Increasing ego/ placing yourself in gear can sometimes be easily achieved by actually thinking of your past achievements. Achieving a goal in the game isn't the same as climbing a mountain, taking a picture and remembering it forever; you need to climb that mountain several times before you know every nook and cranny, and sometime you feel like this time you wont be able to reach the peak. If you're like me then you probably have had a handful of sexcapades/ moments in your life that you are proud of. Just thinking of the things you did already gives you inner social proof/ confidence. By relating your current state of mind with the your past achievements puts you a state of confidence. I imagine it can be other things that you've achieved in you life as well, but i cant think of many myself, but i can definitely think of times where i plowed through a party like a boss, got number closes/ full closes. Just thinking of those moments already elevates my confidence, and puts me in a state which is better than what i was in previously. Although you have to examine your past mistakes, you cant dwell on those, and they will definitely be a burden in the field, so next time you're out on the prowl try thinking about the day when everything went perfect, and just place yourself in that state of mind, or even better think of all those days and let them fill your mind. The only thing i can relate this too is something like jogging, when you feel you have exhausted yourself and cannot run anymore, you think of the times that you've been been past these barriers and basically tell yourself that you've done it once, and you can do it again. Its one of those little things, so i hope it helps!