I got into game about 9 months ago... Slow success at first, a few number closes, nothing much. All of a sudden it clicked and I started getting lots of attention. My first real success was leaving the bar fingering two girls I just met in the backseat as their friends drove us to an after party. I fucked that one up almost instantly by getting two clingy on the girl I was interested in once we got to the party. I pursued her for a few weeks thinking she was giving me mixed signals before I gave up and made her a pivot. There's more girls out there, I thought. No oneitus!

So a week or two later, my pivot helped me attract a total hottie, total freak in bed & very much a kindred spirit. We had a Casual relationship that got kinda romantic after a few weeks, she backed off and I broke it off rather than chasing her. I thought she was exactly what I was looking for at the time but after leaving her I realized I was settling. She was happy with a low paying job, not going to college, living at home, and just hanging out all the time. fun for a short term fling but nothing worth investing energy in once she started backing off. I realized she was backing off because I started getting into it and being too affectionate. I had no relationship game but I wasn't about to dwell on the past and fix what was broken... THERES MORE GIRLS OUT THERE.

The first week or two were rough. She was soooo great in bed and it's so hard to voluntarily leave behind great sex. You just have to be confident that there are more options out there. I knew I'd find someone and sure enough, a month later I met an amazing girl and hit it off pretty quickly. It worked because at the time, I was pursuing around 6 girls simultaneously. I used to be a one girl at a time type of guy but that just leads to suffocation of the relationship. Since I finally had an abundance mentality, this time around, I gave her space and let her come to me. I finally found the balance. Now I am holding back just enough to make her want it but I feel like I can finally open up because this is a girl that I am legitimately interested in and she's interested in me for the same reasons. She's gorgeous and nerdy-cute at the same time, intelligent and cultured but also a party girl, we line up on so many things and have stayed up super late multiple times in this last week, talking all night about everything there is to talk about.

My point is, by gaining confidence and realizing self worth, I was able to leave behind connections that weren't working or sort of working, in search of something better and I totally found it. This new girl and I will probably end up boyfriend and girlfriend pretty soon and she is already hinting about it. She is a much better fit than any of my previous options and I never would have found her without Seddit and an abundance mentality.