acknowledge your weaknesses (which many people can't do) and taking the small steps each day to improve on them | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 04:26 PM |
| 1 | I'm not very talkative.Look up Richard Luguina, aka the gambler pua on YouTube. He is a totally chill non extrovert guy who is a pua. He knows his shit and has some great advice, proof you don't need to be this loud extrovert to be a lady killer. As mostly an extroverted guy myself I find his stuff skips a lot of the Bullshit and gets right to the sexual. I like his advice counter to what much of my game revolves... Proof you learn from everyone | /r/seduction | 20/02/17 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Biggest rule I've found for openingThis gets into the idea of... it's not what you say but HOW you say it. It's all how you frame it, you could quote the most beautiful shit you've ever heard in your life and if it's not delivered right it will fall on Def ears | /r/seduction | 20/02/17 08:37 PM |
| 4 | My three favourite success books (Looking for reviews of the novel I gave away last week)Read A new Earth its better imo | /r/seduction | 20/02/17 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Do you meditate? If so, how has it impacted your game?I know people talk meditation but they should start using its close cousin Hypnosis. Hypnosis is meditation with a purpose. For example if your struggle with game is approach anxiety, hypnosis will help you envision cases that make you nervous all while remaining calm. By repeating hypnosis you're training your subconscious to remain calm during an approach rather than nervous or sweaty. It literally changed the entire dynamic to my game. I was a horrible blusher out of no where with girls, it c… | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Growing terrified of approaching...I'm with this guy, first off game is all about coming off unassuming. You see the key to seduction is to realize that girls become attracted to you without thinking logically. When a girl likes you she doesn't have a spread sheet saying okay here are the qualities I like and dislike,. Seduction isn't a logical choice it's an EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION. If you're doing game right, girls, no matter how many girls you talk to, will naturally be drawn to you and want to hang out with you. Don't focus so m… | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 05:44 PM |
| -1 | I've been working on myself and inner game for the last few years, and today I received the greatest compliment I've ever gotten.Why are people up voting this, it's zero help to anyone on this thread, this post should be deleted. No offense to OP but it's useless | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 05:35 PM |
| 2 | How do you take a girl to your home after a date?Interesting points thanks for getting back | /r/seduction | 14/02/17 06:09 AM |
| 6 | How do you take a girl to your home after a date?On your side note, you kissed or made out before asking them to come to your house... How long into the date and how quickly are you doing this and when is right time or more importantly how do you transition from chatting to kissing, you sound like you don't waste much time escalating | /r/seduction | 13/02/17 08:44 PM |
| 12 | No matter how difficult it gets, don't quit. Your brain is a liar. Success after 8 years of failure.It's so hard to explain this to people when they're in the midst of it themselves. But I see so often that really it's our mind fucking us up, our mind coming up with all these negative scenarios as to why our life sucks. I too had this same delusional thoughts, I don't understand women, they don't understand me, some guys have all the luck and I have none. All this shit ruined my chances with girls, that's why I always stress that the greatest asset men need with women is confidence. That one n… | /r/seduction | 13/02/17 08:28 PM |
| 0 | I've read about confidence a million times, but realistically how do you start off with flirting with a girl?Best way is to watch videos on YouTube, look up how to flirt or how to approach girls. Tons and tons of how to videos. I love banter myself but every guy is different. | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Dental Braces and Nightclubs. Is it not even worth trying?OWN IT all people in this world have hindrances, some height, some handicap, some personality, whatever. Yours happens to be braces. Own that shit, the more comfortable you are the less girls will see them. #1 aphrodisiac for women is confidence, those with it see all their limitations dissappear because women are so drawn to confidence. Men are attracted to a nice ass like a girl is attracted to a man with confidence | /r/seduction | 11/02/17 03:54 PM |
| 6 | What exactly is frame and how do you maintain it when interacting with people?Excellent response and well said, to further the discussion frame is crucial for shit tests. Girls test a guys confidence by questioning him, by trying to see if he'll crack... Maintaining Frame is never falling for it. Replier was right, if they say oh I hate rock climbing, you shit test back and say yea that's because you don't have the guts to do it, you're probably way too high maintenance to do something like that, am I right? That's maintaining frame, never compromise who you are | /r/seduction | 11/02/17 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Should guys initiate hugs?Well I somewhat agree here, don't make a big deal about it. Everything is comfort, the funny thing is you could be awkward as shit around a girl but if a guy does it with conviction girls just accept it. It's has to do with confidence, girls just live guys with it so even if the guy is a total tool, if he's confident girls just accept him. Which gets me to hugs, go for it, and don't over think it, just do it. If you just do it without thinkong girls won't think twice. Hugs are great for kino so … | /r/seduction | 11/02/17 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Kino during movie?Do not I repeat do not do yawn technique. Movies suck for kino and interaction. Other than during the movie using some kino to whisper in her ear a thing or two your best bet is to set up a good after movie spot so u can kino and discuss the movie | /r/seduction | 11/02/17 03:05 PM |
| 6 | A little too much game? Kinda developing a bad rep..I'm with this guy, the whole fuck alot of girls is a total shit test. Listen if I've learned one thing about seduction is all logic gets thrown out the door once enough attraction is built. Along the way before a girls falls for you they'll be shit test, character tests, previous or even current gf tests...it goes with the territory. With that said I'm sure theres a way to reframe the conversation to take it away from you banging too many girls. For example, in this situation I'd go back on the … | /r/seduction | 11/02/17 05:15 AM |
| 1 | What are some of the lesser known IOI's that you can pick upon during interactions?This | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 09:50 PM |
| 10 | Is it worth it to continue going after a girl who is unsure about a date?Yea pursue but don't give her a few weeks to think about it. The way you respond to a text or spoken response like that is... Listen I'm asking you on a date not asking you to be my gf. I want to see if we're compatible or not, you seem cool and you're cute. If we both don't like the date we can be on our way. But you have to impress me ;-) See how you change the frame on her, instead of begging or asking her well think about it and get back to me. No be assertive and then insinuate to her who's… | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 08:56 PM |
| 19 | How psychopaths deal with rejectionYea I thought how great it would be to not feel empathy or rejection then I realized, do those people actually feel love? Do they actually feel the intense emotion a girl gives you when she makes you blush or your stomach drop? I doubt it, so I look in hindsight that I'm blessed to be an emotional train wreck sometimes lol. I work at a big corporation, those higher ups many of them are total psychopaths. Not that they're bad people it's just theyre a certain mold and you can't pay me enough to t… | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 07:47 PM |
| 1 | 19,virgin,never kissed a girl, for whatever reason handsome,I go on my phone vs a computer but it's the little 'i' at the top of the seduction page | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Game from an Evolutionary Perspective. How game applied 60,000 years ago in 40-50 people tribes.I'm not sure about your whole historical analysis. But think of it like this, nature wants us to procreate, it's built into our DNA. We want to fuck and girls want to get laid. To answer your question to your conundrum... Half the battle is knowing your weakness. I think it's very telling to know what you need to improve, it says alot and you shouldn't be so hard on yourself, because there are a ton of clueless people that never even recognize their weakness to improve themselves. With that said… | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 03:46 PM |
| 11 | 19,virgin,never kissed a girl, for whatever reason handsome,Read side bar, your issue is common. I was a mid 20s Virgin considered tall and handsome, now good get just about any girl. Read side bar | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 10:07 PM |
| 2 | First date with girl went great but she doesn't text and now it's totally fucking me upPeople get so lost in interpretation in texting, don't make the mistake of over thinking every text. Texting is informal and extremely easy to misinterpret. I'd simply limit all texting and set up a second date. Don't text unless it's important to next meeting. Stop the small talk and bs, you're not her BF yet. If you try to set up a 2nd date to no response, DO NOT FOLLOW UP. move on. In the beginning it's all give and take. If it's all you giving she's not interested.. PS don't expect her to in… | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 09:47 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop being my own worst enemy?Exposure therapy. Thinking does nothing, action does. Example, you can say I'm gonna build courage to talk to my crush and I'm gonna say this and this and then ask her out.You train yourself over and over and over.... And then the day comes and you walk up to her and BOOM you sound like a bumbling idiot and say 5% of what you actually wanted to say. Action speaks louder than words, it's having the courage to take action, not be afraid to fail (understand you will fail) and then learning from tho… | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 03:09 PM |
| 21 | THE TRUTH ABOUT "THE ONE"Ditto this is excellent and a post many many guys can relate to, thanks for this great break down. I too in my younger years was heart broken by a love for a girl that was not reciprocal. I was so heart broken and bitter that two people so compatible with a lot in common weren't together but looking back it was all my fault. I don't hold regret, Im not bitter, simply because I grew to learn that men need to build attraction, a girl will not fall in your lap. I look back and realize how Beta I wa… | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 03:02 PM |
| 2 | If you compliment girls the right way you can build massive attraction and trustThe real key is how you compliment and who. If you call an average girl beautiful she'll blush, if you call a gorgeous girl beautiful she'll roll her eyes because she's heard the same thing a thousand times. I hang out with a gorgeous girl and guys gawk the shit out of her, it's kinda pathetic how much attention she gets because of her looks. So don't be like every other loser guy and say how how hot she is. Unlike what the video says it's fine to Compliment her on other stuff like, oh I love wh… | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 01:46 PM |
| 7 | Is it possible to get out of "the creep zone"?The fact you can't even say it on a forum like this tells me you have no chance and you're definitely creepy | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Can anyone break down this video? I see a lot of seduction game going down.Wtf, dude the video is an hour and 30 min get a grip | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 05:05 AM |
| 1 | This changed my life forever - Girls actually do want BoysSimple answer yes, confidence and being your best self is the foundation to seduction You're not reading enough into it. Fact is yes you're partially right, but seduction is a peice by peice journey. A hot guy won't necessarily get a hot girl. A rich guy, a well dressed guy, a tall guy won't necessarily get a hot girl. But start piecing some of those together along with the greatest asset a man can possess (confidence) and you'll begin to get girls. | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Is she into you?Let's say she says, "wow you look so hot in that work out outfit want to go to my place and jump my bones?" Again can't tell, she might think youre a physical trainer ready to introduce her to a new work out routine called bone jumping... Continue looking for more signs... | /r/seduction | 30/01/17 02:18 PM |
| 54 | Don't let boring girls/guys bring you down.You're absolutely right, when I was young and found a girl I liked, that was it, I HAD TO GO OVER TO HER AND MAKE HER MINE! I would think to myself shes soooo cute and she seems super nice and gentle EVERYTHING I WANT IN A GIRL! The problem was I was putting false expectations of who the girl was. Half the girls I look back on, that I was totally head over heels for, make me LAUGH about how stupid and naive I was. Girls I had little to nothing in common with, girls that had no sense of humor, gi… | /r/seduction | 28/01/17 05:14 PM |
| 1 | I lost herIf I had a dime for every time this happened to me I'd be a rich man. I was once at a bar chatting a very cute girl for over 30 min, she was totally into me and we actually knew each other from years past so she was very comfortable with me and seemed very interested, she also just got out of a LTR so she literally was just looking for a good time and a hook up. Not knowing shit about the game I said I better play it cool, grab a drink, talk to my friends a short bit then I'll make my way back. … | /r/seduction | 28/01/17 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Game-Related Question: Is it possible to "fuck up" with a woman who is already attracted to you?Girls emotions change constantly, they go hot and cold in an instant, of course a girl can lose interest. Its worth mentioning that if a girl is really into you it's harder to fuck up, but you better believe she can lose interest | /r/seduction | 28/01/17 01:50 PM |
| 1 | So what next?Good videos for sure, physical escalation is so important to getting a girl who cant wait to kiss you vs a girl taken off guard by your advances | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 04:39 PM |
| 3 | So I'm going off Reddit for a month tomorrow morning.I've heard it discussed here many times, seduction means nothing without action. Example, as a Virgin someone can tell you every thing there is about sex, the touching the actions the moves but until you experience it yourself you still know very little about it. The reason for the analogy is because of what you said, you read and watched everything there is to know about self improvement and seduction but until you start to experience those things yourself you will only know a fraction. The gre… | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 03:30 PM |
