Hello Seddit, this is my first time here! 24 French guy in Paris, recently out of a LTR so I’m still a bit of a recovering AFC. Onto business: going out to my favorite bar with two friends yesterday, did not intend to pick up at all but it wound up a very interesting night anyway!

First beer: talked with two girls, HB 6 and 8, that were friends of a guy I randomly chatted up earlier. I take note that talking with random guys is very useful, since I ended up opening 5 girl friends of him in the night! I isolate the girls easily with the classic “wanna have a smoke outside?” (more on that later). Things are going very smooth, I crack them up for a good 20mn and HB8 seems to be into me. I’m thirsty so I say let’s go inside for another drink. As I start walking in, I turn back and see them going the opposite direction and saying goodbye to me. Huh? I was too surprised to have the presence of mind to ask the hot one for her number. Bummer.

Second beer: I start chatting up two other girls from the closest table, HB7 and HB8-2, when I overhear them talking about movie adaptations of books. We have a passionate discussion over whether the movie or the book is better for Fight Club, The Road etc. I hit it off really well with HB7 since we have very similar tastes and she hooks me up with great McCarthy books. I take out my fake hipster glasses and as usual they are of great effect, I take note that peacocking in reasonable amounts actually works. I also do the classic routine of “oh, you smoke rolled up cigarettes, awesome teach me that!” Lots of laughs from my pitiful attempts, it worked great because I had built good DHV beforehand. Disclaimer about smoking: virtually all hot babes in France smoke, I know this shit is going to kill me but if it gets me hot girls in the meantime I’m fine with that. Great conversation starter, awesome isolation technique.

Anyway, I end up number closing HB7 and she’s pretty much in the bag since I see her next week for a crazy medicine party. Question time: should I have also taken the number of HB8-2? She was also into me but she was a bit too drunk to follow the convo so I flirted less with her, and I felt it would be rude or weird to get both girls’ numbers. Damn.

Third beer + sambuca: At this point I’m getting too drunk (Belgian beers are strong) to really be on my A-game, but anyway we move venues with my friends and go to a small club in a cave. An incredible number of hot American chicks all around, one of them actually throws herself at me when we come in and starts dancing close up with me. The whole interaction lasted probably 1 minute tops and she disappeared. I find her an hour later sticking her tongue into another guy’s throat. Okay, what the hell should I have done there? Kiss close the girl 30 seconds into meeting her?? At this point I’m shitfaced and hungry as fuck so I head home.

Meditation from the morning after while nursing my hangover: The whole dynamics of nightclub interaction are still very foreign to me. I’m very good at building rapport and attraction in a bar or a private party, when the music is not too loud so I can have real conversations. But in that club, boys & girls that didn’t even know each other were kissing all around me and I had no idea what I was supposed to do to get into the action. On the other hand, while I’m good at attraction in bars, I suck when it comes to kino and escalation: we were sitting down most of the time and I often have a hard time brushing away the cockblocking friend.

All in all, that was an excellent night for getting back into the game, yet I feel I could have done much better if I had been more brazen at the crucial times (number-closing, kiss-closing).

Hope you enjoyed the read, any advice appreciated!