Closing/escalating on Gigs/concerts

nursedre · 2013-01-03T16:20:46+00:00

Pick Up in the smoking area or bar, take back in to dance and go to the front, then use the crowd and energy to your advantage to close.

2013-01-03T16:44:04+00:00

This is my favorite way to meet girls, mostly because I love music and dancing. However, there is an entire art to it and it's very different than most other venues. I'm getting close to mastering it, but still have a lot to learn.

As you mentioned, you want to show interest in the girl while still having your eyes on the show and not coming off like your entire attention is on her. It's ok to dance next to her side by side for a while, maybe leaning in for a touch and to tell her something like how hard the band is jamming or how much fun you are having.

I will usually go in front of her and turn to face her while dancing just for like 30 seconds at a time or so. Make eye contact, smile, and dance with her, then return to dancing next to her. Never dance behind her unless she moves in front of you. Eventually you need to try to move in closer at some point if you want to go for a kiss. Usually if you have been dancing together for most of the show, getting a hug, a #, and a kiss right when the music ends is pretty easy.

JewpacShakur · 2013-01-03T14:08:08+00:00

In my opinion, it depends on the genre, but since you mentioned DJ's, i'm expecting your talking mainly in a dance party kind of genre. in my experience, this is the worst place to "pick up" a girl:

Guards are super high. groups of HBs are looking out for creepers around.
Because of that, that "stand behind her and move your hips" thing is extremely awkward and will lead to girls just asking you to leave.
75% of the girls at these shows are with guys already(as in they arrived with guys), which makes it difficult to spit regular game.

My best approach to this situation is to just have fun. dance however you want. when you approach, dance, talk about the artist, ask how they are doing ect...ect... try to join in there group by impressing them with your sweet skills. use breaks to initiate deeper conversations about their musical interests where they are from and the like.

Obviously, the best best bet is using gigs to ask girls who you already know.

HighGoGetter · 2013-01-03T20:56:28+00:00

This is my forte, so here goes:

Everything I say is super important and critical to your success. No steps can be skipped, srs.

Push through the crowd and get a spot infront of the HB's. It has to seem like you don't even know the HB's are there and are just looking for a spot to stand. Once you get in front of them, start dancing, smiling, laughing etc. Basically look like you're a ton of fun and having an amazing time. Start converstations with the people in front of you, for example "This DJ is Killing it RIGHT NOW!". or "Dude who's spinning right now? he's fucking great". Bonus points if you kino the people in front of you, Like a high five. Basic idea is to befriend everyone around you, still not noticing the HB's behind you, this is how you DHV at a gig. It's too loud to tell DHV stories, so it's all visual, or observed DHV's.

By now you've DHV'd, turn around like you've just noticed the HB's. (this whole time u should be dancing and having fun).

Now you can:

a) Give them a smile, and try to dance with them. If you DHV'd properly you should be fine.

b) or yell something witty and funny to one of the girls and try to dance with them. example, comment or neg about something they're wearing. (girls usually wear wild shit to concerts so use this to your advantage) or, challenge them to a "dance battle" and just dance with them. trade sun glasses or bracelets, Be creative.

*Tips: never approach from behind, FUCKING RAPIST!, and don't go right for booty grinding, dance face to face first. Only desperate rapists go straight for the booty.

*If the girl immediately goes to rub her butt on ur penis, (some will) neg her and say, 'stop rubbing your butt on me", Huge DHV, will make a good impression and seal the deal. Grab the girls hand, spin her around so you're now dancing face to face.

*Silly dance moves will make a girl laugh, but don't over do it.

*Once things escalate, stop dancing face to face, spin her around and grind on that booty. Girls love that lil spin move so use it to your advantage.

*If you suck at dancing, practice makes perfect. Just keep trying and eventually you'll be good at it. Like sex..

*As the night gets later, the girl to guy ratio will get worse and worse. Don't show up late, and get it cracking one you're in there.

Edit: I disagree with JewpacShakur, Nothing wrong with mixed sets, the atmosphere is amazing for meeting women.

koolaidman123 · 2013-01-03T18:01:35+00:00

If you met her early on in the night, get her number and set up for something later in the night or for a date. There isn't much you can do beyond that early on in the night. Like you said, the girls are there for the show, don't make them feel like they have to choose.

Tragedyz · 2013-01-04T06:34:21+00:00

Open up different sets man, you're not just there for one girl. Merge groups, get to know one group then merge two sets together after you get to know the other. It can be difficult at first, but just get out there and talk to people and have some conversations going, then move on to another group. Work the room, not just a girl. =)

KeroKeroKeroppi · 2013-01-03T18:54:21+00:00

You meet them in the smoking area. Have conversation, and go out for food afterwards, which then moves to the afterparty at your place.

Picking up ON the floor DURING the show, is extremely difficult.. But still doable. You approach from the side/front, dance for a few minutes, then say "lets get some air/have a smoke, etc" go to the smoking area, have a conversation, get the number, and make plans to get food after the show.

Title	Closing/escalating on Gigs/concerts
Author	putaneiro
Upvotes	17
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Date	January 3, 2013 12:59 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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