| 2 | So what next?Geez that's rough bro, you were sitting under the stars and she laughed? Wtf she expect you to do whip out a telescope and start discussing constellations? Anyway don't sweat it, the fact she laughed meant she was comfortable enough with you to keep it light hearted even though it was kinda a dick move on her part. So first off good for you for making the right transition, whatever you do don't revert back to smoking and eating like shit, it will only make things worse. I think sometimes when we… | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Unless you're a hot girl or a guy from a well off family, it's normal for your younger years (<25) to suck but don't get too down about it.Life is karma, it truly is. Take it from a Virgin thru high school and COLLEGE! I was so depressed and thought I was just destined to be sad and live with this suffering. I had no girlfriend in high school or college and thought how sad it was I missed on so much. Long story short I learned seduction and can out game all my friends from high school and college who were getting laid 10 years prior. I'm in the best shape of my life and I'm married to a 5'10 cute Swedish blonde. I exude confidence … | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Anyone tell me why women are typically alot less nervous in the attraction phase between a girl and a guy? Are they really just better at controlling their emotions than men or is there something more involved?Whatever rejection you've felt approaching a few guys in your life, a guy has experienced 10 fold more. It's ego deflating really which is why guys get so nervous | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Anyone tell me why women are typically alot less nervous in the attraction phase between a girl and a guy? Are they really just better at controlling their emotions than men or is there something more involved?Lol relationships sub is such a joke. The top few comments here, which are spot on btw, would have been down voted in relationships | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Anyone tell me why women are typically alot less nervous in the attraction phase between a girl and a guy? Are they really just better at controlling their emotions than men or is there something more involved?Very well put, makes all the sense in the world to me now | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Anyone tell me why women are typically alot less nervous in the attraction phase between a girl and a guy? Are they really just better at controlling their emotions than men or is there something more involved?Wow excellent point thanks | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Still waiting for miracle...Self depreciation is the death to your game. The foundation to all of seduction is confidence. You have low self esteem and girls can spot that shit. Try reading six pillars of self esteem, it's a great start. Seduction is too advanced at this point, you need to build that foundation of confidence | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 09:05 PM |
| 3 | What's the best thing to do the moment she says she's going to the bathroom?Well it's hard to say because every conversation is different, but if she was feeling it I'd Def bust her chops and say okay be quick because you owe me a drink or something to that effect. Something funny is always good. | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 08:48 PM |
| 2 | The frustrating aspect of women and seductionGood reply here, it's not changing who you are, don't think of seduction like that. It's changing your approach, you can completely be yourself all while building sexual attraction it's simply something you're doing that is not getting girls sexually attracted. I speak from personal experience, I am a genuine nice guy, I'm not a beta nice guy, I'm just a nice guy (most of the time). Well I was also a Virgin loser with women all thru high school and college. I came off as a typical beta nice guy.… | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 08:42 PM |
| 3 | I need some advice. Am i friend zoned or should i keep going??Haha good reply If this dude only knew how good he has it. Hey OP this girl is putty in your hands make a move, no freaking way she'd invite you for a movie a 2nd time if she wasn't interested. GIRLS ARE NOT GOING TO MAKE THE MOVE YOU NEED TO! | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Need helpEasy, start moving yourself around to pockets of people to say hi. Make great eye contact while introducing yourself to girls. Be very social by hitting all pockets of people and introducing yourself as you make the rounds. Once you're done with the intro make it back to groups of the girls you think are cute. Another good way to get to know girls is introducing people to each other, so if you know a few people that you know don't know each other or if you have a friend that knows people you don… | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Dating Tl:dr Be 6' tall.Amen, this entirely. The key to seduction is where you have deficiencies ie. Height, avg. face, bad skin you make up for it in other facets. For example if you're short you can be cocky as FUCK! I mean just go in and start busting the girls chops hard, show her how man you are. Women forget about height when your confidence compensates for all physical lacking traits. No. 1 aphrodisiac for women, beauty No. 1 aphrodisiac for men, confidence Learn it, live it, own it | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Conquered my anxietyGreat job, see how invigorating conquering your fear is. Many people make the mistake when anxiety hits, like oh no here we go again, your hearts jumps put of your chest, your throat tightens, voice crackles but next time try this.... When you feel yourself get nervous say right away "if I'm not nervous I'm not living" . Say this each time you get nervous and you'll begin to reinforce your brain to look at nervousness as a positive thing instead of a negative. | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And RelationshipsThe fact my comment is down voted truly shows how clueless people are cause I'm spot on | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 10:42 PM |
| 1 | A Valid Criticism of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson!Bro you have flipped yourself silly. I read no further than the comment you criticize Manson making about prioritizing the opinion of yourself over prioritizing the opinion of others have of yourself. Um no I just read that, he DID NOT contradict himself. He reinforced the fact you should prioritize the perception of yourself over vice versa and that during the date you don't spend the date wondering if the girl likes you, you spend the date wondering if you like the girl. THAT'S HIS POINT, you … | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Does the way you dress matter?To piggyback a little here, it's picking the style that fits you best. If you're into grudge don't dress like a prep but each person no matter the demographics can pay attention to the little things that make you more stylish than the next guy. Don't be average, be a little better dressed than your friends. Girls notice trust me, they love a guy with style, but style means nothing if you don't have confidence to back it up. Own it | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 09:03 PM |
| 1 | TransitionAnd this... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/29ul48/simple_kino_guide/ | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 08:52 PM |
| 1 | TransitionLook up kino, it's imperative to easy transition Try this post i found https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1gzt6f/five_stages_of_kino/ | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And RelationshipsHaha so true | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And RelationshipsThis is so true because Women don't think logically like men when it comes to dating. Example ask any girl what she wants from a man. Aaaaaahhhh I want a nice guy, who treats me great, buys me flowers, and sweeps me off my feet.... All while they turn around and date some asshole. Why because women aren't thinking logically when dating a guy, they're thinking EMOTIONALLY, all logic gets thrown out the door once emotional attraction sets in. Women are fucking clueless when it comes to relationshi… | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 07:43 PM |
| 1 | How to reflect critically and constructively on a failed attempt to start a flirty conversation?First off great job putting yourself out there, 2nd off stop thinking about what this girl thought of you. You're new you're trying new things, it's like public speaking, everyone sucks at it the first time. Just keep approaching, some girls will be receptive others won't. Most of the time their lack of receptiveness had nothing to do with you. Her cat could have died, she had a fight with her best friend, she has a BF. Whatever don't think it was your fault, and just so you know low hanging fru… | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Co-worker putting out subtle signals?Awesome to hear bro that's great! Keep it up | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else need help like this?I don't don't think this is the right sub man, it doesn't sound like getting women is hard for you it's just that you don't care because you are emotionally depressed at this point in life. I will say this it's sounds like you need to go into a self help type of mode before trying to get girls. No amount of girls or even quality girls will help you if you don't get over the emotional baggage of your last relationship and above all your depression. The shit you're doing really is Sabotage and it'… | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: should we start giving more outer game advice (routines) than inner gameI can't stand people that bitch about what's posted. People bitched about more field reports, so more field reports. People bitch about more inner game, so more inner game is posted. At the end of the day I'm good with more field reports, which essentially is outer game, but I see videos all the time on outer game. If inner game posts bother you skip them, but its quintessential to seduction | /r/seduction | 18/01/17 12:28 AM |
| 0 | Girl I dated briefly almost a year ago wants to hang out, how to go about this?Use your seduction skills you've learned, fuck friends, if she's not willing to escalate move on. Friends is a waste of time, unless of course she has hot friends, use her as a wing. With that said hanging out, you've already done this, so skip the Bullshit and escalate. It won't be a problem if you use what you've learned here. She's interested | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 11:52 PM |
| 9 | I curse a fucking lot. Is this a problem?Limit it, it's a turn off to many women, but cursing in moderation is fine. I don't myself, unnecessary | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 11:49 PM |
| 7 | I am unhappy in an awesome LTR and want to be single againI had a similar life story. Only instead of girls I didn't want for the good part of my life i was a loser Virgin until my late 20s. Long story short I learn the game could literally start fucking girls left and right, I was booming with confidence and game and girls started to become very attracted to me. it was almost immediately after I learned the game, like a few months in I met this awesome women. The sweetest, nicest, fun, chill, cute girl. I settled into a LTR and started having the same… | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 06:21 PM |
| 5 | So a girl actually checked me out today..When you look and she doesn't break your smile is quick and short but you absolutely hold that eye contact until she breaks, no need to smile the whole time. Some girls hold on for long as hell and you want to look away, Don't. show her that confidence! | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Co-worker putting out subtle signals?Also how are your gym clothes, make sure you wear some form fitting gear, stuff that shows off your muscles | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Co-worker putting out subtle signals?Good for you, keep up the ball busting she'll be putty. Way to banter and say, everyone says that please... Example you could follow up and say I want you to prove it because i don't think you can handle your weed. you're not one of these people that get high and all awkward on me are you (again said in a ball busting fun way) | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else find women kind of... unbearable?Sounds like you need to find girls you click with, there's a lot of cool girls and alot of tools, keep lookin | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 12:32 AM |
| 3 | How do you improve yourself when in a relationship?I'm in a relationship, I never stop flirting with other girls. And think of flirting as just interacting with other girls. I don't cling to my girl all night, I'll float, I'll talk to other social circles, other groups of girls. It's good fun, i Bullshit and banter with girls. It's never creepy and my girl knows I'm a social butterfly. You never get clingy, always know that you're the catch just as much as she is. I work out consistently, I'm in great shape and I still go on this sub because its… | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 10:43 PM |
| 109 | So a girl actually checked me out today..Great job on improving your health and appearance. As some others would say on this sub looks and style help a lot. With that said their was definite interest so that's when you have to get the balls to approach. This is where guys fail because looks only get you so far, a girl won't be instantly attracted to a guy, like a guy would to a girl. Yes they found you cute and they were interested but no way was there real attraction until you interacted and approached them. Find out ways to conquer a… | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Responding to a potential shit testWhen girls ask me to do stuff for them, I always joke with them first. I think many people mistake being nice to women vs being needy and clingy. For example, Her over text: hey on the way to my apt. can you pick me up a pint of ice cream? Me: what do i look like your personal Butler, you want me to stop by and grab you a new pair of heels too? Her: lol jerk! Me: what do you want In the end Im always a gentleman but I always give them shit first to show them I'm no push over errand boy. | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 08:21 PM |
| 4 | Anyone else find women kind of... unbearable?Women are different, they generally have different hobbies, likes, TV shows, etc. We are just different DNA but it doesn't mean you have to not like them because they don't don't interest you. Find the good in all people. Truthfully the problems not them, its you. If you find yourself completely turned off by women then the problem is you not them. Find women who gravitate toward your interests. Don't expect to have a ton in common with a soccer player if you're interest is sciences. Find girls … | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Turning 40.....need to start over and need help!!Almosteasy is spot on, the fact you responded to this of all the good positive replies goes to show you just how insecure you are. I don't mean that as an insult either. You are very self loathing it seems and you need to snap out of this thru positive reinforcement. Throughout life it's just a fact you'll get haters, f them, they're not worth shit and are insecure themselves so it's a waste to spend 2 minutes on them. The fact you took the time to respond shows how defensive you are. You don't … | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Turning 40.....need to start over and need help!!Here is the link, this one says to cure blushing but it can really be used for anything you put your mind to. Whether if it's public speaking you're afraid of, blushing, anxiety, talking to girls this audio will most certainly help you. Here are my steps throughout the video 1.follow the words of audio to relax you. 2.once totally relaxed begin to visualize situations that made you nervous or whatever ails you, only this time remain relaxed. Visualize being totally cool and confident all while g… | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Co-worker putting out subtle signals?Not looking desperate is great, but it has limits. It's key to not look needy in that situation because a beautiful girl like that is so used to guys drooling over her, which makes u different cause you're not. With that said u also need to start initiating interest or she'll give up and move on. A big mistake guys make is that even though beautiful girls need to be treated differently initially they still want attention and what to be wanted (like all of us). I hear guys talk about this all the… | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 02:29 PM |
