I've been hitting it off with a few chicks lately but it always over escalates and half the time I usually find out the day after that they're not even single.

For background, I never had much luck with girls in highschool and now I'm a freshman in college and I've been going to parties and events lately cause I mean why not. Anyways I just pretended to be someone who people at the party would want to hang out with/talk to. So the first few parties I was just really friendly, I'd talk to anyone guy or girl and just get a feel for how everything works but I actually still tried and it just ended up me being friend zoned and girls not showing any interest when I text them.

So I decided to step my game up a little, still friendly but not really. I would just let the silent pauses in conversation be as long as it wasn't really awkward and just look at them for a while which usually leads to kissing and other things but 6/7 of the girls I've been with wanted to go home the same night and which also I later find out that 5 of the 7 had boyfriends the day after.. anyways the problem is I didn't go home with any of them because idk I guess I'm just not used to casual sex and that I just feel that if I can get them in one night, that's just too easy and that they should value themselves more than that.

Most of them were 7's and two 8's so they weren't bad looking but to put it bluntly, I can't help but think they're quite promiscuous if they go home with me the night I just met them and I actually got so into the girl that didn't want to go home with me that night but yeah, she actually had a boyfriend but that's another story.. so idk I guess this was more of a rant and I really don't know who else I can talk about this to. So I guess I should ask for a solution which I figured would either be suck it up and just have casual sex like most of the guys in this sub or stick to looking for intimate connection but not necessarily a relationship