I think this is a common problem in the community, if I don't care about a girl, ie I'm on a date with someone else (or any other reason a girl doesn't seem available, like she is with someone else) and there are other HB's around, I can be the life of the fucking party when I'm not concerned with the "other" HB's.

My problem is when that a girl that I didn't think was a possible target before now becomes a real possibility my whole mindset changes and I clam up.

When before, if I was under the assumption there was no possibility for hook-up, I can talk to her soooo much easier, be cocky funny, and generally not give a shit.

But like I said, once there is a possibility, my whole mindset changes and I can't be the confident guy anymore...how do you change this? TLDR: How do you not give a fuck when you really do give a fuck?