| 11 | Turning 40.....need to start over and need help!!38 here, if i was single Omg I'd be slaying girls left and right. 40 is totally fine for guys is my point, girls from 25 to 55 will find you attractive if you project those attractive qualities. I too had anxiety out of no where, I cured it almost entirely through hypnosis audios on YouTube, shit works try it. Think of hypnosis as meditation with a purpose, it's so effective and actually alot like meditation which people sometimes don't grasp. The key seduction is building the qualities that att… | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Six Pillars Of Self Esteem - Animated Book Summary [8:04]Good post i read the book it's a great read. It's too bad many guys on this sub will gloss over this post because it doesn't directly correlate to seduction and getting girls. But what do many guys can't grasp, especially guys who are struggling, is that seduction means NOTHING if you haven't laid the foundation of confidence and self esteem. If don't have either you are LOST and no seduction technique will work for you. Thanks for the video | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Would more women wanna sex me and be attracted to me if I go from 5'7" around 125lbs to more lean and muscular? I'm also trying to improve game with women any tips for opening and then keeping the convos funny and interesting?Sayhowyou is right, yes this is totally creepy don't do it. Any girl worth pursuing wouldnt find it funny. But you're on the right path, busting chops is a great way to keep thing light and fun. But don't be overtly sexual in the beginning, you have to smooth your way in before you jump too extreme. Bust a hot girls chops just like you would your best friend, don't be overtly sexual and don't insult her weight or something. But regular ball busting is excellent to use with girls | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Im having a hard time finding a gf?Settle down at 23? No man you're still mad young, live a little, you have the rest of your life to settle down. But hey, to each his own | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 06:15 PM |
| 3 | I think the ideas like "be high energy" and "bring the fun" are fucking awful. Try "just feel good and be comfortable". This shift had caused girls to start approaching me.Well those techniques aren't awful they work actually, but I get what youre saying. Don't be someone you're not, I always tell people to use seduction techniques that fit your personality. Example of PUAs with different styles Tyler Durden is high energy, Richard Luguina is laid back and chill. You pick the style that fits your personality best. SAME GOES FOR the women you choose, so many guys give girls with shit personalities give girls the benefit of the doubt because they're cute. Fuck that … | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 03:22 PM |
| 1 | How do you socialize with a woman in a boring office environment?You're on the right sub, read the side bar. My flirtation device is banter, I'm a big ball buster, I call girls dorks, make fun of their laugh whatever. I'm fun and I have fun, and they feed off of it. Find your seduction techniques and have fun all day, stop being boring, no need to be boring. We all have boring jobs, I have a desk job myself, my work is about as cool as counting rocks, but I still have fun and flirt with girls at work | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 11:03 PM |
| 1 | How do you socialize with a woman in a boring office environment?Bro don't listen to this dingbat | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Women at my work give me hugs, call me cute etcYou're the young eye candy in the office. Older women are much more comfortable with themselves so many of them have no more filter and don't give a fuck they flirt with you. If you wanted to you could definitely hook up with one of them. But to answer your question, it's more they could teach you a lesson or two all while they get to hook up with a young peice of meat . Also women love attention too, so give it back! | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Does it mean anything when a girl literally does not break eye contact while in conversation?Yes you better give her Lazer eye contact back and DON'T BREAK until she does. When she breaks look away walk over and approach, she's in to you | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 10:25 PM |
| 3 | Age 27 guy in need of advice/helpAgree with Ronin, 6 dates is a small sample. A couple things i picked up on is your attitude about the 6 dates. First off, guys have this thing where we seek validation after a date. Like no matter who the girl is and what her personality is, I failed if i don't get a 2nd date. When you begin to accept your trueself you start to go on dates and say, oh God no way am I compatible with this girl, she's this personality or that personality i can't stand or don't get along with. My point is you begi… | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 10:15 PM |
| 5 | Age 27 guy in need of advice/helpGreat response, first off I hope the OP follows up with responders to his post. Nothing peeves me more than someone who doesn't followup with people who take the time to offer help and not a word of follow up. It's then I understand why they are where they are. I digress, one thing everyone's picked up on is his passive aggressiveness and the worst of all things not letting go of the past. You need self help books before you delve into seduction. The problem with so many guys is they don't reali… | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Help me get out of this mindsetI do agree with you. I wasn't trying to give the horrible advice of, just be yourself. I tried to explain it the best I could in two paragraphs. I mean you clearly didn't read the rest of my post | /r/seduction | 11/01/17 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Help me get out of this mindsetYou're in your own head kid, you're not fighting them you're fighting yourself. Stop with the mindset of being defensive when talking to a girl.... What if I sound stupid, what if she doesn't like me, if I'm not as fun as her guy friends. Stop all that Bullshit. Here's the facts just be social, stop overthinking things and just have fun. You see a girl smells nervousness, they smell desperation, they know when a guy isn't being himself. You don't over think when in front of your best friend righ… | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 04:25 AM |
| 1 | I asked out my coworker and got rejected!!Probably a better option, its Def better actually. In some instances people will think it's the love of their life, so if u think it is by all means go for it. But it doesn't sound like it so def find another girl. Attraction doesn't go away but alot of times the lust will when you move on and decide to date other girls | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 04:18 AM |
| 1 | I asked out my coworker and got rejected!!I know alot of people say don't do work relationships and definitely not your boss! But I think people need to look at the circumstances before automatically dismissing. First off how important is this job to your life. If you don't see yourself there for life or if you have other options available if you didn't necessarily work where you are now. Second how important is her being a manager to you, I know situations where it would actually be beneficial to be in bed with the boss (no pun). Other… | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 12:35 AM |
| 7 | How many of you have a short height? 5'5" and less. Is there anything extra you do? Tips for short guys?Short guys can be cocky as hell. I mean just come off so confident that the girl forgets about height. If your short you can get away with acting so cocky unlike a tall guy could. Many many girls will forget about height if you are so sure of your of your self they forget about your height. | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Why you should never hire a female dating coachI agree with what both of you said, ultimately most of the people on This sub know one thing, that the average women is AWFUL at giving relationship advice. Don't bother 99% of the time. But as Throwaway said, Noble comes to mind for me, is Def a female pua with great advice (oh and is smoking hot) | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 03:59 AM |
| 6 | Was this a "shit test"?It's actually a good sign of interest, next time tell her, I'm not sure but I know I'm a really good kisser (look her straight in the eye when you say it to convey confidence) . even if you don't know if you are or aren't, it lines up her thinking hmmmm I'd love to see if he's right, then obviously kissing leads to more if you want to take it there | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 03:54 AM |
| 5 | Weird tip to improve eye contactRule #1 never never break first. If she holds for fucking 5 seconds you better shit give Lazer eye contact back, it shows confidence and strong male traits. Now what people tend to not understand is once they break THEN YOU ABSOLUTELY DO TOO. Don't dare continue staring because then you're a crazy stalker. After a long eye contact don't continue staring, if she gave you a solid few seconds approach immediately she's interested | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 03:50 AM |
| 1 | "No Hookups!" .....what?Yes learning pua techniques will help you better identify that | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Question about asking for a date through facebookDont ask her out over Facebook, horrible idea. Instead try to meet up socially so that you can eventually make a move. Try to get a group of friends together to go bowling or hit up a bar. | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Background and current situation: Would NYC be a horrible city for a guy like me? Guys familiar with the culture of the city help me out please?Dude NYC is the melting pot of the entire country, it's the only city in the country that whites aren't the majority. There isnt any extra racism against Indians, in fact there are a ton of them, there are a ton of all races. I'd just be aware that your exotic look where you are now is a dime a dozen in NYC. so where you are you may look exotic to white women because simply there aren't alot of your race where you are (I'm just speculating idk for sure), you won't get that same exotic vibe in NY… | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 04:09 AM |
| 2 | When I'm with people, I try to be fun, and I feel like I'm funny, but might be too goofy and almost off putting sometimes. But when I try to be "normal" I feel boring as hell. How do I strike the happy medium?Whoever you are own it, if you're a goof ball be one, if youre laid back be chill. The key to seduction is showing the girl your trueself, whoever that is. You see girls have a six sense for guys that try to hard, guys that try to be something they're not. DON'T DO THIS, act exactly the same way in front of a crush as you would your best friend. Sure you'll get girls that don't like you, fine, you're not compatible anyways. The key is to find girls you're gonna click with, if a girl is off put b… | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Will women tell you they find you pretty if you ask them?Agree here, a confident man doesn't look for reassurance he's attractive he thinks and knows it. This attitude will also help you project characteristics that she'll find attractive. Confidence is the #1 aphrodisiac for women, learn it, live it, own it | /r/seduction | 05/01/17 12:20 AM |
| 4 | "No Hookups!" .....what?Ultimately you're in this sub to find out how and stay on this sub to find out how to create attraction. But i compare it like this, girls become attracted to a man emotionally just like a guy does. The way we become attracted is slightly different but men and women are exactly the same way when it comes to the emotion of sexual attraction. So lets picture your crush, she's cute, sweet, gentle, gorgeous, and when you see her your stomach gets butterflies. Those butterflies are the same emotion y… | /r/seduction | 04/01/17 11:57 PM |
| 1 | [FR] My take on a HB8.5Lol this idiot belongs on Red pill | /r/seduction | 04/01/17 10:04 PM |
| 3 | [FR] My take on a HB8.5First of all great job and sounded like a great night. Here are a couple of tid bits. The key to seduction is keeping the emotions high. You see girls are like a fire, it takes while for the fire to get going but once they do they burn good UNTIL you throw water on it. You see women are very emotional creatures, we are too, but they are even more and their emotions go hot and cold constantly. they're constantly changing and if you let her cool down her emotions fade and logic starts to creep in.… | /r/seduction | 04/01/17 09:52 PM |
| 2 | newbie in midsize town needs adviceThis is so true, no one really cares, they don't trust me. Anyone who does care is just jealous you flirt with girls all the time. Girls won't care either, if your game is tight and they find you attractive no rumors about you will hold them back. Emotion always wins over logic ALWAYS. I'M the biggest flirt and people know it, girls love it and most guys want to join me. All the losers on the side hatin, f them. | /r/seduction | 04/01/17 09:12 PM |
| 13 | Pick up on an elevatorGood work man, seduction isn't about having all the answers, alot of times it's just putting yourself out there and having the confidence to do so. You didn't over think it which is key. The best analogy in seduction I came up with is this... imagine jumping off a 30 ft cliff into a lake or pool. If you stand at the edge of the cliff, look down, and think about it, you won't jump. If you just run and jump you're scared as hell you went through with it but happy as hell when you get up out of the… | /r/seduction | 04/01/17 09:07 PM |
| 0 | R u hitting on me?!This is a shit test, if she asks if you're hitting on me, say... What makes you think you're in my league? (said with a shit eatin grin on your face) | /r/seduction | 03/01/17 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Some questions for guys who 'neg' girlsIt sucks bro but I'll tell you why youre blocked. Emotion, she had a strong attraction to you and then she didn't. She was drawn to you through qualities you portrayed but then you weren't able to sustain those attractive qualities and she moved on. It's a shitty feeling, we've all been there. but stay on this sub and begin to understand how to consistently portray attractive qualities, qualities that keep the girl coming back, not blocking you etc. PS. If you ask me, f that girl. The type of gi… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 06:25 PM |
| 3 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?There are beautiful girls everywhere I don't believe you | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 05:52 PM |
