Near the bar in a Chinese club, a girl tonight caught my eye. We made eye contact, smiled at each other, and I said hi. Then I turned my back on her, said something to my friend, and ordered a drink. This was probably the best thing I did the whole night.

After a minute I turned back to her, said hi and started talking, then dancing. I must have been getting close to her (I was expecting to grind) when she asked me what I was doing--"Just dancing." "What kind of dancing?" I shrugged. Well, this is China, some girls don't grind. We talked some, and I asked her to come downstairs where it was cool/quiet to talk. The whole time I was doing a little kino, but I rubbed her arms in a "warm the skin up" motion and she seemed uncomfortable with that. We kept talking, and we half-jokingly verified that I was hitting on her. I said we should go back upstairs.

We kept dancing, but it didn't have a very sexual vibe, though we continued to touch each other some. I put my hand on her back or side and she brushed it away--I think I should have realized I was wasting my time. She wanted to exchange facebook contact information, so I said I have no paper, text it to me. She wanted it "in case I disappear or something." Eventually, I said I wanted to go get another drink and she said she and her friends would probably leave to go to another club.

Things I did well: I moved her. I was reasonably assertive. She asked if I was a geek and I pretended to be offended, then put my arm around her, smiled and said, "I am a geek and I'm proud of it!" I playfully asked her to kiss me goodnight by tapping my cheek.

Things I did not do well: Didn't playfully disqualify "us". Didn't make her qualify--she had some insecurity which I didn't want to exacerbate, but I should have made her qualify in another area. I didn't make specific followup plans. I was too discouraged by her initial "What are you doing?" and didn't push things enough physically. Maybe I should have extracted myself, but I didn't know how to do that without ruining any chances I might have with her.

I texted her to say nice to meet you and a small neg; she didn't respond.

TL;DR: I met a girl and was quite enjoying talking to her, but she probably wasn't interested in me and I should have extracted myself.