seduction got me an fwb....now i dont feel like gaming

puaCurveBall · 2011-11-05T20:26:59+00:00

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=== Free Advice:

Have some willpower man, you can keep the FWB but you need to force yourself to get out there.

This will keep the FWB more stable (showing you have other girls and limiting your time), and you more happy.

EtovNowd · 2011-11-06T20:09:08+00:00

You learned seduction for the wrong reason (You haven't really learned seduction by the way):

You don't learn seduction to get girls. You learn seduction because it's a mission of self-improvement. Look at it this way, you don't set a goal in your head of "I want to be a successful businessman" and then stop pursuing it once you get a part-time time job at Taco Bell. Or saying you want to get in shape and then stop going to the gym when you lost ten pounds.

The reason you have no desire to continue is the fact that you have the wrong mission statement in your head when you set to learn seduction; you're mindset was probably "I want to learn seduction to get laid". You mission statement should've been something like:

I want to learn seduction because:

It will help me be comfortable speaking to strangers.
It will give me confidence to internally give myself higher value, and stop seeking it from others.
It will allow me to feel comfortable in strange places.
It will allow me to slowly but surely conquer whatever fears I may have.

Seduction is more about personal growth than it is about getting laid. Otherwise, you're doing it wrong.

FYI, I don't disagree that perhaps the increase in sex gives you less motivation to seek out more, but you should use that to your advantage. You should be going out even more and embracing failure even more because it won't matter anyways if you get rejected by those girls. You got one at home. This should be your time to experiment.

tl;dr Having an FWB isn't an excuse to sop pursuing seduction. It should be used to improve your game by going out there and experimenting with new methods. Change your mission statement.

Title	seduction got me an fwb....now i dont feel like gaming
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Date	November 5, 2011 5:35 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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