| 1 | When do you think is the best time to ask someone out? 2 Days in advance? 3? Or maybe the night of?In advance | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Should I Continue Reading The Mystery Method?This is helpful advice thanks. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 05:51 PM |
| 2 | anyone here having sex with the women they WANT?I'm with this guy, 10s are rare. True 10s I see maybe 1 an entire night if lucky. The key to getting a 10 is projecting qualities that a male 10 is. You have to be strong in many facets of seduction to get a 10. And unless you're atleast an 8+ in looks you're not sniffing a 10 even if your charming, confident, or funny as hell. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:27 PM |
| 3 | A guide to being a real man'models' by Mark Manson is an excellent start. You won't be disappointed | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Self ImprovementDon't use drugs and alcohol that's stupid advice, also no fap is useless. Listen bro you're an awkward teenager trying to discover himself, that's totally fine, and you're on the right sub. Your goal for 2017 is to study, just be a sponge in the seduction sub. Read the sidebar and read the book 'models' by Mark Manson. It's a great read on how to be yourself and to attract women. As an awkward 18 yr old you're still discovering who you are, and being confident enough to be yourself around women.… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Self ImprovementNo don't listen to this No fap is stupid | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:15 PM |
| 4 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?I was a total loser with women all thru high school and college, I never had a girlfriend until my mid 20s. I was friendzoned, the crush of my life in college ended up marrying an alpha meat head. I was crushed, depressed, and lonely. But I kept my head up, i found my trueself, my confident self and now I could out game all my friends who were getting laid 10 years prior to me. Looking back my only regret is not learning how to attract women earlier. Looking back I made all the mistakes, I faile… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Some questions for guys who 'neg' girlsYou're attracted to qualities that he possesses so you're rationale says one thing but your emotions say another. My guess is you're young and naive, it's not an insult many many girls go thru this phase where they have no idea why they're so attracted to a guy that seemingly treats them like crap. I'll tell you why, because girl love love love confidence, it's the sexiest thing for women , they love a confident man. Now typically confidence is learned over time by men, many men at a young age h… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Some questions for guys who 'neg' girlsI find it so funny how girls fall into this trap so often. As a guy who used to be such a beta nice guy, girls like this frustrated me to no end. "he's such an asshole but why am I continuing to be so drawn to him?" "He treats me like shit but something about him is so hot." You'll live and learn I guess, just know that this guy is your typical AMOG, your typical Alpha asshole. So you'll be attracted to him because he portrays qualities you find attractive.... Confidence being the leading one. B… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Been a weird guy for 20 years, help me define and plan my way out of this sticking point.I'm completely with ultra pulse, seduction is ALL ABOUT ACCEPTING YOURSELF. how can a girl be attracted to you if you yourself aren't? Ever hear the saying, how can you love anyone else if you don't love yourself? It's true, no one can love you if you don't even love yourself. Stop with the self deprecation, it's killing you and your game. Love yourself, accept yourself and women will flock. The key to seduction is confidence in who you are, it's the greatest aphrodisiac for women, confidence an… | /r/seduction | 30/12/16 04:11 AM |
| 14 | How to approach a group?Good advice here, gonna piggyback, opinion openers are excellent for groups, a great way to engage a group of girls is to ask relationship questions. Example hi ladies I need your advice... Now HERE IS THE KEY, as anyone that knows anything about seduction asking a girls advice on relationships is ABSOLUTELY WORTHLESS. Girls are awful when it comes to giving advice on relationships, so the key is to debate them at every angle! My favorite, and there's a few, is the split the dinner bill question… | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 11:19 PM |
| 2 | [Tip Request] Getting On Her MindThe game is push pull push pull, you ONLY pull away when you know she's all about you, or showing true IOIs. The only way I play hard to get is by teasing girls. I dont play hard to get by not being with her. Its a tough game trying to predict when you should play hard to get. I typically dont pull away I usually show resistance as Im flirting with her right in front of me. I tease girls, I call them dorks, I playfully tickle them, or push them telling them they're trouble or being a dork. Depen… | /r/seduction | 28/12/16 10:03 PM |
| 4 | I have bad teeth and I'm fat. Should I approach women now or wait till I fix them ?First off let me start off by saying no one cares about your lack of sex life, so stop with the feeling people know you have none or they even care...they dont. And you're speaking to a former late bloomer virgin. I used to think the same thing, but believe me no one gives a shit (except you of course). The best thing you said was you;re going out talking to people and gaining more confidence. KEEP DOING THAT. you see helping yourself is two fold, keep approaching keep practicing, keep trying to… | /r/seduction | 28/12/16 09:55 PM |
| 2 | How to stop relying on female validation to be happy?Because many men would kill to figure it out at 21 or 22. I missed high school I missed ALL of college, not even a gf though I did kiss a girl yippy mee! I was a total loser up until 25 when I then had the epiphany. So I missed all of high school and college, I never had the frat boy experiences of hooking up with a different girl every weekend, I never had the jock experiences of hooking up with girls constantly. No I was a depressed loser pot head. I've thought the same things you did but now … | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 03:27 AM |
| 2 | How do I improve my speech?Yes this is a well known group nationally | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 05:27 PM |
| 2 | How do I improve my speech?So true, toastmasters is excellent, do it for you, do it for your career, do it for your career. It's excellent in multi-facets of life | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 03:35 PM |
| 5 | When a girl sees you and fixes here hair, etc. it's a sign she likes you, what's the guy version of this?Agree, guys will look and quickly look away if you catch them. When a guy sees a girl he likes he'll look more than once. totally agree, a shy guy will look and look away quickly as if not to look like a creep staring. | /r/seduction | 23/12/16 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Why being stuck in your head means rejection.Excellent insight, I'm not into TRP, I frequent seduction, but occasionally will peak into the RP for women advice because, save the narcissistic sociopaths, there is some good advice. Yours is excellent, especially coming from a male in his mid 30s dealing with anxiety himself. I've overcome alot of it by doing exactly what you said, just stopping the loop of worrying what people are judging me or thinking about me.... In the end no one really gives a shit, so why not just give them your best s… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/16 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Should I quit game?Stop trying and have fun. Stop giving a fuck, you ever hear the song girls just wanna have fun? They don't want sappy, they don't want to have long philosophical discussions. They just wanna have fun, so get out there and show them how fun you are, playful, funny, being your best self. Stop worrying about this or that, go out there and have a blast. Some girls will like you some won't, magnet towards the ones that do, they'll be more fun anyway | /r/seduction | 20/12/16 08:06 PM |
| 7 | How to be happy with my life?As you get older the more you begin to realize no one really gives a shit. Seriously that punk you hate that maybe picked on you in high school has probably thought about you for 4 seconds, where as you obsess hour after hour or day after about him/her. People are selfish its not say we are all assholes but people don't think about other people very often. unless you love them or hate them every thing in between they're oblivious. So stop wasting your time worried about what others think... Trut… | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 08:23 PM |
| 2 | I just meet a girl :) XELPDon't over think it, stop thinking you need to he extra cool, extra manly, just be you. When you act freely and chill it makes her comfortable and the key to seduction is all comfort. If she has fun around you she'll continuing wanting to have fun around you. Don't change who you are, joke and be free. And absolutely keep strong eye contact, I never break until she does first, do so and you'll project lots of confidence | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 08:12 PM |
| 1 | My 4 year spellBro no offense but you're in the wrong sub, half of what you mentioned is a no no in seduction starting with a bad case of onegirlitus you have. And 2nd no you don't be on your game, you don't change around the girl you like, you stay your stud charming self | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 02:03 PM |
| 1 | non gamey pickupAgree with replier, ultimately there is no difference of who you are in day or night what is different is your assertiveness. You can be a lot more direct at night because it's socially acceptable and girls expect it. During day you build comfort before getting to things like cocky funny. You need to make her at ease before you can bust her chops or just have playful banter. But remember, never change who you are, it's just changing your approach to suit the social setting. | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 05:47 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop giving a fuck?Agree and further i began to recognize, I too would react when people said things, but then I recognized it. I began to ask myself why did I let that word bother me? Am I insecure about what he/she said, why, is it because a part of me believes them, a part of me agrees they're right? I internalized it only because I was insecure, but the true man, the true confident man accepts his insecurity, accepts his limitations and therefore when someone tries to pick on that limitation I really don't car… | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 02:57 PM |
| 11 | Feels good man.People act like the game is some magical thing, no, she found you attractive and more importantly through interaction she kept finding you attractive. Good job bro, keep at it and stay confident, ALWAYS | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 05:18 AM |
| 6 | Should I quit game?Yes you're tailoring yourself into something you're not. The deal with game is to take your natural self and make it stronger, not take yourself and make you weaker. If game is making you weaker you're doing it wrong. You see, you take game and harness your skills, stop being something you're not. If you're doing this you're not doing seduction right | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 05:14 AM |
| 9 | Is it weird to approach a random girl and starting a conversation with her?No weirder than talking to a random guy on the bus. Here's the problem most men don't get....whether the girl likes you or not THEY'RE 90% FLATTERED YOU TALKED TO THEM. Girls want you to approach them, girls want to be wanted...its endearing to be wanted . I REPEAT GIRLS LOVE ATTENTION, approach and be normal. Meaning you don't have to say anything profound, take and use your environment and start the approach about subject. Example a girl in class, hey how do you think you'll do on the final? I… | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 02:14 AM |
| 3 | Something I've realizedThis is very true man, in fact on this sub what I find is so many men judge themselves too harshly, realizing that judging yourself or others is actually a total waste of time. Those who let go, those who accept their limitations and weaknesses are actually the most confident of all people | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 02:12 AM |
| 1 | I just failed completely in my pursuit of one woman I was really into and i can't stop smilingTruthfully your greatest strength isn't being insecure about your limitations, it's accepting and addressing them. You're already far more ahead than so many men, keep it up. | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Rejection Text? How to respondOic Yea then Def proceed, 2 weeks is a long time in the just met u phase. Good luck | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 09:30 PM |
| 2 | What are some of the best videos you know of that show kino escalation and emotional escalation in general?Youtube the gambler PUA, Richard Luguina, he's all about skipping the alpha bs and going right to being sexy | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Rejection Text? How to respondYes agree, in fact I'd respond okay np hope you enjoy your Christmas. It lets her know A. You're not bothered or pressuring her with a follow up, in fact the balls in her court and now she may think, oh no Did I scare him off? Either or wait at least 3 days to follow up with drinks. I will say you kinda got bad timing with Christmas so don't worry too much, may just need to wait until after | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 04:08 PM |
| 3 | I'm a socially awkward 8/10Work on social settings, talking to people in public doesn't matter who. Read the side bar | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 04:01 AM |
| 1 | What game to run and how to find out.You can't go wrong being Alpha you really can't, other than maybe taking it too far and coming off as arrogant. But even arrogant guys do way better than beta nice guys. One thing I have learned is learning multiple styles and angles is always better. For example I learned cocky funny from David D'Angelo, it's my go to style. But he didn't teach me Lazer eye contact like The gambler did. Just an example. With all that said, don't change who you are, if you're an extrovert alpha be him, don't try… | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice on where to startYouTube David D'Angelo cocky funny (for more outgoing guys) or the gambler pua (Richard Luguina) for more introverted guys. | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 03:44 PM |
| 1 | What game to run and how to find out.Oh i see I didn't get where you were going with your post. i'm more of the out going extrovert type, I don't neg I bust balls, which I guess some people consider neg. Im a good dresser, am most of the time very confident, and I give Lazer eye contact. I smile alot and love to joke with girls. But I'm also tall and considered good looking which most guys stop even listening to me. What they don't understand is I was a total loser with women up until 25, I didn't have a gf thru high school and col… | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Techniques/ways to get out of your head?I recognize my thoughts as they come in, it allows me to identify them. It allows me to recognize that this is just me over thinking, just my old self trying to revert back to its old ways. Keep meditating, keep self reflecting, don't be scared of your thoughts accept them. That's one thing i changed, I stopped getting pissed when I became anxious or over thought things....id be livid with myself screaming STOP BEING SUCH A PUSSY! I'd say shit like that but really I was just fighting myself, I'v… | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 02:36 PM |
