Do I resent women too much to have successful interactions with them?

5ay5 · 2012-08-27T01:12:32+00:00

Woman here. I'd say you have some valid points, but I think you are choosing to look a few issues from a pretty biased standpoint.

Most of what you're saying describes the attitude displayed by the type of women you DON'T want on your arm. That isn't a woman. That is a selfish bitch. There are plenty of men like that too, and most of us women ignore them and try not to let our opinion of men be spoiled by the few we see demonstrating these traits. I suggest you do the same, for your own sake.

Some of the things you say though are generally a common trait in women, albeit far less harsh than the "selfish bitch" picture you're painting. For example, chivalry. Women appreciate chivalry because it sets guys apart from the others. It gets you noticed and gives you a lot more room for error. If a guy does something "chivalrous" for me, I'm instantly much more willing to give him a chance and much more forgiving if he were to say something really awkward or stumble in his game. He doesn't "owe" me to be chivalrous as a man to a woman and I don't "owe" him anything in return because he was nice to me or whatever, I just WANT to give him more of my time.

As far as social rules, it sounds like (from your examples) that you are only coming from a masculine perspective. Totally understandable since you're a guy, but you need to understand that women often have a VERY different set of social rules that they expect of each other and of the opposite sex (you!). You say "straight is a loose term" for girls but that's not necessarily true on our side. We women give each other a ton of shit for saying things like "I'm straight but I like to fuck girls." A girl who says that is usually labeled instantly as a total whore (NOT in a good way or as a joke) by most women. Same thing goes for your pink shirt example... most women I know don't give three shits about a man wearing pink (myself included).

Women do understand a lot of what you're saying. Labeling women in general as ignorant and comparing them to selfish teenagers is not really a good idea for you. We're people just like you - we've got both strengths and weaknesses. Stereotyping like this turns you into a bitter person and that's not attractive to anyone of any gender.

Acownz · 2012-08-27T02:27:05+00:00

I'm not going to give you advice, but it seems you have and extremely skewed grip on reality. You sound like a bitter teenager. Let it go man. Women are just people too.

ndewhurst · 2012-08-27T02:00:48+00:00

You sound spiteful and damaged. If you have issues that need to be talked about, I think it would be a good idea to seek the help of a professional. Maybe just open up to a friend.

2012-08-27T21:07:12+00:00

You're so angry.

Rongoose · 2012-08-26T23:40:34+00:00

If you choose not to be chivalrous you will indeed find less luck with the ladies. Your points are quite valid and accurate, though contain several generalizations that are not fully applicable. There are plenty of women who want true equality, they may not be readily apparent to you but they exist and in large enough quantities to be accessible to you. Be yourself, there are women who agree with you, there are people who believe in real equality.

CorgiTeaTime · 2012-08-27T20:27:22+00:00

Being treated like a child is more patronizing and annoying than anything in the world. It's not fun nor beneficial. Despite what you think, a lot of women don't like it. I split the costs of my dates until I'm comfortable in a relationship because I dislike the idea of owing a dude something because he "gifted" me something. (The actual polite thing to do is whoever did the asking pays for the outing, regardless of gender.) Most women I know are comfortable with approaching men, unless they are just shy people. And dude, it sucks to be a lesbian or bisexual woman because guess how often everyone assumes you just need a hard dicking or you'll have sex in front of a guy for his entertainment? The answer is "pretty much all the time".
Why do you want to be with a woman if you seem to dislike them so much?

Schroedingers_gif · 2012-08-26T23:48:54+00:00

Haha, this is great. Can you do more of this, I'm dying.

PatMacGroin · 2012-08-27T00:40:40+00:00

Resentment is such an ugly word. Aren't you rather displeased at female behaviour patterns? That sounds way better, doesn't it?

Title	Do I resent women too much to have successful interactions with them?
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Date	August 26, 2012 11:29 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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