I'm fairly strange in my methods. I just went for it with the girl I met on the plane. I was not smooth or clever, but I was ballsy. I get to chatting and in about 20 minutes I've got my hand on the inside of her thigh, and I said some stupid awkward line about her being sexy. She could have said no, and if she had I would have moved to a different seat. She didn't, and I ended up fooling around with this girl I just met for about 7 hours flying across the Atlantic and we had some fun for a few months on and off after that. It was almost like having a girlfriend, but that's a whole other can of worms. Does it make me a creep or an asshole that I only try when I'm on the street or in transit(e.g. trains, busses, planes)? I can live with it, and I've had people give me shit on either side of the aisle enough, I'm just curious about what this subreddit thinks.

I hate going to bars alone, and I can't stand most people's bullshit so I don't get invited out much(going out and staying in are equal options in my mind, and staying in does not require pants, plus I refuse to be one to create an event of going out. It's too much work and it puts pressure on me to make it into something. Social value++ if you're getting invited, you know?). I don't like book stores or coffee shops, either. There's pressure to spend money, an activity which I'm generally against unless it involves me going to an interesting place or serving some essential function like eating.

On the subject of interesting places I went on a very fun trip through Europe recently which showed me some very real stopping blocks in my inner game and my ability to be successful.

I spent 6 weeks as an urban camper. I used social food services not meant for tourists(homeless people in france get SALMON, delicious bread, and hot, yummy rissotto for breakfast). I slept under bridges. A romanian in paris gave me a place to sleep in an abandoned $3 million house he was squatting in. I saw heroin addicts shoot up at 10 am on a sunday. I was given lodging by an assortment of different european folks. I was arrested at octoberfest for busking. I hitchiked and feared for my life several times. I kept myself fed with money I earned playing music on the street. Chicks dig the young american street musician :D.

I was exhausted at all times, and I had created a fear in myself for approaching girls who I had no idea if they spoke my language(what do I say after I run out of the 3 (language) phrases I know?), and a shame for knowing I would have had to use them to have a place to stay. This is not the normal course of events. I'm usually very comfortable talking to anyone in public. I ended up sleeping on the streets many nights. I insisted on my pride being preserved so I refused to ask for a place to stay. I required that it was to be By Offer Only. My game was not good enough to keep me bedded every night, but there are many friendly helpful people in the world, so I spent about half the time under a real roof. I wish I was skilled enough that I could get away with doing something like this and still living comfortably all the time. THAT would be success to me. To be the personality that people want to hear your story and say "Oh well please, come stay with me, I couldn't bare to know that you would be sleeping on the streets". That's the skill I wish to learn, as that is the basis of seduction.

On the other side of that coin I met up with an american soldier in Germany who was in the same homeless boat as me. We made some shitty attempts at going home with some German women, and failed. A guy I had met up with earlier offered for us to have a place to stay, but I was carrying some "I hope the other american guy leaves because he is low social value" Ju-Ju on my shoulders, so he ended up going away. I know it's one of those "dude it's not your problem" things, but for the future I want to be someone who can create and maintain comfort and positivity(the kind of gives-value-freely sees-everyone-as-awesome does not judge or look down on anyone super cool guy that everyone likes) in others in a way that it would be perfectly NATURAL for both of us to come along and join this generous fellow offering us a place to stay(yes, chance he's going to kill us, but having a trained soldier would probably deter that. Plus, Germany. We aren't talking about Bengal here.). This is a failure in my book as someone who thinks anyone who's not being a total dick(he wasn't) deserves to be part of the amazing adventure that is my life, and should feel welcomed and comfortable in it.

TL;DR How can I be a more awesome dude?