| 2 | How do properly say thisShe's just gonna rip off her clothes right there and pull you into the janitors closet after a line like that hahaha hahaha! Seriously though, If you want to say it right you walk up to her one day and after some small conversation you say, you give off that party vibe i totally want to hang out with you this weekend, wanna go to **** (insert any activity) on Friday night? If she hesitates you say Yea Id be hesitant too because I totally don't think you could hang with me, I'm a way bigger parti… | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 02:30 PM |
| 1 | What game to run and how to find out.How old are you, how good is your style of clothing, how tall are you, what type of personality do you have, are you outgoing, are you funny. Need more info to find out what style would fit yours | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Recovering frame?True it's easier from scratch but not impossible 3 months in. You lead, you say where your going Friday night you don't ask. If she disagrees it's okay, but never ask her Hey what do u wanna do, no u lead. If she resists go without her. It's having the balls to say sorry, I'm a man I'm gonna do what I want. Never let the girl control the relationship, it's okay for her to offer input but never look to her for reassurance or for her to dictate the relationship. Youre in charge Remember the frame … | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Starting to feel this is an impossibility for me, so I'm hoping to get advice in regards to coaching.Nah man keep your head up. You see you should love yourself, you should love who you are no matter what. The problem many men have on her is they say... If I'm not a Virgin I'll be happy, if I finally have sex I'll be satisfied, if I finally get women I'll be happy. Unfortunately you can't tell a Virgin that sex really isn't that big of a deal, in fact masturbation in many instances is alot more convenient. But tell that to a Virgin. Same thing with your fixation on women, many men say if I'm on… | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Hesitation?Yea sure this is what I use, it says cure blushing but it can be applied to anything. A couple tips, when you get into a very calm state, maybe 5 minutes into the audio start to envision yourself in situations that make you nervous notice your thoughts, your nerves, but stay calm. When you begin to get too nervous go back to listening to the audio and envision yourself sitting on a nice beach looking at the waves crash, or any nice spot like that. Once calm go back to the nervous scenario. What … | /r/seduction | 13/12/16 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Starting to feel this is an impossibility for me, so I'm hoping to get advice in regards to coaching.Okay I read this full thread and there is one common theme. You are very insecure about your looks. More than one poster commented you're not bad looking, you're not ugly, yet you think you need to bulk up you need to do this or that. No you don't it's not your looks, you're pretty good looking if you ask me. the fundamental problem with your game is your mindset. You have deep psychological issues stemming from your father and this is where it begins. You need to continue seeing a therapist to … | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:58 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to the question: "Do you have a girlfriend?"Exactly, which one is a great response | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to the question: "Do you have a girlfriend?"This, always answer a shit test with a smart ass response | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Recently started seeing a 9...And remember if she's a 9, you act like you're the 10 | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Recently started seeing a 9...Don't listen to the more girls advice, it's worthless, since more girls won't cure your insecurities as another replier said. however I think what they mean by more girls is the more options you have the less 1 girl you'll be invested in. You see why so many people are against onegirlitus is because 1 girl makes you vulnerable to looking needy, making her the only 1 thats exclusive and it (potentially) gives the girl the idea she has the upper hand. Things you need to ask, when she's in the club… | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Hesitation?Hypnosis will cure this. I had bad blushing out of no where not just in front of girls, it was grossly embarrassing, totally scarey because it came out of no where too. What hypnosis does is it trains your subconscious (nerves, shaking, stutter talking) not to react when faced in a nervous situation. YouTube countless hypnosis anxiety videos/audios. It cured my seemingly uncontrollable blushing just like it will cure your hand shaking etc. How it works, in a calm meditative state you begin to vi… | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Hiring a professional photographer for online dating pics.Sounds way to trying too hard. Read Google how to put up a good profile, there is tons of advice out there on how to build a good one. | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice on where to startAgree find what game works for you, read the side bar, just start studying what different types of games there are and use the ones that work with your personality. | /r/seduction | 12/12/16 06:10 PM |
| 5 | I Began Dressing and Grooming In a Way That Is Congruent To My Personality, and Here Are Some Things That Have ChangedWomen have a sixth sense for posers, that's why beta nice guys lose because they're not being themselves, they're being nice as a front. Bad boys get girls because they are essentially being themselves, and being yourself, your true self is sexy and portrays confidence (even if you are a dick). Good on the OP for figuring this out, when you're young we all are still discovering ourselves and who we truly are. The faster you become truly comfortable in your own skin no matter how uncomfortable it… | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 01:35 PM |
| 2 | I can't seem to shake the feeling of inadequacy.I like this advice, girls at 18 are about as emotionally stable as a schizophrenic, girls arent about dick they are about emotional connection and when they don't feel emotional attraction you get friend zoned. Now it's too early to get friend zoned because a couple good things happened.... You had sex so you got that out of the way. But if you don't make her feel the same way you did when you two first had sex you'll be friend zoned. So what you need to do is working on sexual attraction. Work … | /r/seduction | 07/12/16 02:53 PM |
| 2 | First approach everExactly, great job approaching, but as monkeyman said questions are nice to get initially started or break the ice but you have to leave her interested. She won't remember you if your questions were like a boring interview. My technique is to bust balls, I always bust girls chops and make fun of them. Also don't be afraid to challenge them, tell them you don't believe them or tell her she doesn't look like the type that could handle (insert any hobby/activity) such a thing. Whatever you're talki… | /r/seduction | 06/12/16 01:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I grow balls?Have you done public speaking, have you had to read in front of a class. Same thing you'll be nervous but the more you do it the easier and better you get. Go in expecting nothing and you'll be he fine | /r/seduction | 06/12/16 03:18 AM |
| 9 | What made you guys start learning seduction?This was me too in a lot of ways, I was your typical nice guy, change who I was in front of girls i liked. I was too insecure to just be who I was, so I tried to be cooler, nicer, friendlier, badder, whatever. No none of that shit works. Just be you, it's extremely confident when a woman sees a man who doesn't change his demeanor in front of a cute girl, it takes confidence to just be you, to say whatevers on your mind, regardless of who the audience is. I think a lot of guys struggle with the a… | /r/seduction | 05/12/16 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Cannot solve this ongoing problemGood advice bro, with that said I cant stand the people that post their in depth stories and then offer no response, wtf OP don't waste our time when we take the time to post advice | /r/seduction | 03/12/16 04:06 AM |
| 3 | Should I consider it a problem that i have really high standards?Like you said I don't know you from a hole in the wall, nothing I say is meant to insult you or belittle you, I get nothing out of that and neither do you. What i was trying to do is break you down, i was trying to get at the core of the issue with you. Albeit i didn't really answer your original question because I was more hung up with the fact so many guys on here seem to think they can have supermodels when they really aren't catches to begin with. Again I don't know you but I was thinking mo… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Should I consider it a problem that i have really high standards?Maybe you're not arrogant but you come off that way. Maybe you are arrogant but come off as a beta nice guy (not likely). My point is when it comes to seduction looks matter 50 50. For example, a good looking guy who's tall and in shape could get laid no problem, but will he get laid by the girl he wants? Maybe not, since when it comes to girls looks aren't as high on the graph as men have it. Looks matter yes, but so does personality and how you 'carry' yourself. Confidence and charm are huge i… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Should I consider it a problem that i have really high standards?You say you have high standards but I see a big problem with many men. Many young men have these high expectations for women, but let me ask you, what do you bring to the table? Do you even deserve a gorgeous smart girl? Are you tall, handsome, charming, funny, have a six pack? My point is, don't expect a model unless you possess model deserving qualities. It's okay to want a cute smart girl but many young men I find are delusional as to what they think they can get, frankly most men think theyr… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 02:51 AM |
| 5 | To the throwaway account whose post ghosted, and anyone else who thinks there is no hope.No being social and funny was good, but I only got girls I didn't like. I wanted girls I myself was into, not just hooking up with any girl. The key was my frame. I always changed who I was around girls I liked, I thought I needed to be cooler, badder, nicer, funnier, whatever. Meaning I wasn't myself around girls, I was Mr nice guy, who was too shy to say anything controversial around girls I liked. Then I noticed teasing and busting balls with random girls was actually working, it wasn't neces… | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Do you lead on girls or you're just straightforward and tell them you only want sex?A true player reveals his intentions, since a true player is real with himself and others. He doesn't fake it or need to. With that said, do women lead on guys only to put them in the friend zone? It goes both ways | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 09:05 PM |
| 5 | To the throwaway account whose post ghosted, and anyone else who thinks there is no hope.Good advice, I think of seduction just like I think of my exercise... It's a lifetime not a diet or fad. Meaning people who stick with exercise see results just like those who stick with seduction. At 25 I was a Virgin and skinny fat. I was tall, good looking but your typical beta loser with girls. I was even friends with everyone but because I was such a beta nice guy girls passed me over constantly. Now at 35 I'm in the best shape of my life, I curl 50lb dumbells and can bench over 200lbs. It … | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 08:58 PM |
| 1 | no results from cold approach but good 'game'?So good questions, think of it like this a 5M will never get a HB10 no matter how great his game, but a 8M might be able to with good game. Further a M10 may not get a HB10 if another M8 with great game comes in. to answer your question it varies, a 60 pounds overweight man will never date a HB10 (unless he's Hollywood famous). It depends on many circumstances, demographics fall into it too, along with social status. I heard someone say and it's so true, an attractive man is more of the total pa… | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 07:37 PM |
| 2 | no results from cold approach but good 'game'?It's both, game is important but if you have James Bond game but looked like screech from saved by the bell (dating myself) you'll have success but not banging HB9s. You see game is huge but so are other factors, height, dress, looks, social status. They all factor. With that said we all have limitations so if you're not tall you make up for it in game, and so on. You need to isolate if you expect success. Flirting and having fun in front of girls is great, but isolating to a specific girl and t… | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 04:39 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to girls who give flakey vibes, flakes twice or more but gave reasonable excuses throughout?I like this, f this girl, 2 flakes please don't waste my time, peace out loser! | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with inner game, steamrolling peopleYes great point one of the biggest keys to connection is letting the other person talk. As others have said everyone loves talking about their favorite subject, themselves. So when talking to girls I never focus on my life I start the focus on theirs then I bring them into my world. Example ask them specific questions like when did they start a hobby or sport. Just listen to them, listening is just as important talking. It sounds to me you're always worried about what to say next, don't just lis… | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Sex protocolBro calm down, take everything slow, girls work up to getting turned on unlike guys. So make sure you have a healthy make out session before taking your clothes off, and throw in some foreplay you'll be fine. | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 02:56 PM |
| 1 | what will you do if you were me?Depends, if she's shy she's probably really nervous about hooking up and may need more time to warm up. Some guys are willing to wait others aren't. Blocking her tells her you're moving on, which if that's what u wanna do so be it | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 02:45 PM |
| 6 | Acne and Seduction. Need an honest answerI forget the video where I saw a midget hitting on women that were 5'10, I mean the height differential was crazy but the dude was so confident even cocky, it was awesome to see because the girls were taken back by his confidence. The moral is we all have limitations, guys with confidence don't see their limitations as a weakness they see it as a challenge to say to the world, fuck you I'm awesome | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 04:23 AM |
