AFC here, lurking for about 3 months now learned a TON of stuff here!! Broke up from a LTR and life felt like shit, got a little depressed, self-confidence reached sub-zero level. So I posted in another subreddit about how I felt like shit and someone suggested checking out this subreddit. GOLDEN ADVICE!!! PUA is so much more that just picking up if you choose to look it that way. I am currently serving in the army so I didn't have a chance to actually practice any of the stuff but that changed over the weekend.

FRIDAY

Went out to a hip club with the intent of picking up. I hate clubs. There are some sets but I hesitate. The longer I wait the harder it gets. I have a feeling that everyone is wathcing me and I am giving out a needy negative vibe. Walk out empty handed. The night was a failure because I failed to fail at an approach. When I return at home I keep thinking of my ex. FUCK THAT!

SATURDAY

We are going to this awesome beer house that plays rock metal. I love this place!! I start a conversation with my friends making jokes and generally having a good time. Some drinking involved and I have a good buzz going. There are some sets around, we talk to the table next to us, some guys from our table knew a guy from their table (mixed set) but not much happened. Now there is a 2 set next to us that we are making eyes with (HB8 and HB5). A third girl comes to join them (HB6) and my friend says to me that I should offer her my seat (we had an extra). I do so but I moved kinda fast and nervous looking, plus I should have made her earn it. After a while another table (more comfortable) opens up and the set moves there. The girl return to us the chair and I kind of neg her about it saying that it wasn't good enough for her. She jokes about it and smiles. A man comes and joins them so now it's a mixed set. I kinda feel bad but don't let it get to me. In the meanwhile a lot more drinking and I am feeling awesome. After a while the girl that I gave my chair to (HB6) leaves with the man. So I went to the restroom and on the way back talk to the other two. I negged them that we did everything for her friend even giving her my chair and she still left! (with a smile and jokingly of course) They kinda laugh and said that she had a party at a club. More negging saying "CLUB??? pffff no way that sucks" and so on. The set is relatively receptive and kinda smiles. HB8 had a cast on her foot so I ask about it. I am trying to guess how she hurt it suggesting that she hurt it while playing volleyball or running. Should have come up with something more dirty. Like "damn what crazy position did you try??" Eventually she says that she wore high heels and she tripped. Told her that she was dressing up for someone but she said that she did it for herself. Asked her how long will she wear it and whether it hurts. She says that it kinda hurts and that she is not going out much. Her friend tells me that she had not gone out for a month and that she conveiced her to go out with her. I shake her hand and say that, that was nice of her. Should have escalated more kino. HB8 says that everyone is asking her about it and she doesn't like it (was that a flake, shit-test or what?). I went kinda defensive about it but still smiling and jokingly said "well excuse me for caring". Should have amplified or even agreed with her in order to connect. She then said that people are making fun of her about it and she doens't like it. I make fun of her telling her that she can't even walk right, she laughs a bit and says something about how she hurt. At this point I kinda feel that the convo is dying out so I eject. Should have moved it forward and made the transition. Anyway a while later they pay and get ready to leave. HB8 waves bye and we wave back. She had to go down a stair in order to go to the exit so I thought that I should help her. By the time I get to the stair there are two people between me and them so I just return to the table.

CONCLUSION

Made a lot of mistakes but after the whole thing I felt like I was HIGH ON LIFE. Everything felt great. Sure I need to improve a ton of stuff but that was the point of the evening. To make mistakes. To any AFC reading this: JUST DO IT . Lessons learned:

  • Go to places you like do thing you love. Wygant is spot on.
  • Be outgoing. Don't go out with the intent of picking up.
  • Be observant and listen. Again Wygant is GOD.
  • Mystery's three step process is gold. Really helps. Wish I could have applied it more
  • Joke, neg, kino, move the convo forward. Repeat.
  • Give the set equal attention

Thanks for reading. Tell me what you think.

tldr; AFC went out and made tons of mistake while having fun convo with 2 set (HB8 HB5). AFC learned a lot of stuff :).

ps. Are there any Greeks or people currently at Greece in seddit??