When do I ask her about her intentions?

Zero36 · 2011-12-18T19:35:27+00:00

Show her your interest, don't ask. Make it clear when u take her out, you are going on dates and not hanging out. The sidebar could really help here but definitely avoid asking. Girls take a little time to gauge themselves and their interest in you and asking only pressures them, usually negatively.

Plus you've only met her just last night. You're statement "she's so amazing" is showing a little AFC attitude considering u JUST met her. Take your time to get to know her better. Remember it's a game. It's always a game. And sometimes playing it right is always better than trying to "win" right away

balinx · 2011-12-18T19:38:32+00:00

You'd be better off focussing on reducing the time between seeing her again, rather than raising issues that will put burden of expectations on when you do next meet.

2011-12-19T02:41:31+00:00

Ask nothing, that gives her power and she should have zip.

Also, you care too much, and so long as you do, situation is hopeless.

Just escalate and be aloof.

2011-12-18T21:21:16+00:00

Hey Inzight, to put it into perspective, you don't know with absolute certaintity that she's amazing, you just met her. The chemistry you had in that night was amazing, but you didn't get to see her in the morning after, you know? So don't get one-itis, fall into a scarcity mindset or do anything that'll make you come across as needy. I myself usually wait until I see what's on her DVR at home to decide if she is amazing or not.

I personally wouldn't ask a girl I just met her intentions, because again you don't know her, you wouldn't want to cancel all your plans and start a LTR with someone you only knew for a night would you?

My advice is to go meet other girls, and then when she's okay to hang out again hang out with her.

puaCurveBall · 2011-12-18T18:39:29+00:00

This might belong in /r/askseddit as it is about a specific girl, however going to allow it as discussion might be more general about when is a good time to clarify the situation.

I don't think it is ever too early to talk about this, but it depends if you are talking from a place of neediness or where you will be 100% ok either way, but want things clarified.

2011-12-18T21:15:14+00:00

Don't worry about it.

rustoof · 2011-12-19T01:33:54+00:00

Don't. Your intentions matter. Hers don't

OverTheNeptune · 2011-12-18T19:08:13+00:00

I would suggest going out with her a couple times before bringing it up. After a few dates, you can usually get a pretty good feel for what her intentions are.

_valtiel_ · 2011-12-18T20:59:25+00:00

You should ask her straight up. IF she's fucking or not.

That is a legit question, at least it should be. :-(

Title	When do I ask her about her intentions?
Author	Inzight
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	December 18, 2011 5:06 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/nhfhj/when_do_i_ask_her_about_her_intentions/
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