Getting Out of the Friend Zone Coming Home?

sinking_sunk · 2012-04-27T09:52:13+00:00

Of course. It shouldn't be too difficult. I assume you haven't had a physical relationship before with the girl and you're starting from scratch.

Primarily, you need to focus on three concepts. First, define how she has changed. Create a persona of who YOU are after college. Third, you need to PLAN triggers of your previous relationship before college to fire off at the appropriate times.

1) So you're both coming back from college as two different people. Sure, you've talked, but now this is in person. You need to find out how she was newly defined by the experience. Did she party non-stop? Was she stressed out by the classes? Gather information of how she has changed.
2) Once you get a rough outline of who she has become, you want to mirror those changes. You need to establish value comparable to her current value expectations. This is not simply agreeing with what she says, but showing her that you're on the same level (or higher) of her personal growth. For example, if she talks about parties then have some crazier stories ready about your parties. As a college guy, project confidence and a wise understanding of the world. Basically, you don't want to give her the feeling that she's "out-grown" you. People don't want to move backwards in relationships.
3) Once you've established yourself as a experienced college guy and thus established proper value, you need to build rapport. Recall shared stories of the past. Bonus if these are about relationships/hooking up, etc.

Now how to cross that line? Well, just admit you once had a crush on her. Do it offhand, and without emotion. Sort of like a funny memory. Make it seem like you may not have it anymore. She how she responds. Find small negs to explain why you don't have it anymore. If she's into it, she'll start qualifying herself to address the negs.

Title	Getting Out of the Friend Zone Coming Home?
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Upvotes	4
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Date	April 27, 2012 6:18 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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