A little about myself, 24 yo, I was the TYPICAL AFC guy, long time reddit lurker, I found seddit a month ago after some love problems (very ridiculous problems, frankly, all my fault)

So I have been absorbing this knowledge, trying to internalize this stuff, reading the side bar. I recently moved to a new place, living by my own. Jumped on the occasion and decided to improve my inner self. I've been trying all this stuff out, with some success (I am calling anything that makes me do stuff I am scared off, success), I have some/lots of AA.

So basically I am trying to do a lot of things that makes me go out of my comfort zone, I started going at some Salsa courses with some friends of mine, this is a great opportunity to work on your AA, body language, kino with many different women since you are switching partner every 5/10 minutes or so. First time went well, I was focusing on the dance learning, talked a bit with lots of women, got one of them to congratulate me on my dancing ("great for a first timer !" or something like that, I don't remember what I answered but nothing special, and then we switched partner). After the course is a open party for dancing, but I was only with male friends and the people there were dancing SO well (advanced level, nothing I can do) there was no way in hell I could go in there dancing, so we watched a little bit and then we left (all my friends were beginners like me) and promised ourself to come back because it was so fun (it really was !)

Second time is when it starts getting interesting, all my friends flakes out on me for some (valid) reasons, and I hesitate to go alone, since I need to do my groceries as there is nothing left for me to eat at home, but I say fuck it and go anyway, I arrive 5 minutes early, everyone is sitting around the room, people are wondering if this is the right room etc...I go put my jacket at one corner of the room and position myself my back to the wall and look at the people around, I notice this girl alone (HB7), and out of the blue, I open her, asking her to confirm if this is the right place, turns out she was here last week, and she kinda remembers me, and I start remembering as well, turns out she is the girl who congratulated me last week, great !! But she doesn't actually remember that, we talk a little, but nothing too interesting, her two friends come while we are talking, HB7 interrupts our conversation and say hi, one of the incoming girl notice I was talking with her friend so she gives me a nod, and I do the same, but the HB7 kinda ignores me, she doesn't introduce me, turn her back on me and get into a discussion with her friends about her new dress, I stick around for a couple seconds to see what's happening, and since nothing happens, I eject (what could I have done ? feel kinda down).

I look around again, and I see this other girl alone as well, standing next to my jacket, decide to try the same routine on her (is this the right place ? etc...). I look at her, and she looks at me, and she looks away. I approach, and she sees me, but right when I get next to her, I decide to play a little before opening (build tension ?) and get my jacket, right next to her, to empty my stuff in it (cellphone, keys, etc..). While I do this, even before I get to open her, she opens me (omg) in english (this happens in France btw) asking me if this is the right place, I answer her (luckily for me, my spoken english is quite good), and we start talking, turns out this his her second time as well, and her friends flaked the same as mine, we tell our stories, I look at her more closely, she looks like a 9 but she don't have much meat, I don't know how to rate her. Before the lesson starts, we agree to go to the free party after the lesson, and I am freaking out inside of me because I DONT KNOW HOW TO DANCE I am going to make a fool of myself ! But I ignore this and just go on the flow, we start the first 5 minutes together and it's obvious she is much better than I but I manage to remain composed and do a decent job at this (even if I consider myself to be ok/good at salsa considering it's my second time, I am overall a dancer with no/low experience, she did some Salsa lessons outside of this place as well, and she knows a lot of other dances so she is obviously much more comfortable with dancing). Then we swap partner and the lessons goes on for another hour.

At the end of the lesson, I don't want to seem to eager to meet the girl, so I pass some time and send a text to my friend telling him he is missing some great fun, and after a minute, I go back to the girl asks if she is still interested in dancing, she says yes, ask me the same, I say yes, we go in ! I guess we are both a little nervous, so we look at the dancers a bit, and she offers me to take a smoke outside, I say ok, we talk a little, I talk about my friend (social proof) who is a great dancer and told me the best way to get better is to practice at those party, even though you will make a fool of yourself for the couple first times, turns out she is a model, I say I am a computer engineer and she says it's funny, people in my line of work are usually not very social (no shit !). I tell her I am not like the people in my line of work, I love to go out of my comfort zone, basically when something scares me, I do it ! Staying home to play cards with friends, not scared, not doing that unless I have nothing else to do, going out with people I barely know, scared, I do it ! (If there are some other people like me, this is a great advice, try it sometime). She shows me a couple moves she learned at her other salsa lesson, and I start to realize/internalize how much of a fool I am going to look when dancing with her with my barely two hours of experience in dancing. I totally ignore this fact, and we go dance. As expected, I make a food of myself, dance like shit, feels like shit, but keep my composure (fake it till you make it!), try to do some fun stuff but she stops me soon and say I don't look like I am ok (she must have seen through the composure, or doesn't really enjoy dancing with me, whatever). I turn kinda beta and says she dances much better than I, and jokingly says she should probably lead the dance, not I. We decide to watch a little and talk a bit again, random stuff but I try to make it interesting, I manage to grab her number when we talk about going to other lessons (didn't over think this, we said something like we should meet up for dance another day, got my cell phone out and told her to enter her number), and I find a funny nickname to remember her by, and tell her so, I read this somewhere here. Another guy walks in, she knows him, they dance together, he dance like a fucking god, I keep my composure and smile, say I want to be able to dance like him, he leaves a little after. We see another kind of dance, we try it, I fail again, this time she grabs a girls passing by, ask her to show me, she shows me (she spins me like I am the girl, lol). I say ok, dance with the HB9 again, do better, we keep alternating between watching people dance, memorizing the steps, and then trying it out on the dancefloor. Then everyone stops dancing, and they start some kind of hip hop music, and some people starts some sort of choreography, people start joining, I tell HB9 to come give it a with me, she says she doesn't know the steps so she can't go, I say I don't know neither but I go anyway ! I do my stuff, have some fun. It ends, people go back to dancing, I tell her I am hungry and I want to grab something to eat, I totally expect her to say she wants to stay until the end, probably dancing with boys much hotter and much better dancer than I, but NO !

She says she is hungry as well, we move place, we discuss, turns out she has a boyfriend, she looks at me to see my reaction, I don't give a fuck and ignore this as my goal wasn't to f-close her, I wasn't in the mood, and I didn't feel sexually alpha at all because of dance fail, also I started to genuinely like her so I was ok just having a good time, we talked some more, she talks to me about all the famous people she met and the other model she hangs out with, but tells me she has such a hard time making regular friends, and that all her friends only go to restaurant with famous people or clubbing, I tell her I'll bring her to play some pools/darts/bowling, she happily agrees because apparently, she never gets to do this stuff (wtf ???) her bf calls her when she orders, nothing special. We eat and agree to meet up later for dancing.

Once month ago, I wouldn't even have started going to those Salsa lessons, and if I did, I probably wouldn't have gone alone, and if I had managed to bring some friends with me, I would probably have talked to them (this is a problem I have btw, I can't stand going alone at bars, and when I go with friends, sometimes they are not interested in opening sets/meeting new people, so I just talk to them, I need a wingman !) instead of going out of my way to talk to strangers, and I would have never met this girl.

Thank you seddit :)

Will edit and add details tomorrow, I need to sleep now

tl;dr : Went out of my comfort zone, didn't loose composure and tried to have fun, #closed a model