How do I stop a lifelong injury from killing my game?

2021-03-05T11:12:00+00:00

(I can only guess the impact of your condition on your game as I haven't seen you in person.)

Some thoughts/ideas:

"I always get something along the lines of "oh I feel so sorry for you" whenever somone asks why i'm limping and I explain it." Maybe you should not give a detailed explanation until a deeper bond to a person is established. The first moments you meet someone should not be concerned with your condition. Try to find jokey ways to brush off/postpone the talk to a later point in time, where some bond is established. Strangers are not entitled to know everything about you.
The older you become, the lesser it will matter. Young people are the most superficial. You'll probably notice a big difference between 20 and e.g. 25/26.
Finding compatible women is a numbers game for any guy. This will be especially true for you. Therefore, you need to find ways to increase the number of potentially interested women that come into your life -> e.g. (cold) approach a higher number of women; get on additional dating platforms; waste less time with women who are not really interested. The more often one has to deal with dating situations (including one's individual challenges) the easier/more enjoyable it becomes and the more you can learn.
Build up confidence and in general an expressive character that overshadows your condition. Learn how to be dominant and proactive enough to imprint your vibe on social situations, instead of just reacting and letting other people set the frame - always stay socially calibrated and polite though.

good luck!!

AdministrativeTap925 · 2021-03-06T16:52:41+00:00

Hello, woman here.

I agree with the poster above me. I think that giving into women’s curiosity about your limp and explaining it right off the bat is a no go. I would just say “I had an injury”

Women LOVE to feel special and trusted so saving telling a woman that you eventually feel close with and like and who likes you back about your journey will probably bring your bond closer. Your story is very personal, and your shining personality and sense of humor should be the focus of your conversation with these women. Not your limp.

I also agree with the poster above me, it will get easier as you get older. Most 20 year olds are shallow, are you against going for older women? Are you on dating apps? Can you set your preferences for older women? Make sure you ask every woman you encounter a bunch of questions about HERSELF, the conversation shouldn’t be around you.

You have a great attitude! You will find someone who doesn’t care about your limp, it’s just going to take a bit of time

Typical-Ad-4915 · 2021-03-13T01:21:03+00:00

I have a friend who has a rolled down eye, like it’s basically a googley eye.

He is average looking otherwise and he gets it to work when people mention it with humour.

He was insecure about it back in early days but I think he’s gotten rid of the insecurity or he just acts confident about it and move on.

That’s all I have to offer

Title	How do I stop a lifelong injury from killing my game?
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Date	March 5, 2021 8:05 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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