| 13 | Asking a girl out tomorrowNo 1 is a horrible options wtf dude what are you telling the OP!?!? Dude ask her for coffee, girls don't call guys, guys call girls, you don't give her your number... You get numbers from girls. Anyways coffees an excellent choice, it's simple, it's easy and non committing meaning if she says no who cares it was just coffee. But as you said it's all frame, you the less you make it a big deal the less she will which will make her more comfortable and more apt to say yes. Go for it, even if you're… | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Help a 32 year old guy out. Some question and experiences.30 year old men are at the absolute most attractive age, unlike women where 20s is their peak sexual appeal, men in their 30s are at theirs. 2 months is nothing, seducing takes months/years to learn and you're always learning...it's like lifting weights, no one looks like the rock in a month of weight lifting, guys like that it took years, same goes for seduction. Keep reading this sub, read the sidebar and the books they suggest. Or YouTube many PUAs out there, find your style and keep reading … | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, myself, and others are mentioned in this Feminist blogLol that girl is bat shit crazy. So funny how girls like that troll these communities then throw out ridiculous generalizations like the the red pill community and PUAs are Republican Trump backers. Shut the fuck up, and the funny double standard about all this is the red pill community is pretty much the antithesis of the feminist movement... Both groups are delusional extremists, good they can have eachother, opposites attract right!? | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 12:47 AM |
| 1 | How can I be the best version of myself?Everyone wants the quick fix, seduction isn't learned in a week or month. It takes time and patience to work on it, just like it takes time and patience to go to the gym and see great results. Most of society doesn't have this discipline which is why you see so many out of shape people and guys with zero game. Patience and hard work get you to being great with girls, not some magical potion you drink and instantly become a body builder or a pua. | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Seeking LTR AdviceYou stay in this sub and never leave, I too am in a LTR, but every day I use seduction tactics, whether it's flirting with other girls or gaming my own girl, the shit you learn on this sub NEVER GOES AWAY. A true player doesn't change who he is or what he does just because he now has a gf. | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 10:12 PM |
| 1 | The eye contact gameEye contact is so underrated don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Typically women are way way better at keeping eye contact with guys than vice versa. Let me ask you a question how many times have you looked at a gorgeous girl she looks at you and you look away quickly as to not look like a creep. Do this instead... I NEVER BREAK EYE CONTACT until the girl does first. After she breaks you break too don't be a creep and keep staring but I never break first, even in conversation. Again you mix in … | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 09:30 PM |
| 1 | [Question] Any advice how to approach a girl who's sitting and chatting at another table with her girlfriend? Some helpful advice in comments below?I posted this month's back and it actually made the front page. It's long but very helpful and a great conversation starter, especially when there's more than one girl https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4y5u58/my_99_fail_proof_intro_for_opening_a_set_of_girls/ | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How to get her back to finish the jobAgree here, OP should never have brought it up, it's acting defensive and a man should never project defensiveness to a woman. Wait a week unless she reaches out first. Then never bring it up again, focus on the future always with women. | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 07:42 PM |
| 3 | I'm letting this one go, but...Good advice NJa4242, agree. I understand why OP ego took a hit but true confidence is being flaked on and thinking nothing negative about yourself...for example, she could have flaked because her cat died, she's on her period, whatever. If the girl couldn't see your true awesomeness then that's fine, on to the next that will appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 07:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with constant rejection?Need to work on being social, talk to girls at the market, or in the mall. I'm not even saying pick them up, just start conversations. The key to the game is getting comfortable having conversation with girls, then and only then can you begin to work skills on seducing them | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever get scared of STDs?Total troll | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 02:17 PM |
| 8 | The feeling after talking to a girlTypically I don't pressure myself. Most guys think you have to say something profound to get her to like you or be interested. No no no, the key to any girl is to make her comfortable being with you, from the moment you talk to her, to the moment you hook up with her, it's all about comfort. I could literally walk up to her and say, hey what's up, ugh I'm so annoyed the guy at the coffee shop took the last blueberry muffin, I need to have my blueberry muffin! You say this in a nonchalant mellow … | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Change the subject, things went southLesson learned never never bring up other guys. Remember it's all about you, who gives an F about other guys and her past? It's like PUAs say when a girl says she has a boyfriend, "oh cool I have a dog" subject changed right back to you | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 01:48 PM |
| 3 | I'm letting this one go, but...*Read the sidebar It's all frame, if a man has the right frame the girl will come back for more most times. Other times it could be numerous other things, she's dating, she's not ready for a BF or wants to focus on career etc. Just read the sidebar and don't get hung up on a girl you hardly know. | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 04:11 AM |
| 3 | Will sleeping with prettier girls make you accustomed to it?As you get better at the game you realize more and more how pickier you can be with girls which typically leads to higher standards. With that said you then begin to realize that some super hot girls are as annoying as fuck and Id much rather have a fun girl who may bust my balls and fucks me like an animal. You'll realize that the hb9 is nice to have under the belt to say you did it, but you'll settle on girls who are fun and more your personality type where looks arent as important (but obviou… | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 02:01 AM |
| 7 | How to neg effectively?Great question actually because many guys get this wrong. You never never apologize. If you have to tone it down that's cool, but again I'm typically not too insulting but if she finds it offensive, I typically say wow I didn't know you were so sensitive lol (I say with a smile and a laugh). Only if she storms off visibly pissed will I chime in and say oh calm down I was busting your balls (but that never happens) | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 01:47 AM |
| 15 | How to neg effectively?I think of negging as more of ball busting, you never insult the girl you bust her chops. There's a big difference. For example you never call a girl chubby or fat, stay away from all weight it's just not touchable so don't do it. The hotter the girl the better the negs can be since a beautiful girl hardly ever gets her ball busted because beta guys are always giving her fluffy compliments (boring and lame.) I tend to keep my ball busting rated G typically, no need to be too rash or insulting. I… | /r/seduction | 30/11/16 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Hey Seddit, if you had to start from scratch in pickup again, what would be the 3 things you'd start with?It's a great read but not an instructional book, you won't learn game from it. It's purely entertainment | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Hey Seddit, if you had to start from scratch in pickup again, what would be the 3 things you'd start with?This ^ | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 08:49 PM |
| 5 | Is this what shit tests are?Girls shit test so they don't end up with beta guys too scared to stand up for themselves. Girls want a man to be a man, strong, a leader, etc. They shit test to test your strength, to see if youre a man who so confident in himself nothing can sway you. Be that man, don't question shit test, recognize them and learn to love them, that to me means GAME ON, CHALLENGE ACCEPTED BTW great job on leaning in for kiss, simply awesome. Be bold! | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Should i stop caring about girls until i improve myselfThat was simply an excellent post, poetry really. I've been on this sub for years and your post might be in my top 5 all time. Those who've suffered most come out strongest. *Source - mid 20 yr old Virgin loser with girls, currently a 30 yr old stud with girls. As you said, i didn't learn game in days months, it took years of development, progress progress progress | /r/seduction | 25/11/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Different personalities with different peopleThe fundamental issue is, you care what they think of you. So the question is why? and finding out the source as to why A true player doesn't give a fuck what people think of him. We all have opinions of others, some r spot on, some r way off, it is what it is. again who cares at the end of the day, its all about you and how you Value yourself nothing else. You learn that and you're going to attract a lot more people than you don't. you're not going to be able to please everybody but again who c… | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 08:42 PM |
| 1 | So easy to take this for granted and slip into unhappinessYour last sentence sums it up perfectly... Remember you're the catch not them. | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 07:53 PM |
| 4 | Should i stop caring about girls until i improve myselfThe key to the game is patience, it takes time to improve yourself so don't just give up on girls or say no to girls. girls are what your end goal is anyways right, but it also shouldn't be you're sole reason for living. that's why people say they go in to monk mode. concentrate on improving yourself which I completely agree with, but in seduction you also need to take baby steps.. Saying hi to random girls, start conversations with random girls, etc. How can you do that if you're in monk mode? … | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 07:50 PM |
| 4 | Should i stop caring about girls until i improve myselfI'm anti no fap but I also say limit it, as I see the benefit of restricting yourself instead of always indulging in masturbation but no fap is unnecessary and not healthy. Try 1 or 2 times a week | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 07:36 PM |
| 1 | I need some tips.I will first say clubbing alone is hard, I'm not gonna say it isn't, even most good PUAs always have a wing man or two, it's just more confidence building is all. With that said nothing absolutely nothing is better than learning the hard way. You'll learn more quicker and grow more confident by going out alone because you'll really be forced to put yourself out there, hard, but a great thing. My best advice dance! Dancing is a great thing for meeting girls and you can literally just dance with a… | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Help someone new to startThis, oh and read the sidebar, some great starter material. 1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence, confidence is built over time and patience | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Handsomeness Hacks: 52 ways to look more attractive fastGame is huge. Former good looking guy with no game. Now I have game and it's night and day. Basically it's all how you carry yourself. Dress Physique Looks All important, but game is huge too | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 11:27 PM |
| -7 | Handsomeness Hacks: 52 ways to look more attractive fastNot true as a guy good with women he's 90% spot on | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 09:40 PM |
| 31 | Handsomeness Hacks: 52 ways to look more attractive fastHe's right but you can't stink. Pheromones help absolutely and you do attract women thru natural smell but if I didn't wear deodorant id stink.. Smell is good, stink is BAD! shoot for non-scented deodorant or anti perspirant | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 09:32 PM |
| 4 | How To Keep A Woman Attracted To You.Good post don't listen to these amateurs I too know the game very well and this advice is solid. Very general but solid. I probably would have added always flirt with your so and other girls. Im a big ball buster constantly teasing girls. My girl likes it and so do all my girl-friends. I keep them on their toes at all times. | /r/seduction | 10/11/16 04:28 AM |
| 1 | [FR]Shut up and kiss her(first post here)(2nd day F-close)Sorry I'm late, yes it's using subtle touch then escalating that touch. Even when you don't know a girl well it's okay to touch her in certain instances, like putting your hand on her back as you lead her through the door. Then as the night moves on you increase the touch to maybe holding her hand or tickling her in a flirty fun way. Anything that escalates you and her touching and being close. Girls are hyper sensitive to it and typically helps create more attraction to you | /r/seduction | 10/11/16 04:21 AM |
| 12 | [FR]Shut up and kiss her(first post here)(2nd day F-close)Great work bro, I'm a perfect example of why I know this sub is absolutely the real deal. Greatest things I've learned on this sub are eye contact and kino. So many guys have zero clue (as I did for 25+ years) how important these two focuses are. Girls love love love my eye contact, they find it so confident. I even find girls intimated by it (I've mastered how to tone it down too if I know it makes them nervously giddy). I then throw in kino and boom I can't believe how much girls reciprocate a… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 07:27 PM |
| 1 | My Game is Garbage.Well all I can say is you came to the right sub. Here's how you start, begin by reading every fucking link under the sun on this subs sidebar. YouTube the shit out if PUAs, watch videos, watch seminars, just take in as much as possible. Seduction is all inner game because all attractive qualities stem from the way a man carries himself. I'm not a believer in nofap i think its kinda stupid, but hey it works for others so what I see on this sub and in the field is everyone has their own niche, it'… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 07:17 PM |
