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It's going to feel silly at first but watch a movie (by yourself) featuring an actor with an uber-masculine voice and imitate him. Loudly. With confidence. It's ridiculous. But it honestly helps. Also, record yourself talking and practice talking slower and deeper with confidence. Try talking with old ladies and women who aren't intimidating (overweight/unattractive) and get comfortable with it. The most important thing, and I stress: STOP READING AND START TALKING. the more you do it, the more …
/r/seduction13/04/13 06:23 PM
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Don't let it fizzle out by waiting a week. Attraction has an expiration date. Send a brief text saying something along the lines of "I'm going to ______. You should join me". Don't make plans with her, invite her along for something you're already doing so it doesn't matter whether she shows or not.
/r/seduction13/04/13 06:16 PM
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Gauge her reaction to you, if she is smiling and making eye contact then move your face closer to hers and while still gauging her reaction, go in for the kiss. Honestly don't worry about it, it's just a kiss.
/r/seduction13/04/13 04:58 PM
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shit testing a guy is also a passive-aggressive way to reject and push inferior men away. FTFY she is testing your boundaries. If she finds out you are the type of guy she can walk all over, she will surely do so. If she tries to knock you down or make you submissive or do favors for her and you respond to this with assertive masculinity in a fun playful way that still exerts your dominance and keeps you in control of the situation, she wont be able to resist you.
/r/seduction05/05/12 10:42 AM
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LULZ, YAH DOOD QUIT YR JOB CUZ YR COWORKERS R FAGGITS HURR HURR ...isn't there a r/brodudes subreddit you can go hang in?
/r/seduction05/05/12 10:33 AM
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Carpe Noctem, my friend. Seize the Night(life) FTFY ;)
/r/seduction05/05/12 10:27 AM
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It is OK to have high standards but don't let that stop you from talking to everyone and anyone. ONE approach a day isn't nearly enough. You can't spend the day looking for the hottie of your dreams and only approach her and expect things to go smoothly. Start chatting with EVERYONE. Small talk with cashiers, people in line, co-workers, people in the elevator, men, women, young, old, attractive, and ugly. The principles of starting a conversation with anyone are the same as meeting that total ho…
/r/seduction05/05/12 09:55 AM
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If a girl blows up your phone for a week and you don't give her the courtesy of giving her a call back or progressing, she's going to assume you aren't interested and move on. It is good to make them chase you a bit but you have to push AND pull to make things happen. Live a busy life and fill your schedule with interesting plans so when she calls, you aren't blowing her off just to be the cool guy PUA, you have other plans that are more of a priority than she is. That's not rude, that's being a…
/r/seduction05/05/12 09:31 AM
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If you want to look at it in evolutionary terms, oneitus is sort of related to the brain's inability to understand very large numbers. There are over 118,000,000 women in the USA and over 27,000,000 have never married (according to the 2000 census). That's a whole lot of single women. Obviously, the number of attractive, interesting women is far less than 27 million but my point is oneitus is the result of an evolutionary flaw that makes us bad at judging the size and scope of our options and po…
/r/seduction05/05/12 09:16 AM
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Well yea that helps too but I meant drink some caffeine to offset the sleepiness of smoking before going out.
/r/seduction06/09/11 09:09 PM
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It's relaxing but when talking to a girl you are interested in, you don't want to be (overly) relaxed and introspective, you want to be lively and talkative and in the moment. Weed is great for hanging out with the guys or relaxing with someone you are already involved with but it's not good to get too stoned before trying to be social because most people end up in their heads overanalyzing everything. PROTIP: If you DO smoke before getting social with people, keep it below a [5] and drink some …
/r/seduction06/09/11 02:31 PM
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I'm working on a bucket list too. Mine includes: * living through a serious earthquake * learning how to juggle * visiting all 50 states * having sex with a whole room full of people watching * get my music on iTunes * get my music to chart on iTunes It goes on.....
/r/seduction24/08/11 09:52 AM
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This isn't quite a neg. This can be used sort of like a neg if you give a hot girl a slightly insulting nickname but the point is to give a cute funny nickname related to her or a shared experience, which could increase her feeling of closeness to you.
