I'm a lurker here, but over the years, I read and watched almost everything there is. I was lazy, I didn't do my homework, but even then all seduction material helped me greatly, and I had some success.

Recently, I had a bad breakup, and decided to start to control things directly.

To solve my problems, I had to transform myself into something I'm not. yet.

I believe that, the way our body and mind works, while useful some time ago, is not working so well in the modern world. But we are an intelligent species. If we decide to change something, we can find very interesting and effective ways to make it happen. This happens all the time, we hack the way the nature works, and use it to our advantage. Example: Only hunters or warriors get big, muscular bodies, so we lie to our body, and say "hey, I need more muscles here and here, cause you see, I'm using them a lot". There, we invented working out, we invented gym. Now we don't need to wrestle with bears to get muscular.

What we are trying to do here is, hack our brain, change the way we see things, the way we act, the way we think. Forever. We are becoming someone else. Someone better.

I spent some time thinking on how to transform myself, and came up with a method, that gives me a framework and makes the change as easy as possible, and I'm getting some results. Transformation will take years, it's a life-long adventure. It will never end, but we will start to see results immediately, and it will continue to get better all the time.

So what's the catch? There is no catch. It will take real effort and dedication, which is not a problem, because otherwise you wouldn't even read this far. We are changing who we are. This is important business.

1. What's wrong with you?

Write down everything you want to change about yourself, honestly. Everything! Break yourself down. Forget about "never look at yourself negatively, try to see things the good way, be optimistic" shit. When you go to a doctor, do you tell him where it hurts, or try to look at it the good way and say that everything is alright? You tell everything, because it's crucial for the treatment! This should take at least several days, this shit is important. This is not about picking up girls, you are making a big decision to change your personality, forever. Understand the importance and weight of what you are doing, and approach accordingly. Are you experiencing fear of rejection? Write it down. You think you walk in a funny way? Write it down. You think your laugh is bad? Write it down. Be brutal. Write everything you don't like about yourself.

2. Let there be bob

Sit/lie comfortably, relax, close your eyes, and imagine a guy, who is similar to you, but without the problems you are having! He's really confident, talking to people, doing stuff and everyone likes him, he's a natural leader. Give him a name, different than yours (let's call him bob for now). Bob kind of resembles you, but you can say that he's someone else, because the way he carries himself, the way he acts and talks gives him that distinct aura, which you don't have! If you need inspiration, pick an actor that fits in your description, watch some movies, even mix different guys, create bob like whoever you want to be.

3. Best friends forever

This is where you use all the material you have read. Imagine bob in different settings, at a club with girls, at a pub with friends, home alone, reading, visiting family, working, studying, eating, everything! It's a real person. And take your time. If you're imagining bob talking to someone, and he has to say something witty/funny/whatever, think on the best answer as long as you need, even days. It's very important that you spend time on this every day. Create a real being in your mind. At first it might be hard, your mind will get bored trying to come up with all the stuff this guy does, but don't give up. If you can't even imagine how he acts, how are you going to transform yourself? Do your homework, and imagine it perfectly, realistically. Trust me, it gets easier, and it gets fun. You have to know him so well, that you even can guess what his next movement will be, what he's going to say, all the time. He's your best friend.

4. So it begins

Go and look at the mirror. In what ways is bob different than you? Is he slimmer? Start working out! Is he wearing a shirt that you would never wear? Go buy it, and wear it! Is he bald, while you have curly hair, get it cut! From now on, this is how you're going to look like. These are your first steps on becoming bob. This might even take years, it's not an easy task. But from now on, you will decide everything about your appearance based on how bob looks.

5. Always trust bob

Now comes the real stuff. In your daily life, always ask yourself how bob would act. You are walking on the street, ask yourself "how would bob look like walking here?". Because you know bob so well, you should be able to imagine it instantly. Now you can see him walking confidently, looking in people's eyes. At this point, you become bob, and start walking like him. You know how he acts so well now, it doesn't even feel strange! It's like imitating your best friend's walking and nailing it perfectly.

You go to a bar, there is a girl you want to talk. you again ask yourself "How would bob act here?". Bob would directly walk to her, and say something funny or maybe cheesy, and you know exactly what he would say, and how he would say. Even in difficult situations, he can find something from the way she dresses or something about the music playing, whatever. When you imagine it, whatever you can think of first, walk up to her, and act exactly like you imagined it. Doesn't matter how cheesy or fake it will look, you thought on this shit, you know this is how bob acts, and he gets to do it right, every time.

This is all!

This method obviously needs a lot of time and dedication. And you have to do your homework, for everything listed here. But I assure you, I'm doing this for only like 1 month, and I'm getting strangely good at it, sometimes I watch myself and can't believe how much I've changed.