Alcohol and going out. I realized something obvious last night

Box-Monkey · 2012-07-29T10:27:27+00:00

They do call it liquid courage for a reason. It shuts down the forebrain (personality, forethought, social skills (including social anxiety)) and makes you focus more on the mammalian brain, which goes more for basic drives like sex, food, emotion.

Anyway, I always told myself from the start of this that I was doing it for social skills and not for a situational skill set, i.e. the club with alcohol. I made a point of talking to people at bus stops, the cashiers at coffee shops, and going to the club and staying sober (no more than 1 drink).

At first it's hard, especially the first set. But once you get past that and realize you don't really give a shit what these people think and that nothing bad's going to happen, you can go nuts. You're there to have fun and meet people, so do it. It's just going to take practice.

When I started, which was a little over a year ago, maybe a year and a half, I went out with one or two friends and did solo approaches. I still don't really know how to wing or be winged, as I still pretty much go in solo. Something I need to work on, but practice makes perfect, for me and for you.

jmanda1 · 2012-07-29T19:01:07+00:00

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lenes010 · 2012-07-29T21:02:13+00:00

I agree

I got lucky: I never liked alcohol, always made me feel sloppy, and I always got super bloated whenever I had alcohol. Also any game I had disappeared and I mostly commented on what music was playing (I like music haha) I've basically given up drinking entirely. I'll have a shot or two with friends but that's just to be agreeable and fun, but that's it.

I'm pretty social so I can just go and talk to people whenever I feel like (it's easier in a social mixing atmosphere like a club, I don't think I'm too good at day game yet). People go to a club to meet other people, so use that to help build your confidence, maybe you can brighten someone's day.

What I recommend as a replacement for liquid confidence is a) Swimming b) your favorite pump-up music (house for me).

I get this weird inner warmth and energy after I swim, makes me feel much better than anything alcohol could do. Running or other cardio could probably have the same effect if you'd prefer that. Hope this helps!

2012-07-29T20:30:37+00:00

Paul Finch?

Title	Alcohol and going out. I realized something obvious last night
Author	jmanda1
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	July 29, 2012 10:12 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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