Yeah, we've all been there, right? But this one really threw me for a loop.

A friend of mine had a party last night. I bought a handle of vodka and a fifth of rum for what is a last-weekend-before-school type of party. I wasn't expecting many girls to show up, in fact I was expecting it to be extremely mellow with no more than 9-10 people. So we're all hanging out and playing drinking games, having a great time. The one and only eligible girl (HB-Latina) there and I go back and forth- I'm challenging her to drink, cracking jokes with her, using that kino, I'm building solid attraction. After our game, I go chill in the kitchen and pour some more drinks and grab some water too (DRINK LOTS OF WATER TO PREVENT HANGOVERS-- SERIOUSLY).

Me being in the kitchen ends up being perfect. A TON of people show up all at once (entering through the kitchen door), and our party more than doubles in size. The newcomers were mostly girls, a gay guy, and a couple that left after an hour. The girls were mostly on the plump side, one of which was Iranian and actually really fucking cute for her size. There was also a really sexy short little Colombian that was definitely the hottest girl there.

As all of these newcomers enter the party, I immediately take over. I show them where all the drinks are (making sure to mention the liquor that I bought is free for everyone to drink), where the cups were, where the ice is, where the restroom is, and what's going on. This is something I always try to do at any gathering - I find that if you're the first person to orient newcomers, they automatically view you as an authority figure (provided you stay in character all night). So I'm joking around with all these ladies about memorizing their names and asking them questions like where they go to school, when I notice Iranian is really giving me a lot of eye contact. It could've just been a coincidence, but I believe in less and less of those these days... Somehow it got brought up that I just got accepted to one of America's best business schools, and all of these college-age women seem interested, especially Iranian. Iranian found me a few minutes later off to the side of the conversation and asked me about it. "So, University of _____ ... That's like, a really great school and hard to get into isn't it?" My response-"Well, I don't want to seem like an asshole by bragging, because really I worked my ass to the bone getting into that place. But yeah- the school is rated in the top 20 business schools in America and I was one of 12 out of 167 students who got accepted for transfer admission there." She was pretty enamored by me, and even pulled one of her friends aside later to say something like "Hey, let me brag about this guy for a second... He goes to the University of _____ and he's a business major..." By that point I was damn well sure that she was interested. Kino, flirting, and many jokes ensued. ATTRACTION BUILT!

Now while all of this was going on, HB-Latina keeps coming up to me. I rarely decline a flirt with an attractive woman, and somehow we ended up playing about 6-7 rounds of really aggressive thumb wars. Kino out the ass. Also, eye contact with a seductive/sexual glare. Fuck yeah. I was trying to keep all of these flirtacious girls within eyesight of each other so they could all get jealous. I also kept noticing that if I switched rooms, both HB-Latina and Iranian would find an excuse to join me.

Around this time, I end up in a conversation with two of the fat girls (neither were cute enough for me) and the gay guy. This gay guy was actually pretty cool, him and I were cracking jokes half the time he was there. But shit started to get weird quickly - one of the fat girls (the ugliest girl at the party, I'm talking 2/10) and the gay guy actually propositioned me for a threesome.... I played it cool and tried not to bruise any egos while being firm in declining the offer. I was not going to fuck a gay guy and a fat girl tonight. Some people have no shame, but I'm not one of them.

By this point, the liquor was disappearing, along with people's inhibitions. Every girl I was flirting with started to be more and more open, while I tried to keep my cool (I got pretty fucking drunk). At this point, these girls were straight-up telling me that I was the best guy there, the sexiest guy and by far the coolest. I accepted the compliments, but I already know that deep in my heart that I'm an amazing guy. HB-Colombian was also flirting with me a little bit, but she was being a really deceptive type of girl. She was mostly sober, and kept coming over to me (while I was talking with other people) and doing things like poking me, trying to tickle me, or trying to disrupt me - only to promptly disappear if I gave her attention. I was the only guy she was doing this to. This happened more than 6 times, but after the second time I caught on that she was trying to get me to chase her and I refused to. I'm not gonna make myself look like a fool chasing this woman who just wants to play games while I've got two other cute ladies obviously interested in me. However, I made sure to give her just enough attention so she didn't think I was ignoring her. Conceptually speaking, I was trying to leave my door open just a crack, letting her know that it was her job to open it the rest of the way.