/r/seduction22/08/11 07:28 PM
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Agreed. I think the biggest thing for me was not letting rejection or failure effect my sense of self worth or confidence. Before I'd invest too much emotion into a girl I was into and be super let down when it didn't work. Now I realize that if she's not into me, there was either something I could have done better game-related or she just simply isn't into me (and I want a girl who IS into me).
/r/seduction22/08/11 04:58 PM
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A female wing. Show up to a party arm & arm with a girl buddy and girls there will notice and compete. It works.
/r/seduction22/08/11 06:15 AM
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You won't get there by reading, you have to put yourself out there and meet as many people as possible. Every interaction is a learning experience and learning how to exude high value and avoid clingyness/neediness will take you a long way.
/r/seduction21/08/11 04:47 PM
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Thnx dawg
/r/seduction21/08/11 04:44 PM
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Maybe 2/3 months of reading before I actually started actually trying stuff out instead of making excuses (ie: she probably has a bf, I'm too tired, excuses, excuses) Once I started opening up and acting like I don't give a fuck, practicing assertive masculinity & being confident that I AM awesome, reinforced by some girls telling me I was cute and getting some positive feedback... Things clicked. I brought three girls home from the bar, three nights in a row and I started feeling unstoppable. O…
/r/seduction21/08/11 04:43 PM
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When you first meet a girl and get into her you can often subconsciously downplay her negative qualities & amplify her positive qualities. For me, I was settling for someone without big life goals, who was fine working a crappy fast food job and was too afraid to open up to something deeper than a casual relationship. what I saw in her at the time was a hottie that was great in bed and fun to smoke trees with and hang. Looking back, she was cool but not really what I'm looking for. It takes conf…
/r/seduction21/08/11 03:50 PM
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Anyway, grinding with dubstep is acceptable, especially the 87 bpm stuff. Yes it's easy to mistake friendliness for flirting but hippie girls tend to be more promiscuous than the general population so assume attraction and flirt like hell.
/r/seduction05/08/11 05:10 AM
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Dubstep on Wednesday? You don't live in New Haven do you?
/r/seduction05/08/11 02:07 AM
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I'm typically like 2 a year but it's really not too bad at all if you do it once every other month.
/r/seduction05/08/11 02:03 AM
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E is for excellent, just don't do it every weekend.
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:09 PM
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Why downvote links to other websites? there's a lot of valuable information out there on seduction and seddit is the perfect place to share that information and discuss it.
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:05 PM
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GREAT analogy. Seriously something to remember.
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:03 PM
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From what I've read it seems like it helps you identify the psychological reasons behind why you want to smoke instead of just trying to treat the physical aspects of cravings with nicorette or the like.
/r/seduction04/08/11 09:06 PM
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That sounds magical! I'm a singer so more breath support is def a motivating factor.
/r/seduction04/08/11 09:03 PM
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DHV to other men maybe but probably not to women, at least consciously.
/r/seduction04/08/11 06:54 PM
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I'm reading THIS right now, it helped my buddy quit.
/r/seduction04/08/11 06:54 PM
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Yea I guess it only really becomes an issue if you are trying to get into a relationship. Thanks for the reply
/r/seduction04/08/11 06:14 PM
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You don't have to be a dick about it. Edit: also, Gum, teeth whitening strips, cologne. I have a good job so $50 a week in cigs isn't a big deal, especially when paying $5 a drink at the bar... Yes being addicted isnt the best thing & long term health risks are obvious but it's not like I smoke TO meet girls, it's just that I often do meet cool ones while smoking. Everyone who smokes knows it's not healthy but they do it anyway because it is pleasurable for them. You make it sound like all smoke…
/r/seduction04/08/11 06:04 PM
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What a prop, this is gold.
/r/seduction04/08/11 05:54 PM
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This is a really great idea. Not only do I see some health benefits from not smoking real cigs but it's way more interesting than normal smokes.
