Hey ya'll.

I've been going out a lot lately (not to nightclubs, not old enough) just with friends and girls and small get togethers and all that.

Often times I'll realize I'm stifled and not having as much fun as I could, and then just sit there and not do anything about it. It literally is so weird because I know I'm stifled but in that moment I just want to sit and think about how I'm stifled.

I find that validation gets me unstifled. I remember being pretty nervous around these 3 hot girls me and my buddy were chilling with, they had ditched us for these other guys but looked bored so we texted them and asked them if they wanted to come back to my place and they said yes. The second they said yes and came back with us I was in full teasing, cocky funny, kino, etc. mode. It just snapped me into it.

I want to get to the point where I don't need the initial validation to allow myself to become unstifled! In the moment it just seems like such a foreign thing to do! Any help?