Thought I wanted FWB but subconsciously just wanted a hook up.

2021-01-05T21:32:57+00:00

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_Dignity_ · 2021-01-05T17:20:31+00:00

Make sure you’re NOT sub-communicating boyfriend vibes. You’re the lover, not the provider. You are an experience, not an investment. Make sure your interactions are truly man to woman. That’s all it takes for you to be honest. Women aren’t stupid, they don’t need you to spell it out for them. They know exactly what they’re doing when they sleep with that guy they met who didn’t even tell her his last name or where he works. Honesty in this case does not have to overt.

You don’t have to say “OH BTW IM NOT GONNA CALL YOU AFTER THIS.” 99% of women are not comfortable enough with their sexuality to take that and logically frame it as “just a hookup.” THEY KNOW it’s just a hookup, but they need that little 1% of deniability to avoid slut shaming themselves. Let them have it.

Now, of course, if you’re kind, confident, and have great sex with them, many of them will still try to lock you down as an ‘investment’ despite knowing full well you represented yourself as an experience. THIS IS ON THEM. THEY ARE NOT STUPID, THEY CAN TELL WHAT KIND OF MAN YOU ARE. They’re just shooting their shot, and you can turn them down just like they’d turn down some chode.

The only way you could be misleading women is by giving off heavy boyfriend vibes and then completely shifting gears to being a player the morning after. In that case, they’re expecting more than just sleeping with you because that’s how you’re representing yourself overtly and in sub-communication, and that’s on you.

Edit: My usual frame with online dating when women ask what I’m looking for is “I like to find out if there’s chemistry first before making any judgement, but I’m always open for the right woman to hit me like a bus and sweep me off my feet.”

Acpattbonbon · 2021-01-05T17:26:37+00:00

Just tell the truth. You don't want them. You'll never care about them. You won't give them anything or be there for them. Tell them you want to get as humanly close as possible and trade bodily fluids with no commitment. There are some desperate low self esteem females that will be perfectly ok with it.

Notice I said low self esteem. That's a huge factor. Find the girl who is a little chubby, or Gothic, or the girl who gets drunker than the other girls.. Or maybe the girl with 8 layers of makeup on. These types of women usually hate themselves enough to let men like you degrade them further.

Good luck 🤞

2021-01-05T18:18:24+00:00

The advice I’ve been given is to ensure you’ve made love to her all ways (oral, anal and vaginal) that way she will know you are only after a one time all you can have type deal

Title	Thought I wanted FWB but subconsciously just wanted a hook up.
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Date	January 5, 2021 4:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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