Disclaimer: this is my first FR and English is not my native language.

Context: I have been going out for a little less than two months. This night was the best so far. I live in one big Brazilian capital, I am a native. I realize the culture here is a little different, but less than you may think. The men is expected to initiate, just as any other place I am aware of.

Started at home, some drinks to warm up, but not much. I have been more careful with this after I ruined some nights, also, I don’t need anymore, since my AA is in a lifetime low. Get to the club, alone, the DJ has not begun yet and people are on the lounge, second floor. Start to talk with pretty much every one, only skipping very large sets. Don´t stay too much with anyone, it is more to warm up and test the openness of the crowd. Some girls seem to be rude by nature, no matter what you do, rejection is a good thing. Most guys are very friendly, even the douchebags, especially if alone.

First K-close: I was on a darker part of the bar and a HB7 is passing by. I open her with something on the line of “beware around here, this is the dark alley of the place”. A little cheesy, I know, but started the conversation. She seemed to like the talking and was clever in the responses. Fun. Latter on, her friends, three other HBs (8s and 7s) join us. And this is were I think I got lucky, because I didn’t had to open the group, and they girls came introducing herselves to me like I was an old friend of the first HB. So it was higher value for free. In addition I think some competition started among then.
So I go downstairs, DJ started playing and the place is getting crowned. By this time I had found a wingman already, he was not afraid to open to, so we had some fun on the dancefloor. #-closed him (lol), because my other friends are either in a relationship or are AFCs (still).
I find the first HB group again, and start talking. They all look alike (blondes and fake blondes) except for one short hair brunette (HB-SH, an 8). I mention a detail on my shirt to one of the blonds and she says: “You should talk to her, she works with fashion”, pointing to the HB-SH. That's right, she made it easy to me by telling which one I should hit on. So I did, and the K-close came naturally after some minutes. Some heavy make out went on for more time. We talked from time to time. She was nice. Only issue is that she started to show some insecurities signs. First insisting to know my age, assuming I was much younger than she, but I am 32 (I look 25 maybe) and she is 33 (but also looks very fine). Then asking many times if she was too skinny. Finally she had to go to the bathroom and seemed afraid I would not wait for her. I mean, damn, if I didn’t consider her hot I would not be with her. I guess the frame was so strong on me being a hot guy (I consider myself only ok), that she got overwhelmed. After some more time she started to say she was drunk, which didn’t seem so. Finally she starts asking where I live, I say it is close, but then her friends came and took her, to go away. I guess I could had offered for us to go to my apartment, but I had some kind of mental block, I never had casual sex in my life, so I could not get assertive to it and ended up with her number. In any case, on Monday she managed to find me on Facebook and I will meet her tomorrow night for some drinks, let’s see how that goes. This is my first HB8 since I started with this seddit thing (the others were 7s and 6s), and paradoxically she seem to be the nicest. I just need to do something about her needy behavior.

Second K-close: This required more game. Before the first k-close I had already openned this girl, she was alone on the bar. After the HB-SH is gone she was there again (or still). She seemed bored, and I am confident, have nothing to lose, so start to talk, tell some funny stories, whatever comes to mind. She is and HB7.5, 27yo, architect, lives in the countryside and prefers brazilian country music (oh-god-why.gif) and is leaving tomorrow. Since I was not giving any answers easily she refuses to give me her name, np, her body language started to open slowly and escalated to finally have my two hand on the bar stand, with her in the middle. Went for the kiss, and she turns the face (thanks to seddit I was prepared, and stayed cool). Her friend appears, she is with another guy, and she invites us to go upstairs, where there are some couches. There she gives me her name, and this time I start kissing her neck first, create some tension and the k-close works. It was not even that good, compared with the first girl, but psychologically was more rewarding.

Then the same story. Her friend wants to go and I am left with a number. Just sent a text the next day wishing good trip, she responds saying it was nice meeting me and I don’t think I will see her again.

Burning down the place: it is almost five, and the club is like 70% desperate men. I decide to practice my givenofuckness and approach girls aggressively. Going straight for the waist, sometimes grabbing their hands and placing on my chest, those kinds of things that in the past I would not even dream doing. You may guess it didn’t work, if the few girls left were looking for something the would have got long before. So I gave up doing it and started going away. On the way I found two of the girls I was aggressive with and started a little convo, they were nice to me. Not in a flirting way, but not disturbed at all. So yes, strange as it seems I don’t think I came out as disrespectful to most of them.

3 lessons (I know they are not new): * Open everyone, you get momentum and sets are not fixed you can be surprised on who knows who. It is much easier when you are already part of it. * A bored girl in the bar can be a good bet, you just need to be conversational and cheer her up. * Give no fucks, act boldly, and you get respect.

TL;DR: Two k-closes, some random grinding and a promising date ahead.