I remember once hearing that getting over a girl is like an addiction. It was a very good analogy I thought because a lot of times a girl is like a drug addiction.

Listen most of us have been there, we've all liked a girl, sometimes a close friend you fall hard for and you think to yourself, well she really loves my company, we're great friends, so it makes sense we'd make a great couple right....as most of you know WRONG.

I'm not hear to tell you how to get out of the friend zone or what you're doing wrong that got you friend zoned, there is plenty of great stuff on this sub that will help you become a stud (take it from a former onegirlitus addict turned stud). However, im here to tell you that the chances of getting out of the friend zone are way less than you think, which is why you have to treat this girl as an addiction.

As an addict you crave time with this girl, being around her more makes you feel better in the short term, you love her presence and how she makes your stomach turn. But it's not healthy because you have no chance and you need to move on (assuming you've made advances or got rejected already) by lingering you're only prolonging the pain. Either shit or get off the pot, meaning if you're not making a move you're killing your game and if you've made a move already to no avail, you're done, it's over.

STEPS TO RECOVERY

STEP 1: recovering addict goes thru stages of recovery and the first one is denial. A guy recovering from onegirlitus thinks there's hope. Oh she smiled at me, she squeezed my arm, she laughed at my joke, she called me. No dude if something hasnt happened in months they're not gonna happen at all . The key is to recognize your addiction. Recognize you have a problem and you're addicted to a girl you're not gonna get. The addiction is the slimmer of hope you think you have. No you don't have a slimmer it's over, need to move on and you need to accept it.

STEP 2: You hear so many guys on this sub talk about abundance because focusing on one girl puts you at a disadvantage, it puts her on the pedestal not you. The key in seduction is be the prize, not be the one chasing the prize. A guy with onegirlitus already made the girl the prize not him. So the next step, after accepting you have a problem is taking the baby steps of focusing on other things besides her. Don't call her, don't return a text for a day or even more, make yourself less available. Show you're busy and have other things going on in your life.

STEP 3: This is when you come to the realization that she never reciprocated your feelings or You see something what I call false hope. You see in Step 2 sometimes the girl sees you pulling away and all of a sudden starts giving you more attention. This is great you think, but it's fake. Since its most likely the girl just vying for the attention you no longer give vs. her actually realizing her feelings are reciprocal and that you actually have a chance with her. 9 times out of 10 it's false hope and you need to stay strong. However feel free to make one final push, do this for your own satisfaction to put to rest any 'what if' you think is in the back of your head. Go for it, tell her you like her and want to take it to the next level. It won't most likely wont work but as a recovering addict at least you'll have the satisfaction of saying you tried. After that cut off all contact and move on. Moving on is like any addiction, it takes time and you'll have tons of small cravings, but know they only last a few minutes and you can refocus on your awesome life and meeting new and exciting people.

Hope this helps

Sincerely Recovering onegirlitus addict