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Head nodding: Bad body language?

throwaway703

January 19, 2011

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Title	Head nodding: Bad body language?
Author	throwaway703
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	January 19, 2011 7:11 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/f5a3a/head_nodding_bad_body_language/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/head-nodding-bad-body-language.1314677 https://theredarchive.com/post/1314677

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[–]chumpta 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]my2wocents 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]chumpta 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

the only maxim i've ever read in any PUA literature regarding arms is when it comes to holding a drink - most guys hold it in front of them, but thats defensive body language. try to think of what it would look like if there was no drink on your hand.

i think in general though there is a happy middle ground with arms. you don't want to be stiff and have your arms never augment what you're saying, but at the same time you don't want to be flailing around. the former will make you seem either boring or nervous, the latter can also make you seem nervous, or perhaps flamboyant and feminine.

think of how a politician does it - uses his hands to emphasize key points, but with restraint. Cajun from lovesystems also once said to "poeticize" your movement in general, and this applies to arms too. keep your movements slow and deliberate, like you've got all the time in the world.

edit: when your hands are at your side and you feel like you need to do something with them, just touch your middle and/or index finger to your thumb. thats a david d suggestion that's worked well for me so far.

[–]my2wocents 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]MrFrillows 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]my2wocents 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link