friend zoned and kind want to get out of it...help me seddit

2011-10-05T01:28:46+00:00

Make your intentions known with no ambiguity. You find her physically attractive. Like a good writer: show, don't tell.

Do it with actions. Touch her like a friend, then as a brother, then as a lover. Tickle fight her, put your arm around her. Scratch her head like she's a little sister. Kiss her,if she rejects you, she rejected you. Start on the low end, then ramp up to the exciting parts. Each step at a time ask if the next action makes you feel a certain level of nervousness. If you can't kiss her, do the next most obvious thing that will single "I'm into you and acting on it. If you want to break it off, do so now. Until then, I'm assuming you're into it."

You can only do everything right on your side. Ultimately all relationships are consensual if they are healthy. Get the no, or yes. Then live you life with the result. If you've never been rejected it will hurt. First failures always hurt. First D's, first failed rep at the gym and first approaches. The first approach hurts the worst. But you'll learn that it isn't so bad. Your monkey brain likes being in groups and doesn't realize how many fish there are in the sea. There is no rational reason for rejection to hurt, only an irrational evolutionary one.

Realize this, make a goddamn move, and live.

2011-10-05T00:51:41+00:00

Start to go physical more, harder, and purposeful. Try not to hang out with her as much. Make hanging out with her a once in a while kind of deal. I don't know how often you hang out with her, but reduce the amount.

The key is to make the time you spend with her more physical and less about comfort building. This will hopefully get her more attracted to you. But you can never FORCE her to like you man(Awesome Bruce Almighty reference). Remember that and good luck my friend.

Nexism · 2011-10-05T01:20:19+00:00

Sorry to break the news, it's pretty damn hard at this stage.

2011-10-05T05:29:32+00:00

Shes just doing stuff with other guys and then using you for affection. She might fuck them, call you over and then cuddle with you. Maybe. Thats what I think anyways. Sounds like oneitis to me.

2011-10-05T00:51:42+00:00

Stop treating her like a friend and like any other girl off the street you have a romantic interest in. A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to have it both ways- they want a shot at the romantic side without risking the "friendship" (is it really a true friendship if you want to get with the girl)?

You really need to be willing to not be her friend anymore if she sticks to her guns about seeing you as a "brother", which is also bullshit since she almost certainly knows you like her. Your odds are already pretty low of flipping her if she really does sees you as a friend, but you're dead in the water if you don't commit to stop dealing with her if you are rejected by her.

Title	friend zoned and kind want to get out of it...help me seddit
Author	tp1205
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	October 5, 2011 12:09 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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