/r/seduction04/08/11 05:53 PM
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No I really enjoy smoking but I feel like I SHOULD quit for health reasons and because I'm a singer. Maybe this post is my subconscious searching for more reasons to quit to get motivated?
/r/seduction04/08/11 05:51 PM
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I dated a girl recently who LOVED to smoke weed. We would start smoking a joint and start hooking up while it was still burning, passing it back and forth while we took turns going down on each other. After this happened a bunch of times, we started rolling a joint and we wouldn't light it until we were already fucking. As a stoner, this was magical. At the same time, she USED to smoke cigarettes and didn't like when I did though she didn't give me too much of a hard time about it. I considered …
/r/seduction04/08/11 05:04 PM
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Until I got into seduction I almost LIKED when a girlfriend was acting motherly and taking control and I couldnt figure out why those relationships went stale. A woman can only fulfill the role of a lover OR a mother to her man and if she acts like a mother, attraction and relationship momentum goes right out the window. The man must lead and be able to be completely independent without relying on his woman for emotional validation or motivation for self improvement.
/r/seduction04/08/11 04:45 PM
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Check for sores. No sores? Good to go.
/r/seduction04/08/11 05:15 AM
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If you're already getting laid all the time and being successful with the women you desire, congratulations. If not, "being yourself" is the worst dating advice known to man.
/r/seduction31/07/11 06:39 PM
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I just downloaded HTWFAIP and read the first chapter, good shit!
/r/seduction31/07/11 01:52 AM
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If they aren't explicitly officially exclusive, it's not her business.
/r/seduction31/07/11 01:49 AM
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Def discuss afterwards, if at all.
/r/seduction30/07/11 07:28 PM
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*after you fuck.
/r/seduction30/07/11 07:22 PM
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And men are attracted to younger women. I guess that's why I keep going for girls that are 5+ years younger than me.
/r/seduction30/07/11 07:04 PM
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I might actually buy his book.
/r/seduction28/07/11 03:26 PM
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I thought this post was going to be about approaches and the 3 second rule. With someone you are seeing, you have more of a window to make a move but the longer you hesitate, the more it seems you don't have the confidence to be bold and take control of the situation. Hesitating and second guessing is a sign that you aren't very comfortable with women and you are unsure of your own worth. Not to hijack your thread but I think this applies for approaches too. The 3 second rule is important becaus…
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:58 PM
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To a certain extent, yes. Don't let her flakiness effect your inner game and don't get upset over it. With that said, as PUAs we should analyze every failure to see where we can improve. Every failure is an opportunity to get better and having a "fuck her, it's her loss" mentality can get in the way of learning from your mistakes. Don't let it bother you & take the opportunity to learn from every failure.
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:41 PM
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GirlsChase is chock full of good stuff you don't see on other pua sites. He has a deep deep understanding of social dynamics. I spent most of my evening last night reading a lot of the other posts on his site. I really like the stuff on getting past small talk and the art of the deep dive. Check it out!
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:30 PM
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"essentially exclusive" doesn't sound too serious. He shouldn't lie to the "exclusive" girl but he also shouldn't stop pursuing other girls until it's absolutely clear that the original girl wants to be serious and exclusive (and you do too). If not, game on.
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:06 PM
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Pivots can be really helpful in this circumstance. A lot of us are former AFC's and as we develop our Game, there are plenty of girls that we will not be entirely successful with. instead of never talking to them again, become friends with the hot ones that are cool enough to hang out with and show up at parties and at clubs together. You can run game on them for fun while you reinforce that they are in YOUR friendzone (even if they put you there) and develop your skills with no risk.
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:00 PM
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Push pull. Girls may say "we're moving too quickly" but it's just an anti slut defense. She doesn't want to feel like she's giving it up too easily so she'll say things like that to justify the fact that you're moving quickly. When that happens, keep a "no problem" look on your face and back off. Then continue escalation. She will stop you when she wants you to but using this technique can def overcome ASD & LMR.
