Ok guys, got a throwaway just to use this subreddit. I've lurked a bit and you seem like a nice but honest community, and frankly I probably need both.
I'm a guy who got in a relationship when still young (17) that lasted til about 5 months ago. Am 24 now, so basically spent most of my developmental years with one person. Tried rebounding and dated this girl for a while who messed me about and has made me feel like shit for the last 3 months. After a month of dating and it seemingly going well she cuts me off, tells me she isn't ready for a relationship and 2 months later enters a serious relationship with someone else, who according to mutual friends is short, boring and ugly. This has smashed my confidence, which has never been all that high as I had a pretty messed up childhood. Having spent too long moping over what will never be I thought 'fuck this shit' and hence I am here now, but don't know where to start.
First of all I am always being told I am good looking, particularly by female friends, and they always wonder why rather than doing 'the best' of my friends regarding women and relationships I am doing the worst. Though due to a lack of confidence I don't believe them I have been picked out a couple of times on the street to do modelling and stuff, so I can't be too bad looking. In fact one or two times that I've tried to chat a girl up they are very defensive and accuse me of being a player or say 'I bet you have a lot of women do what you want', when the opposite couldn't be more true.
Furthermore friends have commented that I always make a good impression, and again female friends have said that they have started out attracted to me when first meeting me, but that in the end they never saw me as someone they wanted to sleep with, or even if they did for a while, not someone they saw themselves being with. So often I open well, but when it comes to the critical point blow it. I've also been told I'm shit at knowing when people are into me, and often blow it assuming that they're not.
I've read quite a lot of stuff recommended on here and sites like fastseduction101 like The Game, the Mystery Method, some of Gambler's stuff, David De Angelo etc., but I am at a stage at the moment where nothing is going right for me, be it with women, university, money etc and I want to get it sorted. I have clinical depression which I've been told to learn to live with as it doesn't react well to medication, so I don't know if this is a factor, if anyone else here has had it affect them but hasn't let it affect their game a heads up would be cool!
Forgive this long self-indulgent post, probably way too much information, particularly away from my 'game', but do any of you guys know the best way to get out of this rut? I've read and tested material but it just doesn't stick. If I've used this subreddit inappropriately by the way let me know and I'll repost where it's appropriate.
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