| 7 | Going on a date with a model, but have very little experienceOmg this is such awesome advice and exactly how you should approach all dates. Eye contact Kino Eye contact Kino And act like life is a fucking playground and you own the amusement park! It's important to talk frame when on a date. You see women are followers (biologically speaking), that is why you hear so many people say the guy needs to initiate and ultimately needs to lead the relationship. The old me would go on a date and try to impress the girl, have good boring conversation and treat her… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Friend request or no...And yes 100% this, don't text too much, face to face is key | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Friend request or no...Escalate, I see sure signs of kino here. Def give kino back in obviously a discreet way. Girls are hyper sensitive to touch so she'll like it (thanks to this sub now I am super sensitive to it, I wasn't before). Find an excuse to study together or meet for coffee. Or an excuse to maybe do homework together. Anything that gets you in a social setting, alone is best, but any social gathering with friends is fine too (sometimes being with friends takes the pressure off and allows you to charm her a… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Models Mark Manson (My Notes)Actually depends on the girl and/or situation tbh. Ive used compliments, I've used ball busting, both work. It's all frame really, so many guys talk about frame and its so true. A guys frame is EVERYTHING, saying you're really cute in a wimpy beta way won't get the same results as boldly walking up to a girl and saying the same exact thing in a bold, masculine, good eye contact, confident way. | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Practicing seduction as a woman without seeming desperate or out for just sex?The guy is shy, so a girl who's outgoing and blunt will have more luck with this guy because shy guys arent the easiest ones to reel in with subtlety. That's why this girl is succeeding, the shy guy doesn't have to go out of his comfort zone to get laid. People in general are lazy, if the guy has something he doesn't have to work hard for vs something that may be more of a challenge he'll most likely choose the easier option. WITH THAT SAID, that rule doesn't apply to hotter girls, if the girl i… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Thank you seddit.Try hypnosis, it's a form of mediation only you are envisioning things (in your case) that make you anxious. So what it does is it trains your subconscious from reacting negatively to seeing your crush. Basically how it does this is thru hypnosis your mind and body stay relaxed as you envision being in a situation around a girl you like. It trains your subconscious to remain calm instead of getting sweaty, nervous, and anxious around your crush. You see nature works against us in this instance. … | /r/seduction | 25/10/16 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Thank you seddit.Glad that helped but no need to give up all together, always leave your options open. The key to leaving your options open is don't make her the only option. Be you, be confident, don't be all about her, make you the catch not her. Say things like, hey if I pick the restaurant you pay. If I'm gonna be caught in public with you you're gonna need to step your game up. Im just throwing out simple examples on how you should carry yourself. The key is to learn from your mistakes.... DON'T REVERT to w… | /r/seduction | 25/10/16 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?Yea sure I'm happy to help, as I know how frustrating the whole process was for me and any guy who's at the point of asking questions and bettering themselves absolutely should be helped. The process for me was working my strengths, now this doesn't work for you necessarily because I'm naturally a goof ball and funny. But the key is to find what strengths you have and hone in on them. Don't try to the super funny guy if your strength doesn't lye there. Don't try to he super cool guy when your pe… | /r/seduction | 25/10/16 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?Yea sure I'm happy to help, as I know how frustrating the whole process was for me and any guy who's at the point of asking questions and bettering themselves absolutely should be helped. The process for me was working my strengths, now this doesn't work for you necessarily because I'm naturally a goof ball and funny. But the key is to find what strengths you have and hone in on them. Don't try to the super funny guy if your strength doesn't lye there. Don't try to he super cool guy when your pe… | /r/seduction | 25/10/16 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?Glad to help, I like helping because well let me tell you my story... I was Virgin until my late 20s, total loser with girls thru high school and college, at 35 I'm now married to a 5'10 Swedish blonde. went from a nice beta male to sexy stud over that time frame. I was the guy who seemingly had everything, smart, good job, decent dresser, just an over all good catch so to speak. But I was missing one important aspect in life, I never had a real girlfriend, it got so bad friends of friends were … | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?Okay fair enough. Being busy makes it tough to have a social life especially with a double whammy of school and work. Don't expect miracles in seduction if you have no social life because you need to have one if you're gonna get girls. With that said you do you, I mean school is temporary and important so prepare for the future because no girl is gonna land you your dream job...in fact your dream job is more likely to land you your dream girl. With that said everyone needs down time. So if you'r… | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?Good thought, obviously it depends. Ask yourself the tough questions, why do I not make close connections with people. Am I afraid of commitment, do i genuinely not care if I have friends or not? Am I really as outgoing as I think I am, do I not give a shit about anyone but myself. So on and so on. Sounds to me your issue doesn't stem from anxiety which alot of men deal with yours seems to be emotional connection. Which isnt necessarily key to seduction but it can be, with that said any relation… | /r/seduction | 19/10/16 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Infield of Me Gaming A Hottie + Her Sister At Target lolI wouldn't necessarily call it creepy, it actually came off pretty sincere, was it suave not by any means. But that's what people need to realize (and op's post is perfect for showing this) that you don't need to say something profound or even intelligent to talk with women. Just be sincere, or act normal and not creepy. No one cares if a stranger walks up to them and starts yapping small talk. They start to care when you act like you're trying too hard, trying to be something you're not, girls … | /r/seduction | 19/10/16 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Infield of Me Gaming A Hottie + Her Sister At Target lolI agree, the op wasn't suave enough to not get by in some part by looks. Looks and dress absolutely help, muscles help, and then being sociable and somewhat funny are important. Heres the key in a nutshell, if you're tall and good looking you can be weaker (not weak) in game. If you're not tall and good looking your game has to be super tight and you need to be sauve has hell. You go with your strengths, use your strengths. If your weak in looks make up for it in skillz | /r/seduction | 19/10/16 01:52 PM |
| 2 | What got you into PUA? an introduction.I'm tall, good looking, fun, cool, good job and was a Virgin until my late 20's. Total loser with women thru high school and college. The girl of my dreams was a beautiful model (not exaggerating she was) a sweet nice girl who never really had a BF and who I met and was friends with thru most of college. I was a typical nice guy beta loser who was never able to to be just myself around girls. Long story short I liked this girl all thru college and I never got with her, by her junior year I came … | /r/seduction | 18/10/16 08:26 PM |
| 2 | One of the most important things I've learned about being around girls.I agree with you whole-heartedly with what you said however this does nothing for many because quite frankly there needs to be tangible tools people can use to implement...not giving a fuck. I completely agree, we always tend to try to hard, we try to be something we're not and if we just act normal and cool we'd attract alot more than we'd repel. The key I've learned though is to help give good examples on how not to give a fuck because quite frankly I could walk up to a hot girl and say be you… | /r/seduction | 18/10/16 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Best way to build attraction with a woman you see several times a week but can't use normal pickup?Okay the key to getting shot down is this....ACT AS IF THIS CHANGES NOTHING OF HOW YOU ACT OR REACT IN FRONT OF HER! The key to seduction is always always act as if nothing she does affects who you are. For example , you keep flirting you keep busting her balls, keep her laughing! In fact next time you see her bust her chops , laugh with her. She'll think in her head, wow I rejected this guy yet it didn't phase him what so ever, wow that's CONFIDENCE! some girls say no and are scared but eventua… | /r/seduction | 17/10/16 01:16 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever been approached by girls?It happens and it's rare but guys need to embrace the fact that women 99% of the time won't approach you. You are going against evolution, it just is what it is. You need to be uncomfortable and approach. It's okay to be nervous it's okay to stumble but nothing is.more gratifying than coming over your fears and eventually succeeding in an approach. You learn so much about yourself by manning up and approaching. Stop going against evolution and accept the fact that men are the pursuers. I say the… | /r/seduction | 13/10/16 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth banging uglies to get into a more abundant mindset?Not necessarily. Challenge yourself, practice go after girls you want. If you feel it will help your confidence sure, but you're on this sub to get the girls you want, not the ones that you find easy or no challenge | /r/seduction | 07/10/16 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Thing that I should do but I don't.Start to write down goals, or even before that brainstorm on what you want out of life and of yourself and then set goals to get you there. Example, set a goal that you plan on doing this routine at the gym 3 days a week for 6 months straight. No deviating no excuses just set the goal. Example, set a goal to talk to one girl you don't know per day. Or per week , or if you're really novice a goal to just say hi how are you. Something that you can build on. It's been proven that you're more likely… | /r/seduction | 06/10/16 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Am I madly in love or suffering from a severe case of oneitis - going crazyMy best advice is to not be clingy, nothing is more unattractive than a desperate guy going back to his gf and saying how much he fucked up. It's OKAY TO SAY I'M SORRY I DID THIS, but you say it once, say your peace and then wait for her move. Guys that fuck this up, keep going back saying sorry, sorry, sorry over and over again. Listen they got it the first time, the more you do it the more pathetic of a man you are , the less alpha you are. It's the anti confident thing to do and the single mo… | /r/seduction | 06/10/16 05:55 PM |
| 6 | I can hold conversation with a girl but dont know when to "pull the trigger"Agree here this is why kino (aka touching) a girl throughout the night is so important, if using kino right the girl will almost make it obvious she wants you to kiss her. Anyway there is no right way. Isolation is key get her away from her friends or any crowd. But kino makes it so much easier to transition, because by using kino you're already becoming intimate with her, getting close to her, making her comfortable to be around you | /r/seduction | 06/10/16 05:46 PM |
| 2 | How to get over insecurities and live a happy, fulfilling, pussy filled life?You're being a pussy and a whiny bitch. You're not a Virgin because of your penis you're a Virgin because of your piss poor attitude. I'VE NEVER MET A,WOMEN IN MY ENTIRE EXISTENCE TELL ME THE SIZE OF HIS PENIS WAS A DEAL BREAKER. the problem isn't you're dick it's the big douche bag you're acting like. Keep up the attitude and I promise you you'll never get laid. | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 01:38 PM |
| 7 | How to get over insecurities and live a happy, fulfilling, pussy filled life?Is your bitter attitude helping your situation any better? Dudes that are fucking 3 feet tall get laid I'm pretty sure you can. If you just stop with this self deprivating piss poor attitude of yours. Yea I get it you have a small penis, have you seen any fucking list of what women find attractive, because penis size is about 20th on the list. So keep acting like a big fucking pussy and bitching about something that won't change or you can work on the things you can change. The biggest differenc… | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 03:19 AM |
| 4 | 10 ways to have a better conversation (not focused on seduction but definitely good basics for conversation which is also part of the seduction process)This has everything to do with seduction, anyone who disagrees isn't good at seduction. Great post | /r/seduction | 21/09/16 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Nightclub mistakes and tipsHere I posted this and it ended up getting a lot of likes. It's essentially a canned opener but make no mistake, canned openers are what started the pua revolution. So anyone that knocks them is an idiot. Yea I get it being natural is well the most natural but a lot of guys need intros things that take their mind off of being nervous approaching. I find zero issues with canned openers. They are no different than a nice ice breaker before you get to know someone. Anyway my post is excellent and t… | /r/seduction | 20/09/16 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Nightclub mistakes and tipsSounds like you already know your mistakes. I'd follow up with, you're killing yourself by asking boring questions. When girls are in a club they want to have fun, nothing more. So be that fun, be the guy girls are drawn to in the club. Go up to girls and bust their chops, hey I think you're kinda cute, would you be intimated to date me if I was out of your league? This is funny to say to girls who are clearly out of your league. Go up and compliment their clothing or shoes, start a conversation… | /r/seduction | 19/09/16 02:25 PM |
| 6 | Example of turning around a shit test back on the girl. Instead of having to defend that I am not creepy it becomes a playful insult on her.This. Always always be on the offensive. Men should never defend themselves because confidence shows you already am so sure of yourself that nothing a girl can say will break that | /r/seduction | 19/09/16 02:18 PM |
| 3 | What happened here? Got a number, then she didn't respond to my textWait for her to respond DO NOT follow up again. If she doesn't follow up move on | /r/seduction | 19/09/16 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach an HB8 at the gym...without coming across like "that guy" (you know that guy...)Not true at all. Give me a break, it's just an approach tactic, try it, what's he got to lose? | /r/seduction | 17/09/16 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach an HB8 at the gym...without coming across like "that guy" (you know that guy...)Okay I will first say approaches at gyms are hard, women don't like it not because of you but because of how they feel...they're sweaty, smelly, and not at their best looking which gets them very defensive and insecure, not good for guys approaching because she'll be tougher to seduce. With that said to build some repor and youve see her more than once which is better because you're a familiar face. Don't ever ever ever approach a girl and tell her her form needs fixing, here let me show you ...… | /r/seduction | 15/09/16 11:55 PM |
| 1 | How To Know If A Girl Likes You – From A Female PerspectiveYeah I didn't mean to be blunt about it because I hate advice like that that says just man up that stupid so I apologize for that said I'm older now and I used to be in that same bucket. I was always so mad that woman would never approach, then I realized it wasn't going to change, and it probably never will. maybe it's societal, maybe not, but at the end of the day it dates back to thousands of years of evolution and it's just always been like that, so I just accepted it and realized I need to … | /r/seduction | 15/09/16 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Why attractiveness is nowhere near as influential as social skill.Agree looks help but I'm considered very good looking and it wasn't until I had game that I was truly successful. And forget hooking up with 9/10s if you got no game | /r/seduction | 15/09/16 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Why attractiveness is nowhere near as influential as social skill.Great post Tldr; A guys attractiveness is centered around his swag not just his looks | /r/seduction | 15/09/16 07:39 PM |