So what happened next? Shit got crazy. One of my friends went home, and on his way out told me not to do anything with HB-Latina because she's fucking 16 years old. Shit. I'm 20, that means she's off-limits. I assure him I'll make sure she's alright and walk him out of the apartment.

After this, I started to get a lot more assertive with Iranian. I don't remember why, but some situation we were in lead her to kiss my cheeks. I stopped, looked at her dead in the eyes and asked her if she really just kissed my cheeks. She says "Yeah," I lean in as if going for a kiss, but instead go for her ear and whisper "I like that...." and eject into the next room. A few minutes later, she shows up and we start making out. I try not to get too crazy because I have appearances to keep up and everybody is watching, but I made sure to kiss that girl nice and sexily. I left again, and while talking with some friends in the kitchen I hear Iranian and her friends talking about me and asking her if she's hooking up with me tonight. Iranian sounds a little hesitant, although she makes it clear to her friends that she wants me bad. The friend that I'm talking to asks me if I would hook up with her, and I told her "I don't know, she's pretty drunk (she was), and since I don't have a condom that's really off-limits," which was the honest truth. A while later, HB-Colombian told me she heard me say that and thought I was a gentleman for that. In fact, she told me I was a sexy guy, with smarts and class. Then she said something like "It sucks that you're going to Texas in a few days," (I don't remember exactly) which kind of threw me off. It sounded like this Colombian girl actually really dug me, and wanted to hook up or meet up if I was staying in town for a while. She asked for my phone and put my number in it. I gave myself a mental high-five and went back about my business. Should I text her?

Most of the girls left (including HB-Colombian) except for Iranian and the ugly threesome girl, and HB-Latina passed out. I got Iranian into the bathroom with the door locked for some heavy makeout, but everybody started knocking on the door (fucking cockblocks). While she was still in there, Iranian girl started telling me all this dumb shit about how she's in a love triangle with two other guys and the whole time I'm thinking "fuck, the game is up..." She's giving me signals that she doesn't want to do anything sexual even though I told her no condom = no sex, and I'm not the type of guy to pressure a girl into anything (especially if she's drunk). I don't know if I fucked up before this or this is where I fucked up, but I told her "Hey, I'm not gonna pressure you into something you're not comfortable with, so don't worry about it. I don't know how drunk you are or what you'll remember in the morning.. But if you do, send me a text, we'll meet up before I head out of town."

We left the bathroom and continued making out off-and-on. She kept giving me signals and then asking me what I wanted and I told her I wanted to get each other off. She would flip-flop, going from "okay if you just want to get off I can do that" to "no I can't" and at one point basically told me that "you're such a great, sexy guy and you're so nice... I want you, but blah blah blah... I only will hook up with guys where it's clear there are no feelings involved" and I don't remember what she said after that. I'm pretty sure I was acting too desperate here, instead of truly respecting her I kept trying to convince her it was okay to give me a blowjob. Anyway, I gave up, and we all went home at about 6am after one of the best nights I've had in a looooooong time.

I'm about to go to an amazing party school next year, where this type of party is going to happen on a regular basis. I really want to be able to hook up with amazing women there, and don't want this 'nice' shit to get in the way. However, I'm a person with ethics and morals and principles that I live by, and I'm also genuine with women. I can never tell if women are just wanting a one-night thing or if they're down for an FWB (I prefer FWB), so it's hard for me to decide what approach to use. How can I fix my approach without acting like somebody that I'm not? How can I get a one-night stand while leaving the door open for an FWB relationship?

Also, general critiques of game are always appreciate. Love you, Seddit! Thanks for reading!

Tl;dr - I summed it up pretty well in the title.