That's right. Not the game. We talkin' about practice, man..

Maybe this is just my recent experience, but I've found a lot of value in viewing approaching girls, going out on dates, talking to them, flirting, all that, as just practice.

About a month ago, I went through a breakup. It was tough and it sucked (as is the case most of the time with breakups). I've been set-up by friends, I've asked out girls I meet, and I've gone out with a few girls from Tinder/Bumble. At one point, I had been on 3 first dates in 4 nights.

And none of them have really stuck. What went wrong? Bad chemistry, different interests/lifestyles, and I don't even know what. I'm not beating myself up over these failures. I've taken away something from each, and it was worth my time to go out and try. I'm better off now having gone on that many more dates, having talked to that many more girls.

Yeah, it sucks to go out with or chat up a girl who you're into and nothing comes of it, but that's just how it goes sometimes. It is infinitely better to have gone out on that date and failed, or approached that girl and failed, than to just have stood by with your hands in your pockets. It's just like lifting weights. Get your reps.

Keep practicing, keep failing, and keep succeeding. You'll get better the more you practice. It's probably been said to you for years, since you were a kid even. But it's a cliché because it's true. And the beauty of it is, the more you approach/talk to girls, the more confidence you get and the less weird it feels (especially for beginners).

I just feel like this is a really important thing, and one that's easy to forget (at least in my experience). I find it easy to get in my own head and start thinking about plotting every single thing I'm gonna say to girls, or who I'm gonna ask out next, or how I'm gonna meet the next girl. I've been able to shake that by just getting out there and trying. I hope this post was useful to at least one person.

There's no replacement for getting out there and trying.