I’ll keep this short and sweet. I became really good friends with this girl, I started to like this girl, she found me attractive and wanted things to happen in a casual manner. (Found our later through hints and friends). But nothing like a relationship which is what I wanted.

We would always flirt and had a great deal of mutual sexual tension. She clearly hinted a couple times that she wanted to get sexual with me but I just brushed it off as being playful.

There was my best friends birthday party, it was on the last day of school. I was also traveling away for the summer that day. She took me up to dance twice, dropped mad hints, etc. But I had to leave to get to my flight. Nothing came out of it :/

During the summer we talked a lot, the day after I traveled we spoke for hours, a lot of it sexual and about relationships.

Later on during summer I asked her out, she voiced her concerns.

  1. Were too young.

  2. What if it ruins what we have?

  3. When would we go? There’s 2 months before we see each other.

After the conversation ended. I hadn’t responded to these and instead accepted her decision. I then asked her if we could continue talking about it. I wrote a huge paragraph about what I thought about what she said. I told her that it’s best to be together when we’re young and have minimal responsibilities. I told we’re both pretty sane people and we could work through any problems, and I told her we should get closer during summer, then go on a date when we see each other. I felt like it made me seem super desperate. She said it was fine.

Her response was that she didn’t know how to respond. But afterwards she said that she would like to get closer, and then we could decide at the end of summer. She said to go with the flow of things and not to over analyze it.

I’m a pretty strong analyzer (a habit introduced by my father), and I felt like she just said these to put me off until later. Ever since this, she hasn’t flirted back when I did, no sexual jokes. I feel like I killed everything that was going on. What can i do to salvage the situation?