Red Pill Relationships

Labore_Et_Constantia · 2014-03-26T15:34:44+00:00

Never saying I love her, living together or doing nice things for her preemptively.

I don't see an issue with reciprocating love, you don't need to be a pussy about it, but if you care for somebody, showing it/saying it is NOT beta. The issue arises if you're always initiating it and being clingy about it. Let her say it to you first pretty much all the time, but hey an effective knuckleball can work too, so once every blue moon, it may not be an issue to say it first.

Never revealing vulnerabilities

The issue isn't the "vulnerabilities," as much as how you phrase it. If you phrase it in a way that makes you seem weak/needy, then it's going to be an issue. If you phrase in a way that makes you seem as though you're overcoming it, moving forward, it makes you look like a strong leader.

At the end of the day, I think you're over thinking a lot of these things. It sounds like you got a kickass GF, so just maintain your frame, be a leader, but also demonstrate that you care. People think of TRP as ALL or NOTHING (black/white terms), the way I interpret it is more so leaning on the side of being assertive/stoic, but also having the ability to show care, show the people that mean something to you that they do indeed mean something to you and not just being a calculative robot afraid of feeling emotion.

pushajudas · 2014-03-26T15:36:46+00:00

I don't think anyone is going to criticise you here for entering into a relationship with a plate. The important thing is that you entered that relationship with your plate because you wanted to-- not because you are afraid of losing her if you don't.

anon10101010 · 2014-03-26T16:39:27+00:00

Great thread but could someone explain the 2/3 rule to me

BoredOnATuesdayNight · 2014-03-26T15:44:51+00:00

She showers me with affection, sex, kisses, gifts, food and actually helps me study. I'm assuming all of this can be quite dangerous as it increases my dependency on her. Quite a clever stratergy in making me invest my resources in her, it's very affective. Do I respond to this with rewards to enforce it?

Still 2/3s rule.

It's hard to maintain mystery, she learns more about me every day. I plan to lock off some things from her (my previous depression, why my parents kicked me out, why I'm in a dojo, how many partners I've had) is "I don't want to talk to about it" a suitable response?

The first two - "I'm not ready to talk about it". The last two just joke with her about it.

If I dont reward enough, will she walk away from the relationship, what indicators help me tell im not investing enough?

You must be willing to walk away from the relationship at any point. Don't have a scarcity mentality.

What are some examples of rewards?

Mind-blowing sex. Also take her to experience things that you enjoy - bring her into your world. They may be new for her and part of having that new experience is exciting.

ttthrw · 2014-03-26T15:44:23+00:00

I don't see why you need to tone anything down. If it's drama you want to avoid you can ramp up the aloofness or run dread game every now and then.

Reading your post gives the impression that you really like her so you're scared she'll sniff it out and leave you. If she was just a "plate" why would any of this matter? You'd treat her like you did before and she'll get more and more invested in you.

Once a girl is madly in love with you, it would take a colossal screw up to make them dump you (a huge betrayal like being caught red-handed fucking her best friend or something that violates her core values). The biggest of these is to lose the qualities that attracted her in the first place. Don't change for the sake of change. Stay an asshole, test her every now and then. If you push too far and make her cry, quickly kiss and makeup without supplicating. The great thing about being an asshole is those rare moments of loving tenderness you show her will only make her love you more.

PS You're spot on about keeping your past problems locked. Not only will she lose attraction, she'll likely use it to stab you when the relationship gets rocky (and tell all her friends).

Invalidity · 2014-03-26T15:56:01+00:00

Let a woman shower you with affection, sex, kisses, gifts, etc. Just don't take any shit for it if you don't reciprocate. For me, I would usually give my plates some attention when they did this, and when they didn't I just wouldn't care. Women love cats for this same reason.

They'll complain every now and then, but if you're firm and call her out on her bullshit ("so you shower me with love because you want something from me? That's bullshit"), she'll fall in line.

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Nerd_Destroyer · 2014-03-27T02:49:43+00:00

If you want a real relationship (and not merely a long term plate) you actually need to just relax and be yourself. All the 'game' bullshit and being irrationally 'confident' is supposed to gradually disappear until you're just behaving normally with her.

modernneo · 2014-03-26T14:49:01+00:00

is "I don't want to talk to about it" a suitable response?

I'd say so. Or, if you'd rather keep the mood light, go for a slightly condescending "Wouldn't you like to know?". In both of these situations, she may try to ask you nosy followup questions, but if you refuse to elaborate she will learn.

I'm also kind of new (at least to this subreddit) so if anyone has constructive advice I'd appreciate it.

Title	Red Pill Relationships
Author	wishIcared
Upvotes	15
Comments	13
Date	March 26, 2014 12:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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