Hey all,

I’ve been steeped in this literature for a bit and have to admit some recent success. I’m feeling more confident and more open to social interaction. The only thing I’m having a problem with is many of the guides/posts seem to encourage being ‘the life of the party’ or the center of attention, being very loud, etc. I have friends who act very loud in public, to the point of making others uncomfortable, and I usually feel like the wet blanket calming down then out of concern for others.

Moreover, I sort of feel like that’s at odds with my personality and profession (white collar, measured and deliberate is generally the preferred personality type). Is this more energetic / loud behavior generally accepted to be necessary to advance my skills beyond the beginner stage or are there more ‘laid back’ approaches I can adopt?

Thanks!