Your identity is just who you are at this particular moment in time.

TofuTofu · 2012-04-02T20:59:57+00:00

Really long article, but some fantastic points about what it really means to be studying seduction. I highly recommend you guys give it a read.

TimofeyPnin · 2012-04-02T21:45:04+00:00

Interesting arguments, but presented dripping with misogynist condescension.

I often challenge people on the knee-jerk reaction to the pua community based on assumptions of misogyny, but this article, with its references to "the Matriarchy," and explanation that a man learning how to socialize is the equivalent of a woman dressing well is in part why seddit sometimes has an 'image problem.' No, broseph. Learning how to rock Italian suedes and a well-cut blazer is the equivalent of high heels and spanx, and saying that learning social skills is the male equivalent of a pushup bra is tantamount to saying that tits are the female equivalent of brains. And seriously? The matriarchy is oppressing you? That's right up there with Obama death camps.

The core of his arguments, that identity is a social construct and men need to stop bitching about wanting women to just love the 'real' you, is solid. Learn how to present yourself well, and you'll do well. An interesting corollary this essay unintentionally illustrates though, is that whether you're aware of them or not, your biases show to other people.

thecajunone · 2012-04-03T06:23:17+00:00

Justifying your unwillingness to improve your life by claiming to be “authentic” or “being yourself” is just a lie you tell yourself to protect your ego.

Fucking love it. I'd definitely recommend this article.

2012-04-03T16:59:02+00:00

A poor article; it makes it seem as the 'alpha' in the pua community is equivalent to the captain of the football team. You can be alpha without being a raging dickhead, actually that's kind of the point

Title	Your identity is just who you are at this particular moment in time.
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Date	April 2, 2012 6:00 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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