/r/seduction28/07/11 01:48 PM
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Yes, calibration is key. But you should really make an effort to make more than 30 friends. Facebook should be an extension of your ACTUAL social network (not the online one) not a replacement for one. Get social and start making friends. Game can help you make friends with both guys and girls and you can never be friendly with too many people. When you show up somewhere and you know everyone's name... Huge DHV.
/r/seduction28/07/11 01:16 AM
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ooo ooo throw some framing in there too: "you seem to be like someone who likes to be in control but I bet sometimes you enjoy going with the flow and just letting things happen"
/r/seduction27/07/11 08:02 PM
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Great! "i can tell that you tend to be a very social person but sometimes you just like to do your own thing" Am I doing it right?
/r/seduction27/07/11 07:55 PM
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So if 99% of cold reading is actually hot reading than why do we still call it cold reading? I think any variation of cold/hot reading involves making some intuitive guesses about a persons personality based on generalities that tend to be true about a lot of girls.
/r/seduction27/07/11 06:55 PM
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I'm just saying, it's easier than I expected to talk in generalities and create the image that you totally know what you're talking about, even if you don't. Yes, she's fickle. Many girls are.
/r/seduction27/07/11 05:22 AM
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No, do both! I love smoking a little bit (not to the point that I'm so ripped I don't feel like running) and putting some headphones on to space out to some sweet music and run run run! You lose track of time and totally enjoy it more! I usually run until the album is over which usually ends up being about 45 min to an hour.
/r/seduction27/07/11 01:10 AM
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I also recently changed my Seddit username recently. My main account has karma galore but I like this user name better. Social calibration is what it's all about. Learning how much to push, how much to pull, when to be flirty, when to seem indifferent... Seduction can be a lot of conflicting advice but the trick is learning how to calibrate your self until you can find the right mix and apply game with grace.
/r/seduction26/07/11 11:26 PM
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That's definitely a possibility. The next time I hang out with them I will gauge 8's interest a little more and go from there. Threesome is unlikely. I don't want to mess it up by getting greedy. If 8's interested than maybe...
/r/seduction26/07/11 09:35 PM
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Hah did you really create a novelty account for that?
/r/seduction26/07/11 08:21 PM
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Great job. I think one thing that is key is you went to the CS meetup to have a good time, not specifically for pickup. Your body language did not come across as someone on the prowl and the girls were attracted to your lack of initial direct interest in them. Displaying DHV by having a strong social presence in the 2nd bar, eliciting values and building comfort by talking about animals, quick escalation (meaning, not waiting til second date) and classic push-pull: a model sedditor. Newbies: tak…
/r/seduction26/07/11 01:30 PM
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It takes a real social retard to not be able to tell whether a woman is looking at you seductively or with disgust.
/r/seduction26/07/11 01:19 PM
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I've just recently realized the importance of eye contact in flirting and meeting girls in public. If you catch her gaze she's INVITING you to talk to her. If she wasn't, she'd look away quickly.
/r/seduction26/07/11 02:46 AM
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Definitely. I can game them both but not escalate physically until I decide which one I actually like. Just flirty kino and dancing. I will report back. Thanks for your well thought out response.
/r/seduction26/07/11 12:42 AM
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You can do it, the knowledge is available and it really does help.
/r/seduction25/07/11 11:52 PM
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Soooooo... What happened? The community is very happy you have benefitted from the knowledge you've learned but post a FR and show everyone what seduction concepts helped you in your pursuit so you can help others.
/r/seduction25/07/11 11:50 PM
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She loves you as a friend but her perception of you was already established from your AFC days. Don't look at it like she's rejecting YOU, look at it like she's rejecting your GAME (or former lack of it). You obviously have something going on if she's telling you she loves you but it's way easier to use those positive qualities to make a great first impression on a new girl than it is to change the perception of someone who already has their mind made up about you. So bottle up that bee hive of …
/r/seduction25/07/11 04:58 PM
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This is great advice. Sometimes you'll know when it's worth it to be persistent but be careful to never become more emotionally invested than she is. If you can continue to be persistent without making it your only option, you will be free to show her you are into it without seeming like you want it too bad.
/r/seduction25/07/11 04:48 PM
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