I was thinking about shit-tests. I wonder what if they’re not tests, but rather an indicator that she isn’t interested in you. If you cold-approach a woman who isn’t interested in you, she may be nice to you or she may be mean. If she’s mean, then she’ll probably insult you and make fun of you. PUA logic dictates that this is merely a test to see if you have what it takes. Most women don’t need to verbally attack a man to see if he is their type. A few minutes of conversation are all it takes. If she’s interested in casual sex, then it takes even less time. So if she’s verbally abusing you, take the hint. I’m sure it’s true that some women engage in sarcastic banter because that’s just the way they relate to others, but I think few women actually engage in this type of communication as a means of testing a man.

If a woman acts like a bitch and undermines your manhood, is that a test? Or is she just being an abusive cunt? What makes the most sense; that she wants to experience your masculine polarity or that she despises you? Personally, I think the only reason deflecting or non-responsiveness works is because it doesn’t escalate the nastiness. Most relationship advice suggests that when one person argues or insults the other, it is best to diffuse the tension with humor or calmness. So when a PUA is “shit-tested” his humor and calmness will get favorable results, not because he passed the test, but because he diffused the tension.

Just on the surface of it, a woman who is being dismissive leads one to conclude, “She’s not into you.” It takes some mental gymnastics to say, “She’s testing you to see if you can handle her.” This is not to say that there aren’t some women who play these games. I just think it’s silly to think that when a woman insults you, it means she likes you on the condition that you can respond in a manner that she deems appropriate. Of course, depending on her demeanor and body language, what sounds like a shit-test on the surface, could just be her flirting style. But again, why be a bitch when being nice gets you farther?

It should be apparent that a woman sizes you up fairly quickly (roughly 3 minutes). If a woman is undermining your “game” after 3 minutes, “she no like you”. Please note, there’s a difference between, “OMG, you so nasty” and “You are gross”. Yet in the world of PUA/Seduction, these two phrases are equivalent as shit-tests. The reason a women would call you out in such a terse manner is because you failed to see that she has no interest in you and yet you continue to pursue (like a sex-starved, little bitch). Think about it: imagine some bum on the street asks you for change and yet despite your resistance, the bum continues to ask. How are you likely to react? Probably, “get the fuck away from me!” It doesn’t matter how smooth the bum is, he ain’t getting your change if you’re determined to keep it.

The best thing you can do is learn how to gauge a woman’s interest in you. This will save you time and effort. The only quicker way would be to indiscriminately hit on every girl you come across and be as direct as possible. And I think this is the heart of the problem with most men who can’t seem to get laid: they fail to see the signs of attraction in women or fail to act on those signs (personally, my problem has been acting on those signs). In this regard, the idea of shit-tests only serves to skew men’s perception of female interest even more.