It’s 8:30 PM last night and I’m chilling on my couch thinking about getting to bed shortly because I’m pretty gassed. When suddenly I get a text from Girl Buddy of mine telling me to come have a beer at our neighborhood pub. “Ah why not?” I figure, planning to stay till perhaps 11 and then cash out for the night.

I decide to get myself about half as ready as I would for a night of sarging – juuuussst in case. I make sure my hair is tidy and I’m freshly groomed and showered but I don’t use any product and I’m not wearing the best outfit, but fuck it.

The 2 of us get there and have a drink and just catch up while we wait for 2 of our other friends to show up. She’s getting a little tipsy and telling me she wants to be my wing woman so we start scouting our surroundings. At this point the place is fairly empty, there isn’t much talent, and I’m not really feeling it tonight. But over the next hour it starts to pick up. In the booth next to us she points out a Cute Blonde. I inconspicuously try to scope her out from afar. Wow. She’s absolutely stunning. A very natural look, with an infectious smile and is being the center of attention of her table, which at this point has about 10-15 people around it.

So we discuss logistics of how we should approach this girl in her group dynamic. The 3 second rule is obliterated at this point as I’ve been sitting there thinking about when I should approach for about 45 minutes already, but I PROMISED myself that I would not leave this bar without talking to her. I kept thinking about the video “MAYBE” and to a lesser extent “SECONDS” as inspiration to make sure I do this.

My guy friend who recently showed up put a 5 minute timer in his phone and tells me “You have 5 minutes or else I’M going to talk to her”. So 5 seconds after that I see her get up to go get a drink so I intercept her as she’s walking in my direction and just decide to be straightforward.

I lightly place my hand on her upper arm to get her attention as I intercept her.

Me: “Hi, I just noticed you from the next booth over and decided that I just had to meet you and that I would really regret it if I didn’t come introduce myself”

Cute Blonde: “AWW that’s so sweet of you to say! Thank you!”

I ask her what her big group party is for and she informs me her friend is leaving town for work. Naturally, I follow with the cliché “Cool, so what do YOU do?” and other pretty standard interview questions that people use to get to know each other.

I’ve been trying to avoid these lately as the conversation tends to get dry very quickly. But with Cute Blonde I was able joke around with her about everything and we showed genuine interest in each other’s studies / work. She compliments me on my vocabulary and tells me I’m very well spoken, which I took as a compliment as she is studying linguistics. I didn’t apply a heck of a lot of Kino, as I was pretty nervous with this one. In fact I had a pretty hard time saying my opener without stuttering.

After a few minutes of chatting she says: “I feel bad though, because I have a boyfriend”

I act like its no big deal, because this girl was just really awesome to talk to and I was just enjoying our interaction, even if it didn’t go anywhere. She follows this with:

Cute Blonde: “But if we ever break up, it’s good to know that there are attractive and straightforward guys like you out there who will come talk to me!”

Me: “Well I actually don’t do this very often at all” (half truth – I’m doing it a fair amount lately but am still pretty new to the game).

Cute Blonde: “Well you should approach more! You’re clearly an attractive guy, you’re really well spoken and you know how to present yourself in a good way!”

That was really nice to hear considering I hadn’t put a lot of effort into my look tonight. She again visits the boyfriend fact and says:

Cute Blonde: “I always enjoy when people come talk to me like this, and sometimes I wish I was single…but then I think that if my boyfriend was out there pretending to be single I wouldn’t be very happy.”

Me: “Hey don’t worry about it, we can be friends!”

To which she was enthusiastic about. She tells me that her and her friends are going downstairs because there’s more room and that I should join. I tell her I’m going to go back to my friends and that maybe we’ll come down later.

A bit later we go down and she’s singing karaokee. After she comes off stage I track her down and she greets me enthusiastically. I compliment her on her singing and ask her if her wants to be the new singer in my band . She laughs a lot and says she wants the job. I tell her she should come out to our gig next Friday and see if she’d be down to join the band. I give her details about the show and what not, trying to use it as an excuse to see her again.

She introduces me to her sister (she’s a triplet – non-identical) and we chat a bit. Turns out they just both moved into a building about 2 blocks from mine. Her sister’s cool, but as-fucking-usual…it seems as if I’ve kinda fallen for the girl in a relationship.

Before I leave she tells me it was great talking to me and thanks me for introducing myself. I say it was my pleasure and ask if there is anyway that we can keep in touch. She says yes but hesitates and says

Cute Blonde: “But I don’t think….” I stop her and say

Me: “I know, you shouldn’t give me your number. That’s legit.”

Cute Blonde: “You should ask my sister for her number! She’s shy but she’d probably give it to you!”

Me: “Yeah but WE can still keep in touch though right? Can you find me on facebook?”

She agrees to this and I show her how to find me on facebook and show her my profile picture cause it’s a poster for our bands upcoming show. She says “Ok I’ll remember that!” (the spelling of my name – I really wish I had my business cards done for this reason now). We say goodbye and I head out.

I didn’t really want to get her sister’s number, I wanted to talk to Cute Blonde. I felt a little AFC come out in me trying to go for the facebook route, but at this point there’s really not much to lose. So either she’ll find me on facebook or she won’t. I really don’t want to break them up because I stole my last girlfriend from her boyfriend and that ended up in fucking disaster. I’ll never do it again. In the meantime I’ll go meet other girls when I go out and I have no problems being friend with Cute Blonde. In the 2 months I’ve been doing this she is the first person I had a “click” with. Even though I’ve been getting decent action up until this point. I MUCH preferred this interaction to having sex with some random girl I didn’t connect with and then not really seeing her again. I’m basically using this as motivation to go out and meet even more women because I want to find that “click”.

I don’t regret a single thing about the night. I followed through on my promise to myself to talk to Cute Blonde. She turns out to be pretty awesome, however I only seem to find girls in relationships. Hopefully she finds me on facebook and we can be friends, but regardless I’m going to keep doing my thing and try to seek more of this good feeling I found.

TL:DR – Made myself approach beautiful girl at pub. Was straight forward and to the point about my intentions. She received the approach well and seemed to dig me but has a boyfriend. Maybe we’ll be friends. Also – having a wing woman is never a bad thing!