Help me figure out my problem

entboarder · 2013-09-08T21:05:42+00:00

Did you get a little bit personal with them, build some comfort? A hugely important step I struggle with a lot.

FeministsLoveMe · 2013-09-09T02:16:30+00:00

It's your confidence man. You're confident about the first date, have a good time and whatnot but you probably project a little fear/insecurity about additional dates afterwards and girls can sense this amazingly well.

Perhaps you text a bit too much after the first date? Keep texting at a minimum, only for setting up logistics and everything. Have a mental ideal of "I'm a busy man with my career/college along with my passions (sailing, crossfit, some recreational activity), and my self-respect and my values are rock-solid, absolutely unchangeable"

Instead of setting up future dates, invite her to come out with you and your friends, keep up the mentality of inviting her to tag-along and join your activities, instead of putting your things on hold to set things up with her.

I've mentioned it before here but think of it this way. Are you going to cancel on your workout or bail on your study session to go watch a movie with your buddies? Hell no, it's get-your-shit done time and they should just come work out with you or you just meet up with them later once you're available.

Title	Help me figure out my problem
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	September 8, 2013 8:58 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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