| 0 | How To Know If A Girl Likes You – From A Female PerspectiveNo this is stupid advice, you're asking women to go against their natural evolutionary instincts. They don't do it because instinctively they're not wired to approach. They're receivers, its as simple as that, so man up. Listem i had the same thoughts when I was younger, don't try to change science ,you lose. Accept it that it's your roll to approach and conquer your fears, it's empowering when you do it. | /r/seduction | 15/09/16 05:34 PM |
| 1 | best compliment you can give a girlExcellent post, agree 100% | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 02:58 AM |
| 1 | best compliment you can give a girlSame thing always comment her style choice, her earrings, jewelry, boots, dress, her hair style, her highlights. | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 02:58 AM |
| 1 | hopeless/clueless with women..30 years old...have no "game" .. completed jaded...huge insecurities...and feel like it is completely useless to even talk to women as they will reject me without even saying anything to them.Don't listen to this guy, the game is horrible for helping guys improve in the field. It's only an entertaining read, that's it. Read models by Mark Manson excellent read. But I think what you really need is some self esteem books or even go see a therapist. self-esteem is not rooted in your 'luck' with women. it's the core of an individual, you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. If you have low self esteem you with not get women... Period. Learn to accept yourself and all y… | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Cheaper beginner's books?Cant afford books, youtube has a plethora of seduction material and its good too | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys have any specific examples of push/pull?Agree here, to get more specific because quite frankly there are all sorts of push pull techniques I'd say one of the most basic and intro push pull techniques is teasing. Teasing is all about push pull, when you tease a girl you're telling her that you're confident enough to do so, oh and you have a sense of humor. I know this is basic as shit but I love calling a girl a dork/tool when she says something kinda random or lame. Example, It's not offensive in anyway but it puts her on the defense … | /r/seduction | 30/08/16 02:18 PM |
| 3 | About being a nice guy versus being a ''Nice Guy''.Also part of seduction is giving girls mystery, you're not being dishonest you're withholding some of your emotions to build attraction. Girls love to build up tension until they can't hold themselves back from throwing themselves at you. I have lots of girl friends, but there's a huge difference between girl friends and being friend zoned. You see I could easily escalate with many of my girl friends because I know they're attracted to me. For example many of us have that hot friend we'd bang in… | /r/seduction | 27/08/16 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Any shorter dudes in the house? Looking to step up my game and could use all the advice I can get!Own that shit, confidence means far more than height. If you act confident as shit you'll look 6 feet to her not 5'4. I know a 5'6 guy married to a pretty hot 5'10 girl. He's confident as hell, doesn't give a fuck, and she likes it. | /r/seduction | 27/08/16 02:07 PM |
| 1 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreWell certainly there are thousands of topics out there to discuss, again don't disagree. But once again you're missing my point, when I started the thread what did I say about the bachelor/Bachelorette getting better ratings than the NBA finals? My point was relationships are a topic women LOVE to discuss,they go giddy over that shit like men do about sports or music. Only reason I mentioned relationships is they love gossiping, love, breakups, you name it. So why not take a topic they love to d… | /r/seduction | 23/08/16 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Being rich can be a problem! How do I explain a complicated career and significant wealth?Okay let me break it down... Are you trying to compare male body building comps to women beauty pageants? Last time I checked there wasn't a Mr. universe on TV, but you better believe Ms. UNIVERSE is playing on every major TV network in every country. Why because people love beautiful women, they don't care about muscle competitions. Do some people care about muscle comps sure, but not nearly as much as a beauty pageant. The ratings for a beauty pageants blow away any for a muscle comp...night a… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 01:23 PM |
| 1 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreNot true, look it the context of how I tell people to handle the conversation. I wholeheartedly agree asking women dating advice is HORRIBLE. But what if I ask them, yet debate them and challenge them at every angle....THATS THE KEY to my entire thread. You completely missed the point if you think I just went in and asking a girl for advice. The key is pretending to ask their advice and challenge them the entire time. It creates great discussion and it gets girls talking about their favorite sub… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Being rich can be a problem! How do I explain a complicated career and significant wealth?Again you have some very valid points where I agree with you, but at the end of the day you're wrong. Okay if looks mattered so much for men how come there isn't a run way competition for men showing off their six packs, package, and ass? Where's the Victoria secret pageant show for men? How come there are no porn mags dedicated to women? The only one that I knew of, 'playgirl' failed. BECAUSE WOMEN care way less about looks than men do...BOTTOM LINE. I didn't say looks don't matter, I didn't sa… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Women, what are some of the things you do to get a guy you find attractive to talk to you?Exactly | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 02:30 AM |
| 12 | Women, what are some of the things you do to get a guy you find attractive to talk to you?Never ask women for relationship advice. I know it sounds like the right thing to do and even women will down vote this, but asking women for advice is like asking your mom. Everyone women will say the same Bullshit.... all I want is a nice guy that treats me nice and its good to me blah blah, but then those same girls turn around and date the cool bad boy. When women get a attracted to men they're not thinking logically, they're thinking emotionally. you can't ask them to explain something to y… | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Being rich can be a problem! How do I explain a complicated career and significant wealth?I agree with alot you said but you're wrong if you think the rating scale isn't different between sex's. Think about it, a 10 girl could have zero personality and she'll still have droves of guys swarming her, same can't be said for the 10 guy, Yea he'll attract some girls but not nearly as much as the ten girl. An 8 guy will get zero girls with him having no personality but an 8 girl will def get some guys with her having zero personality. Looks for girls mean way more for them, hence the reaso… | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Being rich can be a problem! How do I explain a complicated career and significant wealth?No he's actually kinda right, only about 2% of guys can get by almost solely on looks, girls just aren't as visual as men so looks help but they won't get you laid. on the contrary a beautiful girl has zero problem getting guys attracted to her. His point is most men aren't attracting women with looks, meaning the largest % are lumped into the average guy for looks and what separates those guys is everything else... Swag, dress, confidence, sense of humor, strength, social status, etc etc etc. O… | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 11:57 PM |
| 1 | My biggest problem with this sub and seduction advice in general is that people have this "one size fits all" mentality.Have you watched Tyler Durden? Tell me that guy is tall and handsome? On the more introverted side have you watched Richard Laguina aka gambler? He was called ugly he said by some women before he became pua. There is no one size fits all, you tailor to the game you were given in life. Example if you're not good looking you make up for it by dressing better than the next guy, projecting confidence more than the next guy, having a way bigger I don't give a fuck attitude. On the other spectrum if y… | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 01:16 PM |
| 2 | Good looking, but clueless with how to get girls (examples inside)Buddy your question is just like thousands of other guys questions on here, read the side bar and learn the aspects of seduction, your case is common | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 12:54 PM |
| 1 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreThe key is to get in, the rest is up to you to build that attraction. Once you get them engaged the seduction begins, I'm just giving you the intro and if you read my post I thru in push pull into my conversation... I'm challenging girls which is absolutely part of seduction | /r/seduction | 18/08/16 03:24 PM |
| 1 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreGood insight thx | /r/seduction | 18/08/16 03:11 PM |
| 1 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreHaha that's great | /r/seduction | 18/08/16 03:11 PM |
| 5 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreAgree but not everyone owns a jet, meaning many guys aren't experienced enough to be that advanced. Gotta crawl before you can walk | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 08:54 PM |
| 17 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreGirls love love love to talk relationship, dating, and love it's a FACT. Girl relationship talk is like guys who talk passionately about sports or music... They're obsessed | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 08:13 PM |
| 3 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreI hate people that talk being natural and no need for canned openers.... THE ENTIRE BIRTH OF THE PUA WORLD was built off of canned openers. Yea I get it, no need to used canned openers when you're an advanced pua, but fact is 99% of the people on this sub aren't advanced so what's wrong with telling them a good conversation starter... The answer is NOTHING. Yea I get it, be yourself, be natural, be a confident pimp. Fact is approach anxiety is always an issue, and nothing resolves tension like a… | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 08:11 PM |
| 1 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreExactly, just say hello and be yourself is horrible advice | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 07:51 PM |
| 32 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreNo that's just another cliche opener, what do you say after that? All I'm trying to do is give people help engaging them for after that 30 second introduction | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 05:40 PM |
| 52 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreThanks probably should have added a tl;dr | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 05:37 PM |
| 5 | My 99% fail proof intro for opening a set of girls 2 or moreYea true but the problem is there are a ton of guys on here that struggle with sparking a conversation after hello, just trying to help offering some good conversation pieces to get women engaged | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 02:47 PM |
| 1 | I can't use indirect or Neutral openersTotally agree, ever notice how a bold guy that calls a girl sexy can have lots of success, because he's not bullshitting her, she respects his honesty and more importantly his bold confidence... It projects that he's sure of himself. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 09:15 PM |
| 1 | I(m23) am a skinny guy. Why do I disproportionally attract females with much stronger legs and arms than mine? Body type is not important to me, but it seems to me as illogical and interesting phenomenonNot sure but it could be the same reason why shy nice girls love strong outgoing alpha males, they want what they don't have. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Models by MM - be more vulnerable as in express yourself, put your personality out there, no matter what the result is, don't be needy... is that all there is to the book?Agree here with everyone, seduction isn't some trick you learn "one" thing you learn, it's based on a series of attributes that make you into a sexy man. Thats why when people ask, do looks count for men, MM says yes of course they do but it's only one of a set of attributes that will help you get women. In other words just because you're better looking than most men, that in itself will not help you get girls. It's looks along with multiple other attributes that make you sexy. And the point of … | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Myths I Learned from the Pickup Artist Community: Part 2Great article and interesting read thanks for sharing. At the end of the day there isn't one pua I've seen without an abnormally high EQ. Whether it's Mystery, Neil, Tyler, Max, you, all of you know social ques down to a science. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How to handle insults/girls talking shit?The more popular you get the more haters you'll get, it's a fact of life. Haters gonna hate, insert anyone and there's just certain people who whine, hate, start rumors about said person. The key for you....ignore them, I know this is cliche but why the fuck do you wanna waste your energy with someone intent on taking your energy away? It's a waste, you could be talking to a cute girl and you're gonna waste your energy on some hater? Nothing screams confidence than someone who takes a direct ins… | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Please help convince a 35yr old male that visiting an escort would be a great/terrible ideaI lean against no escort, here's why... Women love guys who are virgins, here's what a girl is thinking during sex.... Omg I hope he doesn't think I'm fat, hope he doesn't see my stretch mark, hope he thinks I'm sexy, I shouldn't have has that donut Thursday. Girl hears Virgin and right away shes excited you haven't seen another girl naked to compare her to. Sex is such a fraction of the entire experience. How long is sex, 20 minutes!?!? The whole meeting, the flirting, the fun all last hours an… | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Picking up at workDisagree here, I understand why he says so but in reality many people start relationships with coworkers it's the nature of the beast | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Picking up at workStart with building attraction. The nice part of dating work girls is you have time to build attraction. It's not about asking them out and coming off as a creeper, it's building enough attraction thru flirtation where they'll beg for you to ask them out. Get to know them, be the fun confident guy at work, be outgoing, don't kiss their ass, bust their chops. Be fun at work and girls will want to take you home, because women love guys who just want to have fun. Don't expect to get anywhere cold a… | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 01:44 PM |
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