I’m looking to get back into the dating/hook-up world after 4-5 years of mainly LTRs, where I’ve only been with 6 women (2 two-yr relationships, 2 recent F-buddies, 2 other LT hookups.) I’ve been perusing this sub for a couple months, and been soaking up a lot of good tips. However, I’m getting ready to really start ramping up the effort here soon, and I would like any insight I could get.

A little about myself (Ill try to keep this as short and sweet as possible.) In the past 5-6 months, I went from engaged to single, 240lbs to 190 (I’m 5’10”,) and I graduated from college. I’m very open and confident, I’m a social chameleon, and I don’t get approach anxiety or fear rejection. My problem seems to be that my game sucks. A friend of mine who I’ve known since HS, and who is a pretty solid PUA, told me that my game sucks now b/c in High School I didn’t have to try hard, and thus I don’t know what Im doing now. I played sports, had a car, a job, constant exposure to a big pool of chicks, and as a result had girls throwing them at me. Fast forward to today, and that shit is a distant memory. From 18 to 22 I ballooned in weight and made the mistake of diving into long term relationships.

I don’t want to come off as someone who is trying to get laid; I don’t have that problem. What I want to do is put myself in the position to have a little more fun when I go out, date more outside of my social circle, and when I see that awesome girl of my dreams type have the ability and confidence not to blow my chance w/her. Right now I make an excellent wing (I just read a post about what makes a great wing man a few minutes ago, I hit on like every bullet point), but I’d like to start playing point a little more. Anyway, I’ve got a ton more I could say, but I’ll wait for the comments to flood in. I hope I don’t get flamed; I’m a pretty genuine person and I like to have a great time. I just need to know some things I could be working on to improve my chances. Thanks.

Also, just as a side note, I’ve noticed a lot of chatter in this forum about people living and dating in Japan. I also lived in Japan during a work/study abroad in college, and took a little hiatus to enjoy it more. Dating there was great, I loved going out with Japanese girls.